Participants: Alanzo & June Smith
Series Code: FFH
Program Code: FFH00001B
00:04 Welcome, you have been watching Families 4 Heaven.
00:08 We are talking with Pamella Simpson about the topic
00:11 The Vicious Rage of Suicide.
00:18 Pam your story is a delightful story even though it is
00:23 such a sad and painful story.
00:25 The reason why I use the word delightful, is that in the
00:30 midst of your pain, you anchored your faith somewhere.
00:34 Tell us where.
00:36 In God, I think everybody can understand pain, but when
00:45 you are able to see God respond to you in a personal way it
00:55 shows you that He does care.
00:58 Trials will come, but God is still in charge.
01:07 Okay, thank you very much.
01:08 Have you moved on?
01:10 Pam: oh yes! Alonzo: you have moved on, okay.
01:13 Dr. June, we have already established and the statistics
01:19 suggest that suicide is prevalent in our society.
01:26 However there are so many myths that are
01:32 bound about suicide.
01:34 So I'm going to share with you some of these myths.
01:39 I want you to react, or respond to them.
01:42 The first one I want to talk about is, this myth says,
01:46 people who talk about suicide, do not commit suicide.
01:52 As we saw in Pam's story, that people who say I'm going
01:58 to kill myself, are likely to do it.
02:02 And the first thing that a person who hears that needs to
02:07 do, is to indicate that obviously you are angry,
02:11 or obviously you are depressed, or obviously there
02:14 is a problem, let's talk about it.
02:16 But never under estimate a threat that a person makes
02:20 on taking their life.
02:22 Here's another one.
02:23 Suicide is related to social economic status.
02:31 That is as far from the truth as it is.
02:34 It is not about how wealthy you are or how poor you are.
02:39 Anyone who gets overwhelmed, or who thinks they are
02:42 unable to handle their problems and are trapped,
02:45 could commit suicide.
02:47 People who commit suicide are either mentally crazy,
02:53 insane, mentally ill, or something is wrong with them.
02:58 It is a myth that it has to be a psychotic person that
03:02 would take their life.
03:04 Now one could argue that clearly there has to be some
03:07 illness for a person to get so helpless.
03:10 On the other hand, even healthy people, or people who
03:14 appear to be healthy, could be at risk
03:17 to take their own lives.
03:19 People who threatened to commit suicide are only
03:25 seeking attention.
03:27 That is one of the biggest myths.
03:29 People don't go around saying I'm going to kill myself,
03:33 except they have had thoughts about killing themselves.
03:37 Now people who threatened, may not carry out the threat,
03:41 but there is some ideas going on and it is a sign that there
03:45 is a problem, so that person needs to get help.
03:49 Another myth that you hear people often say is, suicide
03:56 is painless if done correctly.
04:00 Unfortunately research shows that many people who attempt
04:06 suicide don't actually accomplish suicide.
04:10 In the process they are in agony, because sometimes the
04:15 methods they use don't work.
04:17 They are left either to be a quadriplegic, or to live
04:21 with this aftermath of whatever physical deficits they
04:26 now experience.
04:27 So it is not true that it is painless, it is clearly
04:32 taking your life is a painful and horrible thing.
04:37 Suicide is genetic.
04:45 That also is a myth, there is no gene that a person
04:49 possesses that will predispose you to take your life.
04:54 However, people who commit suicide socialize the people
04:58 around them to think that this is an option.
05:00 And it is said, or research shows that in families where
05:05 people commit suicide, other family members learned that
05:09 oh, this seems like an easy way out.
05:12 And they are at high risk to follow through on a suicide.
05:18 It is said that people who commit suicide, other family
05:24 members are high risks, why?
05:30 As I said before, they observe, they see and sometimes
05:35 get overwhelmed, they get depressed from having had this
05:40 experience in their families.
05:43 They just do not know what to do, much like the person
05:46 before them didn't know what to do.
05:48 Sometimes they keep it secret, when a suicide occurs
05:53 not often reported as a suicide, so the family itself,
05:58 as we said in our last presentation,
06:00 the family is a system.
06:02 A crisis in the family does not just affect the person
06:06 who is the victim, but the entire family is in crisis.
06:10 So the people who are left to mourn or to clean up the
06:15 pain of this horrific experience, are now prone to
06:19 depression and prone to just poor mental and emotional pain
06:24 and they could then do something as painful as a suicide.
06:29 There are some suicide preventions we should
06:32 share with our listeners.
06:35 Have an open discussion about suicide.
06:38 Talk to your children, talk to young people.
06:42 We should never take their threats of suicide lightly.
06:48 As a matter of fact, when someone threatens to commit
06:53 suicide, you should seek professional help.
06:57 It is not something that you should take lightly.
07:01 We trust, as you have been listening to this program,
07:05 that you understand that suicide is not an easy thing.
07:09 There is no easy way out.
07:11 There are some young people who think that I can do it
07:14 and that will be okay.
07:16 It is not going to be okay.
07:18 You must be strong no matter the challenge, no matter the
07:23 problem, you must be strong and you must understand that
07:28 suicide is never an option.
07:32 Have hope, have faith and keep living.