Participants: Alanzo & June Smith
Series Code: FFH
Program Code: FFH00005A
00:04 With each new day families are failing, homes are broken.
00:09 Marriages are threatened, fathers are absent.
00:13 Children are rebellious but all is not lost.
00:17 Homes can be healed and hearts can be mended.
00:21 Let's reclaim our Families 4 Heaven.
00:30 Thank you for watching Families 4 Heaven.
00:33 I'm Alanzo Smith and my co-host is June Smith.
00:38 We are talking today about When Tragedy Strikes,
00:42 The Morning after.
00:44 Crises occurs on an everyday basis.
00:50 Talk to us about crises.
00:52 A crises is an event that an individual or family will
00:57 face, that leaves you, sometimes numb.
01:01 The skills that you normally use to solve your problems
01:05 just don't work.
01:07 You find yourself in a situation that you need help.
01:12 Sometimes, medical help, sometimes economic support,
01:17 whatever the situation demands.
01:20 Your resources, your skills, your strength, your
01:23 knowledge just isn't enough to help you.
01:32 When talk about crises, there are two kind of crises,
01:36 situational and maturational.
01:40 What's the difference between a situational crises and
01:44 the maturational crises?
01:47 Situational crises are events that occur that are
01:52 unexpected, unanticipated.
01:55 You know these are events that are likely to happen
01:59 in life, but you don't know when, or if ever it will
02:02 happen to you.
02:04 For example, if a child falls down the stairs, or if
02:10 somebody in the family has an accident, or if the stove
02:14 caught fire, just events that could throw you or the
02:19 family into a situation that you just wasn't
02:22 prepared for.
02:23 Now maturational crises is an event that occurs during
02:27 the stage of development, during the stage of living
02:31 as it were so that as you mature there are certain
02:34 transitions that occur in your life, that are likely to
02:38 create a crises.
02:39 In those situations, for example, as the birth of a
02:43 child in the home, your family may be thrown into a
02:47 crises that you are anticipating.
02:51 You understand this is going to happen and you make plans
02:55 for it, but it still creates difficulty and could create
02:58 situations that the family is not prepared for.
03:01 You might lose your job for example.
03:04 One person is at a stage in their development where it
03:08 might be very difficult for them to find another job,
03:11 because they are just that close to retirement and etc.
03:14 You are maturing as you develop in your lifecycle and
03:18 you are thrust into a crises that the family has
03:21 to suffer for.
03:23 There are times when situational crises could evolve
03:29 into a maturational crises.
03:32 For example, the diagnosis of a terminal disease.
03:37 When that hits you, it is situational, but if the disease
03:42 lingers and the condition continues over a period of time,
03:46 it devolves into maturational.
03:49 So it is no longer a sudden shock, but it's an every day
03:53 reality that you have to deal with.
03:56 We want to talk about situational crises today.
04:00 That is our focus, when the blow hits you and it
04:05 hits you real hard.
04:07 Now, can one prepare for a crises?
04:12 There are some events in life that you don't know when,
04:17 but you should as a family make preparations for.
04:22 For example, if there are older people in your family
04:27 and you know at some point they will pass on, then you
04:31 shouldn't wait until the event occurs to decide how you
04:35 are going to financially or emotionally handle this.
04:38 So yes you can prepare for some events that are likely
04:42 to create certain crises but you just don't know when.
04:46 For example if you know that you live in a flood zone,
04:50 for example, then you don't wait until there is a storm
04:54 to make preparation that in the event you should have a
04:58 flood, your family would be safe.
05:00 So there are some things we can prepare for, yet others
05:05 just hit just like that.
05:07 We have two guests with us in our program and we are
05:12 very happy for them.
05:15 We have Carter Francis and his beautiful wife,
05:19 Ruby Francis, please help me to welcome Carter
05:24 and Ruby Francis.
05:29 Alanzo: welcome, we are happy to have you both.
05:34 Ruby as I look at you I see you are sitting beside,
05:39 what is that beside you?
05:41 Ruby: a walker Alanzo: a walker, I was about to say
05:44 a stroller, okay a walker.
05:47 Alanzo: Now Ruby you have been married for how long?
05:51 Ruby: 34 years. Alanzo: For 34 years.
05:54 Alanzo: you have been happy and going through life,
05:59 graduating from college and going on to university,
06:03 graduating and your life was doing well.
06:05 You live in a lovely place and one Sunday morning you
06:11 were coming back, you went to buy plants.
06:15 Alanzo: what kind of plants? Ruby: flowers.
06:18 Alanzo: what month of year was it? Ruby: May.
06:21 Alanzo: So you are coming with these flowers you have
06:24 purchased, to come and decorate your home with planting.
06:27 Tell us what happened?
06:29 About 1 mile from home my sister and I got into a car accident.
06:37 Alanzo: wow, both of you were in the car?
06:40 Ruby: yes, and I was driving.
06:43 Alanzo: so what you had a bumper, fender bumper?
06:45 Ruby: no, I crashed, yes.
06:48 Alanzo: what happened?
06:52 I think Carter will tell you exactly what happened,
06:56 I don't remember.
06:58 Alanzo: you do not still remember it? Ruby: no.
07:00 Alanzo: how long ago did this happen? Ruby: 10 years.
07:03 Alanzo: you still are not remembering. Ruby: no.
07:05 Well we are going to take a break, but when we come back
07:10 we would like to listen to Carter's story and what
07:13 happened, they have some powerful things to share with
07:17 us, and we really want to hear it.
07:20 So don't go away, stay right there.