Participants: Don Mackintosh, Skip MacCarty
Series Code: HFAL
Program Code: HFAL000109
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00:46 Hello and welcome to "Health for a Lifetime"
00:48 I'm your host Don Mackintosh 00:50 We're glad you're with us. 00:51 Perhaps in your life, you experience stress, 00:54 and, you know, there's such a thing as good stress 00:57 and bad stress. 00:58 Here to talk about stress and what to do ABOUT IT 01:01 is Dr. Skip MacCarty. 01:02 Welcome Dr. MacCarty Thank you 01:04 You've really talked about this quite often 01:07 over the last 20 years and you've developed this 01:09 seminar now... "Stress Beyond Coping" 01:12 ...I think you call it Correct 01:13 You want to just go beyond coping, 01:14 you want to really get a handle on it. 01:16 And that seminar is available for people to use 01:19 in their communities... people can learn about by 01:21 calling us here at 3ABN or the "Church Ministries Department 01:25 of the Seventh-day Adventist Church" 01:26 which, interestingly enough, has adopted yours as their 01:31 seminar on stress - so we're glad that you're with us. 01:34 Today, we're going to talk about stress, 01:36 but we need you to kind of catch us up to speed... 01:40 What is stress and what are some keys for dealing with it? 01:43 Okay, well Don, I'm going to use the stress tank model. 01:46 It invites us to view our lives as a tank, 01:50 and into that tank are being poured stressors 01:53 or stressful experiences every single day of our lives, 01:56 and that builds to the overflow point. 01:58 If we get too much stress it can be... It's harmful 02:01 Exactly, various kinds of harm, illnesses, accidents, 02:05 relationship problems and strain... 02:07 And fortunately, there's a pressure relief valve 02:10 that has 7 Keys to managing stress, 02:13 and if we keep those keys in order in our lives, 02:17 we crank open that valve, we can actually prevent 02:20 stress from building to the harmful point, 02:22 so here are the 7 Keys right here... 02:31 And I notice also that these 2, prayer and viewpoint 02:34 are highlighted - how important are they in your stress pyramid? 02:38 Good question, Don, I've developed a stress management 02:41 pyramid that shows the 7 Keys in a hierarchal order 02:45 ...starting with the most important at the top 02:46 and working down from there and you'll notice that 02:48 prayer or spiritual integration is the VERY TOP 02:52 in the upper most of the resources that are available 02:55 to us and viewpoint right underneath; 02:57 they are VERY important... 02:58 And I've developed 10, what I call, 03:00 heavy-duty stress absorbers. 03:02 They are 10 powerful stress reducing beliefs that 03:06 cushion the stresses of life and take a lot of the stress 03:09 out of life when we apply them, 03:12 and it integrates the viewpoint 03:14 and the prayer, spiritual integration components. 03:18 And we've covered, I think, 5 of those in a previous time 03:22 together - God is my spiritual parent, the Serenity Prayer, 03:27 knowing the difference between knowing what we can change, 03:30 what we can't change and noting the difference between those... 03:33 And releasing the things we can't change - to God, 03:36 and just focusing on the things we can. 03:38 The other one that you shared that was very helpful 03:39 was living just one day at a time, 03:42 not a week at a time, but one day at a time... 03:45 Or going back to the past and scooping up trouble 03:48 from the past into today, etcetera. 03:49 Taking personal responsibility for our happiness 03:53 and our attitude... 03:55 Creating our own internal good weather, 03:58 and carrying it with us wherever we go. 03:59 And then finally, choosing to be grateful in the midst 04:06 of whatever happens. Exactly 04:07 We can't make things great, but we can be grateful. 04:10 Not always grateful FOR what happens, but we can be 04:12 grateful in those circumstances. 04:13 I think that's a choice. 04:14 So now we're just building on that, 04:16 putting some more shock absorbers on our 04:18 already well-cushioned vehicle. 04:21 But you told me once that if you have even just one 04:23 of these shock absorbers, it could help you 04:26 in just about any situation. 04:28 Don, if you consistently apply any one of these 04:30 stress-reducing beliefs, these heavy duty 04:32 shock absorbers as we refer to them, 04:34 it would help you in so many situations; 04:36 it would really take a lot of the shock, so-to-speak, 04:40 out of the stressful situations of life... 04:42 But you begin to accumulate them and apply them together 04:46 and it's just awesome the power that they have. 04:48 All right, so let's look at the next one. 04:50 Let's look at another stress absorber today. 04:54 What's the next one you want to show us? 04:55 That would be the concept of perspective... 05:00 Now, it's formulated as a resolve, but really, Don, 05:06 there's a powerful belief behind it that perspective 05:09 that makes a difference on life... 05:10 just keeping things in perspective. 05:11 Sometimes I'm asked, when I'm with adult audiences, 05:15 I'm asked - How can you teach 05:17 some of these principles to children? 05:18 And I've got a wonderful book here - it's called: 05:21 "Too Much Noise" by Ann McGovern 05:23 Found this - my daughter had it for her granddaughter 05:26 and I saw this book and it was just tremendous. 05:29 It's a book about Peter... 05:31 You read this to me before the program - it's a great book! 05:34 Oh, it's fantastic and my grandson, Gabriel, 05:36 he loves to have this read over and over and over again! 05:39 And it's such a powerful principle... 05:41 This little man, Peter, has a home that is too noisy for him. 05:45 The leaves are falling on the roof and the tea kettle is 05:49 whistling and there is just too much noise, 05:51 and so he goes to this wise man of the village and he says, 05:54 "My house is so noisy, I can't sleep at night, 05:58 and my bed creaks and the floor squeaks, what do I do?" 06:01 And he says, "Well get a cow" 06:02 So he goes and gets a cow, and the cow is mooing and he goes 06:04 back and says, "That didn't work"... Get a donkey! 06:06 He goes back and gets a donkey and now the 06:07 donkey is heehawing and the cow is mooing. 06:09 He goes back and he keeps going back to this wise man... 06:12 He says, "Get a hen, get a sheep, get a dog and a cat" 06:14 And now - ALL THIS NOISE, and he goes back 06:17 finally to the wise man and he said... 06:18 "This is crazy, I can't sleep at all now" 06:20 "I came to you to get some help 06:22 and you've only made matters so much worse. " 06:24 The wise man said, "Well now do what I tell you, 06:26 get rid of all the animals" 06:28 So he goes back and he gets rid of all the animals, 06:30 and then the leaves fall on the roof - swish, swish, 06:34 the bed creaks and the floor squeaks, 06:37 and the tea kettle whistles - hiss - hiss, 06:39 and he says, "Oh what a beautiful quiet house I have" 06:42 "What beautiful quiet noises" 06:43 And he goes to sleep and dreams a very beautiful 06:45 and quiet dream. 06:46 So that wise man really was wise. 06:48 He just added more things and he said - Look... 06:50 That's exactly right... Yeah, you really do have it good 06:53 You really have it good. 06:57 There's a continuum that I've developed, Don, 06:59 I've got a slide of that - going from 1 to 10 07:02 where at the left end, you have no problem at all, 07:06 and #10 is worse case, and I try to help people 07:09 when they come with a problem or if I have a problem myself, 07:11 I try to think of - What could the worse case be 07:13 in this situation? 07:15 And then you put your problem in perspective that way... 07:20 And for me, I've read a number of books on the holocaust 07:23 and Auschwitz and Buchenwald 07:26 and, for me, I made the #10 would be life at Auschwitz 07:30 which was BARELY life. 07:32 It was life like an animal - worse than an animal. 07:34 An animal being tortured and never knowing if it was 07:37 going to live the next few minutes... 07:39 And I try to put the problems I have in life in that 07:44 perspective and you can see if you're exaggerating things 07:47 to get them all out of whack. 07:48 You know, this should give you a little example of how 07:52 easy it is to get things out of line. 07:54 You've seen these little Post-it notes? Yes 07:57 I use them for so many things and I carry them in my pocket 07:59 because somebody will give me some information, 08:02 and I'll just pull that out and write it down on that note 08:05 and stick it back in there... 08:06 And I also have these glasses that I get at Rite Aid, 08:11 I only need them to read, but they have these little 08:13 bifocals that give me the ability to read, 08:15 but I don't like them - I don't like to look 08:17 through glasses, so most of the time, 08:18 I'll carry them in my pocket like this, 08:20 and one of the worse things that can happen for me - 08:22 There I go again saying that - using that language 08:25 But, if one of these Post-its gets stuck to my glasses 08:28 because, for some reason, that 08:29 sticky does not come off very well. 08:31 You can wash it and wash it and wash it, 08:33 and it stays on there no matter what you use. 08:35 It takes a while to get that off of there. 08:37 And one day I was at my office and I pulled out my glasses, 08:39 and there was my little sticky note stuck to my glasses... 08:42 And I literally said, out loud, 08:43 "That's the worst thing that could have happened to me today" 08:46 And then I realized, it just hit me what I had just said. 08:49 That's the self-talk again kind of identifying where we are. 08:52 And it helped me put things back in perspective. 08:55 You pictured all those glasses in one room in Auschwitz 08:59 or something and said, "Look, at least I have glasses" 09:01 Right, yep - Charlie, our cameraman here, 09:04 was talking to us after one of our programs, 09:08 and our camera operator, and he said when something 09:13 difficult happens to him, something frustrating, 09:15 he says to himself - these are the words, 09:18 I wrote it down... "If that's worst thing 09:20 that happens to me in my life, I've got it made" 09:25 And you know something, Don, that is a powerful statement 09:29 for us to say - If that's the worst thing that happens 09:31 to me in my life, I've got it made... 09:33 That is awesome - it's putting that problem in perspective 09:37 out of a whole life. 09:38 And just adding this... I will keep everything in 09:40 perspective is so powerful to help us keep focused, 09:45 and keep on track. 09:46 Instead of getting frustrated and the stress levels rising 09:48 and the stress chemicals start flowing in our bodies, 09:50 we immediately reduce that when we use some little phrase 09:53 like that or just think about... 09:55 "I could be at Auschwitz right now" 09:57 and we put things back in perspective also. 09:59 I remember I was working in the emergency room once, 10:01 and there was this lady that 10:02 just had a terrible, terrible cough, 10:04 and she was very upset that we weren't taking care of her, 10:07 and so the person in the next room was dying of a heart attack 10:11 but she wanted to be seen and she didn't realize that, 10:15 and so somehow, inadvertently that curtain got opened 10:18 and she saw the person dying and all of a sudden she felt 10:21 completely better and she just was thanking the Lord 10:24 because she didn't have to go through that. 10:26 So perspective - pulling the curtain back for our kids, 10:29 a great suggestion for the kids, 10:31 and then also a suggestion as well. 10:32 Well let's say you try and do that, 10:34 you put everything in perspective 10:35 or you think you have, 10:36 but still things are going south what do you do then? 10:39 Hey, that's going to happen, it's going to happen, 10:41 and that's the next stress absorber that I use, 10:46 Stress Absorber I call #7 and that is... 10:52 Some kind of meaning. 10:57 Dr. Viktor Frankl who was a Jewish psychiatrist, 11:01 during the Second World War, he was at Auschwitz for a while 11:05 as a prisoner there. 11:07 He wrote a book later on called, "Man's Search for Meaning" 11:10 a powerful little book and in this book, 11:14 he talks about just some of the reflections 11:19 on what he learned at Auschwitz... 11:21 And he makes a statement in that book that I've got a 11:24 slide of that statement; he said this... 11:32 And even in their experiences at Auschwitz, 11:35 he taught prisoners how to look 11:37 for meaning in what they were doing. 11:38 Now the Bible says something very similar in Romans 8 11:41 We have this beautiful promise of God... 11:51 You know Don, that gives meaning to everything. 11:54 What could happen... if that's a true statement, 11:57 what could happen to us - that doesn't have 12:00 some meaning - some potential for meaning? 12:02 I remember my grandfather and you and I were in the 12:05 same city at the time my grandfather came to live with us 12:07 and it was kind of suffering for him to live with me. 12:10 I know you find that hard to believe, 12:12 but when my brother and I were living with him, 12:15 and I asked him - "What keeps you going?" 12:17 He said, "You know, it must be that I need to help 12:21 you boys with something, it must be" 12:23 And it gave meaning to his life... Yes 12:25 And so, even though his wife had died, 12:27 even though many of the people that he loved were gone, 12:30 he had a sense of meaning and he just really contributed 12:32 the last few years of his life. 12:35 I want to share a quotation from 12:37 "Thoughts From the Mount of Blessings" 12:38 which is one of the greatest books on stress, 12:40 awesome book on stress written by Ellen White... 12:43 Listen to this statement and think if a person really 12:45 internalized this statement. 12:48 "The Father's presence encircled Christ, and nothing befell Him 12:53 but that which infinite love permitted for the blessing 12:56 of the world" That's pretty secure if you 13:00 know that's the case. 13:01 Here was His source of comfort... 13:03 Well sure, for Christ, right? 13:05 But the next phrase says... "And it is for us" 13:08 That statement goes on... "He who is imbued with the 13:14 Spirit of Christ, abides in Christ" 13:16 That means you're asking every day for the Holy Spirit 13:19 to be in your life and for you to be submissive 13:20 to the Holy Spirit's will. 13:23 "The blow that is aimed at him To that kind of person 13:26 falls upon the Savior who surrounds him with His presence" 13:31 So you just picture this... that God is surrounding you, 13:35 Christ is surrounding you with His presence, 13:36 and nothing can touch your life but first it touches Him 13:40 and He has to give permission. 13:41 That's that next statement... 13:42 "Whatever comes to him" 13:44 Whatever comes to me in my life, 13:46 comes from Christ in that it has to first of all get through Him. 13:50 He has to evaluate - Is this going to be of some 13:53 benefit to Skip. 13:54 Is this going to be of some benefit if he suffers 13:57 in this way - if he is inflicted with this 13:59 suffering, is he going to be some benefit to the people 14:02 that I've given him spiritual stewardship with regard to. 14:05 So every event of our life has some meaning, 14:08 believing that - if we really believe that; 14:10 if we believe that with all our heart. 14:12 I tell you what, you can go through very severe suffering, 14:15 and it still keeps you focused. 14:16 You still feel like God is in control of this; 14:19 there's a meaning to this and you can go on. 14:21 And we accept that by faith sometimes. 14:23 We just have to cling to that promise and that belief. 14:26 That's the promise - exactly. 14:27 Anything else about when things go south with our 14:30 perspective you'd like to share you'd like us to hear? 14:34 Okay, we've been talking with Dr. Skip MacCarty 14:36 We're talking about stress, stress absorbers. 14:38 What we can do to absorb the stressors 14:41 that come to us in life. 14:42 Join us when we come back. 14:49 Have you found yourself wishing 14:51 that you could shed a few pounds? 14:52 Have you been on a diet for most of your life 14:55 but not found anything that will really keep the weight off? 14:58 If you've answered "yes" to any of these questions, 15:01 then we have a solution for you that works! 15:04 Dr. Hans Diehl and Dr. Aileen Ludington 15:07 have written a marvelous booklet called.. 15:08 "Reversing Obesity Naturally" 15:11 and we'd like to send it to you FREE of charge. 15:13 Here's a medically sound approach successfully used 15:16 by thousands who were able to eat more and lose weight 15:19 permanently without feeling guilty or hungry 15:22 through lifestyle medicine. 15:24 Dr. Diehl and Dr. Ludington have been featured on 3ABN 15:28 and in this booklet they present a sensible 15:30 approach to eating, nutrition and lifestyle changes 15:33 that can help you prevent heart disease, diabetes 15:35 and even cancer. 15:37 Call or write today for your free copy of... 15:39 "Reversing Obesity Naturally" 15:41 and you could be on your way to a healthier, happier YOU! 15:44 It's ABSOLUTELY free of charge, so call or write today. 15:53 Welcome back, we've been talking about stress, 15:55 what we can do about it. 15:56 Our guest today is Dr. Skip MacCarty 15:59 We've been talking about stress absorbers, 16:01 and what we can do to really get a handle on the stressors 16:04 that come that can be damaging in our lives. 16:06 We've talked about keeping things in perspective, 16:09 and looking for the meaning in every situation in life. 16:13 Let's go on... We don't always know 16:15 what the meaning is even though we believe it's there, 16:18 God said he could bring good out of anything. 16:19 Okay, what's the next one? 16:21 The next one is Stress Absorber #8... 16:24 I yield my personal rights to God. 16:27 I yield them to God - my personal rights to God. 16:35 All right, so giving rights over to Him, 16:37 and then if He wants us to have some right, 16:40 we wait for Him to give it back to us. That's right 16:44 You know Don, we live in a rights-crazed age, 16:48 and almost every time there's conflict... 16:54 generally if I'm having conflict with somebody, 16:56 it's because I'm upset at somebody, 16:58 it's because I feel they've violated some personal 17:01 right that I have... 17:02 And so when you yield your rights to God, it just diffuses 17:06 the potential for conflict in that situation. 17:09 Now I have a slide where I identify how to go about 17:15 doing this - how to go about yielding your rights. 17:18 First of all, identify your rights. 17:22 It's like stress-inducing beliefs we talked about 17:24 in a previous program. 17:26 If I asked you to identify your 17:27 rights right now, you'd have a hard time. 17:29 You'd come up with a few things but... 17:30 I have the right to remain silent... Okay 17:34 But generally when you're in conflict situation, 17:36 you say - what right do I feel this person violated 17:40 that you can oftentimes or after a conflict you can identify it. 17:43 Then yield that right to God. 17:45 Yield it to God and accept it back again as a gift from God. 17:49 In other words, you're not going to hold out for it anymore, 17:51 if it comes back to you, you can accept it 17:53 as a gift and be grateful for it. 17:54 I've got a list of "rights" on a slide. 17:58 For instance "Personal Rights" Always be treated fairly. 18:01 That makes sense, of course, I always want to be 18:03 treated fairly - to always be loved and respected, 18:05 especially by people you treat decently and you try to 18:08 help out - You raise your kids, you help them financially 18:13 enormously, you expect that to come back. 18:15 What happens then when it doesn't? 18:17 See... a long life for myself and my family. 18:19 So I get cancer and I'm only 20 years old or 17 years old, 18:23 and how unfair can life be because I have this right 18:27 to long life for myself and for every member of my family. 18:29 Four score at least... Yeah 18:31 Be treated fairly as I want to be treated. 18:33 Have others keep their promise. 18:38 Keep their promises to me, exactly. 18:39 Now, when I yield those rights to God, literally give them up, 18:42 it's a scary thing. 18:44 Then I literally prevent the stress by doing that. 18:48 I diffuse the stressful situations. 18:50 Because your expectations are lowered, 18:52 sort of like we talked about before... Exactly 18:54 So yielding those to Him, 18:56 do you find that easy to do yourself? 18:58 It's not easy to do, it's a spiritual discipline 19:01 as many of these stress-inducing beliefs are. 19:03 They are like spiritual disciplines, 19:05 but once you know the goal, then you know what to pray about 19:08 and it's a constant battle, but it's very, very powerful 19:12 when you yield your rights to God - very powerful. 19:15 So if you do that, how do you keep yourself 19:17 from becoming a doormat, or, you know, you become a 19:22 namby-pamby or something. 19:23 Yeah, exactly, I understand what you're saying, 19:26 because what you do, Don, is you have to distinguish 19:29 between your rights and your responsibilities. 19:32 You have certain responsibilities too... 19:34 And, I'd like to just have the slide showing the 19:38 responsibility - a list of responsibilities. 19:40 I have a responsibility to live by my spiritual values. 19:43 So, in other words, if you ask me to violate 19:47 my spiritual value... 19:48 No, that's a responsibility I have not to violate 19:50 that spiritual value. That's right 19:52 The self-care... If you're beating up on me, 19:56 I have a responsibility to maintain my physical, 20:02 mental and spiritual care to take care of that. 20:08 I have a responsibility to do unto others 20:09 as I would want them to do unto me. 20:12 I have a responsibility to care for my family. 20:14 I have a responsibility to protect my family; 20:16 to fulfill my promises no matter how other people do with me. 20:22 And when I fulfill my responsibilities, 20:23 I'm creating eustress - that's good stress, 20:26 that's the positive stress. 20:28 So yielding rights prevents distress, 20:30 fulfilling my responsibilities creates eustress. 20:32 I had an attorney one time when 20:33 I was into that yielding rights; 20:35 he was getting more and more agitated as we were going 20:37 through that part of the seminar. 20:38 I'm sure he was - that's his bread and butter! That's right! 20:42 But when we got to responsibilities, 20:44 I pointed out that an attorney's responsibility is 20:46 to protect other people's rights. 20:49 You were toying with that attorney. 20:51 You set him out and you brought him back. 20:54 Just like God does - we give Him 20:56 our rights and He brings us back. 20:57 And in fact, it makes sense to Him. 20:59 He understood the value and the wisdom of yielding 21:04 one's personal rights, but being committed to 21:06 try to care for other people's rights. 21:09 Well so many times when someone goes to an 21:11 attorney or in our society, they're going because 21:13 they've been hurt or they feel 21:15 like their rights have been damaged, 21:16 and they want to pay them back. 21:17 and so, you know, that's a big issue. 21:19 The desire for revenge, no question about it. 21:21 In fact, that leads right into 21:23 our Stress Absorber #9 and that is... 21:34 We've got some good evidence from this from some 21:36 stress experts these days. 21:38 Dr. Hans Selye, who was the father of stress management, 21:42 made the statement... "I think in the final analysis 21:46 that gratitude and revenge are the most important 21:49 factors governing our actions in everyday life. 21:52 In other words, he says there's a spectrum; 21:53 on one end there's gratitude; 21:54 that's the most positive. 21:55 He said, human attitude you can have, 21:57 and revenge is the most destructive 21:59 and negative, he said. 22:00 Upon them also chiefly depend our peace of mind 22:12 Dr. Lewis Smedes made a very powerful statement 22:17 on this same subject. He said... 22:48 Wow, so this idea of forgiveness is SO important. 22:52 It's so important and, in fact, the very next slide will show 22:55 his other statement... 23:04 Powerful! 23:06 So the way we relate, either through revenge 23:09 or forgiveness is a choice that we can make. 23:11 This is the understanding you're sharing with us. 23:16 It doesn't mean we don't follow through on our 23:17 responsibilities - I've been maimed, I've been hurt, 23:20 so there needs to be some legal process. 23:22 The way I'm looking at that is not because I have 23:24 to get them back, but rather I need to 23:26 fulfill my responsibilities and that's why I'm involved, 23:29 not because I'm so dependent on that decision 23:32 to make me feel good. Right 23:33 And there's a chain reaction here, Don 23:39 If we don't forgive, it settles into resentment, 23:42 and resentment gels into hostility, 23:47 kind of a negative attitude toward everything. BITTERNESS! 23:49 Yes, and it just affects everything in your life, 23:53 and you just haven't forgiven somebody for something, 23:55 and that bitterness, that hostility hardens into hate. 23:59 So what if you TRY to forgive somebody but you just 24:02 can't seem to. 24:03 I mean, you know it's right, 24:06 so you have the guilt of not being able to you think. 24:09 What do you do when you can't seem to do that? 24:10 Don, there are 5 steps to the forgiveness process. 24:13 Step #1 is to recognize the need to forgive, 24:17 and we've seen the different quotations that the experts say, 24:19 "If you don't forgive, you're damaging yourself in every way, 24:22 in relationships and everything. 70 x 7- said Jesus... Exactly 24:24 #2- Acknowledge your inability to forgive. 24:27 Now for most things, Don, most hurts that come to us, 24:30 we can just slough them off. 24:32 I mean within a couple of hours, we won't even remember them. 24:34 But once in a while something big comes along... 24:36 An administrator believes a story about me 24:39 that wasn't true and then 24:41 acts on that as though it were true, 24:42 and that goes very deep inside of me. 24:45 Someone leaves you after being married 15 years... 24:47 There you go, yeah, exactly. 24:49 You just don't forget, I mean, it's hard to forgive, 24:51 and so you wrestle with that. 24:54 So then, at that point, it's important to acknowledge 24:56 you're not able to forgive. 24:58 That helps you move to step 3. 25:00 "Ask God to give you a forgiving spirit. " 25:03 He says, "Ask and it shall be given to you" 25:05 If we really believe that, then we can go to Him as a resource. 25:09 Then #4- "Yield all bitterness and desire for revenge to God" 25:13 And you just verbally do that; yield desire for revenge 25:18 and bitterness to God, 25:19 and I don't know how else to do it, except just say, 25:22 "God, I yield these things to you" 25:24 Now there's a definition of forgiveness by Marjorie Thompson 25:27 that I'd like to show now, that I felt was so awesome. 25:31 A beautiful statement... 26:17 I just thought that was such a powerful statement 26:19 of what forgiveness is. 26:21 And then the 5th point, Don, is to "do good to your offender" 26:25 Because our feelings will follow our actions many times, 26:30 and if you can do something good towards your offender, 26:33 even pray for them as Jesus called us to do... 26:35 "Pray for them" then forgiveness can come 26:38 in it's time. 26:39 And sometimes breaks that... 26:40 Is that when you can really know that you have forgiven, 26:43 when you go through those processes? 26:45 I like the way Lewis Smedes says... 26:48 It's kind of a symptom of healing... 26:49 When you think of your offender and the impulse to wish him well 26:53 springs spontaneously from within 26:56 you know you have forgiven. 26:58 Excellent - excellent! 27:00 Do good to those that despitefully use you, 27:03 you just feel like... and goodness of course 27:05 is the fruit of the spirit. Right 27:06 The last Stress Absorber... 27:09 We don't have much time. Last one... 27:10 Very simple - Stress Absorber #10 27:12 We've talked about it before in our program... 27:14 I will live by the Golden Rule 27:16 The Golden Rule as stated by Jesus - even though 27:19 He didn't call it such is in whatever you do 27:22 do unto others as you would have them do to you, 27:25 and then He says... "This is the Law and the Prophets" 27:27 In other words, this sums up My divine intent for you. 27:32 We've been talking with Dr. Skip MacCarty 27:34 We've been talking about stress - it's a real issue. 27:37 It can be very negative in our lives, 27:39 but there are stress absorbers that can be used to 27:42 mitigate against it. 27:44 We've talked about 10 of those; 27:46 5 of them in this program. 27:47 They are all in the seminar, "Stress Beyond Coping" 27:50 We hope that you can make this resource available 27:53 not only for yourself, but those in your community, 27:55 and give us a call here at 3ABN and we'll give you 27:57 more information about it. |
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