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The Wedding Cake

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00:27 Welcome to Issues & Answers.
00:29 Did you know that the prevalence
00:31 of child's sexual abuse is difficult to determine
00:35 because it is often not reported.
00:37 Experts agree that the incidents
00:40 are far greater than
00:42 what is reported to authorities.
00:44 Our guests today are gonna talk about this subject.
00:47 It is Cheryl Williams Jones and David W Jones II.
00:52 Cheryl received a degree in Human Development
00:54 from California State University,
00:56 San Bernardino.
00:57 She is the author of the new book,
00:59 'The Wedding Cake' a girl's guide to good choices.
01:02 Cheryl is the President and Co-founder
01:04 along with her husband David,
01:06 of 'All Of God's Children',
01:08 a non-profit organization that strives to guide
01:11 and improve the lives of children
01:13 who have been victims of physical
01:16 and emotional abuse.
01:17 She's been featured on many platforms
01:19 including the radio show, Rave Women in Los Angeles.
01:23 Cheryl is married to David.
01:25 And David attended La Sierra University.
01:28 He is a certified Therapeutic Crisis Intervention trainer
01:32 through Cornell University.
01:34 David and Cheryl had been married 15 years
01:35 and have been taking care of 'All God's Children'
01:40 from the very beginning.
01:42 Welcome to the program, Cheryl and David.
01:45 So glad you could come.
01:46 Thank you so much for having us, Karen.
01:47 Thank you very much for having us.
01:49 So, first I'm gonna ask you,
01:50 did you have any idea that you were gonna be involved
01:54 in a work with children who have been abused?
01:57 Well, I have.
01:58 This is a dream come true for me.
02:00 I have wanted to do this since I was a very young child.
02:03 Really?
02:04 So, yes, this is something that I have always wanted to do.
02:07 Yes, for me, growing up,
02:09 this was not part of my life experience,
02:11 knowing anything about children in this form of care.
02:15 But it's funny how life brings you full circle.
02:19 And brings you even to some of your past experience,
02:22 past experience of your, of generations
02:24 that you didn't even know were available or were there.
02:28 My grandmother actually grew up not too far from here
02:32 in a Catholic orphanage out of St. Louis, Missouri.
02:36 And growing up, you know, you would hear stories.
02:40 You know, you would hear about large orphanages
02:42 and that sort of thing.
02:44 Right.
02:45 But as it is presented today, you know,
02:46 I didn't even know that
02:48 that was out there or available.
02:50 My first job out of high school,
02:52 I was a camp counselor.
02:54 And now I find myself working with children all over again.
02:58 Even though this is not
02:59 what I had designed for my life.
03:00 I guess, this is what God designed for my life
03:02 which is always more important.
03:04 Amen. Amen.
03:05 Now you said that you actually planned to--
03:08 What did you planned since you were a small girl?
03:10 Well, my dad's a retired social worker.
03:14 And he would come home and share stories with us
03:17 about how difficult it was to place
03:21 a large family of siblings.
03:23 And those stories would touch me and I,
03:25 you know, as I got older, that's something that I just,
03:28 you know, always wanted to do.
03:29 Now did you come from a perfect family yourself?
03:32 Had you ever had any type of crisis that would help you
03:35 to be able to relate to the children
03:36 that you are helping now?
03:38 No, it's just, you know, listening to my father
03:40 and him sharing the stories
03:42 and his struggle of finding good quality homes
03:45 for the children.
03:46 I remember one of his stories in particular
03:47 he shared with me was about there were six siblings,
03:50 ages range from infancy to about 13.
03:55 And how, when it was time to place them,
03:57 they just simply did not have the placement
03:58 for six children,
04:00 having all have to be separated.
04:02 And stories like that really inspired me
04:04 to do what I'm doing today.
04:05 Okay.
04:07 So before you got, before you found it,
04:09 'All God's Children',
04:11 what type of work were you involved with?
04:14 I was in telecommunications.
04:15 Telecommunications? Yes.
04:17 And I understand
04:18 that you also were a Big Sister at one point?
04:21 Yes, I was volunteer Big Sister.
04:24 I also did volunteer work
04:25 at Juvenile Hall at Riverside, California.
04:28 Volunteered?
04:29 Yes, I was a volunteer counselor.
04:31 I work with boys...
04:34 ages, I think, it was ten to twelve.
04:37 And I also worked at other residential homes.
04:40 So what was, you guys have group homes.
04:42 Is that right? Residential Care, yes.
04:44 Residential Care? What's the difference?
04:48 Well--
04:50 Well, we actually just don't like
04:53 that connotation because--
04:56 It sounds too institutionalized.
04:57 Yes. Okay.
04:58 And so we more call it a home.
05:00 So what we do, we work with children
05:02 that are most at risk that are out there.
05:06 Because of the behaviors that they, that they present,
05:10 because of that all the trauma that has occurred
05:13 in their lives, they act out.
05:15 It's no surprise to us that they act out
05:17 because you would kind of expect
05:19 you've been through all of this.
05:20 But the scene is that they don't have
05:21 the coping skills that we have or that--
05:25 Children that would be in a more established
05:29 or traditional home might have.
05:33 And so they haven't developed those skills
05:34 but they've learned ways to survive.
05:37 They've got, they have, what we call survival skills.
05:40 And so they act out in very bizarre ways and,
05:44 you know, when you see that and it's presented,
05:46 then we are willing to work
05:49 with those challenging behaviors.
05:51 But what happens that once you start saying,
05:53 you know, put it into a more facility type term,
05:57 then it makes the children feel like
05:59 they're more of in a facility type place.
06:01 We want them to feel like they're at home.
06:02 So, we reference where they live is home.
06:05 As home?
06:06 Not as a group home, it's just a home.
06:08 So, we have a home for boys
06:09 and we have a home for our girls.
06:10 We do. Okay.
06:12 So now, is this the same as foster care?
06:15 Well it's actually a step above foster care.
06:18 Yes. It's a step above.
06:20 well it's a more therapeutic structured environment,
06:22 and there's someone awake 24hours for supervision.
06:26 So the children that are in our care
06:29 have not been able to maintain their placement in foster care.
06:33 So the system has required for them
06:36 to actually move to higher level.
06:38 There's more therapy, there's more testing and,
06:41 so that's what...
06:43 So, our children receive therapy from us.
06:45 They receive individual therapy,
06:47 group therapy.
06:49 If need be, we can offer family therapy.
06:52 They receive therapist once a week from us
06:54 and more sometimes if necessary
06:56 depending on what their needs are.
06:58 In addition to that, if they need psychiatric care,
07:02 then we get them involved with psychiatrists
07:05 for medication issues.
07:07 So we actually have the children
07:08 that are more emotionally disturbed
07:09 than children in foster care.
07:11 So, we have fire starters,
07:14 the ones that are abusive to animals,
07:15 the ones that have sexual issues,
07:18 the ones that just simply need supervision 24 hours.
07:21 Yeah, but you have to understand that a child
07:23 has been physically abused,
07:24 that's how they're going to act out.
07:26 Probably is physically,
07:27 as child has been sexually abused,
07:28 may act out sexually.
07:30 They're communicating their pain
07:31 through their inappropriate behaviors.
07:33 Wow.
07:34 So it sounds like--
07:35 Do you do all the care yourself or do you have staff?
07:37 We have a lot of help. We do.
07:39 What type of people help?
07:41 We may have between 22 to 32 individuals
07:45 that work with our program,
07:46 work with us with the children not including therapist.
07:50 The type of individuals that would look to work with us,
07:54 are those individuals, generally,
07:55 that are seeking to go into these type of fields.
07:57 And that's what we look for when we look for employees
08:00 'cause we like screen our employees
08:01 like we're screening children.
08:02 Because it's very important that the whole milieu fits.
08:04 Right.
08:06 So, we actually post jobs for,
08:09 for all those surrounding colleges which is four, right,
08:11 four surrounding colleges.
08:12 I think it's even more than that.
08:14 And so we actually look for people
08:16 that are interested in working with children,
08:18 that are studying in the social sciences.
08:20 But the majority of our, our employees
08:22 because they like it so much and it becomes,
08:25 like I said, you know, we try to create a family feel,
08:27 most of them come word of mouth.
08:29 Right.
08:30 Or from their college professor saying,
08:31 "Hey, listen, you know what, you're going in this field,
08:33 you need some work experience, call these people."
08:36 So you said you weren't sure,
08:37 you didn't know you wanted to do this from very beginning?
08:39 A long time.
08:41 You weren't sure that you wanted to do that.
08:43 How did you get started?
08:44 This sounds like a pretty big enterprise for newlyweds.
08:50 Well, let's see.
08:53 We started, it was you know,
08:54 was it something I wanted to do like I said,
08:56 my father, you know, with his line of work
08:59 really supported me or supported us.
09:03 We started out with absolutely nothing.
09:07 We lived over in a room,
09:08 over a garage for eight years with no heat.
09:12 Just trying to get the business going and--
09:14 It felt like the room started at your desk and ended
09:17 with this chair, it was that's off.
09:19 That scenes were the first eight years of our marriage
09:21 but it all worked out and, we really enjoyed--
09:25 Well, you know, honestly, I ran from it.
09:27 I mean, I wanted to support my wife of course,
09:31 this is what she wanted to do.
09:32 So, I felt well, God wanted me to support her.
09:35 But I found out
09:37 that I'm spending all of my extra time here
09:39 because they're having fun and doing all the fun things
09:43 that I enjoyed doing.
09:45 So after a couple of years of asking, she quit asking.
09:50 I did. I did.
09:51 And we started with six clients and now we have 18.
09:54 Eighteen children? Yes.
09:56 Now tell me about the home environment.
09:58 So you said you--
09:59 The first home. What was that like?
10:00 I mean, what is the typical environment for these,
10:03 for the children?
10:04 Is it like a building that you have?
10:06 No, no, it's our home. We lived there first.
10:10 And then we moved to that little room over the garage.
10:15 How big is the home?
10:17 Well, the house is 3,000 square feet.
10:19 Around half an acre.
10:20 A little over half an acre.
10:22 And the other home is one acre.
10:23 Yes, but six years later, we after seeing siblings
10:28 not be able to grow up
10:32 with their brothers and sisters.
10:33 Right. We opened the girls' house.
10:35 That inspired us to open the girls' home.
10:36 And it showed us where the home was at.
10:39 Just, it actually showed her where the home
10:40 was at because she drove, she drove...
10:42 You tell 'em Tell me about that story.
10:44 Well, we submitted our application to expand.
10:47 And we could not find a location that we wanted.
10:50 Again I was driving by and I was like praying,
10:53 "Lord, if You could please just find a home for us."
10:56 Looked out, I pass this way every day,
10:59 and there was this huge sign saying "House for sale."
11:03 It only been up, the lady said, for three hours.
11:06 Three hours? Only been up three hours.
11:09 I called my husband and said
11:10 we have to go talk to this lady.
11:11 She did.
11:13 And it was only three and half miles from the house,
11:14 the first house, the boys' house.
11:16 The houses are a mile and half away.
11:19 Three minute drive, yeah.
11:20 Three minute drive from one house to the next.
11:22 And 20 minutes to walk it.
11:23 And I always tell our employees that 20 minutes to walk
11:26 is really important
11:27 because if you don't exercise young children,
11:30 young children will definitely exercise you.
11:33 So, you get out there and enjoy
11:35 but what was nice is that the God brought us
11:37 something that was only a mile and half away.
11:38 And they--
11:39 Yeah.
11:41 That's at the Southern California at that.
11:42 So our second home is 4,000 square feet
11:44 on a little over acre.
11:46 Over acre. Wow.
11:47 And it's a little bit further out into the country.
11:49 Oh, that's awesome.
11:51 So how do you make this a home?
11:54 You said that it's not a office building,
11:56 it's not an institution.
11:59 Well, you fill it with love, you fill it with good memories.
12:02 My children come with a lot of bad memories.
12:06 So, you try to expose them to new things,
12:09 you try to teach them new ways.
12:12 What kind of...
12:14 My beautiful wife is a wonderful decorator.
12:17 You know, our girls' bathroom
12:19 actually has a chandelier hanging in it.
12:22 Wow.
12:23 Yes, yes, yes.
12:24 And it's very nicely decorated.
12:26 There's little 50s diner where they're eating that,
12:29 we're trying to make it fun because fun
12:31 is our number one motivator in dealing with children.
12:33 Oh, is that so? Yes.
12:35 So, you have to inspire them to want something different.
12:39 So now, the children all have their own space?
12:42 They do.
12:43 Two of them share a room.
12:45 Okay. Yeah.
12:47 So how did the kids come to you?
12:49 Well, they come to us through--
12:52 Are they referred to you by friends or church?
12:55 No, through the counties, through someone, you know,
12:57 county, Riverside County, and Imperial County.
13:00 Imperial, Collin County, all of the surrounding counties,
13:03 San Diego County, we have had children from a, all over.
13:07 We, when we are full which is most of the time
13:10 unfortunately, we have 18 clients.
13:14 So, you start multiplying that by 17 years
13:19 of being in business?
13:20 Right.
13:22 And we have had hundreds of children.
13:25 So the phone gonna ring in the middle of the night--
13:26 Wonderful. Yeah. Yeah.
13:27 So, the phone can ring in the middle of the night,
13:29 and there can be, maybe a drug bust or something going on.
13:32 And sometimes we get children in the middle of the night
13:34 in their little pajamas.
13:35 And they are so scared, and, you know,
13:38 they'll just stand holding teddy bear
13:40 and they don't know what to do.
13:41 And you can get them in the middle of the day,
13:43 the phone rings all the time.
13:44 We never know.
13:45 So, children come to us as young as seven years old.
13:47 In fact actually this morning,
13:48 I received a call from one of the counties,
13:52 for a seven year old that
13:53 we actually do not have room to take.
13:56 And often times, especially because that has become
14:01 what we are known to work well with is the younger children.
14:05 Although we are licensed through
14:07 a non-minor dependence...
14:11 There are no places for them.
14:13 So, you're saying that this is just such an important issue
14:17 that unfortunately, it's a crisis,
14:22 even where you're living.
14:23 Yes.
14:24 And of course, we're seeing this across the United States.
14:26 It's a crisis that so many children
14:28 are going through this.
14:30 And the God has given you all the ability to be able
14:34 to make a difference in the lives
14:36 of some of these precious children.
14:38 What kinds of fun things do you with the kids?
14:41 Well, got lots of fun things.
14:43 Fly kites, go to the beach...
14:47 camp.
14:49 I love camping, we love camping.
14:51 We have taken our children from California,
14:54 the Pacific Ocean all the way to the Atlantic Ocean.
14:57 We have even brought them here to 3ABN, or close to 3ABN.
15:00 Yes, we have been. Yes, they have been here.
15:03 We took a trip with a busted down van
15:05 when we first got started.
15:06 It was back in 2,000.
15:08 And we had five little boys with us.
15:13 And we went through the Rockies,
15:16 down through the plains, the southern plains of Kansas
15:19 and on toward, we ended up at Rin Lake out here,
15:22 at, by 3ABN.
15:24 We did, we did.
15:26 And then we went on to D.C.
15:27 I think that year we did 27 states in 35 days.
15:32 But, I have to tell you about the van.
15:33 The van was 12 years old.
15:36 And we left California with three good tires,
15:39 and one was just a prayer.
15:41 It was all busted.
15:42 By the time we came back, it was so painful.
15:44 One tire was bad.
15:45 But yeah, there was--
15:46 That was all painful.
15:48 So now how do you travel with the kids?
15:49 Now we travel in an RUV. We do a little bit better now.
15:50 We do a little better.
15:52 I don't sleep with a foot in my face.
15:54 We do.
15:55 Well, when we first purchased the RUV,
15:57 we had to make some moderations we changed it
15:59 around so that it could accommodate more children.
16:01 More kid friendly. So yeah.
16:02 But even then, we still, I mean, it's camping.
16:05 You belong in a tent.
16:06 So, all the kids get their own tent?
16:08 Yeah.
16:09 Yeah, they definitely have tent.
16:11 They all have, they all have their own tents,
16:12 their own sleeping bag, everything.
16:14 They're able to put the tents up together themselves.
16:16 Yeah.
16:18 We practiced whatever we need...
16:19 And we get out make sure we have a great time.
16:21 And it's amazing because being out in nature
16:24 calms the children.
16:25 It really does.
16:27 And being out in the areas
16:28 that they are not used to in like for a--
16:29 It draws us closer and builds trust.
16:31 Yeoman in Yellow Stone or out by us
16:35 is you'll see many are Mammoth Lakes.
16:38 They learn to trust each other,
16:40 and trust in us a little bit more as well.
16:42 So, I understand that just from your experiences
16:46 something wonderful happened with you,
16:49 Cheryl, you wrote a book?
16:50 Yes, yes, I did.
16:51 Tell us about the book.
16:53 What's the title? You have it with you?
16:54 Yes, I do. Oh there it is, right there.
16:57 Okay, so tell us about...
16:58 It's called "The Wedding Cake Book,
17:00 " and a girl's guide to good choices.
17:03 It's a book to be used as a tool
17:05 to speak to young ladies about the importance of abstinence,
17:08 and the consequences of premarital sex.
17:10 Okay.
17:12 So how did that come to be?
17:15 What, you know, had you written other books before?
17:17 No, no.
17:19 Writing a book was something I'd never aspired to do.
17:21 No desire to ever write a book.
17:23 But I found that I was struggling
17:26 with talking to our girls,
17:28 about the importance of respecting their bodies.
17:30 And I was continually getting calls
17:33 from the principal about finding my girls
17:36 in inappropriate situations
17:39 and when they'd come home,
17:40 I would just try to speak to them
17:42 about the importance of respecting their bodies
17:44 and making good choices.
17:46 And I wasn't very good at it.
17:48 I wasn't reaching them and I felt really frustrated.
17:51 I actually went to a large local bookstore,
17:54 and I was speaking to the lady at the store.
17:57 And I said, you know, "Do you have anything
17:58 that I can use as a guide to talk
18:00 to these young girls about abstinence?"
18:03 And, you know, she went to her computer and she is just,
18:06 you know, "We don't have anything here."
18:08 So, I left and I just, you know,
18:10 a couple of weeks passed and I got another call
18:13 from the principal and...
18:16 This time I started praying.
18:17 I was driving to the girls' house and I said,
18:20 "Lord, if You could please just give me
18:22 something to help these girls."
18:24 Yes.
18:25 You know, I really need to reach them.
18:27 And in about three minutes,
18:30 all these different ideas starting to pop into my head.
18:33 Wow.
18:35 It was almost like I was brain storming,
18:36 like anything that I had to do with little girls
18:38 was just popping in my head like Barbies,
18:40 Princess, things like that.
18:42 By the time, I got out of my car, got to the door,
18:44 I had the metaphor of "The wedding cake"
18:46 in my head.
18:48 And I was speaking to little girl,
18:51 we went to the backroom,
18:52 and I started sharing this new idea
18:55 that I had in my head with her.
18:57 And she looked at me and she said,
18:58 "Cheryl, I understand
19:00 what you've been trying to tell me now."
19:02 And I said, "You do?"
19:03 I was surprised.
19:05 And so I just, over the year,
19:06 I just started developing a story
19:08 and it started growing.
19:09 So for five years, I used the metaphor,
19:11 "The wedding cake".
19:13 And at one staff meeting, one of my employees said to me
19:18 we got a new client and she says,
19:19 "Mrs. Cheryl, we need to share the story with another girl,
19:22 a new girl."
19:23 And I said "Okay. In next week, I will do that."
19:25 So David here, my husband--
19:27 During the staff meeting.
19:28 In the staff meeting, they are like, "Oh, Mrs. Cheryl,
19:32 so and so needs you to talk to her about the Wedding Cake."
19:37 And wedding cake?
19:39 And one of my male staff's like "Wedding cake,
19:40 I want some wedding cake.
19:42 I love wedding cake."
19:43 Yeah, who doesn't love cake, right?
19:45 So, you know, I asked her about it.
19:49 And she is like, "Don't worry about it, it's nothing."
19:51 So it kind of out of sight, out of mind.
19:54 And it comes up again.
19:56 So I said, "What is this about the Wedding cake?"
20:00 And--
20:01 So we got home.
20:03 I have been using for like five years
20:04 to talk to the girls about the importance
20:06 of abstinence and respecting their bodies.
20:08 So, we get to home and he, I was sitting on the couch
20:11 and David, he is lot bigger than I am,
20:13 takes his leg and lays it over my leg and he says,
20:16 "I am not gonna let you up until you tell me
20:18 about this metaphor and this wedding cake."
20:20 Okay, good.
20:21 Let's take a look at that book, please.
20:25 What a beautiful cover it is?
20:26 Thank you.
20:28 Beautiful green, The Wedding Cake.
20:30 Oh, this seems very interesting picture on the back.
20:32 Yes, it is.
20:34 It's got a bride in the middle, has two boys.
20:36 Yeah, one was the groom holding the crumbs
20:39 and the other is the young man
20:40 that has enjoyed the wedding cake.
20:43 Now, let's look into it and see what's inside, everybody.
20:46 Okay.
20:48 So, this looks like the beginning,
20:51 got a lot of presents, beautiful gifts, okay.
20:54 What does this picture represent?
20:56 The perfect wedding cake.
20:58 So, the wedding cake historically has been a symbol
21:02 of fertility for the women, and so,
21:07 I just had my illustrator put the perfect cake
21:10 there just displaying the table cloth and the knife,
21:14 and the, what you're gonna be using for the first time.
21:17 And as I understand it, that's our child.
21:20 Right.
21:22 Wow, okay.
21:23 Let's go to another picture.
21:26 Seemed things have changed, what's going on here?
21:29 Well, I used the wedding cake as a metaphor.
21:33 So as you flip through the pages of the book,
21:36 you're going to see that with each choice
21:38 that you make with each young boy,
21:41 your wedding cake is going to transform.
21:43 So it's going to go from the perfect wedding cake
21:46 to this particular illustration
21:48 it has the cake tilted a little bit,
21:50 and it has the finger swipe.
21:53 Finger swipe.
21:55 That would be the boy that just wanted it a little taste.
21:59 This one says the second boy.
22:01 The second boy again, the cake transforms.
22:04 So now, you have a cake that has, it's tilted even more.
22:08 It has the fingers swiped from the first boy along
22:12 with the bite out of the cake from the second boy.
22:18 Oh, my...
22:20 Yes. Tell us about it.
22:21 The third boy.
22:24 He has eaten some of the lovely
22:26 little pink flowers off of the cake.
22:28 And the cake is tilted even more.
22:31 You have the bite and the finger swipe.
22:34 So, basically as you go through the book,
22:36 all the illustrations are simply just showing you
22:39 how with the choices you make...
22:42 Yes, yes, you can see that the icings, the--
22:46 Icing is off the cake.
22:48 Is there any icing left?
22:49 Just a little bit icing.
22:50 All the roses are gone.
22:52 There's a little bit of icing left.
22:53 But it just, the illustrations are powerful
22:56 for young girls, because it actually shows you
22:59 how your choices affect your body.
23:02 Yes, that's one of my favorite pictures there.
23:04 Why?
23:06 Because it's the result of all your bad choices.
23:09 And you can clearly see it.
23:11 So it clearly shows it? Yes.
23:12 There is no icing on that cake.
23:13 No, not. Not one drop.
23:15 Shows everything? Yes.
23:18 Yes, it does.
23:22 And that one, I like it because it just kind of speaks
23:28 to what the choices you've made,
23:31 how they are going to affect the husband, your--
23:33 The man you chose to marry.
23:35 And I like the little napkin on that guy
23:38 who has been eating your cake, how his face looks, and--
23:40 You know, to me that picture right there kind of--
23:43 Kind of says it all, kind of sums everything up to you,
23:45 how your choices are.
23:47 What does it say? How to fix.
23:48 Well, you know, one guy said
23:51 that they are licking his chops,
23:52 'cause he has enjoyed everything
23:53 when the person who was going to commit is a,
23:56 you know, more or less left with all the fall out
24:01 of what happens with relationships
24:03 when you have these the choices.
24:05 And it's all everything that you're bringing to a marriage.
24:07 And then the young lady looks like
24:09 she is kind of trying to deal with all of her choices
24:11 right there on her wedding day
24:12 looking at her husband's expression.
24:15 Wow.
24:20 Now this is when you get a little bit more explicit
24:22 and you start teaching the girls?
24:24 Right.
24:25 So this--
24:26 It's actually transmitted diseases, and other things?
24:29 So in this book, I, again, it's a guide.
24:32 So you're going to use this book
24:34 according to where your child is
24:36 and according to the questions that they ask you.
24:37 So you can go into more detail,
24:39 or you can just kind of just stay general,
24:41 depending again on where your child is.
24:42 So I actually address three different consequences,
24:46 or possible consequences of having premarital sex.
24:49 I might address the STDs,
24:51 and if you look at the illustration,
24:53 it kind of shows,
24:55 it has the symptom of STDs on the actual wedding cake.
25:00 And so depending on where your child is--
25:02 Little bugs in.
25:04 Bugs? It depends on--
25:05 So it shows the symptoms of STDs.
25:08 So that illustration you can actually go into more detail
25:11 with your daughter, a young lady,
25:13 or you can keep it more general depending on again
25:15 where she is.
25:17 So it addresses that.
25:18 It also addresses on the possibility of pregnancy.
25:21 And how that's gonna affect your life...
25:24 forever.
25:26 And how that's going to affect your child's life.
25:28 And then I also talk about the emotional aspect
25:30 of having premarital sex.
25:34 And that is where you're in life
25:37 and how you're going to deal with those.
25:39 And how you could possibly carry over those feelings
25:41 into your future relationships.
25:43 Wow.
25:45 And that was happening in this picture here?
25:47 You know, everyone is affected in the relationship
25:49 by the choices that we make.
25:51 That's very true. That's very true.
25:53 It is. Yes, it is.
25:54 What about this picture, Cheryl?
25:56 That picture, I really like that picture.
25:58 Because I like the fact that it shows redemption,
26:01 and I--
26:03 I like the fact that it had all those different
26:06 words of encouragement for each girl.
26:09 A lot of our girls are victims.
26:11 And they've had things happened to them
26:13 that's by no choices of their own.
26:15 And so, I didn't want them to feel damaged,
26:17 I wanted them to have hope.
26:18 So that's what that picture basically represents.
26:20 It's beautiful.
26:21 They are rebuilding the wedding cake.
26:24 We can rebuild the cake.
26:25 Until it's beautiful and perfect just like before.
26:29 I love this book, it's so nice.
26:31 Thank you, thank you.
26:32 So tell me about All God's children.
26:34 How can people get into contact with you?
26:36 You obviously have a book,
26:37 so that means you do training as well?
26:39 Both of you?
26:40 Well, you can contact us through AllGodsChildren.net
26:42 which is our website.
26:46 And you can, we can purchase the book?
26:47 AllGodsChildren.us.
26:50 AllGodsChildren.us. Yes.
26:53 And we can get the book from the website?
26:55 You can order the book from the website...
26:57 TheWeddingcakebook.net.
26:59 TheWeddingcakebook.net?
27:02 Yes, and you guys are available to be able to travel
27:06 and to be able to help other people
27:08 who are going through some of these things.
27:10 But you have resources on your website?
27:12 Yes, you can contact us through the website,
27:15 or through the 3ABN.
27:16 Fantastic. Fantastic.
27:18 Well, I certainly appreciate your coming and sharing this.
27:21 We enjoyed being here. Well, thank you for having us.
27:22 I wanted to just ask you-- Oh, I am sorry, yes.
27:26 Can you tell me one quick, quick story how is this?
27:29 How is the book?
27:30 What's been the result of the book?
27:31 Has it made a difference with the girls
27:33 that you're working with?
27:34 It has.
27:36 I have to tell you, the book is very effective.
27:37 And what is so inspirational to me
27:41 is that it was a gift to her from God,
27:44 in a very disparate movement.
27:46 And it works. Praise God.
27:49 Well, thank you guys so much, David and Cheryl,
27:51 for coming to the program today.
27:53 Thank you for sharing about the Wedding Cake.
27:55 You know, 2 Corinthians 5:17 says that
27:59 "If anyone is in Christ, man, woman, boy or girl,
28:03 that he is a new creature.
28:05 Old things are passed away.
28:07 We are the workmanship of God, created unto good works."
28:11 That is a message full of hope for everyone.
28:14 Thank you for joining us today.
28:16 Have a blessed day.


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