Participants: Jacques LaGuerre (Host), Brittany Hill-Morales, Myesha Lawson, Timothy Lawson, Xavier Morales
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000102A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:04 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:06 may be too candid for younger children. 00:41 Hello, and thank you for joining us 00:44 on another episode of Pure Choices. 00:46 I'll be your host for today, 00:48 and my name is Jacques LaGuerre. 00:50 My panel is comprised of Timothy Lawson, 00:54 Myesha Lawson, Xavier Morales, and Brittany Morales. 01:01 Our topic for today is sexual images in the media, 01:05 by beholding we become slaves. 01:07 But before we get into the meat of our discussion, 01:10 I'm gonna ask that you bow your heads with me as I pray. 01:15 Dear heavenly Father, as we talk about the media 01:18 and its influences on our sexuality. 01:21 We ask that You send Your Holy Spirit 01:23 into this place to guide us, so that we can be educated, 01:27 and so that we can in turn educate our viewers, 01:30 in Jesus name I pray, amen. 01:32 Amen. Amen. 01:35 So sexual images in the media. 01:39 I don't know if you've noticed, 01:40 but I definitely have how things in the media 01:42 have been becoming progressively more risky, 01:46 becoming more sexually charged, and becoming more provocative. 01:50 So in this day and age, my first question is this. 01:54 What standards can I have for myself or for my home, 01:58 so that I'm not flooded 02:00 by all this filth and trash that's out there? 02:06 Well, I think you definitely need to... 02:11 communication is the key with your family, 02:13 with your children, and let them know 02:16 what's acceptable to watch, 02:17 what's not acceptable to watch, and why. 02:20 And now, you know, 02:24 images in the media that are not good, 02:26 they really don't hide anything now. 02:28 Almost at the beginning in every show or every movie, 02:30 there is a rating on what's gonna be in this show, 02:34 and what's gonna be in this film, 02:35 you should really pay attention to that. 02:37 Because they put those ratings up there, 02:39 and then they actually show those things in the, 02:42 you know, in the images in the media. 02:44 And then you also have to be cautious, 02:45 because there are commercials and other things 02:47 that don't tell you that. 02:49 And so and I think, 02:51 one principle you can do is to set boundaries 02:54 on what you watch or your family watch in time 02:57 periods, when they can watch them and to never... 03:01 I like to say, leave your kid unguarded by the TV, 03:05 don't ever just think, this is a kid show, 03:07 I'm gonna put him in here. 03:08 Know what they're watching 03:10 and what's coming through the screen. 03:14 I think to setting on time limits too. 03:18 You know, lot of parents even though 03:21 they put the parental controls and everything of that nature, 03:24 they often, you know, the kids sit there and watch 03:27 countless amounts of television. 03:29 You know, setting those limits, because even though 03:31 there might be some kid's shows on TV, 03:34 like regular, you know, regular television kid shows. 03:37 Lot of times those things could still have 03:39 some kind of subliminal message. 03:41 So it's usual, also limiting the amount of time 03:43 that they spend watching television too. 03:46 So not only what they're watching, 03:47 but how long they're watching it. 03:49 You know, I'm pretty sure we all know that 03:51 the Bible says in Philippians 4:8, 03:53 Whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are true, 03:57 holy, just of good report... 03:59 think on these things, and so just using the Bible, 04:02 we can use those verses 04:04 just to get a picture of what our family 04:08 and what we should expose to ourselves. 04:10 Now these television shows, 04:12 they might have ratings and they say, 04:14 "If you're 13, you can watch this. 04:17 If you're 17 plus, you can watch this." 04:20 But the Bible has no such rating system, 04:22 you know, we don't get to... 04:24 and I know this is something that I thought, 04:27 I thought man I can't wait till I'm 13, 04:29 so I can watch PG 13 movies. 04:31 As if I've now graduated to where 04:33 watching sin is now acceptable, you know. 04:36 Yeah. 04:37 And so it's never acceptable no matter what the age, 04:40 but like Timothy said, 04:42 they are not hiding what they're showing you. 04:44 You know, they say this show contains graphic scenes, 04:47 this show have nudity, 04:49 this movie has this, this movie has that. 04:51 And so just looking at what they're saying 04:53 will be in their own program, it can help a lot. 04:56 Amen. 04:57 So we've talked about how there's a lot of images, 05:00 and a lot of subliminal messages as you were saying. 05:03 How do you think these images affect 05:05 young men and young women? 05:07 Well, the images for one can affect a young woman. 05:13 For one, it can, you know, 05:15 she can watch this reality shows, 05:17 and they could act in a certain way 05:21 that she think is okay. 05:25 She can be loud or she can show that she is violent, you know, 05:31 with her words or her actions and just... 05:35 or she can be very provocative or seductive. 05:40 You know, it will put in this woman... 05:42 a girl's mind that it's okay. 05:45 So and it's really not. 05:47 I think a lot of times too, if you notice, 05:49 even from young, you know, like rated G, 05:52 you know, it's okay, lot of times they say, 05:54 rated G is fine, but if you notice the way it is, 05:57 it's essentially programming the kids 05:59 to have the certain ideology 06:00 of what love is supposed to look like. 06:03 You know, this strong strapping prince charming is gonna come 06:06 galloping down on a horse and sweep you off your feet. 06:09 That's the... 06:11 I mean that's the idea for many young girls. 06:13 And then the guys, you know, rescue the damsel in distress, 06:16 but what you don't realize is that 06:17 you are creating this fantasy that is not ideal. 06:21 I mean, if you look at the Bible, 06:23 God did not bring a prince charming 06:25 into the picture, He was already charming, 06:27 he just brought the queen into it, 06:29 you know through the rib. 06:30 So I think it's just creating a fantasy world 06:33 for a lot of kids, and as they grow older, 06:36 they gravitate more to fantasy rather than reality. 06:40 I think off just to piggyback off 06:42 what Xavier is saying. 06:43 Some of the worst movies 06:45 to let your kids watch are the G rated movies, 06:47 because while they say 06:49 they might not show things explicitly, 06:51 there's still sin in some kind of message to your kid 06:54 on how they want your kid to act, 06:56 and how they want your kid to think. 06:57 And there was two studies done, 07:00 at least on young girls, and one found out 07:02 that the over sexualization of women in the media 07:05 cause depression in teenage girls, 07:07 because they couldn't fit that image, 07:09 they couldn't look like that image, 07:11 and it caused them to be depressed 07:12 about their own image in what they look like. 07:16 And then a second story, that was done show that... 07:20 because of the over sexualization of girls 07:23 and now it's been targeted and marketed 07:25 for money reasons too to young girls now. 07:28 The shows that are G rated are targeted 07:30 like Xavier would say it earlier, 07:32 the heroine in the move that might be G rated, 07:36 she might act in a real seductive or sexual manner. 07:39 It's also starting to make girls 07:42 as young as four to six year old, 07:45 start to self sexualize. 07:47 Which means that these girls are now 07:48 looking at themselves with a thought 07:51 process of how do guys see me? 07:54 At that young age, starting to see themselves as, 07:57 to be accepted, I need to, you know, 07:59 look good to guys, be sexy to guys. 08:02 And a little child or little girl 08:04 that should not be the first thought on her mind 08:06 or on her mind at any time. 08:09 Wow, that's crazy, as young as four to six, you said. 08:11 Young as four to six. 08:13 And so with all this going on in the media, 08:15 should someone could be asking themselves the question, 08:19 "Should I even watch a secular media?" 08:23 Well, if I could chime in again, 08:27 I think especially for Christian, 08:31 that entertainment television 08:34 is a real destructive to the mind 08:36 and that's why, you know, here on Dare to Dream, 08:39 we like to put on programs that teach you something 08:41 instead of shows that's just 08:43 strictly for your entertainment. 08:46 There are studies that scientifically it hurts 08:49 and dismantles the frontal lobe. 08:51 Not only does it do that, 08:54 but as Christians we should have our frontal lobe intact. 08:56 The Holy Spirit speaks to the mind, 08:58 you know, Romans 9:1 says, 09:00 He bears witness with our conscience. 09:02 And at all times, you want to be able to hear 09:04 the voice of God, especially in the last days, 09:06 when Satan is doing his best to deceive the masses. 09:10 And so some things, even if they're not destructive, 09:13 they kind of just waste your time. 09:15 That will be best spent in prayer 09:17 or study of God's word. 09:19 And also with, conjunction with that, 09:22 you know, a lot of times, 09:23 people have asked me that question, you know, 09:24 "How do I just stop watching TV, 09:26 how do I just stop, it's everywhere?" 09:28 You know, some things are easier said than done. 09:30 But I... 09:32 there is always the beautiful thing about, 09:33 you know, different networks such as 09:35 Dare to Dream Network, you know. 09:37 You have... 09:38 what I call replacement programming. 09:41 You know, you may have the same, 09:42 you know, colors and butterflies 09:45 and little things here and there. 09:47 But the message that's behind it is always pure. 09:50 You know, giving you and edifying you, 09:53 not programming you into being some kind of impression 09:58 that you are not supposed to be for God. 09:59 You know it's not necessarily just about what you watch too, 10:04 you know, in sense of... 10:05 I'm flipping through the channels 10:07 and I happen to ponder up on this and... 10:09 You know, sometimes it's hard to control that, 10:11 sometimes it's hard to, you know, 10:12 switch and turn off the television. 10:15 But I think, if you just start with taking the necessary steps 10:18 to replace the programming that you're watching, 10:21 with programs that are wholesome, 10:23 you know, and there's plenty ones. 10:24 You have, like I said Dare to Dream Network, 10:27 and you have 3ABN 10:28 and all that have other wholesome shows 10:30 that are able to really just... 10:33 and I saw, I see it with myself where it's kind of boring. 10:37 You know, it's kind of boring at first, 10:38 but then once I switch my mindset, 10:39 it was really entertaining to me. 10:42 Wow, that's amazing. 10:43 And I definitely went through that experience myself. 10:46 I was addicted to some of the streaming sources, 10:49 where you could have a whole entire season 10:52 on your phone, on your laptop, 10:55 and it's something that I had to learn how to replace, 10:57 because you are spending hours, and hours, 11:00 and hours a day watching this entertainment television, 11:04 this trash that's filling your mind. 11:06 And now you feel convicted to stop. 11:09 And so like Xavier was saying, I had to replace all the stuff 11:13 with healthy, wholesome programs. 11:16 Sermons, prophecy, you know, 11:19 doing Bible studies from all the amazing 11:22 Adventist ministries that are out there. 11:24 And as I started to do all these things 11:26 and I started to focus on the word of God 11:29 and everything that it had to offer, 11:31 my life start to get better. 11:33 I mean, to kind of continue in this direction 11:37 of sexual images in the media. 11:40 Do you guys believe that sex in the media 11:41 translates into sex at home 11:44 or is it just what a lot of people say, 11:47 it's a just entertainment. 11:50 It definitely translates to understanding, 11:53 having understanding. 11:55 I thought of confusion when it comes to the home. 11:58 I think the term that they call is sexualization, 12:02 where basically a child is learning. 12:07 I've been a child, a child or young adult 12:09 also is getting these images, 12:13 getting these sexual access into their mind 12:16 before they're even able 12:17 or even have the ability to understand 12:21 what it is that it is happening in each of their... 12:24 they're not able to, they're not capable to understand it 12:27 emotionally, mentally, or physically. 12:31 And it puts them in a place where, 12:34 especially if parents are not talking about sex. 12:37 They're not giving them a better, a clear view. 12:40 So if a parent is just saying, don't do it 12:43 or even when you go to church, 12:45 all the pastor says this 12:46 "Just don't do it, wait till you're married." 12:48 Or if they have all these different... 12:50 like look crisper, but they're not really 12:52 giving any explanation. 12:54 Then you're looking at these shows, 12:57 and you're seeing these things, 12:58 and they are going in your mind, 12:59 and you don't even really even know 13:01 how to even begin to figure it all out, 13:02 because there's no one there to help you. 13:05 And you know, also and my wife 13:07 can probably chime in about this. 13:09 You know, little girls that are four or five, 13:12 they're all, most of them don't go to like a dance class, 13:16 and just learn how to dance, especially in a sexual manner. 13:20 But what they do, do is watch these artists on TV, 13:24 dance and move their body and behave this way, 13:27 and these kids begin to mimic 13:29 what they see exactly happening. 13:31 And so when you translate that, 13:33 it is older and older that they get. 13:37 Fornication, other sexual practices, 13:40 they will begin to mimic or to think, 13:43 like if everybody is getting the same program 13:45 like Xavier said, then when everybody goes to school, 13:48 everybody is expecting this behavior of each other. 13:50 The guys think, they pose to act sexually in this way, 13:53 the girls think they pose to act sexually in that way, 13:55 and there's pressure and that will be acted out, 13:57 you know, in the life. 13:59 Yes, I agree with my husband. 14:02 Personally, from personal experience, 14:05 I learned how to dance off the television, okay. 14:10 I use to watch videos from a child growing up, 14:15 not only I watched a movie. 14:20 It was a life of a girl that was stripping, 14:24 and then she was working inside of a club 14:26 with other strippers, and I'm pretty sure 14:28 you guys know what this movie is. 14:31 And it was appealing to me at a young age, 14:36 so when the time came 14:39 that I was going to become a stripper, 14:42 I act out just like what I saw on television. 14:47 Even the way I danced, even the way I carried myself, 14:51 even the way I talked, all those, 14:54 everything that I remembered on that movie 14:56 which I watched it plenty of times by the way. 14:59 I act just like that movie. 15:02 Well, so you could see how media 15:05 and what you got to watch them at early age affected you, 15:07 and brought you into that career path. 15:10 Yes. 15:11 I mean, I can definitely see that in my life as well. 15:14 Glad that I didn't go in that direction, 15:16 but watching all these films 15:17 that tell you that you are not a man 15:20 unless you have a lot of women. 15:22 No, you're not a man unless you can perform in bed, 15:25 and sex isn't even portrait as something that should be done 15:28 between a husband and a wife. 15:30 And after watching that for hours, and hours, 15:32 and hours being programmed, 15:34 I became that person that I'd been watching. 15:38 And so now we're gonna segue into 15:40 watching even more explicit material 15:42 such as pornography. 15:45 You know, they say that by the age of 18, 15:47 98 percent of men 15:52 have been exposed to internet pornography. 15:55 So it's something that's really taking the world by storm. 16:00 And so when these young men, they get married, 16:04 my question is how do you think that this exposure 16:08 to pornography can defile the marriage bed? 16:12 In fact I'll add something, it may said 98 percent of men, 16:16 but we also need to remember 16:18 lot of women don't report their exposure to pornography. 16:21 So it's not just men, it's men and women 16:23 who have been exposed. 16:24 The women just don't talk about it, 16:26 because it's not... you're not supposed to, 16:29 it's only you keep... you're not supposed to even 16:31 have a thought about sex in your mind. 16:33 So when you're exposed to it and you see it, 16:36 you kind of keep it in the back burner, 16:38 and you feel like you are the only women 16:40 and is only, 16:42 you know, probably the men that are watching 16:44 you just are odd factor, that odd person. 16:47 Wow. 16:49 And I think too like, when you get married, 16:51 or you go to get marred, you know, 16:52 speaking from experience, 16:54 is fact that you watch all this pornography for so many years. 16:59 You know, you are expecting your significant others, 17:03 be your wife, or, you know, I've seen vise versa. 17:07 If you're women husband, 17:09 but you expect your significant 17:10 other to perform in such a way like, 17:12 almost like they're a walking hormone is what I call it, 17:16 like they're over sexualized, 17:17 and they're ready to go at the drop of a hat. 17:21 And never take time, you know, you remove the idea 17:25 of sanctifying your bodies and replace it with, 17:29 you know, over sexualizing your bodies for, 17:31 you know, reasons you really lose that respect 17:34 for one and other as well. 17:35 You don't have that respect they should have. 17:37 Wow. 17:38 You know what I also feel... 17:40 'cause you know, pornography isn't an expression of love. 17:44 It's more like sex for sport. 17:46 You know, who is the best. 17:48 And so for males and females, at least for males 17:51 and I also know for me, 17:53 you grow up having the stigma, if you're guy, 17:56 you're manhood is defined by, 17:57 if you can put it down, you know. 17:59 And if you get married, 18:01 you got to be able to put it down on your wife, 18:02 or maybe she might leave you for another man 18:04 who could put it down. 18:05 But away, in reality, 18:07 a way a person enjoys their marriage bed in one home, 18:10 isn't the same in the other home. 18:12 But if you watch this pornography, 18:13 everybody has this stigma that you have to perform 18:16 like that person, and it can mess with the man self worth, 18:19 if he can't perform like that person. 18:22 And for the women, 18:23 what it can do to the male is he can start to fantasize 18:27 often the women of the pornography screen, 18:29 and start to want to implement those thing in his marriage, 18:32 and turn his wife into this fantasy that he is seeing, 18:36 and she can feel degraded by this act 18:39 like she is not good enough. 18:40 So he can mess with her self-worth, 18:42 it can mess with his self-worth, 18:44 it can put him in a false fantasy 18:46 of what sex means and what it is. 18:49 And it can also expose them to things 18:51 that God never wanted either of them to do. 18:53 And they can get hooked on these practices, 18:56 and it can be very destructive for the marriage as well. 18:59 I like to add with that. 19:01 Yes, for a women, 19:04 now that her husband 19:05 is introducing her to these practices, 19:08 you know, in their bedroom, 19:11 it might even make her curious 19:13 to wonder where he getting these things from. 19:16 It might even turn her into watching pornography as well. 19:20 So she can bring things into the bedroom 19:24 that just wasn't intend for God, 19:26 you know, for us to do or for them to do. 19:31 So all this pornography and all these things, 19:33 they are giving us ideas. 19:35 And they can cause us to bring 19:36 degrading sex practices into our bedroom. 19:39 You know, and that's defiling the marriage bed and like... 19:43 you were saying, your wife may feel degraded, 19:45 you may feel degraded, 19:47 you may feel like you are not enough. 19:49 But I know that it's very common out there 19:51 for people to get these instructional sex movies, 19:56 or these books that show a lot of graphic sex scenes. 20:01 These books and these movies are not to be confused 20:03 with healthy information and instructions, 20:07 like you can find some books by an Adventist author 20:10 by the name of Nancy Van Pelt. 20:12 And that's not I'm talking about, 20:14 I'm talking about things that are very graphic in nature 20:17 that are showing full penetration 20:18 and almost pornographic in nature. 20:20 Are these instructional sex movies okay? 20:24 If you're married, 20:25 and you and your wife want to watch them 20:26 just to get some tips on how to spice things up? 20:29 No, they are not okay, simply because... 20:35 let me give examples. 20:37 You are sitting down with your spouse, 20:39 and let's say I'm a women and this is my... 20:41 you know I'm sitting on my husband. 20:43 And as we're watching, 20:45 the women is doing certain types of positions, 20:48 and my husband looks to me, 20:50 he's like, "Babe, look at that, we should try that. 20:53 I'm not flexible, no honey, 20:56 we cannot do that 20:59 but because he is watching 21:00 and he is seeing this person do that, 21:01 he start wanting, but I really want you. 21:03 No, it's not happening, I could break up my back. 21:06 Something wrong, extremely wrong could happen. 21:10 Or if the flip, I'm looking 21:12 and I'm seeing the guy do certain things, 21:14 and the girl is getting certain responses, 21:17 and I'm saying, "Babe, look at that, 21:19 how come we've never had that experience, 21:22 why don't you do this?" 21:24 And all of a sudden, we're having a disagreement, 21:28 'cause before maybe, you know, our sex life was great, 21:31 but now because we're watching 21:32 and we're seeing these different things, 21:34 we start questioning ourselves. 21:36 And now question ourselves because we... 21:37 I guess could do it, but the thing is, 21:41 as Tim said, our bodies are different, 21:44 our sex life is different. 21:46 I can't compare ours to someone else's, 21:48 because the girl in that one was more flexible, 21:51 and the guy was doing different things. 21:54 And you have to know that 21:56 if you're going to watch these things, 21:58 you are creating that animosity among each other, 22:02 because I'm feeling like 22:04 my husband is not doing what he is supposed to do. 22:06 But he is, 22:07 he is just not doing what somebody else's husband 22:09 is supposed to do to his wife. 22:12 And he might start feeling like, 22:14 he is not enough, 22:15 he is not doing what he's supposed to do as a husband, 22:18 he is not fulfilling his wife. 22:20 So his ego, his self-worth, his everything get shot, 22:23 because this guy is doing these things, 22:25 in reality maybe my body can't even accept 22:28 what her body could accept from that man. 22:31 Xavier, you want to chime in on that? 22:32 Yeah, I like to chime in, because I completely agree, 22:34 not because she is my wife, but... 22:37 but because I agree what she's saying. 22:38 You know, the Bible, Son of Solomon in, 22:42 you know, that's a book near and dear to my heart, 22:44 not because of the rated R features of it, 22:48 but because it paint some beautiful picture, you know. 22:51 Sex is not about, you know, 22:54 in instructional videos 22:55 that's what they show position, technique. 22:57 Sex is about making love, it's about making love. 23:01 You know, the Bible teaches a man to treat a woman 23:04 like a delicate flower. 23:05 The writings of Ellen White talk about treating a woman 23:08 like a delicate flower. 23:10 These instructional videos 23:12 teach you how to treat her like a branch, 23:15 how that you pick up of the ground. 23:16 You know, you just manhandling her, 23:18 you're not making love to her, 23:20 you're just having sex with her. 23:22 In instructional videos put you in positions, 23:25 where subconsciously you start to having these expectations, 23:28 which is what my wife said. 23:29 You start to have these expectations of your spouse 23:33 that are unrealistic, 23:35 not because you can set certain things. 23:36 You know, according to the Bible and everything, 23:38 but because that pertains to them in the video. 23:41 That doesn't pertain to you and your wife, 23:43 you're not really getting to know your wife, 23:44 you're not really getting to know her, you just, 23:47 you know, knowing the video and having sex with her. 23:49 You're not making love to her. 23:51 And nobody is gonna be satisfied 23:53 at the end of the day. 23:54 Get them to try it and then failed. 23:56 Exactly. 23:57 And how accurate can these instructional videos really be, 24:01 because if you're making an instructional video, 24:03 of course you're gonna tell the actors 24:06 to act in a certain way. 24:08 You're gonna tell them to look please, you're gonna tell them, 24:10 you know, to make certain sounds 24:12 and all these different things. 24:13 And so what you're seeing may not even be reality. 24:17 That person may not even really enjoy 24:20 the act that's been displayed on the screen, 24:23 but because they're trying to sell an instructional video, 24:26 that's the faces you'll see 24:27 and that's the reaction you'll get. 24:29 And like you said, you're not even really learning your wife. 24:32 I was talking to one man who came up to me, 24:34 and he told me that he was struggling 24:36 with pornography. 24:37 And so we talked about it, 24:39 and I believe we prayed together. 24:40 And I was asking him, 24:42 how's this stuff affecting your sex life? 24:45 And he said, "Well, my wife doesn't even like 24:48 what I'm doing in the bed," 24:52 because he had been watching other people have sex, 24:56 and he thought that 24:57 there was some sort of one size fits all, 25:00 but every woman is different, 25:01 every woman wants something different. 25:03 And he had been programmed 25:05 to think that women liked what he was watching 25:07 from another woman. 25:09 And so that's how it was affecting 25:11 even his marriage life. 25:12 Wow. 25:13 And so if you are married couple, 25:16 and you want some sort of instructions, 25:18 what are some healthy resources that you can use to instruct 25:22 that will actually help you get closer to your wife, 25:25 get closer to God and won't pull you away. 25:28 I think, one of the things is learning 25:30 the infamous five love languages, 25:32 learn to love languages, you know. 25:34 Language is a... 25:35 love is a language, learning the five love languages, 25:37 learning what they are, and what your spouse needs. 25:40 Right. 25:41 I would like to 100 percent agree with Xavier, 25:45 because like we said earlier, every woman is different 25:49 and every woman has different things. 25:52 And God made them unique like that, 25:54 because if you're her Adam and she is your Eve, 25:57 and God made you guys for each other. 25:59 So one of the best things you can have 26:01 is to be comfortable enough with each other 26:02 to have communication. 26:04 Instead of watching a video tell you what to do, 26:07 you guys be your own reality show, 26:10 which is you, God and angels watching. 26:12 And you ask, you know, what does your wife want, 26:15 and the wife, the same thing. 26:18 Practices that are good for the marriage bed of course. 26:21 You know, and you guys talk about it and grow in that 26:25 with one and other. 26:27 And, Brittany, you were telling us earlier 26:30 how you had an experience with wisdom 26:33 from older generations. 26:35 Will you mind sharing that with us? 26:36 In Guyana, they have this practice, 26:39 it's called Kwekwe, 26:40 where when the woman is about to get married, a day before, 26:45 her mom sits down and discuses with her sex. 26:49 And basically what they call is like, 26:50 how do you make a baby. 26:51 And when I was gonna get married, 26:53 even though I'm from Antigua, we had a bridal shower 26:58 and even before the bridal shower, 27:00 like some of my siblings and close friends 27:01 were just giving me words of wisdom, 27:03 words of guidance as in. 27:04 And make sure you pray before, 27:07 I even prayed during somebody saying Holy Spirit, 27:09 come in and teach us, and help us, 27:11 as we are going through this process. 27:13 And of course my, you know, family friends to give 27:16 little few extra tidbits, and few words of wisdom, 27:19 and I've had a few extra friends say few extra things. 27:22 But I also knew, by praying and saying God, 27:25 give us that instruction and know what to take, 27:27 what not to take. 27:28 Well, I was like, "No, that's probably what you guys do, 27:30 I won't say, it's happening for us. 27:32 And just simply, you know, understanding 27:34 exactly what it is that God has in store for you. 27:38 I think bridal showers will really help with that. 27:41 Wow, wow, wow, that's amazing you know. 27:43 At the end of the day, the Bible says, "Trust in Lord, 27:46 lean not on your own understanding, 27:48 acknowledge Him in all your ways, 27:49 and He shall direct your path." 27:51 And of course if the Holy Spirit 27:53 is directing your life, 27:54 he will direct your sex life as well. 27:57 Well, that's all the time we have for today. 27:59 Thank you for joining us on another episode of Pure Choices 28:02 where we got to talk about the affects of media 28:05 on our perception of sex. 28:07 But sex is something made from God, 28:10 and He always wants us to make pure choices. |
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