Pure Choices

Silly Lady, sex is for men!

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Participants: Brittany Hill-Morales (Host), Dajanae Anderson, Sabine Vatel

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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:03 Parents are cautioned that some material
00:05 may be too candid for younger children.
00:40 Hi, welcome to Pure Choices.
00:43 I'm Brittany Hill-Morales,
00:44 and I'm the host for today's program.
00:46 We have a really great topic that we are discussing today.
00:49 It is women and sexuality.
00:51 Another title, silly lady, sex is for men,
00:54 but before we jump into this discussion, let's pray.
00:58 Dear kind and most heavenly Father,
00:59 dear Lord, I pray that You will be with us
01:01 as we are having this discussion,
01:02 that You also be with the viewers at home
01:03 that are still listening and watching.
01:05 We love You and we praise Your name
01:07 in Jesus' name, amen.
01:09 Amen.
01:10 So as we're beginning this discussion,
01:12 these two ladies are here
01:14 to discuss with us about women and sexuality.
01:18 We have Miss Sabine Vatel
01:19 and we also have Mrs. Dajanae Anderson.
01:23 Women and sexuality,
01:25 that is a huge topic for us as women,
01:29 we're all women, we're all leaders in our churches,
01:32 we all are again women and we are a sexual beings,
01:37 so what...?
01:39 Let's go back a little bit, women sexuality.
01:43 Why is it that, it is easier for men
01:45 to be considered sexual beings but not for us women?
01:51 What is that about?
01:53 Why do we not feel comfortable
01:54 or at ease talking about sexuality amongst ourselves?
01:59 It's often the case that, you know, women,
02:01 we're seen as rather a sexual being,
02:05 as a sexual object of the man,
02:09 and she wasn't considered has having any needs
02:12 because her need were attached to the male need.
02:14 I mean in Bible times even she...
02:16 Most of the times she was not even allowed
02:18 to have a property, because she was, again,
02:20 her need was attached to the man's need.
02:23 And that's what's so amazing about the gospel.
02:25 You know, when the gospel comes,
02:26 when Jesus comes, He changes that.
02:28 Paul explains in 1 Corinthians 7,
02:30 he talks about the conjugal rights
02:32 that the man has upon his wife.
02:34 He says, you know, your body belongs to him,
02:37 but here he comes, he says in next verse.
02:39 Your body as a man belongs to her,
02:41 so that when you have
02:43 a sexual relationship is consensual,
02:44 is something you both pleasing your each other essentially.
02:48 So he kind of restores her as being a sexual being
02:51 and so this...
02:53 So your question is an awesome one.
02:55 Your mind, you know, women that, you know what?
02:58 And, you know, sex also because in our...
03:00 I'll say twisted.
03:01 In our twisted mind, sex is not seen as pure
03:04 and nice and women as femininity
03:07 is associated with that, you know, be sweet,
03:09 be nice but no you can't possibly,
03:11 you know, be messed up with sexual things
03:14 as if it's dirty,
03:15 and that's another aspect of our mind has been twisted.
03:18 Right, I would definitely agree with that and that we...
03:21 That the women's sexuality
03:25 is looked at as something impure or perverted
03:29 and that's just not as you just stated in the Bible,
03:33 that's just not accurate, and I wouldn't agree with.
03:36 I wouldn't agree with that belief system that says that,
03:40 if a woman is comfortable with her sexuality,
03:44 then she is some kind of way perverted.
03:46 That's right.
03:47 And, now, unfortunately the images
03:49 that we are offered in as women
03:50 being comfortable with their sexuality
03:52 is that of being promiscuous and liberated,
03:55 or like, oh, wow, I can just gonna run around.
03:57 See that's the image we're given
03:59 as to women who is comfortable with her sexuality,
04:02 but the Bible gives us a different model
04:05 of what that means.
04:07 Right.
04:08 Definitely I was completely going there.
04:12 The part when we think of sexuality,
04:14 sometimes the only ideas that come through our mind
04:16 is the actual act of sex,
04:19 but sexuality also includes
04:21 the image of ourselves, our bodies,
04:22 different changes that we have.
04:24 This is, you know, we're sexual beings
04:27 and just thinking about the Bible
04:29 regards were God says,
04:31 you know, you're fearfully and wonderfully made.
04:35 That is true for us
04:37 and we're not able to actually see it
04:39 because of how that definitely tells
04:41 about our sexuality is media.
04:42 Media influence and the media presents women
04:46 as these, your sexuality is so perverted,
04:51 you have to wear a certain attire
04:54 and that's order to be a sexual being,
04:56 like if you're dressed properly,
04:58 no that's not sophisticated enough
05:01 to be considered sexual
05:02 because sexual is not considered sophisticated.
05:04 Sexual is considered dirty, filthy,
05:07 but that's not the case.
05:09 Women are beautiful just talking about our bodies,
05:13 for sexuality.
05:16 I love you bring up that point in terms of the dress,
05:18 which again highlights
05:20 the physical attribute of the women.
05:22 It's like going back rather than going forward
05:24 in the sense is definitely not going forward
05:26 towards were God's will is.
05:27 This idea of to arouse the worst instinct
05:32 may be in the opposite sex rather than to arouse something
05:36 that makes women be honored
05:39 and respected for the whole person
05:42 that she is, not just like a body part.
05:44 Yes, I think that I like what you're saying,
05:47 there is a balance.
05:48 I believe that there's definitely a balance
05:51 in that you can be comfortable
05:55 and you're sexuality be comfortable
05:57 with how God has created you to be.
05:59 Each women is shaped differently amongst cultures,
06:03 amongst within cultures,
06:05 you know, women are shaped very differently
06:08 and to be comfortable with yourself
06:11 'cause I think, what I found
06:13 that some women cover themselves up so much
06:17 because they are ashamed of their bodies.
06:19 And so I don't in any way want to make women feel okay,
06:25 that they're not okay with the shapes of their bodies
06:30 because not every, you may...
06:33 Many times if women are shaped in a physically,
06:40 extremely physically attractive way,
06:43 where you may be a little bit busty here
06:45 and other areas.
06:47 On television, the women that are busty
06:51 and shapely are the promiscuous women,
06:54 and so then the women who are in Christ or,
06:59 you know, have or growing in Christ
07:01 try to overly cover themselves up
07:05 because there's a shame associated with the fact
07:08 that they may be bustier than the sophisticated
07:12 or Christ-like person
07:14 that is portrayed on television.
07:16 And so I would definitely say that there is a balance
07:19 with that they know,
07:21 we're not gonna present ourselves
07:22 as promiscuous women
07:24 and want everyone to see the details
07:28 that they can be sexually attracted to us.
07:32 But being able to...
07:34 I just once again having a balance
07:35 between being comfortable but also representing Christ.
07:39 In being modest. In being modest.
07:40 You don't have to wear like a sack of potato
07:42 to be considered Christian.
07:45 Right. You know what I mean?
07:46 And something you go rude, and I have to be very careful
07:48 because I think we ought to be modest
07:49 and well dressed and covered up.
07:51 But at the same time, I think there's some
07:54 who would give away their responsibility,
07:57 you know, they have this extreme,
07:59 I think it's wrong to have the extreme of all women
08:01 are either a jezebel or a saint,
08:05 you know, you mean it.
08:06 I can't think of a name right now but Jezebel or Mary.
08:09 Either Mary or Jezebel, either one is not balanced.
08:13 Let's put the blame on the women
08:16 why they are taking self responsibility as well too,
08:19 you know, so.
08:20 And I wanted to add what women
08:22 and how we are, how we carry ourselves,
08:25 is believed that, when we say women as sexual,
08:29 that is the fact to arouse a certain element
08:32 in the spouse.
08:33 Our intimate, where the automatical factor is,
08:36 I just want to take you to bed and do things with you.
08:40 But being sexual as women,
08:43 when we're carrying ourselves not just to arouse that,
08:46 it's to arouse his need to honor and respect you
08:50 and to treasure you,
08:51 that is part of being the sexual being
08:53 but we don't...
08:54 We, because how society has been,
08:56 we don't talk about that,
08:58 that is important in intimacy for your spouse
09:02 who want to respect and honor you,
09:04 to treasure you, showing that intimate time,
09:07 that should be aroused in how you are,
09:09 that is the part of being sexual.
09:11 It's important, it's crucial
09:13 that your spouse respects you in such a moment
09:16 where you're knowing each other.
09:19 You're knowing each other,
09:21 you're good, you're bad and still accepted.
09:23 Yes.
09:25 You know, I love for a guy to be able to say,
09:28 you know, or, you know, I love your mind
09:31 and I think, I think you're sexy
09:32 because your mind is sexy.
09:34 You know, what I mean?
09:35 They're okay for women to be sexy,
09:37 I means, and of course
09:38 it's about when you speak for male
09:40 because, you know, we,
09:42 what attracts a woman to man is so different,
09:44 because men are actually,
09:45 you know, they see the physicality,
09:47 but, you know, if hopefully it's not just a physicality
09:50 but like you say it's the whole person
09:51 that they fell in love with and so sexuality
09:54 then is in context of what God meant it to be
09:57 within a relationship.
09:58 It's not just a thing that you just picked up,
10:02 but this is a whole person you just wanted to treasure
10:04 and sexuality is just part of that within context.
10:08 Right, and now I'm just gonna go,
10:09 kind of going back a little to talk about
10:12 what it means to be beautiful in society as a women.
10:17 May be not even in a relationship,
10:19 because not all women are in relationships,
10:21 not all women are married,
10:22 not all women are going to get married,
10:24 but there is still a value
10:26 that you have to have as a women
10:28 in the sight of God in terms of your sexuality
10:32 and to know that we are beautifully
10:34 and wonderfully made.
10:36 And to walk around with that sense of confidence
10:40 that Christ has made us
10:41 and formed us is something to treasure,
10:45 is something to care for.
10:47 It's just not the exact same thing
10:49 but something very similar
10:51 and just as God created the beautiful flowers
10:54 and the beautiful trees, and things of color,
10:57 and things that are shaped in differently.
11:01 God had created the human being both the male sexuality
11:04 and the female sexuality
11:07 but there, once again the beauty
11:09 of a female sexuality in society
11:12 does not have to be perverted
11:14 but can be treasured in a Christ-like way.
11:17 And you bring in something I didn't even think about,
11:20 the idea that that beauty
11:22 for beauty sake, in other words,
11:23 you're dressing,
11:25 you're carrying yourself not for an audience of men
11:28 but to please man but just
11:30 because God created you that way,
11:32 and your gift back to God is basically to be
11:35 who you are
11:36 and to just be the beautiful person that you are.
11:37 To be steward.
11:39 It's to be steward of your body...
11:40 That's what I was thinking, steward of your body,
11:42 for our body is a temple...
11:43 Oh, that's awesome, yeah.
11:45 So you're carrying yourself not basically for the fact
11:47 that I'm trying to attract a man
11:50 and trying to get a man.
11:51 I'm carrying myself in a sophisticated manner.
11:53 I am a sexual being who should...
11:57 My body is a temple,
11:58 that's just what comes back to me,
12:00 my body is a temple, a form of worship,
12:02 how I'm carrying myself says, God, I know You created me,
12:07 fearfully and wonderfully,
12:08 and I accept the fact that You created me.
12:10 My curves here, may be I have a little chunk, chunk here,
12:14 but God, I accept that this is who you have created.
12:18 And this is who you want me to be.
12:20 You love me, you treasure me God.
12:24 Who I am is worshiped to you
12:28 and that is such a beautiful thing
12:29 'cause so much, so much we as women.
12:31 Who I am is worshiped to you. That is awesome.
12:33 We as women, we hurt ourselves so much,
12:38 constantly looking in the mirror, comparing,
12:41 saying, I'm not beautiful because I have this.
12:45 We compare ourselves so much and break ourselves down
12:49 and we even break each other down.
12:51 Yeah.
12:52 This what happens if you are not confident
12:53 in God's treasuring of you actually.
12:58 Yeah, that's when you break down other women.
13:00 And that's when you start yourself cheap
13:01 as well too to men when you're not realizing that.
13:05 Right, and I think for the...
13:06 I mean I have brothers in Christ
13:09 and even before I was fully in Christ, I had "Brothers".
13:13 That, you know, guys that I went to school with,
13:15 then we all hung out and so I would hear,
13:18 you know, and they would tell me
13:20 what their opinions were of women.
13:23 That you can tell, a man can tell
13:26 when a women is confident in
13:29 who she is and in the way that she dresses
13:33 and the way that she...
13:36 In the way that she interacts with a man,
13:39 am I being inappropriate and there are many men...
13:44 There's some men that you cannot,
13:45 no matter what you do,
13:47 they may be disrespectful to the women
13:49 because of their own issues,
13:51 because of their own brokenness.
13:52 But then there are some men that say,
13:56 you respect yourself
13:58 and I see that you respect yourself
14:00 and you demand respect from me
14:03 and I will give that to you.
14:05 And then unfortunately there are men
14:07 that I have come in contact
14:09 with who've told me straight out,
14:10 "This woman does not respect her body and that is why..."
14:14 These were men outside of the church,
14:17 "She does not respect her body the way that she dresses,
14:21 the activities that she participates in,
14:23 so I don't respect her body
14:24 because she doesn't respect her body."
14:26 And so, but in this conversation
14:30 this young man,
14:31 cause' we were younger was telling me
14:33 "But Dajanae you,
14:34 you hold yourself different that's why I don't call you
14:36 the names that I call her."
14:37 Because I was kind of like, "Why are you calling her that,
14:40 that's disrespectful."
14:41 And he said, "She doesn't have a problem with it."
14:45 So you're sticking up for her is,
14:48 you know, good in everything
14:50 but she doesn't have a problem with what
14:52 and how I'm treating her, you have a problem with it.
14:55 And as women, we have to have a problem with how,
14:57 if someone says something negative about us,
15:00 we have to respect and value ourselves
15:02 because we are created by God.
15:05 And another myth when it talks about women and sexuality is,
15:09 girls don't want to know about their bodies.
15:12 That's what people...
15:13 That's...
15:15 Wow.
15:16 Actually, I mean women I think are,
15:18 because your body part is not,
15:20 I mean is not dirty inherently bad
15:24 and I think it's important for women to know that
15:25 and when you're growing up,
15:28 you discover, oh, you know, it does the feelings in
15:31 who you are, how God created you.
15:35 I think, well, obviously I think it's the fallacy,
15:37 you know that women are not interested.
15:39 Is that what you said that we are not interested in sex.
15:41 But for me we have to be interested
15:43 in knowing what's going on with our bodies.
15:45 Why is that men are interested but we're not.
15:47 Right.
15:48 There's so much errors in thinking
15:50 and I was reading in the Bible in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5,
15:55 "That each of you should learn to control your own body
15:57 in a way that is holy and honorable."
16:01 And how can we as women control our own body
16:06 if we don't know our own body.
16:09 And we don't know what the sexual immoralities
16:12 are when it comes to our own body.
16:14 A young lady who I was talking to,
16:16 she's been single for a while.
16:18 She's never had sex and she feels that
16:20 she's gonna be single for a little bit longer,
16:22 and she was wondering,
16:24 is masturbation okay as a form of exploring
16:28 and understanding her body.
16:30 We know, the Bible doesn't speak
16:32 about masturbation directly,
16:34 it says, "Thou shalt not masturbate."
16:36 I mean it doesn't say that,
16:37 but there're some examples however.
16:41 You know, there's a mention of Onan
16:45 who let's says "He spilled his semen on the ground"
16:48 the Bible says, I think it's in Genesis 38,
16:51 and God was not pleased with that.
16:54 He was not pleased with that.
16:55 He was not pleased with the fact that Onan was not,
16:57 was being selfish and didn't want to reproduce children
17:01 for his widowed sister-in-law.
17:05 And so there was a practice that,
17:06 that you had to continue the generations,
17:09 so God was displeased with that.
17:10 So there's not really a direct like, don't do it.
17:13 But there are principles.
17:14 But there are principles, and the law is very clear,
17:16 the Lord says in Matthew, is it Matthew 5,
17:20 he's talking about, "You heard that adultery is wrong
17:23 but he expands the meaning of what that means.
17:26 He says, you know, even if you think about it,
17:28 you lust, you sinned.
17:31 And this is the same principle unto masturbation.
17:33 And if you, if your mind is constantly there
17:36 and it's addictive and you constantly
17:38 are concentrating on lusting,
17:42 again you're using sexuality
17:43 outside of what God's purpose is by doing that.
17:45 Right, right, because I mean, sexuality,
17:49 sexuality is to be shared, right?
17:51 That's right.
17:52 Just as beauty is to be shared.
17:54 And so, of course, there are limits and boundaries
17:57 in what form of sexuality
18:00 and what form of beauty we're talking about, right?
18:03 But when it comes to sex, intercourse, you are not,
18:09 you are participating in the act,
18:12 that's supposed to be serving each other.
18:14 Two people are supposed to come together
18:16 and serve one another.
18:18 It is a beautiful, you know, I say this often,
18:21 it is a unity that represents the triune God,
18:25 the coming together, God says, just as I am one,
18:28 I hope that I pray that you may be one with me,
18:30 and so that goes back to Genesis,
18:32 when God tells Adam and Eve to come together
18:36 to know each other and to be one,
18:38 and so to masturbate is to be self pleasing.
18:44 To masturbate is to self manipulate
18:47 because you have to do something in your mind.
18:50 It's like not often are we able to tickle ourselves.
18:55 You know, if I tried to tickle the bottom of my feet,
18:56 is not going to have that affect
19:00 as much as maybe if Brittany came over
19:02 and tickle my feet, you know, kind of thing,
19:05 so there's in that same way like you're not supposed...
19:09 There are some serious things
19:10 that you have to do in your mind,
19:12 because you're not supposed to be able to give yourself
19:15 that sort of satisfaction.
19:17 Now there, it's possible, right?
19:19 Because that's what masturbation is,
19:22 but that's what I would,
19:23 that's what my response would be to that.
19:25 And I always say to, you know,
19:27 and this is not to be flipping
19:29 or to minimize the fact that it is difficult,
19:32 you've been single for a long time.
19:34 But, you know, and I'm gonna say this very carefully
19:36 when Jesus said, you know, to carry your cross
19:39 and we have different crosses we have to bear.
19:41 This life is, you know, you gonna have suffering,
19:44 you gonna have difficulties,
19:46 and, you know, let's just be real today,
19:47 it's not an easy thing to ask,
19:49 you know, an adult with fully functioning parts
19:52 and hormones to say, you know what,
19:55 you gonna have to bring that under control,
19:57 under Christ control and trust him
20:00 with that control.
20:02 And that's what it is and that's what we mean.
20:04 Sometimes, you know, we're asked to fast,
20:06 you know, from food.
20:08 We're asked to do things that are difficult
20:10 and this is just another thing and I don't say
20:13 'cause it's not important
20:14 but it's another aspect of our Christian walk
20:16 in which the Lord has said, you know what?
20:18 I choose for you abstinence, chastity.
20:20 It don't always be easy but I'm calling you to trust Me
20:24 and to walk that walk with Me.
20:26 Definitely, definitely.
20:28 I like what you're saying when it comes to being single
20:31 and you do have all this working parts and it's hard.
20:35 One of the first things to do is pray about it,
20:38 submit to the Lord and talk to Him
20:41 about the challenges of this thing
20:44 because it is difficult to.
20:45 I remember being a single woman before I got married,
20:48 I had my...
20:50 My parts were working and they were working then.
20:52 So I'm trying to interact with others
20:56 had to have that conscious mentality
20:58 that I have to be careful of my boundaries
21:01 that I set with these people because I am a sexual being
21:03 and it is very easy to go from 0 to 100.
21:07 So understanding and accepting the fact that I am sexual,
21:10 I can't just be hanging out at someone's house
21:13 at 2 am in the morning
21:15 and even if it's 2 pm in the afternoon,
21:17 because sex can happen at any time during the day.
21:20 I have to be careful
21:22 how close are we sitting next to each other.
21:25 Is he just holding my hand or is he going...
21:27 Like you have to be set these from boundaries like,
21:29 no, this can't happen, that can't happen
21:31 because we have to maintain our virtue
21:35 and not only for women but also for men.
21:38 But right now we are talking about women,
21:39 you have to maintain your virtue and say no,
21:41 this cannot happen.
21:43 My body is a temple.
21:44 I understand that I am a sexual being
21:46 and I have to tell you no.
21:49 Yeah, let me add something,
21:50 you also have a compelling reason
21:52 and this extends beyond even just sex in terms of sexuality.
21:58 It be, it extended to who you are
22:00 and who you are called to be and having compelling reason
22:03 that drives your whole life
22:05 including your sex life or lack there of in a sense.
22:09 But this is not to do is also a part of sexuality
22:12 as well too.
22:13 Yeah, kind of jump into women being married,
22:18 the belief that women do not have needs.
22:22 I was reading into a devotional book that stated,
22:26 women do not really have as much
22:28 the need to have an orgasm as men too.
22:30 So most women are just happy to be there,
22:34 is kind of how it was stated
22:36 and I can stay as a woman who is married,
22:40 the notion of just being happy to be there is false.
22:43 Yeah, I think, you know what?
22:47 This idea that that a woman...
22:48 I mean, I have spoken to enough women
22:49 who have come to confide
22:52 and who are frustrated in every sense in the word
22:56 that they are not completely fulfilled,
22:58 and you know what?
23:00 I think this is what marriage is
23:02 that you meet each other's needs
23:04 and to be able to speak to your husband
23:07 and say, you know, this is what's happening
23:08 and having that conversation rather than deny it.
23:12 And by the way, I'll go back a little bit
23:13 to single people into in terms of,
23:14 and marry what, do not deny it.
23:18 We're not asking you to suppress it.
23:20 We're not because then you do some strange things,
23:23 or may be you do things in hiding or in the dark,
23:25 in the deviancy
23:27 but just be truthful about the needs
23:30 that you have as you submit it to the Lord.
23:31 Right.
23:33 And I think for the woman it's the same thing,
23:34 you need to be open about it and to not settle, you know.
23:37 Right, and I think it is very difficult.
23:40 I know, we need to jump into marriage,
23:42 but I know it is difficult for the single woman
23:45 especially nowadays
23:46 because more and more women are waiting
23:48 to get married later and later in life.
23:51 So that time they,
23:52 you're trying to maintain your purity
23:55 and you're trying but you're also comfortable
23:57 in your sexuality
23:58 but you're not allowed to participate
24:01 in sexual intercourse, it's just...
24:04 The gap is longer and longer.
24:05 Yeah, oh, no, I mean you wait, all of this, I mean really...
24:08 I mean if you've been faithful and then you come to that point
24:11 and be disappointed, and I don't think
24:14 it's just my personal preferences
24:16 but I don't think that's what the Lord had in mind...
24:18 Right. From the married women.
24:19 And I did want to mention that in Philippians 2:4,
24:23 "Each of you should be concerned
24:24 not only about your own interest,
24:26 but also the interest of others as well."
24:29 And I can say that does apply to your intimacy
24:33 with your spouse is not only to be selfish.
24:35 I only care about, not that I'm having an orgasm,
24:39 he has to also be careful to ensure that you also are.
24:42 I know they say that you know, men have more concerns
24:45 if they don't but that's not true we have,
24:48 all women also have concerns if they don't have an orgasm.
24:51 And when you love each other,
24:53 when you know each other your initial relationship,
24:55 marriage is a selfless thing
24:57 and you have to be selfless also in your intimacy,
25:00 in your sexuality.
25:01 Yes, I would definitely agree with that
25:03 and also in the Bible in Songs, in Songs of Solomon 1:2,
25:09 it says, "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
25:12 For your love is better than wine."
25:15 Now, this is from the female perspective,
25:17 and so as you can see here
25:19 women do have sexual desires and sexuality
25:24 is acceptable in the eyes of God,
25:26 so I definitely recommend for anyone
25:28 who has questions about sexuality in women,
25:31 having sexuality, read the Songs of Solomon.
25:34 Read the imagery, the poetry is extremely beautiful
25:39 and so that would be my recommendation.
25:41 When we were doing pre-marital counseling,
25:43 we learned that in with the female body,
25:46 the female body goes up and down
25:48 throughout sexual intercourse, and sometimes it takes a long,
25:52 sometimes it takes longer
25:54 for the women to have an orgasm.
25:56 Where as for the man, on the graph, it's a straight,
25:59 it goes straight up in terms of arousal
26:02 to the point of climax or orgasm.
26:04 And so I can understand why people may be confused
26:06 that women may not enjoy sex
26:09 because you may not have an orgasm all the time,
26:11 it just takes a little bit more work.
26:13 And so that, that would be my response to that.
26:16 And also implied in...
26:19 I'll go back to 1 Corinthians 7 is that women do have needs
26:23 and the admonition is not to deny each other
26:26 and to help each other in feeling fulfilled.
26:31 Yeah, and I would probably and I want to add with that,
26:35 just because it takes small work doesn't mean it
26:39 should not be done.
26:40 You are married,
26:42 you are in a committed relationship with each other.
26:44 You say, I love you, I care for you
26:46 so put into work.
26:48 Because women do have sexual needs.
26:50 Women do have sexual desires,
26:52 and it should be met by our husbands.
26:56 That's just the end of the story in that area.
26:58 It's just end of the story.
26:59 You have to do what is required.
27:02 So we want you to keep on having the conversation
27:05 as women among women about your sexuality.
27:08 Do you value it and what it means in God?
27:12 What can you do to help other women
27:14 to embrace their sexuality,
27:15 not only in our communities but in our church?
27:17 To realize that they are,
27:19 their bodies are a temple of God
27:20 and that God has so much in store for them.
27:24 And what is it?
27:26 What does it mean for them to be sexual beings?
27:30 Proverbs 19:8 says,
27:31 "To acquire wisdom is to love yourself."
27:35 Women, we must love ourselves and embrace our sexuality
27:39 because God loves us, He values us,
27:42 He treasures us, He looks at us and says,
27:45 "You are My daughter, you are My child.
27:48 There is no one that is more important than you to Me."
27:52 So as you go forth,
27:53 I want you to remember to make pure choices.


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