Participants: Cheri Peters (Host), Melody Prettyman
Series Code: CLR
Program Code: CLR000098C
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues
00:03 related to addictive behavior. 00:05 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:06 may be too candid for younger children. 00:13 You know, it's really interesting 00:14 is when I first heard Melody's story 00:17 and thought, you know, 00:18 I want to cover this not 'cause, you know, 00:21 we need another cooking program 00:23 but because I wanted people to look at we have to detox. 00:26 We have to look at doing the first step. 00:29 And the first step for anything 00:30 like what you were talking about, 00:32 Melody, in your own life is, 00:33 you had to get off the couch and walk around the block 00:35 or not even all the way around the block at first. 00:37 You had to learn how to bring 00:39 other things in your diet and all that. 00:42 But I think for a lot of us, 00:43 we don't realize that green drink 00:44 that you put together detoxes the liver, cleans us out, 00:48 does all that kind of stuff and we are such a mess. 00:52 We are. We are. 00:54 And so I want to say, thank you for your demonstrations. 00:56 I know we have questions 00:57 and we were gonna start out with Delina. 01:00 You had a question first? 01:02 Well, first I just want to say, can I get those recipes? 01:04 'Cause they're really good. 01:06 When I think of greens, I think, ill, 01:09 but those are incredible so I love to get the recipes. 01:12 And I actually have a question in reference to, 01:16 you know, the addictions right. 01:18 I had an eating disorder when I was younger. 01:21 It was bulimia, right. 01:22 And it started off with all, you know, the magazines and, 01:27 you know, looking myself in the mirror and, 01:29 you know, just comparing myself to others. 01:31 Does the whole, like, the recipes and the foods, 01:37 could that also help you get out of that kind of thing? 01:40 Oh, I believe it can. 01:42 You know, at least, it's gonna give you 01:44 the nutrition your body needs. 01:45 And especially for somebody who has bulimia, you know, 01:48 they lost a lot of nutrients in their body. 01:51 So we need to put them back in there. 01:52 Absolutely, I mean, it cannot hurt. 01:56 That's the most important thing. 01:58 And I think what's really interesting to me 02:00 when you talk about, you know, 02:02 looking at the magazines and trying to live out, 02:04 you know, those, everybody is so airbrushed 02:07 and neck stretched and, I mean, 02:09 the photography and the models are fixed up a lot. 02:12 And nobody looks like that 02:14 and we're all trying to compare ourselves to somebody 02:16 that looks just fabulous and we want to look like that. 02:19 And I think, it's really tough to figure out who you are, 02:22 and I'm okay with who I am. 02:25 I think my whole life I tried to be someone else. 02:28 And when I really, when I stopped doing that 02:32 and laughed out loud and liked being on my own skin, 02:34 I was real surprised that I'm actually okay. 02:38 And I think so the biggest thing is to really get healthy 02:41 and how you eat but then realize 02:43 that you're gonna have to at one point figure out, 02:46 let God at least show you 02:48 who you are and like that person. 02:50 Sure. And enjoy that person. 02:51 Absolutely, and-- 02:52 Do you like yourself now? You know, I do. 02:55 I like myself a lot better 02:57 because I've learned more about me. 03:00 You know, I stood back. 03:01 It's almost like you're standing outside your skin 03:03 and you're looking at who you are. 03:05 And, you know, looking at all these things 03:09 that have come into my life 03:10 and I didn't realize how they bothered me. 03:12 And I always thought, you know, 03:14 when I looked in the mirror 255 pounds or 230 or 200, 03:18 "Oh, I am not that bad." 03:19 You know, who is I kidding? 03:21 I was that bad. 03:22 But it's easier to see yourself as something else 03:25 but now I look in the mirror. 03:27 You know, I still haven't got that focusing yet 03:29 because I still see me as a large woman. 03:31 You know, people come out to me say, 03:33 "Oh, you're getting so thin." "I'm, like, really, really?" 03:35 You know, and I look and I figure, "You sure?" 03:37 And I know because of the size clothes 03:38 I'm buying is amazing in comparison to what I had. 03:41 'Cause you wore at a size 24? 03:43 24 is the largest size that I have bought before. 03:46 And right now, I'm between a 12 petite and a 10. 03:49 So, I mean, you think of the size in between there. 03:53 And a lot of women don't give their dress size 03:54 but I'm real proud of that. 03:56 Yeah, I want it on the outside, I'm A-size. 03:59 And it's not all about that at my age and I'm pushing 60. 04:03 I am in my late 50s. 04:05 For me, am I gonna have that pencil figure? 04:08 Am I gonna be able to do that? 04:09 Probably not. 04:11 But I want to feel healthy and nothing, 04:12 nothing tastes as good as healthy fits. 04:15 Nothing, nothing. Amen. 04:17 And so it's really, there's so many people 04:19 that are trying to live up to somebody else's 04:22 image of what we should look like 04:23 and being able to put that aside. 04:25 And I'm talking about men and women now. 04:27 It's not only that women are trying to live up? 04:30 Is that now men-- Men too. 04:32 So I know that, Jill, you had a question. 04:36 Okay, I struggle with my weight. 04:38 And I was wondering, like, 04:40 what are the best foods to take out of your diet? 04:42 Like, what really makes a difference in your health? 04:45 'Cause I'm starting to have health problems, too, 04:47 my cholesterol and everything. 04:48 And what are like the best foods to lower your cholesterol 04:51 and everything else that can cause a problem, 04:53 like, later on in life? 04:55 Oh, absolutely. 04:56 You know, your problem was my problem 04:59 because I wanted to get my cholesterol better 05:02 and I wanted to lose weight. 05:04 And for me it was getting back to basic. 05:08 Eating food the way God intended for us to eat, 05:10 not with all the sugar, not with all the oil, 05:13 the butter, the cheese, the milk, 05:16 the cream, the things I lived for. 05:18 I eat potatoes and I love potatoes. 05:20 I'm an Irish girl. 05:21 So I love my potatoes any way I can get them. 05:24 But now instead of having French fries, I put them in the oven. 05:27 I have oven fries with no oil whatsoever. 05:30 They are so delicious. 05:32 I use a bake potato and I put lemon. 05:35 I put broccoli, sauce on there. 05:37 I don't use cheese and butter. 05:39 It's not the food that God gave us it's a problem 05:43 and it's not really the amount of food sometimes that you eat. 05:46 It's the type of food that you're eating. 05:47 It's so over processed. 05:49 And so you are saying to stay away from the processed-- 05:51 Stay away from the processed food. 05:53 Stay way from the oil. 05:55 Stay away from the dairies and the things that, you know, 05:58 your fruits, your vegetables, whole grains, and, I mean, 06:02 brown rice, your quinoa, your oatmeal, 06:04 your weed, you know, you can tolerate that, 06:07 your legumes which are your beans 06:09 and your potato sweet, white potatoes. 06:12 And then fat you want to minimize that 06:14 and make sure it is a fat that's essential to your body 06:18 and what I mean by essential is it's the way God gave it to us, 06:21 like, coconut instead of, you know, 06:23 raw coconut or avocados or handful of nuts. 06:27 And nuts, a serving of nuts needs to be 06:29 what you can fold in your hand. 06:31 And if you limit those fats and eat that, 06:33 those kinds of food the way God intended and you can cook them. 06:37 I eat raw food but I eat my food cooked. 06:39 You can't eat greens unless they are cooked 06:42 the way it just pours off. 06:44 I weigh or measure nothing. 06:45 I eat what I want. 06:47 You know, Jill, what's really exciting to me is I decided 06:49 that I was gonna try to eat better 06:52 and I found out that I went out to eat with friends a lot. 06:55 I went out to do things and we always ate 06:57 or when we went to movies we always grab something to eat. 07:00 So I started to do things that didn't, 07:03 like, food wasn't involved. 07:05 And so like this Valentine's Day, 07:07 my husband says, "Well, what do you want to do?" 07:08 'Cause we always go to dinner. 07:10 And then that's our valentine's thing. 07:13 And so instead I took a glassblowing class 07:16 and we learnt how to blow some glass 07:18 and make something for each other a gift 07:20 but food wasn't involved at all. 07:23 And so sometimes you start to take away 07:26 how many times you just go out and just kind of eat. 07:31 I'm gonna grab some fries. 07:32 I'm gonna grab some Doritos chips. 07:34 I'm gonna grab some whatever 07:35 and start to do other things that food's not involved in. 07:40 One of the things that we're gonna do is I'm gonna learn 07:42 how to do paintball, you know. 07:45 And I've never done that. Some people have done that. 07:47 They say, it's a blast. 07:48 And, you know, you can't be eating hamburger 07:51 and shooting somebody with paint. 07:52 You know, so it's just like take food out of your entertainment. 07:57 And for somebody there might be a food that you love. 07:59 I don't know. You might have a favorite food. 08:01 It could be apple pie. 08:02 You know, take apples, put them in the oven 08:05 with a little cinnamon on top of them and just bake them 08:08 and you'd be shocked at how that. 08:09 That way your brain will think, "Oh, there is my apple pie." 08:12 Instead of having, you know, all the fats and that sugar 08:16 and those are empty calories. 08:18 So you want more, you want more food 08:20 with less calories and less food with more calories. 08:23 So whole foods? Whole foods, yes. 08:26 And once you start getting healthy, 08:28 you'll start feeling the difference. 08:30 I don't, I still have battles, you know, 08:31 potato chips are my demon. 08:34 And but I--you know, it's okay now. 08:36 I eat potatoes and every now and then 08:38 I might still have potato chips. 08:39 But my cravings for those types of foods have almost diminished. 08:43 It just doesn't seem to bother me like it used to at all. 08:46 That's cool. Any, any other questions? 08:49 Aaron, do you have a question? 08:51 Yeah, I was just wondering 'cause I've been struggling 08:54 to lose a couple of extra pounds for a while. 08:57 How fast did you lose your weight 08:58 and what do you do besides exercising? 09:02 Well, exercising is a key part in it, you know. 09:06 The weight when it comes off especially at my age 09:09 when you're younger, the skin seems to do wonderful 09:12 when the fat goes off but you have to exercise. 09:15 I think walking is the perfect exercise. 09:18 It's aerobic. It's good for the bones. 09:20 It's good for the muscles. I would say start out walking. 09:23 You know, if people can jog, I think that's wonderful too. 09:28 Swimming is also a great exercise. 09:30 For me I was so overweight, 09:32 it was hard for me to do much of anything. 09:34 It has taken me probably close to 5 years, you know, 09:38 'cause I lost a little bit of weight. 09:41 I made changes in my diet subtly. 09:43 Then I made more changes and more changes. 09:45 And I think God knew my personality 09:48 and knew that I just can't overwhelm over it too much 09:51 because sometimes we set goals. 09:53 If I thought back then it was gonna take 125 pounds, 09:57 I don't think I'd be where I am at today. 09:59 So that long of a goal I couldn't do. 10:03 And I realized people who set goals 10:06 usually accomplish what they set. 10:08 People who don't set goals, 10:10 don't accomplish whatever they want. 10:12 So I thought I've got to start setting goals. 10:14 So I started setting little goals. 10:17 One of them was to change my diet to get the salt out. 10:19 For me, when I eat salt in my diet, 10:21 it makes me crave other foods. 10:23 So I leave it out so I don't crave it. 10:25 And getting rid of the oils, I love butter. 10:28 You know, I grew up with butter on everything. 10:30 So I had to eliminate that. That was empty calories for me. 10:34 So as I got rid of the junk and introduced 10:37 all this wonderful food that God gave me, 10:39 I realized I can eat so much food here. 10:42 Sometimes I feel like, "Oh, I'm eating too much 10:44 but yet I'm still losing weight. 10:45 Because your body starts to adjust to that 10:48 and then you'll start to eat differently even beyond that. 10:52 So for me it took a while 10:53 and it might not for other people 10:55 but I set little goals now. 10:57 And I don't look at myself as, 10:59 "Oh, I have 100 pounds to lose when I had to." 11:03 I have 20 pounds left to lose, I have 5 pound goals. 11:07 Because for me that's what's gonna help me 11:09 to make those goals. 11:10 You know, exercise, eating properly, 11:12 sleep, lots of water. 11:14 When I get hungry and I think I'm hungry when I really, 11:17 I think, "Well, it's been not that long ago I ate." 11:19 I will grab water and start drinking my water. 11:21 I'm really thirsty. And for most people they are. 11:24 And I love when you say that 11:26 'cause you start adding water into your daily routine. 11:30 Then you'll find that you eat less, too. 11:32 And I love the fact that, you know, 11:34 just pick one thing, pick something 11:37 like I'd love Good & Plenty. 11:39 I don't know if anybody else does, but you know, 11:41 certain things that I just love and so I said 11:43 I'm just gonna leave that out. 11:45 Mm-hmm. And I was surprised. 11:46 I didn't think I bought them that much. 11:48 But I always had some in my purse or somewhere. 11:51 So it's just those little candies. 11:53 Or somebody else says, "You know, I drink, you know, 11:57 cappuccino every day" or whatever, 12:00 "I like snickers" or "I like pizza" or whatever 12:02 but just pick one thing that kind of is in your, 12:06 at least, every week that you're doing 2 or 3 times, 12:08 leave that out, and it's amazing 12:10 how much you get that 1/8 pound a week or whatever. 12:15 You know, popcorn, I love popcorn. 12:17 And I used to eat popcorn with, you know, using oil to pop it 12:21 and then putting butter on it and then lots of salt. 12:24 Well, now I air pop it. 12:26 I put yeast flakes, a little bit of lemon on there, 12:28 and maybe some other kind of seasonings and guess what, 12:30 my popcorn is totally great. 12:32 I can eat what I want of it. 12:34 I will actually get full before I've had too many calories. 12:36 That's true. And I can eat pizza. 12:39 But I use a specific grain because I'm Celiac 12:42 which I'm allergic to wheat products. 12:44 And I will put-- make my own sauce 12:46 and put all these veggies on it 12:48 and put it in the oven with no cheese. 12:50 And guess what I don't have fat in my pizza 12:51 but I still get my pizza. 12:53 So it satisfies that for you. It satisfies it. 12:56 Now beans that I cook and what I know about food, 13:00 it's a little bit easier for me. 13:02 But use your imagination with food. 13:04 If you like a particular vegetable and you like pizza, 13:06 put those vegetables on there and create a pizza 13:09 that you'll enjoy but it won't have the calories. 13:12 It's really interesting to me when you talk about exercising 13:14 and, Aaron, you mentioned that. 13:16 But you talk about--I try to run 13:19 and I can't 'cause I have a new hip. 13:20 And so running was out of the question 13:22 but I got a bike and started to cycle and I'd love it. 13:26 You know, I got on the bike for the first time 13:28 and it was, like, I remembered 13:29 when I was a kid, I rode a bike everywhere. 13:31 I mean, I just rode bikes everywhere. 13:33 So it took me a while 13:36 but I probably in a week ride anywhere 13:39 from 30 to 70 miles in a week just 'cause we, you know, 13:42 we train for what's called a century ride every year. 13:45 So we ride 100 miles around Lake Tahoe. 13:47 It's called America's most beautiful bike ride. 13:50 But when I started that, 13:51 I couldn't go around the block, you know. 13:54 And now I can do 100 miles and not that I do 100 miles 13:57 every week but, I mean, 13:58 I do something every other day. 14:00 And so it's like being able to say is that 14:02 if I don't pay attention in all that, I'm gonna be in trouble. 14:06 And it's not just diet and it's not just exercise, 14:09 it's that, you know, you made a decision, Melody, 14:14 to grab hold of your life. 14:16 Do you know what I mean? Right. 14:18 You wanted your life back-- Satan took my life away from me. 14:20 You know, He took many precious years and stole them away 14:24 because and I gave them to him because that's all the junk. 14:28 Satan carries all this junk. 14:30 And he wants us to, you know, he gives us the junk to carry. 14:33 And I let him do that and I thought, 14:35 "No, I'm not gonna do this anymore. 14:37 I didn't like that person. 14:39 I was uncomfortable in her skin. 14:40 And I say her because 14:42 I've loved 100 pound woman somewhere out there. 14:44 She is floating around and I hope nobody ever takes her 14:46 because I don't want anybody to gain that weight. 14:49 But I have to say to anybody that is battling the battle 14:54 that you did is that there's something that I want to say 14:58 to that 100-pound woman that you left behind 15:00 is she really helped you to survive-- 15:02 Sure, she did. 15:03 And so, you know, for a lot of us 15:05 we have to learn to survive. 15:06 We have those survival skills, like, 15:08 if things are not going well, 15:09 if relationships are not going well, 15:11 if I'm disconnecting from people 15:13 that all of that has to be looked at, at the same time. 15:16 And little things in that area too for socially. 15:20 One of the first things that God had me do 15:22 and I really believe it was God. 15:24 I just heard this small voice say, 15:26 "You need to connect with people." 15:27 I didn't know how to do that well until He says, 15:29 "You know, take a crochet class." 15:31 And I laughed. 15:33 I'm thinking, 15:34 "You know, I am a heroin addict from the streets. 15:36 What do you mean a crochet class?" 15:37 You know, but it's in all of those areas, not just eating, 15:42 not just exercise but socialize again and get back out there, 15:45 grab hold of your life. 15:47 I had become kind of reclusive in some areas, you know, 15:51 even though I am a social bug. 15:53 If people would've known me even 6, 7 years ago, 15:56 I could not even get up in church to read scripture. 16:00 I had such stage fright and to be up in front of people 16:02 because my thought was, "Okay, is my skirt long enough? 16:06 Do I look okay? Do I look fat? 16:08 Is my make-up okay? What's my hair look like?" 16:10 I was so conscious of myself. And they didn't care. 16:14 They were just listening to a scripture 16:16 and that was some of my battle 16:17 whenever I felt God calling me to come 16:19 and do this health message, like, 16:21 "God, I can't get up in front of people." 16:22 How did you conquer some of that kind of stuff? 16:25 'Cause all of us have that stuff when we, 16:27 as we head into recovery. 16:28 Well, I didn't conquer it at all but I just kept praying. 16:32 When I took that step in my living room 16:34 and submitted to God 16:35 and I have to tell you real quick, you know, 16:38 I've put out fleeces all the time. 16:40 And I said, "Okay, God, if my husband, 16:42 You've got to convince him. 16:44 I'm convinced I need to do it. 16:45 So it's up to You to do that now. 16:47 You convince him." 16:49 And he comes in 'cause he didn't want me to go get a job, 16:51 a real job, you know. 16:52 He says, "You are crazy doing this, ministry." 16:54 And he walked, and I was in the kitchen that day 16:57 that I put that fleece out to the Lord. 16:59 And I'm, like, "Okay, You got do your job." 17:01 You know, I'm testing God, "You never do that." 17:04 So I'm in the kitchen doing my thing and I listen to these 17:07 ministry tapes during the day when I'm cooking. 17:10 And he usually comes in the house and, you know, 17:13 puts whatever, he takes his boots off and everything 17:16 and goes to the restroom and comes out 17:17 and I get dinner on the table 17:19 and then he usually says something. 17:21 And he walked in the door that day and he said, 17:23 "You know I've been thinking about it all day. 17:24 If you want to do this stuff, then you just need to do it." 17:28 And I looked up thinking that was way too fast. 17:32 You know, 'cause-- Now I got to move. 17:34 For like any recovery program really trust there is a God 17:37 and He's involved in the whole process. 17:40 Every step of the way. Every step. 17:41 And then I went as far as to, some people 17:44 who had been to some seminars that I helped with, Cheri, said, 17:48 "Come and do one for ours. 17:49 You've always been such a great cook. 17:51 You just got to come and do it." 17:52 I called them and scheduled one. 17:54 Scared to death, I went into the bathroom 17:58 just before I went up there to speak, just shaking. 18:02 You could see the bottom of my skirt shaking 18:04 and I knelt down in that stall, in that bathroom and I said, 18:07 "Lord, you've got to take this from me. I can't do it." 18:09 Yeah, I'm scared to death. I was scared to death. 18:11 I mean, I tear up just thinking about it. I was terrified. 18:15 And I went up there 18:16 and I got out from the bathroom, 18:18 went out there and I just, you know, 18:20 it was like the Israelites, you know. 18:22 "God, we can't walk across this. 18:23 Where are we gonna go? Behind this, on this side? 18:25 We can't go anywhere. They are surrounding us." 18:27 And God just parted the sea but what happened 18:29 He tested their faith first. 18:31 I had to get up there in front 18:33 and as soon as I got out in front, Cheri, it went away. 18:37 You know, I have to say that what's really amazing 18:39 to me is how faithful God can be. 18:41 And, you know, bringing this program to a close, 18:45 I feel like, you know, I wanted to just say 18:48 congratulations and everything 18:50 that you've gone through and everything that you've done. 18:51 And I know that because God is faithful, 18:55 this is just a beginning. 18:56 You're gonna have to learn a lot about yourself. Who you are? 18:59 What happens if you had not been robbed in this area, 19:03 your growth would've happened, 19:04 now it's gonna happen now instead of 20 years ago. 19:07 I just praise the Lord that He's using me. 19:08 You know, I did not, 19:10 for most of my life I did what Melody wanted 19:12 and I hope I can continue to do 19:14 what God wants me to do because He deserves that. 19:17 He is so wonderful. 19:19 You know, I'd like to be careful with that 'cause you didn't do 19:21 what Melody wanted, you were hijacked. 19:23 I was hijacked. 19:24 You know, we're talking on this season about being hijacked, 19:27 what hijacks our pleasure centers, what hijacks us? 19:30 And I think that our fear and our depression and, 19:34 you know, all of the sudden you're in a marriage 19:36 that wasn't working, 19:37 not that wasn't working but you were so young 19:39 and all that kind of stuff that you were hijacked. 19:41 And what you allowed to bring pleasure into your life was food 19:45 and usually the wrong kinds of foods. 19:47 And so for somebody that's alcoholic we do with alcohol, 19:50 somebody that's a drug addict, we do with drug, 19:52 sex addict we get online porn and we do the sexual stuff. 19:56 And I think that we get hijacked 19:58 and it takes years to kind of get ourselves back. 20:01 And finally God says, you know what, 20:03 "You've been lost for so long, I just want to find you again." 20:07 And so if I want to bring this to a close, 20:10 if you find that you've been hijacked in any area, 20:12 know that you got to do one thing at a time, 20:15 set tiny goals and get your life back. 20:18 See you next time, until then, 20:20 always remember that God is crazy about you. 20:22 Me too. |
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