Participants: Alanzo & June Smith
Series Code: FFH
Program Code: FFH00005A
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00:04 With each new day families are failing, homes are broken.
00:09 Marriages are threatened, fathers are absent. 00:13 Children are rebellious but all is not lost. 00:17 Homes can be healed and hearts can be mended. 00:21 Let's reclaim our Families 4 Heaven. 00:30 Thank you for watching Families 4 Heaven. 00:33 I'm Alanzo Smith and my co-host is June Smith. 00:38 We are talking today about When Tragedy Strikes, 00:42 The Morning after. 00:44 Crises occurs on an everyday basis. 00:50 Talk to us about crises. 00:52 A crises is an event that an individual or family will 00:57 face, that leaves you, sometimes numb. 01:01 The skills that you normally use to solve your problems 01:05 just don't work. 01:07 You find yourself in a situation that you need help. 01:12 Sometimes, medical help, sometimes economic support, 01:17 whatever the situation demands. 01:20 Your resources, your skills, your strength, your 01:23 knowledge just isn't enough to help you. 01:32 When talk about crises, there are two kind of crises, 01:36 situational and maturational. 01:40 What's the difference between a situational crises and 01:44 the maturational crises? 01:47 Situational crises are events that occur that are 01:52 unexpected, unanticipated. 01:55 You know these are events that are likely to happen 01:59 in life, but you don't know when, or if ever it will 02:02 happen to you. 02:04 For example, if a child falls down the stairs, or if 02:10 somebody in the family has an accident, or if the stove 02:14 caught fire, just events that could throw you or the 02:19 family into a situation that you just wasn't 02:22 prepared for. 02:23 Now maturational crises is an event that occurs during 02:27 the stage of development, during the stage of living 02:31 as it were so that as you mature there are certain 02:34 transitions that occur in your life, that are likely to 02:38 create a crises. 02:39 In those situations, for example, as the birth of a 02:43 child in the home, your family may be thrown into a 02:47 crises that you are anticipating. 02:51 You understand this is going to happen and you make plans 02:55 for it, but it still creates difficulty and could create 02:58 situations that the family is not prepared for. 03:01 You might lose your job for example. 03:04 One person is at a stage in their development where it 03:08 might be very difficult for them to find another job, 03:11 because they are just that close to retirement and etc. 03:14 You are maturing as you develop in your lifecycle and 03:18 you are thrust into a crises that the family has 03:21 to suffer for. 03:23 There are times when situational crises could evolve 03:29 into a maturational crises. 03:32 For example, the diagnosis of a terminal disease. 03:37 When that hits you, it is situational, but if the disease 03:42 lingers and the condition continues over a period of time, 03:46 it devolves into maturational. 03:49 So it is no longer a sudden shock, but it's an every day 03:53 reality that you have to deal with. 03:56 We want to talk about situational crises today. 04:00 That is our focus, when the blow hits you and it 04:05 hits you real hard. 04:07 Now, can one prepare for a crises? 04:12 There are some events in life that you don't know when, 04:17 but you should as a family make preparations for. 04:22 For example, if there are older people in your family 04:27 and you know at some point they will pass on, then you 04:31 shouldn't wait until the event occurs to decide how you 04:35 are going to financially or emotionally handle this. 04:38 So yes you can prepare for some events that are likely 04:42 to create certain crises but you just don't know when. 04:46 For example if you know that you live in a flood zone, 04:50 for example, then you don't wait until there is a storm 04:54 to make preparation that in the event you should have a 04:58 flood, your family would be safe. 05:00 So there are some things we can prepare for, yet others 05:05 just hit just like that. 05:07 We have two guests with us in our program and we are 05:12 very happy for them. 05:15 We have Carter Francis and his beautiful wife, 05:19 Ruby Francis, please help me to welcome Carter 05:24 and Ruby Francis. 05:29 Alanzo: welcome, we are happy to have you both. 05:34 Ruby as I look at you I see you are sitting beside, 05:39 what is that beside you? 05:41 Ruby: a walker Alanzo: a walker, I was about to say 05:44 a stroller, okay a walker. 05:47 Alanzo: Now Ruby you have been married for how long? 05:51 Ruby: 34 years. Alanzo: For 34 years. 05:54 Alanzo: you have been happy and going through life, 05:59 graduating from college and going on to university, 06:03 graduating and your life was doing well. 06:05 You live in a lovely place and one Sunday morning you 06:11 were coming back, you went to buy plants. 06:15 Alanzo: what kind of plants? Ruby: flowers. 06:18 Alanzo: what month of year was it? Ruby: May. 06:21 Alanzo: So you are coming with these flowers you have 06:24 purchased, to come and decorate your home with planting. 06:27 Tell us what happened? 06:29 About 1 mile from home my sister and I got into a car accident. 06:37 Alanzo: wow, both of you were in the car? 06:40 Ruby: yes, and I was driving. 06:43 Alanzo: so what you had a bumper, fender bumper? 06:45 Ruby: no, I crashed, yes. 06:48 Alanzo: what happened? 06:52 I think Carter will tell you exactly what happened, 06:56 I don't remember. 06:58 Alanzo: you do not still remember it? Ruby: no. 07:00 Alanzo: how long ago did this happen? Ruby: 10 years. 07:03 Alanzo: you still are not remembering. Ruby: no. 07:05 Well we are going to take a break, but when we come back 07:10 we would like to listen to Carter's story and what 07:13 happened, they have some powerful things to share with 07:17 us, and we really want to hear it. 07:20 So don't go away, stay right there. |
Revised 2014-12-17