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00:02 Canada. 00:04 It's the oldest legally and 00:06 formally recognized union of 00:08 two people as partners in a 00:10 personal relationship and it 00:12 was created by God Himself 00:14 because, in His own words, 00:16 "It is not good for man 00:18 to be alone." 00:20 [RENÉ] God, the architect of 00:21 the universe, created marriage 00:23 for our happiness. 00:26 Eve was created from a rib 00:28 taken from the side of Adam, 00:30 signifying that she was not to 00:32 control him as the head nor to 00:34 be trampled under his feet as 00:36 an inferior, but to stand by 00:39 his side as an equal, to be 00:41 loved and protected by him, 00:44 a part of man, bone of his bone 00:47 and flesh of his flesh, she 00:49 was his second self, showing 00:51 the close union and the 00:53 affectionate attachment that 00:55 should exist in this 00:56 relationship. 00:57 >> Yet so many couples are 00:59 caught in such a destructive 01:01 cycle that more than a third 01:03 of all Canadian marriages end 01:05 in divorce. 01:06 This is particularly painful 01:08 for me, personally, because my 01:10 parents divorced when I was 01:11 three years old and it was 01:13 very traumatic to me and to my 01:15 three brothers. 01:17 >> And during these times, the 01:19 problem is escalating. 01:22 Agencies that deal with mental 01:24 health are reporting that 01:25 there has been an increase in 01:27 domestic violence. 01:29 According to a national 01:31 survey, domestic violence 01:33 during the initial period of 01:35 lock-down in Canada, was more 01:37 severe and more frequent. 01:40 [MIKE] So Rene and I want to 01:42 share with you a better way 01:44 for couples to understand one 01:46 another and actually enjoy 01:48 being together. 01:50 And what better way than to 01:52 meet a couple who have had an 01:54 ongoing experience of the true 01:57 love that God originally 01:59 promised when He created 02:00 marriage. 02:02 They will share with you how 02:04 every marriage can thrive and 02:06 become a burning and a shining 02:08 light of hope to others who 02:11 feel like they're caught in a 02:13 cycle of despair. 02:16 >> Our special guests today 02:18 are pastor Darrell and Lise 02:19 Beaudoin who will share with 02:21 you their personal journey of 02:24 how they found true love and 02:26 how you can find it, too. 02:28 ♪♪ 03:12 >> Welcome again to It Is 03:13 Written Canada. 03:15 Divorce statistics read like 03:17 horror stories about marriages 03:19 falling apart, broken-hearted 03:21 wives and lonely children. 03:24 Thankfully there is hope. 03:25 Our homes do not have to 03:27 reflect this trend. 03:29 Today we are here in Fort 03:30 Saskatchewan, Alberta where we 03:32 will meet with our good 03:34 friends, Lise and Darrell 03:36 Beaudoin, who, to me, have a 03:39 marriage that reflects what 03:40 God designed marriage to be. 03:44 >> Darrell and Lise, thank you 03:46 so much for joining us on It 03:47 Is Written Canada. 03:49 >> Thank you. 03:50 >> It's an honour and 03:51 privilege to be with you both. 03:52 >> So we're talking about 03:54 marriage and I know all 03:55 marriages have their ups and 03:56 downs, but it seems like the 03:58 two of you have it all 03:59 together. 04:00 >> Well, I am wondering-- we 04:01 are wondering what makes you 04:02 think that. 04:03 >> Well, I guess you're right, 04:05 I mean, I'm judging it from 04:07 external appearances, but it 04:09 looks to me like you really 04:10 have a happy marriage. 04:11 >> We'll take that as a 04:12 gracious compliment. 04:13 Thank you. 04:15 >> So, Lise, did you grow up 04:17 in a Christian home? 04:18 >> No, well, in a Catholic 04:21 home, but Mom never did teach 04:22 us, you know, religion 04:24 in the home. 04:26 >> And what about for you, 04:27 Darrell? 04:29 >> We were influenced in our 04:30 family of five siblings with 04:33 the standard Judeo-Christian 04:35 influences. 04:36 However, growing up in the 04:38 60's, 70's era with the 04:41 hippie generation, if you 04:42 will, the "if it feels good, 04:44 do it," the "Me" generation, 04:47 we had a lot going against 04:48 us also. 04:50 But all those religious 04:51 influences, as sparse as they 04:53 were, were seeds planted 04:55 as God used them later on in 04:57 our lives. 04:59 >> What circumstances led you 05:00 both to Christ? 05:03 [LISE] Well, for me at the age 05:04 of 15, you know, I was 05:07 involved in parties and drugs 05:10 and alcohol and one night I 05:12 just remember at a party, I just 05:14 like, you know, "I don't wanna 05:16 do this for the rest of my 05:17 life," and so I was searching 05:21 and then one of my school 05:25 teachers saw that I was in 05:27 trouble with the drug scene 05:29 and stuff like that and he 05:31 invited me and some of my 05:32 friends to a youth encounter 05:36 with the Catholic church. 05:39 And that weekend it was like I 05:41 saw a glimpse of what Christ 05:44 had done for me, but I didn't 05:46 quite catch it. 05:48 And so the next following 05:50 week, we just went back to our 05:52 drug and alcohol scene because 05:55 they didn't follow up with us 05:57 and so we just sat there and 05:59 like, "What do we do now?" 06:00 You know? 06:01 So we just went back to our 06:02 same lifestyle. 06:03 And then at the age of 17, I 06:05 started to work in a captain's 06:08 submarine shop and there was a 06:09 young girl there that was a 06:11 Christian and she shared a 06:14 pamphlet with me on salvation. 06:16 And she-- and I prayed the 06:20 prayer of salvation and gave 06:23 my heart to Christ and that's 06:25 when my whole life just took a 06:27 turn for the right way and 06:29 they followed up with me and 06:31 we would study the Bible on 06:33 the weekends and they stayed 06:38 with me until I became 06:39 established. 06:41 >> You know, and every time 06:42 Lise tells me that, I marvel 06:44 because it is a blessing to 06:46 her advantage, a credit, you 06:49 know, to give her heart to the 06:50 Lord at 17 years of age where 06:53 for myself, it wasn't 'til at 06:54 least 27 years of age, another 06:56 ten years that I went on with 06:59 the substance abuse and the 07:02 bad decisions in my life and 07:04 I'm paying for it and will 07:06 continue to pay for it with a 07:08 weakened constitution because 07:10 of all the abuse. 07:14 >> The big question is, how 07:15 did the two of you meet? 07:18 >> Well, do you want the long 07:20 version, the short version? 07:22 >> Well, it starts off with 07:24 him and then... 07:25 >> Yeah, in the context with 07:27 my conversion experience, once 07:28 I became a Christian, I, after 07:33 studying the Bible for a 07:34 couple of years and wanting to 07:36 start going door-to-door and 07:38 sharing my faith with others, 07:40 I have a twin brother and my 07:41 twin brother and I, we 07:43 actually started up a company 07:44 where we would go door to door 07:46 and we would give books out on 07:48 a donation basis and we did 07:49 that for a couple of years. 07:51 And during that time, on a 07:52 cold November evening, I 07:54 knocked on the lucky door. 07:57 Friends of Lise, that she had 07:59 just moved to from Edmonton 08:01 from Ontario with, we met them 08:04 going door-to-door, myself, 08:05 and they were very interested 08:07 in the materials that I had to 08:08 offer and my twin brother and 08:10 I went in the next week, sat 08:11 down with a pictorial 08:14 perspectives and we started 08:16 giving them a Bible study on 08:17 the amazing prophecies of 08:18 Daniel and Revelation. 08:20 And so we started the process 08:22 of studying with them and they 08:23 wanted to hear more of what we 08:24 had to say and through the 08:26 course of a few weeks, I 08:27 invited them to an It Is 08:29 Written prophecy seminar with 08:31 Henry Feyerabend and at that 08:33 time, they invited Lise to 08:34 come along. 08:36 Now, Lise had actually warned 08:37 them to stay away from me... 08:39 [LISE] Well, when they started 08:40 to share with me what they 08:42 were learning, I was, like, 08:44 wondering, "OK, well, who are 08:46 these people," and I just 08:47 wanted to protect my friends 08:49 from a possible cult. 08:51 We-- I went to the Christian 08:52 bookstore and I purchased a 08:54 couple of books and... 08:55 >> On how to spot false 08:57 doctrines. 08:58 >> And so I was questioning 09:01 him as to what the book said 09:03 that Seventh-day Adventists 09:04 believed and so we... 09:07 >> I'd give you answers that 09:08 were not quite in harmony with 09:10 that book that you purchased. 09:11 So you had to start asking 09:12 questions, heart-felt 09:14 questions to me personally. 09:15 "Well, what do you believe 09:17 about this and that," and that 09:18 started the process of us 09:20 studying the Bible together. 09:22 And Lise says, after the fact, 09:23 too, I thought this was kind 09:25 of charming, that one of the 09:26 things that impressed her was 09:28 when I picked you up and your 09:30 friends for the first time to 09:31 attend the meeting, it's a 09:33 habit that I always have of 09:34 praying before I drive and I 09:36 always say, "Let's just have a 09:37 word of prayer," and she felt 09:38 that that was charming that he 09:40 likes to pray. 09:42 And through the course of a 09:44 few months, after her 09:46 questions were being answered 09:48 and there were some tough-- 09:49 she was a-- you'd been to a 09:51 Bible college, you have a 09:53 degree from a Bible college, 09:54 so she knew her Bible very 09:56 well, being a Christian ten 09:57 years prior to my conversion 09:58 experience. 10:00 But we studied, we overcame 10:01 those doctrinal hurdles and 10:03 answered all those necessary 10:04 questions and... 10:06 >> So we studied for a year 10:08 and a half after the-- Henry 10:10 Feyerabend did his program. 10:12 [DARRELL] That's right. 10:14 And I remember when Henry 10:15 Feyerabend was giving his 10:17 appeals and I was praying, 10:18 just waiting for you to go up 10:20 to the front during the appeal, 10:21 I mean, you never did. 10:23 >> I wasn't ready. 10:24 >> So I could tell you were 10:25 resisting, but God was still 10:26 working in your heart. 10:27 >> That's right. 10:28 But once I was convinced that, 10:30 you know, everything that he 10:31 was teaching was right, then 10:36 we were-- I was baptized. 10:39 >> You put a music video 10:41 together called "True Love." 10:43 So what does that song mean 10:45 to you? 10:46 >> You know, song-writing has 10:49 been an intrinsic blessing, 10:52 maybe a bit of a mystery that 10:53 I can't fully explain 'cause 10:54 sometimes those songs are 10:56 just there. 10:58 There was one day we were out 11:00 for a walk with some friends 11:02 and sometimes these lyrics 11:03 just pop into your head: 11:05 "Many a love song has been 11:07 written of old, songs of 11:09 endearment long to be told." 11:11 And I asked somebody, "Does 11:12 somebody have a piece of paper 11:13 and a pen," and I had to look 11:14 down and look for a cigarette 11:16 package and rip it up and get 11:17 a pen and just write down 11:19 those lyrics spontaneously and 11:21 then put it in my pocket and 11:22 then a few days later I 11:24 continued to develop the 11:26 lyrics, both of us together, 11:29 until we were able to complete 11:31 a whole song, a composition, 11:32 and record it a number of 11:34 years ago. 11:35 So, true love, to answer your 11:37 question, there-- in the 11:40 spectrum of our world that is 11:43 seeking for affection, 11:46 love-sick sentimentalism, 11:49 there truly is only one common 11:51 denominator, one fundamental 11:54 expression of love and that is 11:56 found in our relationship with 11:59 Jesus Christ and it really is 12:02 expressed in the concept of 12:04 giving, of sacrifice. 12:07 And so this song talks about 12:08 the sacrifice of Christ and 12:10 only in Christ can we really 12:12 recognize what is true love. 12:14 ♪♪ 12:27 ♪Many a love song 12:29 ♪have been written of old 12:33 ♪Songs of endearment 12:36 ♪long to be told 12:38 ♪But the song to be written 12:42 ♪that tells of true love 12:45 ♪Is the song that reveals 12:48 ♪the most loving above 12:51 ♪♪ 13:03 ♪This love that constrains us 13:06 ♪is not what some think 13:08 ♪It's more than a feeling 13:12 ♪not written in ink 13:15 ♪It's free for the asking 13:18 ♪yet bought with a price 13:21 ♪What the world needs 13:23 ♪is true love 13:25 ♪Nothing less will suffice 13:32 ♪Jesus, we plead for this 13:35 ♪love today 13:38 ♪Only in You, Lord 13:40 ♪is true love portrayed 13:43 ♪When we recognize the truth 13:45 ♪that You gave us Your own 13:48 ♪Only then can we know 13:51 ♪this true love 13:57 ♪♪ 14:24 ♪Many have sought 14:27 ♪to define what is love 14:30 ♪Only to realize 14:33 ♪it comes from above 14:36 ♪Inexpressible with words 14:39 ♪true love knows no bounds 14:42 ♪In the heart of my Jesus 14:45 ♪true love can be found 14:48 ♪♪ 15:00 ♪True love has a motive 15:03 ♪whose source is divine 15:07 ♪Willing to labour 15:09 ♪for the good of mankind 15:12 ♪Long-suffering in trials 15:15 ♪true love bears the pain 15:18 ♪What the world needs is 15:20 ♪true love 15:22 ♪and the power it brings 15:29 ♪Jesus we plead for this 15:32 ♪love today 15:35 ♪Only in You, Lord 15:37 ♪is true love portrayed 15:40 ♪When we recognize the truth 15:43 ♪that You gave us Your own 15:46 ♪Only then can we know this 15:49 ♪true love 15:52 ♪Jesus we plead for this 15:54 ♪love today 15:58 ♪Only in You, Lord 16:00 ♪is true love portrayed 16:03 ♪When we recognize the truth 16:05 ♪that You gave us Your own 16:08 ♪Only then can we know this 16:11 ♪true love 16:14 ♪Only then can we know this 16:17 ♪true love 16:19 ♪Only then can we know this 16:22 ♪true love 16:26 ♪♪ 16:41 >> I really love those lyrics 16:42 and there's just certain ones 16:44 that just stick in my mind, 16:45 "True love, it's more than a 16:48 "feeling, not written in ink, 16:50 "Free for the asking yet 16:52 "bought with a price. 16:54 "What the world needs is true 16:56 "love, nothing less will 16:57 "suffice. 16:59 "When we recognize the truth 17:01 "that You gave us Your all, 17:04 "only then can we know 17:06 true love." 17:08 So, Darrell and Lise, tell us 17:10 about the keys to a happy and 17:14 fulfilling marriage. 17:16 >> For me it starts with God. 17:18 You have to have that 17:20 relationship with God on a 17:22 daily basis and you study the 17:26 Bible where you find what God 17:28 is like and you see, you know, 17:31 you learn about love through 17:33 how God related to humanity 17:35 throughout history and not 17:37 only... 17:38 >> Sacrificially, yeah. 17:39 >> ...it through the Bible, 17:40 yeah, but also in your own life 17:41 as to how God has dealt with me 17:45 throughout all my life and it's 17:47 always been in a gentle, kind, 17:49 loving way. 17:50 [DARRELL] You know, you have 17:51 Christ, God, at the top of the 17:53 triangle, husband and wife on 17:55 the bottom of both sides, but 17:57 as each of them are developing 17:58 their personal relationship 18:00 with God, they are both coming 18:01 closer together. 18:03 A family that prays together, 18:05 stays together and truly that 18:07 is a common denominator, but 18:09 if we were to bullet point a 18:11 list of what are the keys, I 18:14 would say first of all, 18:16 communication is an important 18:18 one, mutual respect, and trust. 18:21 In my marriage counselling as 18:23 a pastor to others, I've 18:25 always emphasized the fact to 18:26 husband and wife to go out of 18:29 your way to make sure that you 18:31 give evidence to your spouse 18:34 that they are your only, your 18:36 one and only, and give them 18:38 that evidence of loyalty. 18:40 You know, when it comes to the 18:41 finances of marriage, you 18:43 know, we're very equitable in 18:44 our finances and we share our 18:47 finances and... 18:48 >> The budget is done together 18:50 and then, you know, I'm the 18:52 budgeteer. 18:53 >> "Budgeteer," that's a good 18:54 word, "budgeteer." 18:56 >> So yeah, it works... 18:58 >> My beautiful accountant. 18:59 >> You work together, right? 19:01 >> Yeah. 19:02 [RENÉ] So, Darrell and Lise, 19:04 you sang a song together on 19:06 your wedding day... 19:07 [DARRELL] We did. 19:09 >> Can you tell us a little 19:10 bit about that song? 19:12 >> Well, before we were 19:14 married, we were doing the 19:15 dishes one night together 19:17 and.. 19:18 >> I was visiting her home 19:19 that you were living in, yeah. 19:20 >> Yeah, and we thought, "You 19:22 know, that would be kinda neat 19:24 to just sing our vows instead 19:26 of say our vows," and so... 19:29 >> And why the washing dishes, 19:30 why does that bring back a 19:32 memory? 19:33 >> Well, it just happened to 19:34 be that-- at that time when we 19:35 put it together. 19:36 [DARRELL] I was-- guitar in my 19:37 hand, usually I have my guitar 19:38 everywhere I go and she was 19:40 washing the dishes and I says, 19:41 "What do you think of this 19:42 tune?" 19:42 Dat-de-dat-de-dat-de-de... 19:43 And she just, "Well, that 19:44 sounds really nice." 19:45 And, again, as song-writing 19:47 goes, some of the best songs 19:48 written are the ones that just 19:50 come out extemporaneously and 19:52 they're just there. 19:54 And those lyrics that evening, 19:55 we composed the lyrics 19:57 together and fine-tuned them 19:58 and then on our wedding day, 20:00 coming right up to the rostrum, 20:02 the podium, before the pastor 20:04 had any chance to say 20:05 anything, we grabbed the 20:07 microphone and the music came 20:08 on and we had a chance to sing 20:09 our vows together with a 20:11 couple hundred people as 20:12 witnesses and it was a sacred 20:14 moment. 20:15 >> It was a nervous moment for 20:16 me, too, because that was my 20:17 first time to sing in public. 20:19 >> So that song, we're gonna 20:22 watch a video of you singing 20:24 that song together. 20:25 >> Mm-hmm. 20:27 It's a video that we produced 20:28 and I hope you enjoy it. 20:30 ♪♪ 20:50 ♪I dedicate my life to you 20:52 ♪my promise is 20:54 ♪that I'll be true 20:55 ♪My heart will always 20:58 ♪ever be with you 21:01 ♪I give my life to you today 21:03 ♪believing that our love 21:04 ♪will stay 21:05 ♪Because God's love 21:08 ♪is real to you and me 21:11 ♪But words cannot express the 21:13 ♪happiness that's in my heart 21:15 ♪Knowing Jesus Christ 21:18 ♪has bound us, two in one 21:21 ♪And I believe that 21:23 ♪you're the one 21:24 ♪The only one that's 21:25 ♪meant for me 21:27 ♪Please receive 21:29 ♪my pledge to honour you 21:33 ♪I'll always love you 21:35 ♪And I'll love you 21:38 [DARRELL] ♪For we are not 21:39 ♪our own 21:41 [TOGETHER] ♪We pledge our lives 21:43 ♪to live together 21:46 ♪You and me 21:52 ♪in His love 22:00 ♪♪ 22:19 [DARRELL] ♪Because you've made 22:20 ♪this pledge to me 22:22 ♪my help-mate for eternity 22:24 ♪Rejoice, my love 22:27 ♪there's on one else but you 22:30 ♪Tenderly I'd like to say 22:32 ♪now that true love's 22:33 ♪come my way 22:35 ♪Thank You, Lord 22:37 ♪he truly is the one 22:40 ♪Let heaven's trumpet 22:42 ♪sound aloud 22:43 ♪Today you've made this 22:44 ♪man so proud 22:46 ♪My eyes behold 22:48 ♪the wonder of it all 22:51 ♪The joy we share is mutual 22:53 ♪The love we share 22:54 ♪will surely grow 22:56 ♪When God is near 22:58 ♪to help along the way 23:02 ♪I'll always love you 23:05 ♪And I'll love you 23:08 ♪For we are not our own 23:10 ♪I'll cherish you 23:13 ♪I'll always be true 23:15 ♪We pledge our lives 23:18 ♪to live together 23:21 ♪You and me 23:26 ♪In His love 23:35 ♪In His love 23:46 ♪In His love 23:56 ♪In His love 24:12 >> Darrell and Lise, thank you 24:13 so much for that beautiful 24:15 music video. 24:17 >> I'm glad you were blessed. 24:19 [RENÉ] So you are both very 24:21 active in ministry. 24:23 So can you tell us how this 24:25 has affected your marriage and 24:27 your family life? 24:30 [LISE] Well, it has been a 24:32 wonderful growing experience 24:34 for us personally as well as 24:38 for our children. 24:41 [DARRELL] As a pastor, you 24:42 know, it's a 24/7 calling, but 24:44 there are opportunities, lots 24:46 of opportunities for us to 24:47 spend time together as a 24:48 family doing ministry together. 24:51 So in all of our front-line 24:53 evangelistic endeavours, you 24:55 know, we've walked the path 24:57 together as Bible teachers, 24:59 literature evangelists in the 25:01 publishing ministry of our 25:03 church, all the evangelism 25:07 that we've been involved in, 25:09 we've worked together and so 25:10 it's been such a blessing. 25:12 Our children, both of them 25:13 were baptized following an 25:15 evangelistic series that I 25:16 have conducted and to watch 25:17 the conviction on our sons' 25:20 expressions as each night the 25:23 amazing truths of the Bible 25:25 unfold before them. 25:27 So ministry has been a 25:28 tremendous blessing, we just-- 25:29 we've done so much together, 25:31 it's been 35 years of doing 25:33 things together. 25:35 And I would say then it's a 25:36 very important principle for 25:38 all married families, couples, 25:40 to take from this and that is 25:42 doing things together, 25:44 spending time together, 25:45 serving, helping others and, 25:48 again, this is where the true 25:49 love principle comes in, 25:51 understanding Christ's 25:52 sacrificial love of servitude, 25:55 I think that's a key point 25:57 there. 25:58 >> That's a beautiful place to 26:00 end on. 26:01 Darrell, I wonder if you could 26:03 close with a word of prayer 26:04 for us? 26:04 Let's pray. 26:06 >> Loving father in heaven, 26:09 we stand in awe of Your 26:12 demonstration of true love. 26:14 And we ask, Lord, and we pray 26:16 over all those who are 26:18 watching this program who 26:21 might be aspiring to a richer, 26:24 deeper relationship with You 26:27 and a better marriage. 26:29 I pray, Lord, that Your hand 26:31 of blessing would be upon all 26:33 those watching and yearning 26:35 and that you will bless them 26:37 with the principles of true 26:38 love that only come from Jesus 26:41 through applying the 26:42 principles in Your word. 26:43 Thank You, Lord. 26:44 In Jesus' name we pray, amen. 26:46 [ALL] Amen. 26:47 >> Darrell and Lise, I really 26:48 appreciate your commitment to 26:50 one another, your commitment 26:51 to Christ which has kept you 26:52 committed to each other and 26:54 thank you for sharing with us... 26:55 >> Thank you... 26:56 [MIKE] ...that journey here on 26:57 It Is Written today. 26:58 >> ...for allowing us to share 26:59 with you today, too. 27:00 [LISE] Thank you. 27:02 >> Friends, when it comes to 27:04 marriage, there is always room 27:05 for growth, always room for 27:07 improvement, so our free offer 27:09 for you today is How To Love 27:11 Your Marriag. 27:13 >> How to Love Your Marriage 27:15 offers biblical answers and 27:17 practical tips for improving 27:18 your marriage. 27:21 Learn how to reclaim intimacy 27:23 with your spouse and ten ways 27:25 to renew 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