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00:41 >> Today on It Is Written
00:43 Canada we will be talking about 00:44 practical and effective ways 00:47 you can build your confidence 00:49 and become more resilient when 00:51 you have to face 00:52 a traumatic event. 00:54 >> To begin with, we have 00:56 Dr. Nadine Plummer, a licensed 00:58 Naturopathic doctor who 01:01 graduated from the Canadian 01:02 College of Naturopathic 01:04 Medicine. 01:05 She is a member of the Ontario 01:07 Association of Naturopathic 01:08 Doctors and the Canadian 01:10 Association of Naturopathic 01:12 Doctors as well. 01:13 Dr. Plummer also holds a 01:16 Masters degree in Religion from 01:18 Andrews University's 01:20 Theological Seminary. 01:21 Dr. Plummer, welcome to It Is 01:23 Written Canada. 01:25 >> Thank you, thanks so much 01:26 for having me on. 01:27 >> So, Dr. Plummer, before we 01:29 ask you any personal type 01:31 questions, we're gonna ask you 01:34 some definition type questions. 01:37 What is confidence? 01:40 >> Great question. 01:41 When I think of confidence I 01:42 think of one main word and that 01:45 word is, "ability." 01:46 But it's not just ability, it 01:48 is confidence, in my 01:50 definition, it's like trust in 01:52 your own abilities, trust in 01:54 your own capabilities and out 01:57 of that trust in your 01:58 abilities, you develop 02:00 confidence. 02:01 So I have my own acronym or my 02:04 own saying to kind of describe 02:07 what resilience is, it is 02:09 "Think like A. B.O.S.S." 02:12 So the A stands for 02:13 "Adaptability." 02:15 So resilience is about the 02:17 ability, also, to adapt, that's 02:19 why confidence and resilience 02:21 go together, the ability to 02:23 adapt to trauma, stress, 02:27 tragedies, the difficulties 02:29 in life. 02:30 The B stands for "Bouncing 02:32 Back," it's an easy way to 02:34 define resiliency, the ability 02:36 bounce back. 02:37 The O is "Overcome," how to 02:40 overcome situations in life and 02:42 the S and the S, the first S 02:46 stands for "Stress" and second 02:48 S stands for addressing 02:50 Stress." 02:51 And we couldn't speak about 02:53 resilience without talking 02:54 about stress because really 02:57 resilience is how do you manage 02:59 stress and it's interesting 03:01 because our brains respond 03:03 differently when we're in a 03:04 stress state and when we're not 03:06 in a stress state. 03:07 So there's an area in the brain 03:09 in the front here called the 03:10 prefrontal cortex, that is the 03:12 area that kind of hosts our 03:14 personality, it's in charge of 03:15 decision-making, deductive 03:18 reasoning, logical thinking, 03:20 and when we are really 03:21 stressed, another area in our 03:23 brain called the amygdala kind 03:25 of hijacks the prefrontal 03:27 cortex and we respond out of 03:30 emotion, especially fear, 03:32 anxiety, etcetera. 03:34 So resilience is the ability to 03:36 really use your prefrontal 03:38 cortex to kind of manage stress 03:42 in a way where you're still 03:44 able to use deductive 03:46 reasoning, rational thinking, 03:49 logical, a logical analysis and 03:52 assessment of situations as 03:54 opposed to becoming very 03:56 stressed and in that case we 03:58 have a looser control of 04:00 thoughts and we tend to feel 04:02 like things are not in our 04:04 control, we can't change 04:05 things. 04:06 That's a lack of resilience. 04:09 [RENÉ] So having said that, 04:11 Dr. Plummer, how important is 04:15 resilience and confidence to an 04:18 individual's overall 04:20 well-being? 04:21 >> I would say it's very 04:22 important. 04:23 Resilience helps us in our 04:25 overall health, it helps us 04:27 with our mental attitude and 04:29 having a stronger mental 04:31 attitude or feeling resilient 04:33 actually leads to better health 04:35 outcomes. 04:36 Lack of resilience, sense of 04:38 hopelessness can lead to worse 04:40 health outcomes, chronic 04:41 disease, etcetera. 04:43 But when we're talking about 04:45 resilience, we couldn't really 04:46 discuss it in outcomes without 04:49 looking at two particular 04:50 studies. 04:51 One study was by a professor at 04:54 the University of Minnesota, 04:56 his name was Dr. Norman Garmezy 04:58 and he studied resilience in 05:00 children for over forty years 05:03 and he found that there were 05:04 three main things that 05:05 contributed to resilience, 05:07 especially in children and then 05:08 later in life even though some 05:11 of these children were coming 05:12 out of dysfunctional families 05:14 and, you know, tragedies, 05:16 difficulties, etcetera, and 05:18 those three things were 05:20 cognitive competence, academic 05:23 competence, and social 05:25 competence. 05:26 So cognitively, academically, 05:29 and socially they were 05:31 competent, regardless of what 05:33 home life was. 05:35 And with those three things 05:36 those kids ended up, or 05:38 children, being very resilient 05:40 and then going on to being 05:41 successful as adults despite 05:43 the fact that they were coming 05:44 out of adverse situations, you 05:45 could call it. 05:47 The second study was done by a 05:48 psychologist named Dr. Emmy 05:50 Werner. 05:52 And Dr. Emmy Werner did a 05:53 large-scale study of 700 kids 05:56 in Hawaii and that lasted for 05:58 over three decades and she 06:01 actually discovered what, to 06:02 me, is like the golden nuggets 06:04 of resilience. 06:06 First, she realized resilience 06:07 can be learned. 06:08 So if you don't have these 06:10 characteristics, it doesn't 06:12 mean that you cannot learn to 06:14 be resilient, but she wanted to 06:16 study resilience in children 06:18 and then see where they were, 06:20 the outcomes in adulthood. 06:22 So you said how important is it 06:24 to, like, outcomes, and that's 06:26 what she particularly wanted 06:28 to study. 06:29 So she studied 700 children, 06:31 out of those 700, one third 06:34 came-- were considered to be 06:36 children at risk. 06:37 So they came out of households 06:39 where there was poverty, 06:41 alcoholism, abuse, even in 06:44 pregnancies, some of the women 06:46 who were pregnant were in 06:47 difficult situations so it was, 06:49 you know, difficulty before 06:50 birth, and she found out of 06:52 that group of one third that 06:55 65%, so over half, actually 06:59 before the age of ten, had 07:01 developed behavioural issues, 07:03 learning disabilities, by the 07:05 age of 18, there were 07:07 addictions, alcoholism, teenage 07:10 pregnancy, but that was 65%. 07:14 The other 34% actually, they 07:17 began to thrive, despite the 07:19 fact that they were children at 07:20 risk and they became very 07:22 successful as adults, socially 07:25 successful, financially 07:26 successful. 07:27 So she wondered what was the 07:28 difference because they were 07:29 all experiencing the same type 07:32 of thing and yet why did this 07:34 group thrive, how was it they 07:36 were resilient? 07:37 So she deduced that there were 07:39 four main things that led to 07:41 that resilience and those are 07:43 four things that we can even 07:45 think about and apply today. 07:47 One of them was having a very 07:48 strong bond with at least one 07:51 parent, a loving bond with a 07:53 parent or a caregiver. 07:55 So if you have children or 07:57 you're-- you are in that 07:59 caregiving position, just that, 08:00 giving that love and support to 08:02 that child can help to develop 08:04 resilience. 08:05 The second thing was the 08:06 children who were resilient, 08:08 they had a strong sense of 08:09 autonomy and independence. 08:13 So as a parent encouraging 08:15 autonomy and independence in 08:17 your children while you're 08:19 still there as the support, you 08:21 know, so they know that you're 08:22 there, that can help develop 08:24 resilience as well. 08:26 The third thing is those 08:27 children tended to be very 08:28 industrious meaning they 08:30 realized, "Okay, I have these 08:32 skills not those, so I'll use 08:34 the skill that I have," and 08:36 they were open to new 08:37 experiences. 08:38 So they were a little bit of 08:40 risk-taking characteristics 08:42 there so that's something else 08:44 you could encourage in 08:45 children. 08:46 And the fourth thing, which is 08:47 really important and also 08:49 important in adulthood, is they 08:50 had a strong internal locus of 08:53 control, meaning they felt 08:55 like, "I can make a difference, 08:57 I can contribute to this 08:59 situation and my contribution 09:01 is going to make a difference." 09:03 And that locus of control was 09:05 something that could be applied 09:07 in their lives as they were 09:08 growing up right until 09:10 adulthood. 09:11 So I would say resilience and 09:13 confidence in your ability to 09:15 contribute and make changes in 09:17 your life are very, very 09:20 important. 09:21 >> One great way to build your 09:24 confidence is to look back and 09:27 it might sound weird, but I 09:29 think that if you look back, 09:31 you're gonna be able to see the 09:32 progress that you have made. 09:34 We compare ourselves to other 09:36 people's progress and we even 09:38 become envious or sad or 09:40 anxious because we're not there 09:42 and you wanna be where that 09:43 other person is. 09:45 However, look back and see how 09:48 many blessings God has already 09:49 given you and you're gonna be 09:51 able to become more confident 09:53 about your own progresses and 09:55 move forward with God and His 09:57 guidance. 09:58 >> You know, one of the ways 09:59 that has personally helped me 10:01 to build my confidence is 10:03 knowing more about my identity 10:05 in Christ. 10:06 When you really stop to think 10:07 about it, we are made perfectly 10:09 and wonderfully in God's image 10:11 and He sees the depths 10:13 of our heart. 10:13 We're talking about the being 10:15 that created the universe, the 10:17 stars and the galaxies, He 10:18 knows the grains of sand, He 10:20 knows the hair on your head are 10:22 numbered, even the gray ones. 10:24 And so when we know our 10:26 identity in Christ and what 10:27 He's called us to, that 10:29 knowledge fuels me daily to 10:32 grow my confidence from someone 10:34 who is timid and shy and 10:35 uncertain to someone who is 10:37 bold and courageous and 10:38 fearless and able to take on 10:40 the world. 10:43 >> Confidence and resilience, I 10:44 believe, are displayed 10:45 throughout the Bible, but I'm 10:48 gonna point out two stories 10:49 that come to mind in 10:50 particular. 10:51 The first one with confidence 10:53 would be Shadrach, Meshach, and 10:54 Abednego, they were asked, or 10:56 commanded, to bow down before 10:59 the king and in their 11:01 confidence and their allegiance 11:03 toward God decided not to 11:06 despite or in spite of the doom 11:10 that they were going to face. 11:12 And even when they were being 11:14 tested by saying, "We will 11:16 throw you into the fire and it 11:17 is seven times hotter," they 11:19 decided, "We are going to 11:21 remain confident in our God and 11:23 even if He doesn't deliver us, 11:26 we still trust Him." 11:29 With resilience a different 11:31 verse comes to mind. 11:33 "The righteous man falleth 11:34 seven times and getteth 11:36 up again." 11:37 I don't know about you, but 11:38 when I fall over and over and 11:40 over into the same sin or into 11:42 the same pattern, I get 11:44 discouraged, but the righteous 11:45 man is resilient and he 11:47 gets up again. 11:50 >> Dr. Plummer, as a 11:52 naturopathic doctor, you know 11:54 about these natural remedies 11:56 from God's "farm-acy" that we 11:59 talk about here, the farm, 12:00 coming from the earth. 12:02 How important is knowing that to 12:04 a person's own confidence and 12:06 resilience? 12:07 >> I think it can contribute to 12:09 confidence and resilience just 12:11 because you know, you may know 12:14 the things that you can do that 12:16 will help for different 12:17 conditions and situations, 12:18 like, you might think, "Oh, if 12:19 I get a cold I know what I can 12:21 take and I know what I can do," 12:23 or if, I don't know, I cut 12:25 myself, maybe I can use this 12:27 herb to help me heal. 12:29 Just having that sense of, "I 12:31 am contributing to my own 12:32 health," like as we had 12:34 mentioned, Dr. Werner talked 12:36 about this internal locus of 12:39 control and that could apply 12:41 here, I know that I can make a 12:43 change and that I am 12:45 responsible for my own health, 12:48 I'm contributing to my own 12:49 health, I'm making changes for 12:50 my own health. 12:52 You had mentioned the "farm-acy" 12:54 as in "the farm," I think 12:56 something interesting happens 12:57 when we farm our own food or we 13:00 go to a farm to get our food. 13:02 We're so disconnected now in 13:04 our relationship with food and 13:06 not realizing where food comes 13:08 from that it becomes a lot 13:09 easier to eat processed foods 13:12 and not really think about what 13:13 we're putting in our bodies, 13:15 but when we go to God's 13:16 "farm-acy" and we're getting 13:18 the foods from the farm, it 13:20 changes our relationship with 13:22 food, we become more aware of 13:24 what we're eating and where the 13:25 food came from and that leads 13:27 to this process of realizing, 13:29 "Okay, this food is good for me 13:31 and this food is not good for 13:32 me," we become more aware and 13:35 that type of eating is actually 13:36 called, "mindful eating," which 13:39 is becoming more popular now. 13:41 Knowing where your food came 13:43 from, having a relationship 13:45 with your food and, in turn, 13:48 you make better food choices 13:49 and in turn we feel better 13:51 about ourselves and our 13:53 eating styles. 13:57 >> Hello, my name is Cathy and 13:58 this is my sister-in-law. 14:00 >> Hi, I'm Arlete Susana. 14:01 Today we're gonna show you some 14:03 natural remedies you can use 14:04 using some items from nature 14:07 that God provided for us to 14:08 help us with our immune system 14:09 and our health overall. 14:11 >> Ahh. 14:12 So then we don't have to rush 14:13 off to the pharmacy to get our 14:16 medications. 14:17 >> No. 14:17 >> We go to God's "farm-acy." 14:20 [laughter] 14:21 [ARLETE] That's very clever, 14:21 Cathy. 14:22 >> So I'm gonna show you how to 14:23 make-- I actually won't show 14:25 you how to make it, but I'll 14:26 give you the recipe for 14:28 Nature's Penicillin, the 14:29 recipe is basically just one 14:32 large grapefruit, red 14:34 grapefruit, two lemons, an 14:36 orange, and half a large onion 14:38 or a whole small onion, four 14:40 cloves of garlic, and three 14:42 drops of peppermint oil. 14:43 >> Okay, do you put the whole 14:45 thing, the fruit, the whole 14:46 fruit in? 14:46 >> If it's organic you can do 14:47 that, but it makes it a little 14:48 bit more difficult to drink 14:50 because it gets thicker. 14:51 I find that if you peel it it's 14:53 just a little bit more 14:54 pleasant. 14:54 And the dosage for that would 14:56 basically be for an adult, a 14:58 cup a day or a child, half a 15:00 cup a day, but you don't take 15:02 it all at once, you take it by 15:03 the spoonful, either a spoonful 15:05 to a quarter cup full at room 15:07 temperature throughout the day 15:09 until you start to feel better. 15:11 It's an excellent immune 15:12 booster. 15:13 So that's Nature's Penicillin. 15:14 Super easy. 15:15 The next one that I wanna show 15:16 you is-- and this one I'll 15:18 actually show you, is called 15:19 "Throat Coat," for anything 15:21 related to your throat, any 15:24 congestion... 15:25 [CATHY] Respiratory... 15:26 [ARLETE] That's right. 15:26 So I've already put in the bowl 15:29 the juice of half a lemon, just 15:30 like that, the lemon is an 15:31 astringent and a detoxifier so 15:33 we're starting with that, and 15:35 one to four cloves of garlic. 15:37 Now, it depends on how much you 15:39 like garlic because it's spicy 15:41 and the garlic is antiviral, 15:44 anti-bacterial, it's an 15:45 amazing, so powerful, so it's 15:48 excellent for your-- as a 15:50 remedy. 15:50 Then to that, we're going to 15:51 add a tablespoon of raw honey. 15:53 [CATHY] Does it have to be 15:54 raw honey? 15:55 [ARLETE] It does have to be raw 15:56 honey, pasteurized honey has 15:59 pretty much heated up the honey 16:01 to the point where there's no 16:02 medicinal properties left in 16:04 it, it's just a sweetener. 16:05 So if it's raw honey, you're 16:06 gonna get the medicinal 16:07 properties of it and then you 16:09 get a bonus if you get local 16:10 raw honey then you're also 16:12 getting the benefits of 16:16 antihistamines from the plants 16:18 from the area... 16:18 [CATHY] Oh, for allergies. 16:19 [ARLETE] So if you have 16:20 seasonal allergies, yeah. 16:21 So we're gonna go ahead and put 16:22 a tablespoon of the raw honey 16:24 right into our mix. 16:26 Thank you. 16:28 And the honey's gonna help it 16:29 to stick to your throat when 16:31 you swallow it, that's what's 16:33 gonna give it that coat, that 16:35 coating effect. 16:36 Okay? 16:36 And then we're gonna add to 16:38 this, we're going to add some 16:40 cayenne pepper. 16:41 Now, cayenne, if you know 16:43 anything about cayenne, cayenne 16:45 is a blood stimulant and 16:46 anywhere the heat of the 16:47 cayenne goes, it draws all the 16:49 white and red blood cells and 16:51 activates the healing. 16:52 So for cayenne, because it is 16:55 spicy, because it's hot, you 16:57 can put anywhere from an eighth 16:59 of a teaspoon to a quarter 17:00 teaspoon, for a child you'd 17:01 probably do just a couple of 17:02 shakes, but it really does 17:04 depend on your tolerance for 17:05 the spice level and being a 17:07 blood stimulant, it's just 17:08 gonna get everything going, 17:10 and, again, wherever there's 17:11 heat, the blood cells will go 17:13 to help heal as well. 17:15 So here I'm going to add just a 17:18 few shakes. 17:19 I'll show you what that would 17:20 look like. 17:21 Actually, do you mind holding 17:22 that spoon for me? 17:22 >> Sure, like this? 17:23 >> Yeah, one, two. 17:24 So just about like that, couple 17:26 of shakes, maybe a third for 17:27 good luck. 17:28 Okay, so there's the cayenne. 17:30 And the last ingredient of our 17:33 Throat Coat, and we can just 17:34 keep stirring that in a little 17:35 bit, you see it just changes 17:36 the colour a little bit. 17:38 Make sure that there's no lumps 17:40 in the cayenne. 17:41 And the last ingredient that 17:42 we'll add is peppermint 17:44 essential oil. 17:45 The reason why we're adding 17:46 peppermint essential oil is 17:47 because it's excellent for your 17:49 respiratory, anything to do 17:50 with your airways, if you have 17:52 congestion, or any kind of 17:54 mucus build-up, it's good for 17:55 releasing that. 17:56 >> Right. 17:57 >> And one drop is enough, 17:58 especially if you use the 17:59 doTERRA oil because it's just 18:00 very potent. 18:02 So we're gonna just use one 18:03 drop and there it goes. 18:05 And actually, it smells 18:07 really nice. 18:08 And the peppermint oil also 18:10 helps to cut the-- that sharp 18:12 flavour of the garlic so it 18:14 makes it a little bit easier to 18:16 take as well. 18:17 And so the dosage for this 18:18 Throat Coat would be a 18:19 tablespoon every 20-30 minutes 18:23 until this particular recipe 18:25 is done. 18:26 And so you would take a 18:28 tablespoon of that every 20 18:29 minutes until you're remedy is 18:33 finished pretty much. 18:34 >> Well, this is wonderful that 18:35 the Lord is so interested in 18:37 our health that He provides us 18:39 a means to take care of our 18:41 ailments. 18:42 [ARLETE] And it does work. 18:43 When you use it, you know that 18:45 you're also not going to be 18:46 having any negative side 18:47 effects or interfering with 18:49 anything else in your body. 18:50 So we pray that you were 18:51 blessed by today's 18:52 demonstration of natural 18:54 remedies. 18:54 Why don't you try some natural 18:57 remedies first instead of 18:59 resorting to pharmaceuticals or 19:00 anything like that first and 19:02 you'll be pleasantly surprised 19:04 and trust in God's ways 19:06 of healing. 19:07 [CATHY] Absolutely, His 19:07 "farm-acy." 19:09 [ARLETE] We pray that it was a 19:10 blessing. 19:13 >> So talk about the Bible, is 19:15 there a Bible verse or a Bible 19:19 story that tells us about 19:22 resiliency and confidence? 19:24 >> There are a few, a few of my 19:25 favourites, just the story of 19:27 Joseph is an incredible story 19:30 about resilience. 19:31 Joseph started off with one of 19:34 the four things that I had 19:35 mentioned, a strong and 19:37 powerful bond or relationship 19:38 with at least one parent. 19:40 So we know that Joseph was very 19:42 strongly loved by his father 19:44 and his mother and he grew up 19:47 in a home where there wasn't a 19:48 lot of the dysfunction that I 19:50 had described in these studies, 19:52 as a young boy, but then after 19:55 that, the dysfunction kind of 19:56 came out, this sibling rivalry 19:58 to the point where Joseph was 20:00 betrayed by his brothers, he 20:02 was left for dead, he was kind 20:04 of ripped out of his safe and 20:05 secure home and then sold into 20:08 slavery and after that he 20:10 worked as a house servant and 20:11 after that he was in prison and 20:14 after that he ended up being, 20:15 like, second in command to a 20:17 great empire. 20:18 But what happened was, you have 20:20 to question, how did Joseph get 20:22 to the point of being second in 20:23 command, how did he not just 20:25 give up and think this is, you 20:27 know, my permanent luck, it's 20:29 just bad, bad, bad? 20:31 But in the Bible story, in each 20:33 situation, Joseph rose to the 20:36 top of that environment. 20:38 You know, it was a constant 20:40 lesson in resilience, he acted 20:43 in ways that showed he had 20:45 God's favour. 20:46 So when he actually was a house 20:48 servant, he rose to the top of 20:51 the house servants, you know, 20:52 and then unfortunately, 20:54 Potiphar's wife, Potiphar was 20:56 the owner of the house, the 20:57 wife kind of had this 20:59 attraction to Joseph and asked 21:01 him to engage in an adulterous 21:03 affair and Joseph chose to 21:05 stick to his ethics and say no, 21:07 and next thing you know, Joseph 21:09 goes from being, you know, at 21:10 the height in the house to then 21:13 he's in prison. 21:14 But even though he was in 21:15 prison, he again rises in his 21:19 position in prison and ends up 21:20 having good relationship with 21:21 the guard and ends up being, 21:24 you know, like a top inmate in 21:27 prison and then he goes from 21:28 that to meeting someone and 21:30 saying, "Hey, when you get out, 21:32 you know, mention me to the 21:33 king," so there's this hope and 21:35 that doesn't happen and he 21:37 stays in prison for years, for 21:39 about two years, but he doesn't 21:41 lose all of his hope and then 21:43 he gets out and he helps 21:44 Pharaoh and then he's in a very 21:46 high position. 21:47 So just that story of the ups 21:51 and downs and, you know, not 21:53 just life's little 21:54 vicissitudes, but life's major 21:57 trauma's that Joseph, that he 22:00 experienced and that he comes 22:02 out kind of thriving, that's an 22:04 incredible story or resiliency, 22:07 but also a story of what can 22:09 happen when you have that 22:10 loving father, not just the 22:12 loving parent, but he had a 22:14 loving, you know, heavenly 22:16 Father, which is the first, you 22:18 know, major step in building 22:20 resiliency and also he had 22:23 God's favour. 22:24 So when I think of resilience, 22:26 I think of the story of Joseph. 22:28 >> I couldn't help thinking 22:29 about the acronym that you used 22:30 in the beginning of the 22:32 program. 22:33 Joseph was really A. B.O.S.S. 22:36 >> He was A. B.O.S.S. 22:37 Very resilient, and he ended up 22:39 being The Boss. 22:42 But I also think of a Bible 22:43 verse that really encourages 22:44 me, it's from Romans chapter 22:47 12, verse 2, and in that Bible 22:49 verse it says, "Do not copy the 22:51 behaviours of this world." 22:53 So in that study that 22:55 Dr. Werner was doing, there were 22:57 children who were at risk and 22:59 some of those children ended up 23:02 in addiction and dysfunction, 23:04 but the other children didn't 23:05 so this idea, "Don't copy the 23:07 behaviour of this world," 23:09 perhaps children or friends, 23:11 etcetera, are going in one 23:13 direction, don't necessarily go 23:15 in that direction, but instead 23:17 let God transform your life by 23:19 changing the way you think and 23:22 then you'll know the will 23:23 of God. 23:24 So with resilience, most of it, 23:26 there are actions that you can 23:27 take and we're gonna talk about 23:28 some of those tools, but a lot 23:30 of it is mindset, it's the way 23:32 we think and that's why I love 23:33 that verse, "Allow God to 23:35 change the way that you think," 23:38 and through that, He will give 23:40 you the resilience. 23:41 So I find the story of Joseph 23:43 encouraging and I find that 23:45 Bible verse just full of 23:46 wisdom. 23:47 >> Can you share with us any 23:50 tools or strategies of how we 23:53 can build our confidence and 23:55 resilience? 23:57 >> So I have a lot of tools and 23:58 strategy, we all-- strategies, 24:01 we already talked about the 24:03 four discoveries by Dr. Werner 24:06 and the three things that 24:08 Dr. Norman Garmazy had 24:11 discovered as well, but on top 24:13 of that, there are little things 24:15 that you can do, a lot of them 24:16 have to do with mindset that 24:18 make a big difference. 24:19 So when we are feeling 24:21 depressed or we're not feeling 24:23 resilient, meaning we're 24:24 feeling hopeless, we tend to 24:27 carry ourselves in a down-- 24:29 we're feeling down and we carry 24:31 ourselves in a downward way. 24:33 So we carry ourselves like 24:34 this, we'll walk like this, 24:36 we'll sit like this, and your 24:39 brain responds to your posture. 24:41 So when you're like this, if I 24:43 stayed like this for long 24:44 enough, my brain probably would 24:46 start secreting stress 24:48 hormones, cortisol, adrenaline, 24:50 I'm telling my brain that I'm 24:53 stressed and worried and 24:54 anxious and maybe afraid. 24:56 But you can shift your posture. 24:58 Woo, that feels better! 25:00 When you're like this your 25:02 brain's going to respond, "Oh, 25:03 okay, something's different," 25:05 and your brain will release 25:07 endorphins, serotonin, 25:08 dopamine, and those are the 25:10 bliss hormones. 25:11 You feel better and when you're 25:13 in that state you can see 25:14 things differently. 25:15 So something that helps to 25:17 build resilience is just 25:19 shifting your posture. 25:21 Something else that helps with 25:22 the secretion of those 25:24 hormones, serotonin, 25:25 endorphins, dopamine, so 25:27 serotonin's like the happiness 25:29 hormone, dopamine is like the 25:30 pleasure, satisfaction, reward 25:33 hormone, endorphins are the 25:36 "feeling no pain" hormone, so 25:38 that combination is like bliss, 25:41 but just what you're doing 25:42 right now, René, laughing and 25:44 smiling. 25:45 Laughing and smiling cause the 25:46 release of those hormones. 25:48 So the more we laugh and the 25:49 more we smile, I know you're 25:51 saying well, you're in a 25:52 difficult situation, you don't 25:53 wanna laugh, even smiling can 25:55 shift your brain chemistry and 25:57 that can help you to see things 25:59 a little bit differently. 26:01 There are two or three other 26:03 things that can help. 26:04 One of them is with positivity, 26:06 it's avoiding seeing the 26:08 situation as insurmountable, 26:11 meaning you view it as a 26:12 mountain that's so much bigger 26:14 than you and you can't climb 26:15 that mountain, it means you 26:17 feel like it is impossible. 26:19 But there's a beautiful Bible 26:21 verse that says, "With man it 26:22 is impossible, but with the 26:24 Lord, all things are possible." 26:27 So leaning on the Lord so He 26:29 can help you to know it's 26:31 possible. 26:32 So avoiding a sense of 26:34 insurmountability. 26:37 >> Thank you very much, 26:38 Dr. Plummer. 26:39 Before we go, I wonder if I 26:40 could ask you to pray for our 26:41 viewers specifically that they 26:44 may be struggling to build this 26:47 confidence and resilience, that 26:49 you can pray for them that God 26:50 will give them that ability. 26:51 >> Amen, definitely. 26:53 Let's pray. 26:54 Heavenly Father, Lord Jesus, we 26:56 thank You so much, Lord, 26:57 because You are our Father and 26:59 we were made in Your image. 27:01 We thank You because You are 27:02 the loving heavenly Father that 27:05 we need so that we can have 27:07 resilience. 27:07 I just wanna pray and ask, 27:09 Lord, that every viewer, 27:10 everyone listening, can learn 27:13 to depend on you, can have a 27:15 stronger relationship with you 27:17 and within their own hearts and 27:19 their own locus of control, 27:21 they can build more resilience 27:23 through You. 27:24 Lord, Your word says that with 27:25 You all things are possible and 27:27 I pray that everyone will come 27:28 to know that. 27:29 We place these things in the 27:31 name of Jesus Christ our Lord 27:32 and Saviour, amen. 27:33 [MIKE & RENÉ] Amen. 27:34 >> Dr. Plummer, thank you very 27:35 much for coming on It Is 27:36 Written Canada today. 27:38 >> Thank you. 27:41 >> Friends, we want to 27:42 recommend to you this little 27:44 book, our free offer, entitled 27:46 I Want More BLANK In My Life. 27:49 >> You fill in the blank. 27:51 I want more confidence and 27:53 resilience in my life, or I want 27:55 more peace, freedom, joy, hope, 27:58 rest, security, you name it. 28:02 This little book can help you 28:04 find what you're looking for. 28:07 The Bible tells us that Jesus 28:09 put His confidence fully in His 28:12 Father's word when He declared, 28:15 "It is written, 'Man shall not 28:17 live by bread alone, but by 28:20 every word that proceeds out of 28:22 the mouth of God.'" 28:24 >> Instead of viewing failure 28:26 like "I am a failure," perhaps 28:28 you failed at something, again, 28:30 that disconnection, but then 28:32 looking at that failure, what 28:34 can I learn? 28:35 What are the positive things 28:36 that I learned in this failure, 28:38 how can I apply them and being 28:40 willing to cultivate, like, 28:42 wisdom around the failure, but 28:45 not a adopt an attitude of 28:47 negativity. 28:48 So I become wiser, but I don't 28:51 become negative. |
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