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Series Code: LTBW
Program Code: LTBW000005A
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00:35 Hi, I'm Dr. Kim and welcome to "Live to Be Well"
00:39 In our society today, we look at our young people 00:43 and they are bombarded with social media, the trappings 00:46 and temptations. 00:47 I think about my own children and how they are impacted 00:51 by all the different entities of our society. 00:54 Well today I wanted to interview a young man and look at 00:58 a new vision - his new direction in his life, 01:01 and where it is taking him, but also - what type of 01:05 choices is he making in his life. 01:08 I want YOU to have an opportunity to hear 01:11 his vision. 01:12 I want to welcome... Andrew Scarborough! 01:15 How are you today? 01:16 I'm all right, thanks for having me. 01:18 Oh, you bet - let's talk about how we first met... 01:21 Now, you know, Andrew is a very interesting young man. 01:27 How old are you? Twenty-one. 01:28 Twenty-one... No, you are 45, okay, I keep telling you. 01:31 Fifty, I think it's 50. Is it 50, you know? 01:33 You have that "old soul" about you and I remember first 01:36 meeting you and you came to me as your therapist, 01:40 and you're still with me... 01:42 I can't get rid of you, you know, what is it, all right, 01:44 but I take it as a complement. 01:46 But your mother felt there was something going on in your life, 01:51 and she wanted me to talk with you. 01:53 And we connected and then we disconnected and then one day 01:57 I got a call from you that you needed to see me again. Yep 02:02 Can you tell me what happened? 02:03 Well, I was in a relationship with a young lady, 02:06 and it ended badly, so it was just a little bit of 02:10 navigation that needed to happen, but it couldn't 02:13 be done on my own, so I felt I needed to 02:16 reach out to someone else, 02:17 so that was the reason for the call. 02:19 What happened in the relationship? 02:21 We were in the relationship for about 3 years. 02:24 We met when... Well, we were originally in 02:26 middle school together; we lost contact 02:29 for a little bit, then we re-contacted and everything was 02:34 fine - it was a 3-year period and then there was 02:38 infidelity in the relationship on her part and it was just 02:41 weird navigating that because, as a kid, you think 02:45 if you throw everything and you do everything 02:46 the right way, then you're supposed to have everything 02:49 be done the right way to you as well and it's not the case 02:51 with life all the time, so it was trying to navigate 02:54 when doing the right thing and the wrong thing still happened. 02:59 You were quite young, you were in a sexual 03:02 relationship with this young lady? Correct, yeah. 03:04 That's a lot of responsibility. It is. 03:07 What is the draw with our young people today that are engaging 03:13 in premarital sex and in your case, why? 03:17 Well in my case, I had actually made a decision to abstain 03:20 from sex until... I wanted to do it until marriage, 03:24 but that wasn't the case. 03:27 We were together for 3 years, it was about a 2-year period 03:30 into our relationship when we actually did decide to 03:33 go into any sexual act. 03:35 Once that happened and once it often took place, 03:42 The draw that was different from me than I think 03:45 it may be for other young men. 03:47 The draw for me was - I own a business, there's a lot 03:51 of things I do - it was moving, it was more of a release 03:54 to get away from something. 03:56 So that was what it was for me. 03:58 For other young men, I can't speak to exactly, 04:01 but I think that it may be the same thing - it's more of a 04:04 release in not knowing how to cope with certain things. 04:07 Do you think that you can be in a relationship, 04:11 and let it be a platonic relationship, nonsexual? 04:14 Inciting now, it's difficult, but I think it's possible. 04:18 Just because it's difficult, doesn't mean it's not possible. 04:20 It's not possible. 04:21 Tell me about your family and your relationships with them 04:25 and what led to your starting your own business? 04:28 Well, my family background is my grandfather is a professor, 04:33 my father and mother - they met when they were about 15. 04:36 They've been together for I think it's 28 years in total, 04:39 married for 25. 04:41 My education background is private school up until 04:45 I think it was 12- 13, then we moved to Vegas. 04:48 Education then got a little bit choppy. 04:51 When we came back from Vegas, it was... 04:55 going there was a little bit of a culture shock, 04:57 4 thousand kids in one school going from... 05:02 In one school? In one school 05:03 4 thousand kids in one school. 05:04 And like coming from Lansing, Michigan to Vegas, 05:08 it was a huge culture shock, so navigating that 05:11 as a kid was a little bit difficult. 05:15 How many siblings? 05:16 There are six of us all together; 3 boys, 3 girls. 05:18 And where are you in that? I am the third. 05:20 You are the third. Yeah, I am the third. 05:22 Are you all close? 05:24 We used to be a lot closer, of course, there are six of us. 05:26 We used to actually sleep in the same bedroom growing up. 05:29 Really? Yeah - there was a 6-bedroom 05:32 house - we all had our own room, but we all slept together 05:35 in my older sister's room. Really? Yeah. 05:37 ... Until I was about 13 and I was like, 05:40 "Nah, that's enough of that." It's enough of that.. yeah. 05:42 Yeah, it gets hot piling on each other, yeah. 05:44 Okay. Enough of that. 05:45 But I think the background for me - the reason I decided 05:50 to open my own business is because I've had jobs 05:53 that I've been fairly successful at, but making money for other 05:57 people was never really an attractive thing to me. 06:00 If I had an idea and I presented it and it made money, 06:03 you don't get a cut-in on the things that you presented 06:06 that came from you, so that was never like a 06:10 "Yay, let's make money for other people," 06:12 like NOT something I enjoyed. 06:14 We talk about, in your therapy sessions, 06:16 and we meet weekly and, you know, for you to be 06:19 a young African man coming to counseling 06:22 to deal with things, you know. 06:24 I know, I would text you and I would say, "Are you coming?" 06:26 "Yes, I will be there," and I come out of my session 06:29 and you're sitting right there. Yes 06:31 And, you know, dealing with the vision... 06:34 What is your vision for your life, right now, 06:37 because you're young, but you're like an old soul. Yes 06:40 My vision for my life right now is just for my life to matter. 06:44 Family is extremely important to me because of the fact that 06:48 it's a legacy that you leave on. 06:51 So having something to leave, even when I'm gone 06:55 it's extremely important and the fact that I want everything 06:58 I touch to matter. 07:00 See, that's what I'm saying, "old soul," 07:02 that's an old soul answer, all right? 07:05 So looking at the vision, because people can have a 07:09 vision, but if you don't act on that vision. Exactly. 07:12 All right, because I could be a visionary, 07:14 but am I going to be an actionary, you know, 07:16 that's a word - like where does this word come from? Right. 07:19 How do you act on your vision? 07:22 Do you write it down? Do you.. you know, 07:25 because you're not a person who just does things. No 07:28 You are not like that... 07:29 Well, acting on a vision for me is just literally day-by-day. 07:32 There's nothing that happens in a day that you can't 07:36 make something out of. 07:38 And, I don't believe in wasting days - meaning that if 07:41 today is today - I can do something for my tomorrow. 07:46 I can still enjoy today, but that does not mean 07:48 that I have to live in it completely. 07:52 I got lectured by my mom one time.. she was like, 07:54 "You just need to live in the now - live in the now." 07:56 I understand that, but at the same time the now 07:59 isn't completely right now. 08:01 We're not promised tomorrow, but there is the 08:04 prospective of tomorrow. 08:06 So if there is a prospective of tomorrow, 08:08 that means I still need to prepare for it slightly. 08:11 It doesn't mean that I have to run toward it or want to be 08:13 there now, but it is there. 08:16 But the Bible says, "Tomorrow will care for itself." 08:18 It will, yes, yes. 08:20 And if we trust in God, Proverbs 3:5-6, 08:24 "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, lean not 08:27 to thy own understanding and in all thy ways, 08:29 acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path." 08:31 You better say it now, all right? 08:32 Absolutely, but that being said, things that be for today, 08:37 the money I make for today, I can't even spend it all today. 08:39 I'll still have it someday tomorrow. 08:42 So why is it that young people your age or even 08:45 in their early 20s, later 20s, they can't find that 08:49 vision - they don't know where they fit. 08:51 They can't find that niche to move - what is it? 08:54 I think it's through talking to other friends, 08:59 through talking to other people, it's, honestly, because 09:01 there's... I blame it on the media - kinda, 09:07 like growing up, we watched movies, growing up we 09:09 watched shows and you'll see people and they'll be 09:13 represented in a certain group. 09:15 But when you realize that people are multifaceted, 09:18 and they don't all fit in that certain group, 09:20 if you fulfill.. Say you're a jock 09:22 and you fulfill things athletically, 09:24 you may still be able to sing. 09:25 If you're a singer and you don't fulfill things athletically, 09:29 you may still be able to thrive in another aspect. 09:31 You don't have to be one thing all the time - that's not 09:35 how anyone is designed. 09:37 You know, it's something you said that - I was watching 09:40 television and this young man was a physician, 09:43 and he had a beautiful voice, he could sing, 09:46 and they were surprised that he was a physician. 09:48 So we should not just assume the people cannot 09:53 mainstream into other and be multifaceted, all right? 09:56 What other aspirations do you have for your life? 09:59 There's tons - I love to cook. 10:02 You a good cook? Yes! Yes! 10:04 You vegan? No. 10:05 You knew I knew that. You know I knew that. 10:07 You know I'm not. You know, you know... 10:08 You know, I'm trying to get Jason Bradley, you know 10:11 the general manager's son, I'm trying to get him to 10:13 understand the importance of being vegan. 10:15 He said he's gotta have his chicken, you know. 10:17 You gotta have your chicken too? 10:19 Actually for me it's salmon. Salmon! 10:21 Salmon is actually my niche. My last guest, he did like... 10:23 Really? Yeah. 10:24 You can cook it well? Absolutely! 10:26 I used to enjoy salmon, but I gave that up. 10:27 I enjoy it. Really? Barbeques? 10:30 It doesn't matter. No, I don't like, nah... 10:32 I'm not a fan of barbeque. Really? No, not at all. 10:35 So, okay, what else, what else do you know? 10:37 Do you consider yourself a chef or just a cook? 10:40 I couldn't see myself as a chef. 10:41 I've actually tried my hand at that... No, no. 10:44 I like design, I'm extremely intrigued by design, 10:48 architecture, buildings, realty, owning real... 10:53 Ah - help me. Real estate. 10:54 Real estate - yes. 10:56 So, things like that I'm incredibly interested in. Okay. 10:59 My business now, it just started because it was the cheapest 11:01 option. What do you mean? 11:03 It was the cheapest option out of all the things that 11:05 I wanted to do - I looked at one of them and said... 11:09 "Where could I start right now." Um hm 11:11 So that's what I started right now, doing today. 11:14 I can do that and let's see where that takes me. 11:17 How much did it cost you, if I can ask, in starter costs? 11:20 Around $3,000. Wow! 11:22 Can you see that... if young people could just 11:25 save their money, have a vision, add on it, 11:29 something can materialize from it. 11:31 Yes, absolutely and it's not even this... I hate to say it, 11:34 but it's not even that hard. 11:35 It's not a saving-the-money from day-to-day thing, 11:38 my first job was a small restaurant and I 11:42 would just get a check and I would just buy supplies. 11:45 It was accumulative, like one day I would have this, 11:47 one day I would have that, and then suddenly I had 11:49 enough supplies to go out and do these things, 11:52 and to start the business that I wanted to start. 11:54 Okay, so are the juices natural or are they made 11:59 with sugar - what is it? 12:00 It is a beverage company, so it falls under 12:03 a broad-spectrum leaving us room to actually 12:06 dip and dab in certain things. 12:07 We like to use teas as flavorings. 12:10 We like to do naturals and it is all natural. 12:13 It's all natural. Yes, it's all natural. 12:15 We do use sugar - there is sugar added, 12:16 but there are no preservatives added besides 12:18 natural preservatives like sugar, salt and those things 12:21 that actually help it maintain a shelf life. All right. 12:25 Have you ever tried beet sugar? 12:26 I have not. Or beet sweetener? 12:28 No, we use 100% natural organic cane sugar. 12:31 Is that right? Yes. 12:33 So we've got to find a way for people like myself, 12:36 you know, because there's a huge market for people 12:39 who do not use sugar. Absolutely! 12:41 And honestly, we have tried it without sugar, 12:44 it's just not the taste that fits the masses, 12:46 but for people like you, without sugar, 12:49 that's totally fine. Right! 12:50 I would buy it, I would support it. 12:54 Buying into an African American business... 12:56 you support my business! Yes! 12:58 You know, yes you do, alright? Laughter 13:01 And I think you bought these shoes - no, okay! Laughter 13:04 You know, but looking at the climate of change among 13:08 young people, alright, do you think... 13:10 You know, you just recently met someone and we're 13:14 really pacing our self carefully. Yes, absolutely. 13:16 In the counseling process, I'm holding you accountable, 13:20 we're not going to make these same mistakes again. No. 13:22 Because you are still very fragile. Yeah, absolutely. 13:25 And in that, I'm recognizing that I don't want you to be 13:30 on guard, but I do want you to be aware of your surroundings 13:36 as a young man, alright. 13:38 Now, this person - you know I'm about to go here now... 13:42 Go for it. Alright. 13:43 We're sprint just like sprint, let's go... 13:46 What is her ethnic background? 13:48 Her nationality is... she is Nepalian actually. 13:52 So it's adjacent to India, but it's its own country. 13:57 And you have not been sexually active with her. No. 14:00 Okay. You are respecting the boundaries of what 14:03 God is saying to you. Absolutely. 14:04 Alright and we talked about that in counseling because 14:07 our first duty is to God, to obey God, 14:10 and if we can obey God, that doesn't mean we're not 14:12 going to have difficulties or challenges, 14:15 but if we can just obey what "thus saith the Lord," 14:18 and He said to abstain from fornication, 14:21 and there are two things God hates... 14:25 Liars and fornication. Yep 14:27 Because it breaks down the family structure. Alright? 14:30 So been there, done that, you've learned something, 14:33 you're gonna move forward. Yep. 14:34 So you're going to be in a class where you say to yourself, 14:38 "I'm gonna wait," alright. 14:39 But let me ask you a question... Go for it! 14:42 "Why not an African American sister?" Laughter 14:45 You know, I'm just trying to understand... 14:48 Our men are very... you know it's 15:1. 14:52 You know in Atlanta and Detroit, I think it's like 12:1. 14:56 There wasn't any, you know, or you don't, 14:58 look at it and you just thought... 15:00 It's not that I'm against it, it's literally the fact 15:02 that I don't look at it. 15:04 I think my generation is growing up where race is becoming 15:09 very blended as it is. In a melting pot. 15:13 Yeah it is but it's weird because I have a strong 15:17 grasp towards race, towards my African American 15:19 heritage, but I do understand that it goes back to the 15:24 multifaceted thing - it is so many other things 15:26 out there and it is hard to look through a lens 15:29 of something that says, "Look at African Americans 15:32 before you look at anything else because of the fact that 15:35 my future wife may not be African American," I don't know. 15:39 She may be, but looking at it is almost looking at it 15:44 with no limits and saying, "So if there is another 15:48 young lady that does not happen to be African American, 15:50 wonderful, if she does happen to be 15:52 African American, great as well." 15:54 See, I'm gonna take these notes for your therapy sessions. 15:57 We need to do some brainwashing here, alright? 16:01 So do you get looks when you're out with her? 16:04 Do other people look at you, how does that make you feel? 16:08 I don't mind. You don't mind. No. 16:10 You know why they're looking at you? 16:11 I do know why and plus I've never fit in anyway, 16:13 so I don't care. You don't care? 16:17 No. Alright, you just don't 16:19 care what people think. 16:20 Was there ever a time where you did care 16:22 what people thought about you? 16:23 Um, well I think insecurity is... 16:26 I think insecurity is different than caring what people think. 16:29 I've always been a little bit insecure, but that is 16:33 due to the fear of what people are thinking. 16:37 Just what people think in general - think what you want. 16:42 Draw whatever assumptions you may, but there's a reality 16:46 to the situation, so yeah. 16:48 You know, your mother said something to me, she said... 16:50 "My son cannot just have any type of therapist." 16:54 When she first told me about you, I was scared. 16:57 I was like, "What's wrong with the child." 16:59 And when I met you, I know you were challenging me, 17:02 you were testing the water, and each time that I 17:08 sit down with you, I mean literally, you know, 17:11 I prepare for our sessions and you see me and we have our 17:15 work cut out for us every week, every hour... 17:18 And each time that you come in, I don't know what to 17:21 expect from you because, again, the mindset - the way you 17:26 think, the way you project, the way your prospective is, 17:29 and I know that comes from your family origin, 17:31 your environment, your relationship with God... 17:34 So let me ask you, you know you got a nice fashion 17:37 sense about you too. Thank you. 17:38 You like to dress. I do. 17:40 You know young people and you like creative dress, 17:44 that "Newbold," New... what is it? 17:45 I... I don't even...I You just like to dress. 17:47 I just like to dress. Okay. 17:49 Now, what about hobbies? 17:51 What do you? Do you play golf, 17:54 racquetball - what do you do? 17:55 I am not into sports, but I am into working out. 17:58 I do workout around maybe 3 or 4 times a week. 18:02 Racquetball, I do enjoy that, but I like to do... 18:06 I lift weights, I like to do a run on the treadmill 18:09 after I'm done, but I like to stay active, 18:12 but bike rides are fun, kayaking. 18:15 Um! You kayak? Yeah. 18:18 See, you know, that never came out in therapy. 18:21 I never got asked that question. 18:22 Oh see, don't put it on me okay? 18:25 So you like that. Uh huh. 18:26 So, but I know you love to eat. 18:28 You know, you always show me pictures every week 18:30 of different restaurants where you go. Um hm 18:32 And you know, because I gotta keep a close eye on you. 18:35 But the other thing is... being prepared for your 18:38 sessions empowered me because you have a mindset 18:43 that has to be challenged, and I cannot 18:46 do what we do... like if you came in my office, 18:49 you know, "Dr. Logan we talked about that 2 weeks ago, 18:53 we've got to move forward to be able to help me 18:56 stay in check and balance." 18:58 How does Andrew stay in balance 19:01 with your life and all that's going on? 19:04 Well, I've learned to keep things in their place, 19:08 if you don't, kinda one thing takes over 19:10 or one fell off by the wayside. 19:13 So, if you don't keep things in their proper place, 19:16 and keeping a close eye on each one of them, 19:18 then everything falls apart... 19:21 But another way is just to have that time 19:23 to just let go of it all. 19:25 I've definitely learned that, through my last relationship 19:29 taught me about control and the fact that I don't have any. 19:32 Whatever happens, happens. 19:34 Just because you do good, that doesn't mean that 19:36 good will be reciprocated to you. 19:40 The Bible says it rains on the just and the unjust, (Come on!) 19:43 so regardless of what happens, you're going to go 19:46 through some type of storm and you just have to accept it. 19:49 There's nothing you can really do about it. 19:50 There's no changing it, so there's no control of the 19:53 matter, so just do whatever you do and whatever happens 19:57 happens. And do it well. 19:59 Exactly. And do it right. Exactly. 20:01 Now, here you are a young man, you attend Bible study 20:05 every week. 20:06 You know, you always come in and tell me you went to 20:08 Bible study. Every Tuesday. 20:10 Every Tuesday - "I can't do my sessions on Tuesday, 20:13 I could see you Wednesday because of Bible study." 20:15 What role does God play in your life now? 20:18 God plays a very big role in my life. 20:22 It's funny because I've never seen God as like 20:27 this big, big thing that I can't touch or I can't obtain. 20:32 I see God as almost a friendship. 20:34 When I pray, it's totally different than when 20:36 somebody else may pray... like I'm talking to you. 20:39 It's like, "Excuse me, I don't like what's going on right now, 20:41 I think we either need to fix it 20:43 or you need to explain to me what's going on." 20:46 Like it's not a... like I said, it's a Friend. 20:49 God is a thing that He walks with you, He sits next to you, 20:54 if you decide to go... I read a chapter a day 20:57 in the Bible because of the fact that I want to stay close 21:00 to and I like to see examples that have been 21:02 set before me already. 21:03 So God is the number one thing in my life, 21:07 and He is close to me as far as a relationship goes. 21:09 Who is your favorite Bible character? 21:12 I can't say one - it would have to be like the three 21:15 great kings - David, Saul and Solomon. Really? 21:18 Those are really three different personalities! 21:20 They are extremely different personalities, 21:21 but they all had the same struggle. 21:23 And what was that struggle? 21:25 You saw it in different ways, played out in different ways, 21:28 but it was all the struggles of power; 21:30 it was a mantle that was set upon them that they really 21:33 no man can endure it, but it was set upon them 21:38 anyway and they had to figure out how to navigate it. 21:40 All of them chose different ways to do it, but there's the same 21:44 physics - there's nothing new under the sun, they all used 21:47 the same ones, but it played out 21:49 differently in each one of their lives. 21:50 And I could see that because my favorite Bible character... 21:53 I have many, but "Esther," and how she went before the king, 21:57 and "If I perish, I perish, but I'm going before the king." 21:59 And looking at how her cousin Mordecai prepared her 22:04 for such a time as this and having to be strong. 22:08 We have to be strong in these last days and being ready 22:12 for Jesus to come. 22:14 You can't get sidetracked, you have to keep 22:18 your eye on the prize and I know that being young, 22:22 gifted and black - there's going to be a lot of attacks 22:26 from the enemy to try to destroy and he is out to 22:30 steal, kill and destroy and you have to do everything you 22:34 can to stay on track; studying your Word, 22:37 Bible study, praying. 22:41 Where does prayer fit in your life? 22:43 Like I said, I pray differently, so prayer is something that 22:47 I feel like you can do anytime, anyplace, anywhere. 22:51 I don't need to sit down or park the car 22:54 or anything like that to pray. 22:55 It's an ongoing conversation. 22:57 If I'm having an ongoing conversation with anyone 22:59 through text, through calls, I can 23:01 just shoot out something and it doesn't need a response 23:03 immediately, but I sent it out anyway. 23:07 So prayer is the same thing, I go off of that... 23:09 Like I don't need to stop doing what I'm doing 23:12 to be able to pray - I can pray now, 10 minutes from now, 23:16 it can last all day. 23:17 And I really appreciate the fact that, being your therapist, 23:21 I can pray with you knowing that I'm a Christian therapist. 23:24 Do you have a favorite Bible Scripture that you lean on? 23:28 I do - that's what I lean on, but my favorite Bible 23:31 Scripture does talk about is actually "Jesus wept," 23:35 my favorite Bible Scripture. That's interesting. 23:36 Why "Jesus wept" - that's only two words, now come on now! 23:39 It's two words and there are tons of other Bible 23:41 Scriptures, but the reason that that's my favorite 23:43 is because it shows the Divinity touching the Humanity of Jesus, 23:51 and it shows like if you read the Scriptures beforehand 23:53 and then read the Scriptures after, it is a beautiful 23:57 story and it's a beautiful recall of what actually 24:01 happened, but you'll see that Jesus steps - not even steps 24:06 out of, He is - like He's human, but He has another calling on 24:11 Him and even though that calling goes beyond 24:14 His humanity, He's still able to be touched by humanity. 24:19 That is amazing. Yeah, He understood what 24:22 was happening, He knew what was going to happen. 24:23 He didn't want it to happen. 24:25 He didn't want it to happen because He prayed for it 24:26 not to happen, but He understood what was happening 24:30 and it was crazy because of the fact that He's crying, 24:32 like He's crying and weeping in a garden, 24:35 and He knows the outcome, but He still cried. 24:39 Do you cry, Andrew? 24:40 ABSOLUTELY! Not often, but when I do, I do. 24:44 That's very transparent of you to share and I've seen your 24:49 heart heavy in therapy. 24:51 I've seen you go through different changes, anxiety, 24:58 stress, depression and you've battled depression, 25:02 and our young people today are committing suicide, 25:06 they're being bullied - they don't know how to deal 25:10 with these problems. 25:11 And, I believe that the Lord is KEY to us handling 25:15 our problems and I commend you to be able to come 25:18 and talk to someone because every week is a different 25:22 concern and you know I have my checklist, you know. 25:26 Did you stay celibate this week? Um hm 25:28 Because I'm holding you accountable and I know 25:30 you will be honest with me. Absolutely. 25:32 And I don't mean to dwell on this, but we are living in 25:35 a generation that social media, television says it's okay 25:39 to have premarital sex, it's okay to smoke weed, 25:42 it's okay to drink, to go to the clubs, 25:44 it's okay to do all these things... 25:47 you know - commit adultery, commit... it is NOT okay 25:50 with God and the standards that you have. 25:53 You have standards. I do. 25:55 Where are your standards? 25:56 It's funny because my standards - they go from the 26:03 person - not from based off of what I believe... 26:05 My standards for myself are set. 26:07 My standard for another person, I need to know you 26:09 before I can set standards for you because of the fact, 26:12 I need to know your best and your worst... 26:14 So, I can't hold you accountable for something 26:16 that I know you're not going to do already. 26:18 That's just in the human side of it, I'm not divine at all, 26:23 so I have no heaven or hell to put you in, 26:25 so I can only hold you accountable for the worst 26:28 I know you already do and the best I know you already do. 26:30 So it's almost like, why would I put those expectations 26:32 on someone that I know will not fulfill them. 26:34 As for myself, I have the highest standards for myself. 26:38 I don't meet them all the time. 26:39 No one reaches the mark all the time, 26:42 but that doesn't mean I bring down the standard for myself. 26:45 Okay. So you're not going to 26:46 allow the standards to be brought down. Absolutely not. 26:48 So your value system, your standards, 26:52 the way you care for yourself... 26:53 You know, you get up, you go to work, you're running 26:57 your business, you are making a difference! I try. 27:00 You like Detroit? I love Detroit. 27:03 Yeah, I do too, it's coming back. 27:04 You know, we're both business owners, you know. Yes 27:07 There's opportunity in Detroit. 27:08 There's a lot of opportunities and people are coming here. 27:11 Closing words to young people to say to them, 27:15 "I'm going to stay on the path." 27:17 To say that "I'm going to stay on the path, or to even 27:20 say that you want to try" is just to keep God first, 27:23 to move within what you're able to do, but to understand that 27:28 God takes up the rest of it. 27:30 So God has our... He controls everything. 27:34 And the things that you can't control, Andrew, 27:36 you have to leave them with God. Absolutely. 27:38 And that's one of the things we've dealt with, you know, 27:41 because you used to get so angry and frustrated, 27:43 but now I look at you, you're so cool, calm, 27:45 and collected - He is just amazing. 27:48 I am excited for what God is doing in your life, 27:51 what's going to happen. 27:52 I want my juice! Alright? You'll get it. 27:55 I want it with beet juice or something 27:57 or beet sweetener, alright? 27:58 I am excited because young people today can look 28:01 at you and say, "If he can be an example, 28:05 then I, too, can try to uphold the standards of Jesus Christ. 28:09 And I just want to thank you for being here. 28:11 Andrew, continue to "Live to Be Well" 28:14 I'm Dr. Kim, God bless. |
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