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Series Code: LTBW
Program Code: LTBW000010A
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00:35 Hi, I'm Dr. Kim and welcome to: Live to be Well.
00:38 Today we're going to talk about: Holding On. 00:42 How do you hold on to God's goodness... 00:45 How do you maintain a relationship with God... 00:49 and how do you obey God 00:51 being an 18-year-old young woman all right, but... with old soul. 00:58 I want to welcome Diamond Kindred to Living Well. 01:01 Thank you for having me. 01:02 Hi Sweetheart, how are you? 01:03 I'm fine, how are you? 01:05 I am good, it is so nice to have you on. 01:07 I'm honored. 01:08 Oh my goodness, well, let's talk about Diamond 01:11 I love your name Diamond... 01:13 and you're doing a new thing with your hair. 01:16 Yes, stepping out the box. 01:17 You're stepping out the box... 01:19 all right, let's talk about... Diamond, you've been a 01:21 Seventh-day Adventist all your life. 01:23 Yes. 01:24 You came from a relationship, 01:27 your mother and father weren't married 01:29 and... but you have a relationship with your father. 01:31 Yes. 01:33 And, how many siblings? 01:34 I have four siblings... 01:36 wait, I included myself, I have three siblings. 01:38 And you're the youngest. 01:40 Yes, I'm the baby. 01:42 All right, what has that been like for you? 01:44 Um, it's good. 01:45 I'm spoiled... so they say... 01:49 I don't think I'm spoiled but I got the "baby treatment" 01:52 so, that was always nice, 01:53 they always have to do... around me... 01:56 or have stuff for me so, that was nice growing up 01:59 I appreciate it. 02:00 So, your father has other children... 02:02 how many other children? 02:03 Two. 02:04 And are you close to them? 02:06 Yes, I am, especially my older brother, 02:07 I'm a little bit more closer to him than my sister. 02:09 All right... all right, 02:11 so, you attended... 02:12 did you attend Seventh-day Adventist Schools 02:14 growing up? 02:15 Yes, I attended Orange Year Academy 02:17 for first and second grade 02:19 and then, my mom took me out and put me in a Charter School. 02:21 In the Charter School. 02:23 Was that... I know you were still young 02:25 but what was that like, growing up and being in Public School? 02:29 It was different from when I was in private school 02:33 because the classes were way smaller 02:35 and it was more time to get connected to the teacher 02:38 versus when I went to Public School and Charter School 02:40 the classes were bigger, about 30 kids in each classroom 02:43 and it's kind of hectic 02:45 when the teacher doesn't really pay attention to just you, 02:48 so, it's like, you're kind of fighting for attention 02:50 and then, you also have to stay on top of your classes and stuff 02:54 and the work that you're doing, so... 02:56 for me, it was a challenge to get to know the teacher 02:59 a little bit but I was always ahead 03:00 when it came to the schoolwork. 03:01 Right, you were very, very smart and still you are. 03:04 Church... you were in the choir... 03:08 Yes. 03:10 "Hands of Praise" 03:11 Pathfinders... 03:12 Pathfinders. 03:14 My mom kept me involved. 03:15 Oh, you were very involved, going to Camp Meeting... 03:17 Faithfully... 03:18 Faithfully, running around those Lake Region grounds, all right. 03:21 So, now, being 18... almost 19... 03:25 what challenges are you facing now? 03:29 Challenge that I face is, staying connected... 03:33 not so... since with God but within the church. 03:37 Hmmm... 03:38 It's more so hard to stay connected 03:40 in my opinion right now as the younger daughter 03:42 because you're always busy, 03:44 so, sometimes you feel like you can't always make it 03:47 but I always... always watch a line even if I don't 03:50 or I pray with my family all the time, faithfully 03:52 so the challenge in... 03:54 challenge could be going to church... 03:56 Yeah, physically being in church... 03:58 not being connected with God... 04:00 my connection with God would never... ever lose... so... 04:02 Let me ask you a question, but if you make it to class 04:05 hello, you can make it to all your different appointments, 04:09 get your hair done, 04:10 why is it a challenge to make it to church? 04:13 Um, well, for me it's like, 04:17 I guess being so tired sometimes 04:21 yeah, but I feel like that's still not an excuse 04:24 so, that's something that I plan on doing better with 04:27 attending church more often like I used to. 04:29 Now the Bible says, 04:30 "Do not forsake the assembling of themselves together" 04:32 that's a command... 04:34 Yeah... 04:35 And the Lord wants us to come together 04:37 so that we can... in the last days... 04:39 we'll grab those things to pull on... grow on... 04:42 that's where we learn our hymns, learn to pray... 04:45 learn to lean on Christ... 04:47 and being in an environment of fellowship, 04:50 that's how you got to know me. 04:52 You didn't just hit and miss, "Where's Sister Nolan?" 04:55 You saw Uncle Arthur and I every week in our rightful place, 04:58 all right, 05:00 you will be over to the house with us. 05:01 Yes. 05:02 We'd be fellowshipping at your home. 05:04 So, the encouragement needs to... 05:06 or the attention needs to be 05:08 "What do I need to do to pace my time management 05:11 so that I am at church?" 05:14 Do you like attending church? 05:17 Yes, I do... I really like attending church, 05:19 I feel like, it's my place to just let go 05:21 and let God come in my life 05:22 and help me during my weekly struggles 05:25 or things that I feel like I can do better with 05:28 so, yes, church is like my woosah with God, so yeah. 05:33 I always get excited when I look to my left 05:34 and I see you all sitting over there 05:37 and we're signing to each other 05:38 and I saw you this past Sabbath 05:43 get up... and again reconnect your life to Christ. 05:47 Yes. 05:48 Why? 05:50 I feel that sometimes I can feel like I'm falling away 05:53 or I can feel like I'm pulling away from God, 05:56 not so much He's pulling away from me 05:57 but I'm pulling away from Him 05:58 so, sometimes I feel like, 06:00 "Yes, I need to re-dedicate myself to Him, 06:01 I need to give myself away again, 06:03 because I could be falling off 06:04 so, I know that He's... I know He's never leaving me 06:06 but sometimes I feel like I can be pulling away from God 06:08 a little bit... so I always want to stay connected with Him 06:10 so I always try to push myself more closer to Him. 06:13 Do you feel a tug-of-war with Satan trying to pull you 06:16 with social media... 06:18 with all the different temptations out there? 06:22 Yes, it's a challenge but I know that 06:25 when he tries to pull me, I just stay looking at God 06:28 so, with social media and things like that, 06:30 I try to put more to a positive state with God 06:33 versus Satan pulling me towards him 06:36 to make it in a negative aspect 06:37 or trying to turn it to make it more positive. 06:39 Do you pray, do you study your Word every day... every day? 06:42 Yes, I pray every single day, 06:44 study my Word... I try to do every day 06:47 but it can sometimes be a challenge for me, 06:50 my mindset is so fast so I try to... 06:54 I'm trying to do better with that, I am... 06:56 my mom... she is really on my head with it 06:58 she does it faithfully every single day... 06:59 her and my grandparents. 07:01 It's a blessing, that's a blessing. 07:02 I know it's important... 07:03 I study the Sabbath School lesson in our Quarterly 07:06 and I've learned so much by taking time 07:10 to just spend with God 07:11 like, quiet time with God... 07:13 now, let's do some transparency, all right, 07:16 now, you're 18 years of age... and very attractive young lady. 07:21 Diamond: Thank you. Kim: You're very welcome... 07:22 have a nice style about you. 07:24 Diamond: Thank you. Kim: You are very welcome. 07:26 Young men... are you still a virgin? 07:29 Diamond: Yes. Kim: Really? 07:31 Yes, my mom, she's heavy on it, 07:33 especially with my whole family 07:34 but it's not more so because of my family 07:37 it's... because it's in the Bible 07:38 so, I'm very akin to that, 07:40 I feel like in order to stay connected with God, 07:42 you have to give yourself to God... 07:44 that means your body as well 07:45 so, I feel like I can't give my body away to any man 07:47 until he's my husband 07:49 and I don't have a ring on my finger yet 07:51 so, that means my body is still mine and God's, so... 07:53 So being connected... 07:54 Yes staying connected with God. 07:56 All right, now you were in public school in high school. 07:57 Yes. 07:58 And there were a lot of activities on the Sabbath 08:00 and you were in the Dance Program. 08:02 Yes. 08:03 Now, how did you get involved in the Dance... 08:05 because, you know, we as Seventh-day Adventists... 08:07 we don't dance... we don't party... 08:08 at least, we're not supposed to, 08:10 now, we know there are those who are struggling with that. 08:11 Yes. 08:13 So, how did you end in that... up in that class 08:15 versus music or something else? 08:17 So, in 9th Grade, we did an Orientation, 08:20 they had different clubs 08:21 where they thought that we'd be interested in 08:23 and I'm like, "Well, I always wanted to do 08:25 ballet and stuff when I was little 08:26 so, let's give it a try, 08:28 so, I signed up for the audition 08:30 but they ended up putting me in the dance class 08:32 and then, from there on, 08:33 I ended up going into Dance Workshop 08:35 where we were like the highest level of the dance 08:38 so we did mostly contemporary 08:40 and then I was in another smaller group that did Hip Hop 08:42 so, yeah. 08:44 And then these activities fell during the week 08:47 or were they sometimes on the Sabbath... Friday evenings? 08:50 Some of them were during the week 08:52 and sometimes they did fall during the weekend 08:54 mostly on... our concerts were mostly like, Saturday evenings 08:57 so... 08:59 Anything during Sabbath... church hours? 09:02 We would have to go to practice 09:04 like, at 3 o'clockish... 09:05 so that would kind of be like, right after church... 09:07 and so, they did know that I was Seventh-day Adventist 09:11 and I would rehearse and then I would like sit off 09:14 until it was time to perform 09:16 which would be around, like 7 o'clock, so... 09:18 usually the sun would be down by then 09:20 except for... closer to like, the summertime. 09:21 So that you didn't have it during the summer time 09:23 but closer to the summer. 09:24 Yeah, it was a little later. 09:25 So, how did you and God work that out? 09:27 I mean, where you just contributed... 09:30 "I'm a teenager, I'm going through this thing, 09:32 God have mercy on me" 09:33 but did you feel like God was saying something to you 09:36 because you knew... 09:38 Yeah, I felt like... um... it was... 09:42 it was something that I had to personally talk to God about 09:46 so I did talk to Him about it and like, for me... 09:48 dance... to me was like giving a message 09:51 so, I would... God would move through me 09:53 as I was showing the message to other people 09:55 because sometimes, 09:56 dance can connect with people in different ways 09:57 so, I felt like, for me, my challenge was the time... 10:01 The Sabbath... 10:02 The Sabbath, yeah, the timing of the Sabbath. 10:04 Because God says... we keep the 7th day Sabbath. 10:05 Yes, how we keep it holy 10:07 and so, I felt like that was upon me... 10:09 because I wasn't forced to 10:11 but at the same time I kind of was 10:12 because it was a grade requirement that we did it... 10:15 so, it was kind of like, "What do I do?" 10:17 "Where do I go?" 10:18 But I did pray, every time 10:20 before, during and after the performances 10:22 I asked Him for forgiveness for disobeying the Sabbath 10:25 you know, seeing like.. I committed something... 10:28 Excuse me, I didn't mean to cut you off. 10:29 That's fine. 10:30 But how... even in... being an adult woman myself... 10:32 you know, mature woman... 10:34 you say, "Okay, I'm going to commit this act, 10:37 I'm going to ask for forgiveness... 10:39 but I go back and commit this act again... " 10:41 and we are all... we have all fallen short of God's glory, 10:44 we sin... thank God for His grace and mercy. 10:46 Yes. 10:48 You know, but how do you think God looks at that 10:51 because we're... we... we... you know... 10:52 He is infinite... you know, 10:55 and His divine wisdom but, you know, 10:57 do you ever say, like, you know, 11:00 "God just please help me to get over this" 11:02 or "through this... " 11:04 Yeah, I did... and God knows my heart 11:08 and I just... I felt that it was something 11:11 that I kind of had to do... 11:13 because I'm so passionate about it and I felt like it helped me 11:17 and God was with me through all of it 11:20 and He made me a stronger person today 11:22 because I went through that. 11:23 Okay, I'm going to go back to something. 11:25 Something that you had to do, 11:27 what about when it gets to choices 11:30 because you're getting older 11:31 and you say, "I have to do this, God will understand 11:34 even if it goes against His Commandments?" 11:36 Hmmm... do you think God will honor that and think 11:40 "It's okay with God. " Diamond: No. 11:42 Kim: No... God does not compromise. 11:43 Yeah. 11:45 And God does not make any type of concessions, 11:47 His Word is His Word 11:49 as you are maturing and growing 11:52 and you know what I stand for and I try to be an example 11:55 because I have my Erin and you are older than Erin... 11:58 you're two years older than Erin 11:59 and my concern has always been the example you set for Erin 12:03 and the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, all right. 12:07 Now, recently you did something, can we go there? 12:10 You can go there. 12:11 Oh yeah, because I was just in shock... 12:14 I really cried. 12:16 Oh no. 12:17 I did... because I didn't think you would do that. 12:19 Yes. 12:21 Tell them what you did. 12:22 I pierced my ears. 12:24 You pierced your ears. 12:25 Yes. 12:26 Why would you do that? 12:28 Um, while I was growing up, everybody would ask, 12:31 "Why your ears not pierced?" you know, 12:33 because I was in public school 12:34 so they weren't used to seeing many people 12:36 who didn't have their ears pierced. 12:37 So, I had to explain to them, 12:38 "I'm Seventh-day Adventist, I can't pierce my ears, 12:40 it's a part of my religion" 12:42 and as I grew up, I felt like it was something I wanted... 12:46 well I wished... I always asked my mom... 12:48 she was like... "No, you're not getting your ears pierced, 12:49 you let it go... 12:50 you're not getting your ears pierced, you let it go... " 12:52 and I saw other people in my family 12:54 started getting their ears pierced and stuff... 12:55 I'm like, "You know, I really think I want to do it" 12:58 and at first, I didn't want to do it... I was against it 13:00 but then I did end up getting my ears pierced 13:03 and then, like, shortly after... 13:05 I was like, "I should have never got my ears pierced" 13:07 but it was already too late, yeah, so... 13:09 So, there were some regrets. 13:11 Yes. 13:12 In hindsight, you know, 13:13 this is why again, God knows what He's talking about. 13:16 His Word is true 13:18 and I'm not saying, "Piercing your ears... 13:20 you're going to miss out on the Kingdom" 13:22 because there's going to be a lot of folk... 13:23 I have never had my ears pierced, 13:26 I don't wear jewelry or anything... 13:28 Elder Nolan and I never exchanged wedding bands, 13:31 we didn't do that... 13:33 you know, and he would... 13:34 when he first came in the church he was like, 13:36 "No wedding bands" 13:37 he was happy because he was like, 13:39 "Oooh, I don't have to buy you an engagement ring 13:40 or wedding band, all right... " 13:42 and I think he went and bought golf clubs that time, all right, 13:44 but it's a personal conviction 13:47 because I could lose my soul because I love shoes, 13:50 everybody knows that I love shoes 13:52 and... but we are not to worship or idolize anything but God... 13:56 we are to worship God, He's the God of Israel. 13:59 So, now you've done that... 14:01 how are you holding on to the decisions to walk upright 14:08 you know, do you drink? Diamond: No. 14:10 Kim: Smoke? Diamond: No. 14:11 Kim: All right, any hard drugs? Diamond: No. 14:13 Now Marijuana is becoming legal. 14:15 Yeah, they're trying to make it a norm now. 14:17 A norm... yes they are. 14:18 It's... it's... you're hurting yourself, you know, 14:21 you're killing yourself trying these new things... 14:23 my mom always says, "Curiosity kills the cat. " 14:25 I don't want to be the cat that got killed, so... 14:27 I try to stay away from temptations and things like that 14:31 I can get happy off life, 14:33 I'm fine the way I am... with water. 14:35 It was really interesting this past weekend, 14:38 you spent Sabbath with Erin and I 14:40 and you're loving and I was just the old lady... 14:42 I love it... I love it... Diamond: I love you. 14:44 Kim: And... I'm not that old but okay 14:47 but you always give a presence of laughter and joy. 14:53 Diamond: Thank you. 14:55 Kim: You do, Diamond... and happiness, 14:57 where does that come from? 14:59 I mean, you're just happy. 15:00 My heart... my heart... Kim: Your heart. 15:01 Diamond: My family as well. Kim: Yes. 15:03 Diamond: My family is very goofy so, it's in our genes. 15:06 Kim: You have a beautiful family. 15:07 Diamond: Thank you... thank you, 15:09 I just feel like life would be so much easier 15:12 if you just put a smile to it, 15:13 sometimes, yes, everybody gets ups and downs 15:17 but if you always look at the positive 15:19 or stay focused towards God and your goals 15:20 you can't do anything or be anything but happy so, yeah. 15:24 Kim: Isn't God good? Diamond: All the time. 15:27 Kim: All the time, now let's talk about... 15:29 now you are in... you finished high school... 15:32 Graduated with honors. Diamond: Yes. 15:33 Now you are in the University, where are you attending college? 15:37 University of Michigan, Dearborn. 15:39 And what is your major? Diamond: Chemistry. 15:41 Kim: Chemistry... my Lord! blowing up things, all right, 15:44 so, what do you plan to do, what's your future goal? 15:48 I would like to be a Pediatric Orthopedic... 15:49 Hmmm... 15:51 And I love bones, 15:52 so, that's why I want to be an Orthopedic 15:54 because... 15:55 Hmmm... now that's interesting, you like bones? 15:57 Yes. 15:58 What is it about bones that fascinates you? 15:59 Well, when I was younger, I actually broke my Scaphoid. 16:02 Oh, where is the Scaphoid? 16:03 It's right here. 16:05 Really, I remember that, I remember that... 16:07 And after that, when I saw my X-rays, 16:09 I'm like, "Wow, like, how did that happen? 16:11 and how did they really snap in half?" 16:14 After that... I just knew I wanted to be a part of bones 16:17 and help people... make their bones stronger 16:19 and fix bones... repair bones of younger children 16:21 because our children are... are our future 16:23 so, if we don't take care of our kids, what are we doing? 16:25 Right, I broke my Patella, you know, 16:28 and it broke in four places 16:30 Uncle Arthur told me to walk back towards him 16:33 I was on Shelly Bay Beach in Bermuda 16:36 and I said... in Bermuda... on vacation, 16:39 I said, "I got this. " 16:41 And he said, "Kim, come back, come back" 16:43 and I was like, "Please, I know what I'm doing" 16:46 slipped on the algae, I was in gym shoes... not heels 16:50 and I went down and it just completely opened, 16:56 broke... four places... 16:58 and they were literally gathering my knee cap off... 17:02 Diamond: Off the ground. Kim: Yes... 17:03 and he said, "Will you listen to me next time?" 17:06 I'm like, "You should have been more stronger 17:10 and told me, 'Kim don't do that'" 17:11 because I didn't listen. 17:13 So that is always a reminder, I had three surgeries 17:17 so you took me to that with bones... and... 17:19 I've got it... and guess what? 17:21 They cut my nerves... and that's why I can wear heels. 17:24 Oh, see... 17:25 See and they cut the nerves... 17:27 Something good came out of it. 17:28 Something good... girl... give me some love 17:29 because if I wore flats... it's just real painful for me, 17:33 I can only be in gym shoes for a short time 17:36 but heels, I can stay elevated... 17:37 Yeah, because your foot's on a... 17:38 That's right... 17:40 and that's why you still see Aunty Kim in all these heels. 17:42 Looking fabulous every Sabbath. 17:43 I want to thank you, got to keep it right... 17:45 so, now, you plan to stay 17:48 and go back into medical school there? 17:50 I do want to go to either Loma Linda 17:53 or Johns Hopkins for medical school... 17:54 Well, all right. 17:56 But... 17:57 See, this is Dare to Dream, dream big, girl. 17:59 So, that's my first plan but if it's not in God's plan, 18:04 then I will stay in the University of Michigan 18:06 for medical school as well. 18:07 All right... praise the Lord. 18:09 All right, dating... 18:10 what is a good age for young people to start dating? 18:14 I say, "35... " 18:15 Oh, 35... 18:17 well, I don't think it's like a particular age... 18:22 well, of course not... in the lower teens... 18:24 Like 15... 16, that's too young. Diamond: Too young. 18:26 Kim: I'm glad you said that. 18:28 Diamond: But I feel like, it comes when you're ready... 18:31 The Maturity... 18:32 Yeah, when your maturity hits, 18:33 so, it's all about when you feel like you're 18:35 comfortable enough to start dating... 18:37 like, right now, I don't feel comfortable enough 18:39 to start dating... I think... that's something for 18:42 a few more years... so yeah. 18:46 So, that's 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25... 18:49 okay, all right, few more years... 18:50 I would say 25... 18:52 Because, you know, literally you have to finish College... 18:54 Yes. 18:55 Medical School... Diamond: That's another 8 years 18:56 Kim: Residency... if you do a Fellowship... 18:58 so you've got... 19:00 and some young ladies do marry and young men marry... 19:03 Medical School... Dental School, Law School... 19:05 but it's good to have all that behind you... 19:07 so you can focus in on your marriage 19:10 and then having children. 19:11 Yes. 19:13 And you don't have to worry about all that... 19:14 it's difficult to go to school and married and all that 19:18 that's a lot of responsibility. 19:19 It's a lot of... and work. 19:20 And work... I have a lot of friends 19:23 who have not completed and we call it: ABD... 19:27 you know what ABD is? Diamond: No. 19:28 Kim: All but dissertation... 19:30 Oh, okay... 19:31 And things have come whether it's finances, 19:34 couldn't complete the program, 19:37 children, parents, lot of reasons, all right... 19:41 and I was thankful 19:43 that I was able to complete them and move forward. 19:47 Let's talk about what type of young man 19:50 you think you would be interested in. 19:52 Okay, he has to be a God-fearing man, 19:55 he has to have God at the top of his list. 19:57 Now, does he have to be Seventh-day Adventist? 19:59 I prefer if he is Seventh-day Adventist. 20:02 Amen... "Be thou not unequally yoked. " 20:04 And I want to have an equal yoke. 20:06 You want to have an equal yoke, that's nice. 20:08 Yes, you have to have education. 20:09 Kim: Education... Diamond: Family. 20:11 Does he have to be a doctor, or lawyer... or dentist... 20:13 or just have education... under-grad degree... or... 20:16 Yes, a degree... a degree, 20:18 working towards something, 20:20 you can't just be comfortable in life, 20:22 you have to always be pushing to do better with yourself... 20:24 Okay, I'm sorry, pushing towards... 20:27 but what if he has his own business... 20:29 film production... or he has a lumber business 20:32 or paper business... that's big money. 20:35 Yeah, if that's what he loves to do, 20:37 then who am I to interfere 20:39 with what he loves to do with his career? 20:40 Kim: Okay. Diamond: So... yeah. 20:42 Kim: If he makes furniture... 20:43 somebody has to make these chairs. 20:45 Obviously, somebody has to do the job... 20:47 so, if that's what he loves to do, then yes 20:49 but if he has education... he has to be family oriented... 20:51 because I love my family, 20:53 family is second on my list because God is always first 20:56 but they have to... they have to just be connected, 20:59 they have to always be working harder... so... 21:01 So, you have a nice little crew 21:03 with your girls at church and Erin... and the girls... 21:06 they come over to the house... Diamond: Yes. 21:08 How important is your Christian... 21:10 Seventh-day Adventist support your girls... 21:13 It is very important to me 21:15 because they've been with me through my lowest times, 21:17 they literally have been with me all of my life 21:20 so my connection with them is very important to me... 21:23 to stay connected with my friends from church 21:25 because they are the ones who I can relate with 21:27 in certain situations 21:28 that people from outside world cannot 21:30 and they also help me to witness to other people 21:32 like we're... we are each other's backbones... 21:34 we pick each other up where the other one falls so... 21:36 And you do... I've seen that. 21:38 Now, you're so cute when you said, 21:39 "all my life... " like you're 85 years old... 21:42 all right... 18 years old, all right. 21:45 Let's talk about the importance of the standards of the church. 21:51 Okay. 21:52 I know we practice not wearing jewelry 21:55 or abstaining from alcohol and nicotine 21:58 and we... um... 22:00 going to places that are not conducive 22:03 to the teachings of the Word of God... 22:06 Yes. 22:08 Entertainment... in these times what do you do for entertainment 22:12 because... now we're not supposed... 22:14 I don't go to the movies... 22:16 I do not go to the movies, I don't... 22:19 because of things 22:21 and I can't sit that long, to tell you the truth. 22:23 Yeah, I haven't been to the movies in a while either. 22:25 So, you have gone to the movies. 22:27 I have... yes, but recently 22:29 I haven't been going to the movies... they cost a lot. 22:32 I know and you are on a budget. 22:33 You know, college student. 22:35 I paid for your lunch, didn't I? 22:37 I'm thankful for it, it was great, 22:39 but lots of my friends... the same way, 22:41 mostly I hang out with my friends when I have free time 22:43 because... two jobs... I work hard... 22:46 Yes, you're working now. 22:48 Pay all my friends... shopping... I like to shop, yes 22:51 sometimes I do watch television, sometimes... 22:55 Do you like to travel 22:56 or you think you would like to travel in the future? 22:58 I would like to travel, I don't travel as much 22:59 as I probably used to, but... 23:01 Do you have a passport? 23:02 No, not yet, but we're going to get one. 23:04 We have to get one because Aunt Kim's got some plans, yes. 23:06 And I want to be a part of those plans... 23:08 I'll definitely get one. 23:10 Okay... 23:11 But yeah, traveling would be coming in the near future. 23:13 Okay, so this person that you would like to date 23:17 and marry in the future has to have some good qualities 23:22 be able to... you're very articulate... 23:24 to be 18... 23:26 why is that so important because I don't hear you saying, 23:28 "Yay" and all... you say, "Thank you" 23:30 like you're southern grown, "Thank you" 23:32 and such manners... 23:35 I know your family... your grandparents, your aunts... 23:38 I know how important that is. 23:40 That's where I got it from. 23:41 And that's where you got it from. 23:42 They never allowed me to say, "Yay. " 23:45 Yay and naw... what is... how was that... 23:46 They don't like slang, I don't either. 23:48 So, "Yay" "Naw" "Uh huh. " 23:51 They're very, very stern on how you speak 23:55 because you're going to need it in the long run 23:57 with your careers... 23:59 how you speak to people is how they take... 24:01 how you are as a person, so, 24:02 speaking is a key factor in my family. 24:05 I was going to hire this young person 24:07 and they were going to be on the phone 24:09 because I needed to hire two... three new people 24:11 and well dressed... resume looked good... 24:15 and I put them on the phone, put this person on the phone, 24:19 and I stood back just listening... 24:22 and, "Kim Logan on vacation... 24:25 she not ready right now... 24:28 can I help you?" 24:31 Pause... 24:32 And I was like... and I walked in... I said, 24:34 "Can I have the phone for a second please?" 24:36 Because my Receptionist is the first person they meet... 24:39 Who represents you, yeah. 24:40 That's right, and they may say, 24:42 "Well, she hired that person" 24:43 and I spoke to the person and let them know 24:46 that you need to take some classes in communication, 24:50 it is very important, 24:51 I could not do this program on Dare to Dream 24:54 you know, "How you doing... Diam... " 24:56 "You know... lowing lo ah... " 24:58 "Well, let it be... where?" 24:59 I probably couldn't even take that serious. 25:01 I know... it's like really? 25:03 But we see it in our athletes, 25:05 we see it in our communities, 25:07 we see it on television. 25:10 Yes, and some people see it in their households as well. 25:12 Right. 25:13 And I feel like communication starts at home. 25:15 Yes, it does. 25:17 So, before you can even step out the door, 25:18 you should always get your communication from your family, 25:21 like, my mom... she always taught me, 25:23 "Don't use slang because it will hurt you in the long run 25:26 when you have a career. " 25:27 I can't talk to patients... Kim: "Wassup. " 25:28 Diamond: Yeah, I can't say that to my patients. 25:30 Kim: Walk into the room... "ahhh... " 25:31 Diamond: They'll be like, "Is this my doctor?" 25:33 Kim: Right... right. 25:34 Diamond: So, communication is the key of life, 25:36 you have to communicate, 25:37 you have to be able to communicate with the people so. 25:39 Kim: And it's important. Diamond: Yeah. 25:41 Kim: I remember I had a gentleman, 25:44 he was European American... 25:46 Caucasian... and he came to my office 25:49 now, back then it wasn't anything on internet, 25:53 there was no pictures... so he went by the name: Logan 25:56 and that's Irish... 25:57 and so, he came in... he looked at me... he said, 26:01 "Wow! you're African American. " 26:04 And I said, "Well, the last time I checked" 26:06 and he said, "But I was looking for a white therapist" 26:11 and I said, "Well, I'll tell you what 26:14 why don't you sit down, talk with me 26:17 and in an hour... if you're not satisfied, 26:20 you don't have to pay me anything. " 26:21 And he was like, 26:23 "You speak well, I understand what you're saying 26:28 you gave me tools today, 26:30 you diagnosed me today... " 26:32 I was able to let him know what type of stresses 26:34 he was dealing with. 26:35 Do you know, he invited me to do the training 26:38 for the Lutheran School System... 26:40 he invited me to come and do conflict resolution 26:44 at his school... he was a Principal... 26:45 He was at my wedding... I was at his wedding... 26:48 and we became the best of friends. 26:50 Diamond: That's a blessing. 26:52 Kim: Isn't that a blessing? Diamond: That's a blessing. 26:53 Kim: You can't judge a book by its cover. 26:54 Don't lump us all together, 26:56 no matter what our culture or background... 26:58 because we can speak, we can communicate. 27:00 Yes. 27:02 And young people like yourself are being raised 27:04 to be able to represent our communities... our people... 27:08 as a culture. 27:09 Yes. 27:10 All right... let me ask you this. 27:12 Okay. 27:13 What's your role in the church? 27:14 My role in the church right now 27:16 is a person who represents the youth 27:19 because the Pastor knows me very well, 27:21 so, he asks... sometimes, like, "What do the youth like?" 27:26 Or, "What can I do better?" 27:27 So, as being a voice of the youth, 27:30 I feel like that's an important role in the church as it is 27:33 because a lot of youth do not come to church anymore 27:36 and it's a struggle to get people in church 27:38 so, when he sees us... a group of friends together, 27:42 he's just like... he's happy and... 27:43 so, I feel like my role is a person of the youth, 27:47 a person that's living in today's time 27:48 at such a young age is difficult 27:51 so, I think that's probably it. 27:53 And to encourage others to come inside. 27:54 Definitely, yes. 27:55 Well, listen, Diamond, thank you, 27:57 you were amazing... Diamond: Thank you. 27:59 Kim: I want you to know it's important to hold on... 28:01 keep holding on... would you do that? 28:03 Yes, hold on. 28:04 Hold on... hold on in sign language, yes 28:07 and let's see Jesus together. Diamond: Yes. 28:09 Kim: I want to thank you once again 28:10 for being on Live to be Well. 28:12 I want to say to all of you, 28:14 "Hold on and continue to live to be well, 28:17 you can make it, don't ever give up. " 28:20 God bless. |
Revised 2018-04-18