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Series Code: LTBW
Program Code: LTBW000015A
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00:35 Hi, I'm Dr. Kim
00:37 and welcome to Live to be Well. 00:39 Today on our Program, 00:40 we're going to be talking about: Positive Reflections. 00:44 I want to welcome my guest today, Ki'Rah Tyus, welcome. 00:47 Hi, thank you for having me. 00:49 Oh, my little baby, 00:51 I should let them know that I met you 00:53 when you were just four years old 00:55 and you were a part of our 00:57 "God's Hands of Praise" Sign Language Choir... 00:59 and you and your sister, 01:01 so how are you? 01:03 I'm doing good, everything is good, 01:05 can't complain about nothing now. 01:07 You know what? Wouldn't change anything 01:09 because everything's in God's hands. 01:10 Yes Ma'am. 01:12 You know, you're just another old soul 01:14 I have to say, all right, 01:15 so, oh, something just recently happened, what happened? 01:18 Recently happened... 01:20 I had my conference with my girls' group... 01:22 Infinity Girls... it was called The Free Indeed Conference 01:24 and we just basically talked about 01:26 increasing your relationship with God 01:28 and how important it is to keep yourself until marriage 01:31 and knowing your self-worth so it was an awesome time, 01:34 the ladies were... they were blessed with the conference 01:37 and everything... it was just really good... 01:39 people were saying, "I'm so excited about next year" 01:42 so, we're in the process of planning for next year 01:44 but other than that, it was awesome... 01:46 I'm very satisfied for what God did for my first one, 01:50 it was our first one... so it was awesome. 01:52 It was awesome... now you also recently 01:54 graduated with your Associate's Degree. 01:56 Yes ma'am. 01:58 Let's talk about that and what was your field of study? 02:00 Okay, so, I did go to the Community College first, 02:03 it's cheaper to go that way 02:04 than going straight to university. 02:05 I graduated from OCC with my Associate's in... 02:08 And that's Oakwood Community College. 02:09 Yes, Oakwood Community College 02:11 with my Associate's in Applied Arts 02:13 that just took care of all my prerequisites 02:16 for my Nursing School 02:17 because I want to get my Bachelor of Science in Nursing 02:19 and then, I would be going to Oakwood University 02:22 to get my Nurse Practitioner Degree. 02:24 So, you are interested in nursing, 02:26 why do you want to be a nurse? 02:28 Ever since, I was a young girl, 02:30 I've always wanted to be in the medical field 02:32 rather, it was helping animals... 02:33 I went from a Vet to a Pediatrician to NCC ideas... 02:36 whatever it was... it was always within the medical field 02:40 because I love helping people 02:42 and I love helping people feel better, 02:44 you know, so my mom owns a Daycare 02:46 and everything like that... 02:47 so, when the little kids would get hurt, I'm like, 02:49 "Send them to me... I want to make sure they're okay" 02:51 then I'd go ahead put a Band-Aid on it 02:53 but, "Okay, come see Dr. Ki'Rah" 02:55 I've always wanted to be that person 02:58 that people can come to and be like, 02:59 "I know that she can take care of me, 03:01 I know that she can make me feel better" 03:02 so, the field that I wanted to go into is nursing 03:05 because nurses are the ones that are usually... 03:07 are the ones like, face-to-face with people... 03:09 That's true... that's true. 03:11 and helping people making sure that they are okay 03:12 and taking care of everything so... 03:15 and a Nurse Practitioner is like the highest nurse 03:18 that you can go into and what not, so... 03:20 Does that require a Master's degree and everything? 03:23 Yes, so you will basically get you BS 03:25 and then you would go to Nurse Practitioner School 03:28 so, yeah, different segments or different places you can go. 03:33 I can work with the heart, diabetes... 03:35 it doesn't matter which field I want to go into, 03:37 pediatrics is where I will want to go to. 03:39 Okay, you love the children. 03:41 Yes, so, working like in Children's Hospital 03:42 or working in the Pediatrics office, 03:44 working with kids and their care. 03:46 Our topic today is: Positive Reflection 03:49 and we tend to look at our peers or family members... 03:55 our relationships... 03:56 who has been your positive reflection? 04:00 And I know you are a Christian young woman 04:03 and you tickle me when you say, "Ever since I was a young girl" 04:08 like you're 90 years old, all right, 04:10 I'm telling you... okay... 04:12 so, who do you reflect your character through 04:18 and let's talk about Jesus Christ first 04:21 and then your Godly parents. 04:24 Okay. Kim: All right. 04:25 So, I've always been in church all my life 04:28 I accepted Christ when I was around 3... 4 years old, 04:33 and it was a choice I made on my own... 04:35 I came to my dad and said, "Dad, I'm ready... 04:37 I want to know God more, I want to be a part of church more" 04:41 and everything like that 04:42 so, ever since I made that connection for myself, 04:46 I've always been trying to just know more about God 04:49 for myself, 04:51 it's not that my parents forced me, 04:52 it's not that someone was telling me, 04:54 "You have to be a part of the church" 04:55 even though I knew that was the right thing to do, 04:58 it was still my choice to make that decision. 05:01 and a positive... I always wanted to make sure 05:04 that wherever I go, people will see God in me first, 05:07 I don't want them to see Ki'Rah, 05:08 even when I pray, I say, 05:10 "God, decrease me so that you may increase in my life 05:13 so when people see me they see your light... 05:15 they see your grace... 05:16 they see your mercy upon my life" 05:18 and so I want... when people see me, 05:20 I want them, like, "What is on you, I want that" 05:21 you know, 05:23 and I want people to make sure they see me 05:25 so any decision that I make... anything that I say, 05:28 anything that I do, 05:29 I want to make sure that it is pleasing in God's eyes first 05:32 because at the end of the day, 05:33 I'm not here to please anyone else but Him, 05:36 I realized that at a young age. 05:38 Well, let me ask you this, that's a lot of pressure. 05:40 It is. 05:42 And you know, you have people looking at you 05:44 and it's like you're under a microscope 05:47 you can't make a mistake 05:48 and so, how do you deal with the challenges 05:52 or, that type of shifting where... 05:56 "All right, when I walk into a place... 05:59 or I'm in a place where people know who I am... " 06:01 it's like, "Okay... " 06:03 because if this is something you do every day, 24 hours a day... 06:06 then it's there in your character. 06:08 All right, so it doesn't come off, does it? 06:10 No. 06:11 Our walk with Christ should be with us at all times, all right, 06:15 so, what are the challenges you face 06:17 because you're 20 years old 06:19 you know, so, you're not into night clubs. 06:22 No. 06:23 You're not out there doing things, 06:25 you're still a virgin. 06:26 Yes, I am. 06:28 Yeah, all right, and you're proud of it. 06:30 I am... I am very proud of it because it's... 06:33 it's a... you don't find it in a lot of young women 06:36 now in our generation who hold that 06:39 and want to hold it 06:40 because they don't realize how important it is, 06:43 you only have it one time... you know... 06:44 so, why... you know... 06:46 why not wait until the one that God wants you to be with 06:49 for the rest of your life 06:50 but the pressure... and you know how I deal with that... 06:54 it's very... I mean it can get hard at times 06:58 because in our generation, it's all about judgment, 07:01 how you look... what you say... 07:03 who you hang out with... what do you do? 07:05 But I realize that 07:07 I don't really care what people think about me 07:11 as long as I know I'm good in God's eyes, 07:13 so, when I would go to school, I was always the one 07:16 that was like... by myself... 07:18 or I had very, very little friends 07:20 because everyone else wanted to do... 07:22 they wanted to smoke... they wanted to party... 07:24 they wanted to do things like that 07:26 and I'm like, "That's not in me... " 07:28 and if they try to put me in... 07:31 I'm like, "I don't even feel comfortable talking about it. " 07:33 So there was some peer pressure. 07:35 Yes, there was peer pressure, but when it happened, 07:38 I'm like, "I don't even feel comfortable, 07:40 I don't even feel right, it's not something that I... " 07:42 and I'm never ever going to do anything 07:44 that I don't feel right doing 07:46 and if it's not something that 07:48 will put a positive reflection on me, 07:50 or on a guy and my parents... 07:52 I'm not going to do it 07:54 because when people think about you, 07:56 first impression is everything 07:58 and you want to make sure that you leave a positive mark 08:00 and a positive... a positive look upon yourself 08:03 towards other people. 08:05 Because you can't change that, you know, 08:06 first impressions are lasting 08:08 and once they meet you as you walk through the door, 08:11 "Hi, how are you? It's nice to meet you. " 08:13 Yes ma'am. 08:14 So, that's my first impression 08:16 and I remember when you came 08:18 to my home for the first time 08:20 and I was like, 08:22 "What's going on with this little girl" 08:24 and your parents walked through my home 08:26 you looked everywhere... 08:27 and they were comfortable, they stayed for a few minutes 08:30 and it's like... they went out on a date night, all right, 08:33 left the two of you all with me, all right... and Elder Nowlin, 08:36 so, let's talk about how you present yourself in dress 08:41 because Society now says, 08:44 "We need to just be half naked. " 08:46 Right... 08:47 How would you dress, I mean, I look at you now 08:50 just beautifully dressed. 08:51 Yes ma'am, when I think about how I dress, 08:55 I always want to make sure that it's never too revealing 08:58 that it always holds up the standard of a young lady... 09:02 a young woman... 09:03 I don't want people to see me as... like a... 09:07 when people look at me, I want them to be like, 09:10 "That young lady has pride, 09:13 that young lady thinks well of herself, 09:15 that young lady takes care of herself... " 09:17 or "that young lady thinks that she is worth something" 09:20 because when you show your body 09:22 when you have shorts on that's too short 09:25 or when you have tube tops on and everything like that, 09:28 you're giving the... 09:30 you're not giving that feeling or wanting to like, 09:35 "I want to know more about her" you know what I'm saying? 09:37 Like, when you show your... when you show everything, 09:40 they're like, "That's how she is" 09:41 or, you know, like, they can just put on a type of... 09:44 they can think something about you 09:45 because you're showing everything to the world already. 09:48 They'll date you... men will date you... 09:51 "Oh, you look good... you're sexy... " 09:53 Right. 09:54 "You're this and that... " 09:56 but they won't take you home to meet their mother. 09:57 Right... 09:58 Because they know... 10:00 I wish my son would bring someone to my home 10:02 with some shorts on... and a tube top... 10:06 I'm like, "If you don't take her out of my house... " 10:08 Exactly... 10:09 But I want to be a Christian and I want to be... 10:11 maybe I can sit down and talk with her 10:13 and say, "Well, honey... I... " 10:15 I mean, I'd be like, "I can't get past the shorts" 10:17 I would... in my mind, 10:18 but I wouldn't say it, 10:20 "I will try to be very kind and nice" 10:22 but see... if you came to my home with my son, 10:25 I'd be like, "Hi... " 10:27 because again, first impressions are lasting, 10:29 what's going on with the natural look you got going on, 10:33 everyone is coming out of the press 10:35 and... what's going on? 10:36 Well, I always had thick hair 10:39 but I never realized how beautiful or how... 10:43 just everything about my hair is amazing to me, 10:47 I started being natural 2015 10:50 me and my sister did the same thing... the big chop... 10:52 I don't know if you heard of it yet 10:54 when you cut off like, all your natural... 10:55 all like your straight hair so, you know, 10:57 you wet your hair and what not, I used to like... 11:00 all your straight hair and you cut it off... 11:01 and I clipped off about three inches 11:03 and when I first did that, my hair was at my neck, 11:06 now, it's down my back, so... 11:08 but the thing about the natural hair 11:10 is just knowing... and knowing that you're beautiful 11:12 with your natural everything... 11:15 you know, so you know, 11:16 you don't have to wear the weave... 11:18 you don't have to wear... and it's not you... 11:20 this is me... everything about it is me 11:24 and I think, sometimes, women... 11:26 we tend to hide behind that 11:28 because we don't have the hair that we want 11:30 or we don't have the hair like the girl... 11:32 "Oh, she has the... the mixed hair" 11:34 whereas, it just lays perfectly 11:36 and I have the other hair where it doesn't cooperate" 11:39 and everything like that, 11:40 and... natural hair... it just allows you to realize 11:44 how beautiful you really are because this is your hair, 11:48 this is the hair that God gave you. 11:49 Back in the '70s way before you were born 11:52 I think, I might have been born, 11:55 and we... you know... 11:57 it was really about the movement of black people... 12:01 and the Afros... and everyone was really wearing the dashikis 12:07 and... oh, I didn't realize I said dashiki 12:10 that's really dating me here 12:12 and I was there when they went back there... 12:14 the African prince... 12:15 but it really gave us pride... it gave us a sense of well-being 12:20 and we would... I remember... I was in the 8th grade... 12:26 it was... for my 8th Grade Academy graduation... 12:29 my hair was straight, it was long 12:31 and I went with my girlfriend 12:33 and she was like, "You need to do an Afro" 12:36 didn't ask my mother anything... 12:37 when I came back, I had a short Afro, 12:40 my mother just... she didn't know what to say 12:43 and I... I had pride... I felt good... 12:47 I got my "pick" I was picking my Afro out... 12:51 and I think it lasted maybe about... 12:54 I think I had it about at least three years... 12:56 Wow! 12:57 I did... and I... I can appreciate it... 13:01 so, when I turn that golden years... 13:05 I'm not there yet, 13:06 I'm thinking about doing something au naturel 13:09 all right, and I can appreciate that 13:11 you know, 13:13 to give it a different perspective. 13:14 All right, let's talk about siblings. 13:15 Okay, I have an older sister, her name is Kiara... 13:19 I have a younger brother, his name is Christopher, 13:22 we're all very... we're close and everything... 13:25 my sister... we're a part of "God's Hands of Praise" 13:28 and then we left... we left and everything... 13:31 me and my sister... we both are in ministry... 13:34 I would say... we both are on fire for God, 13:37 we want to make sure that this generation understands 13:41 that it's okay to be "on fire" for God 13:43 and it's okay to love God and want to know more about Him, 13:47 you don't have to be ashamed of doing that... 13:49 and my little brother... he's in high school now... 13:52 I can't believe Christopher... he was a baby... 13:56 he was in my Sign Language Class yes, 13:58 I had the opportunity of watching social media 14:03 and you were doing the Program, Infinity Girls... 14:07 and I heard you pray 14:09 and it truly brought tears to my eyes 14:13 because of the love you have for Jesus 14:17 and the way you were ministering to these young girls 14:21 and what an example 14:22 and going back to about being a virgin... 14:25 because you talk about purity to the girls. 14:28 Why do you incorporate purity 14:30 and why is that important? 14:33 It's important because 14:35 God gives us that for one purpose... one purpose only 14:38 that's for union which is marriage, 14:40 it's not to be used... 14:42 or not to be abused... I would say 14:44 and just being whole and one... 14:47 it's so important in God's eyes 14:49 because you only get one body... 14:51 you only get one life... one temple 14:53 and you should want to take care of that temple 14:56 forever... 14:57 so, purity... is just not even... 15:00 not even having sex it's... 15:02 purity is not having sex... not drinking... not smoking... 15:05 not just doing anything harmful to your body 15:08 and it's important because 15:10 that's what God would want us to do. 15:11 He wouldn't want us to have it any other way. 15:13 We need to get back to that, 15:15 of knowing that I am worth something... 15:19 knowing that I am worth more than what you may think of me... 15:22 knowing that I am worth the wait... 15:23 so, if you're not willing to wait for me, 15:25 then you're not the one for me... 15:27 that's everything about purity... 15:30 it's no one respects you... 15:31 you need to respect yourself first. 15:34 As long as you respect yourself first, 15:36 then God is pleased with what you're doing, 15:38 so, no sex, no drinking... no smoking... 15:40 I haven't done none of that myself... 15:42 I'm very proud of that... 15:43 I'm not ashamed of it, 15:45 I will tell anyone in a heartbeat... "I am a virgin. " 15:48 Now, it can get hard at times because Satan can hear you 15:51 and he will want to try to make you fall 15:53 and he will want to try to make you 15:56 get off-track and everything 15:58 but you have to make sure that you stay in front of God... 16:00 seek His face... 16:01 and He will give you evidence you need, 16:03 when you're alone at night, 16:05 you're like, "God, you know, I need you" 16:08 just pray... it might be hard for us 16:10 as young women to do that 16:11 or it might be hard for us as this generation... 16:13 it's not, I guess, "Cool" to pray 16:15 or it's not cool to ask God, 16:17 it's not cool to be in God's face... 16:20 but we also have to realize that God is the One 16:24 who gives us everything that we have... 16:25 He gives us our life, health and strength, 16:27 so, we have to realize that whatever He needs from us 16:31 or whatever He wants from us, 16:32 we should be able to make that sacrifice 16:34 and give it to Him and... I guess I'll say, 16:37 "I'm proud to be a virgin, I'm proud to be pure, 16:39 and everything... " 16:41 and I'm not going to stop until I get the ring... 16:43 "If you like it, you must put a ring on it" 16:46 right... 16:47 All right, so do you have anything that causes you 16:51 fear... are you afraid of anything? 16:55 that would be presented to you, 16:58 like me, I'm afraid... 16:59 I will on get on roller coasters. 17:01 Really? I love roller coasters. 17:03 No, no, no, no, no... I... I made promise to the Lord... 17:05 I was 22 years old, 17:08 I said, "Lord, if you get me off this roller coaster alive, 17:12 I will never get back on one" 17:14 that was at 22... 17:16 And you never went back on. 17:17 Never... I hold purses, 17:19 I will hold everyone's purse, all right, 17:22 walk around... and just drink my water and keep it moving. 17:25 Keep it moving. 17:27 And just, "Hi... " and keep it moving 17:29 so, I don't do roller coasters, 17:31 I don't... I don't have a fear of snakes... 17:35 are you afraid of snakes? 17:36 I am... I guess it's different 17:40 because when I was in school... 17:43 elementary school... they had like this little petting zoo, 17:46 they would come... and they brought this big banana snake... 17:48 I'm like... "Ah... " 17:50 Did you put it around your neck? 17:51 Yes, I was like, "Oooh... " I was like, "Jesus... " 17:53 I was sitting here, I'm like, "Oh my God... " 17:57 they'll put the head on your knee, 17:58 they'll put the tail in your... 17:59 put it right in the middle where I don't want to touch it, 18:01 I mean, I wouldn't say... 18:03 it's a fear, I don't like... 18:05 But didn't it help you to overcome that a little bit? 18:08 It did... a little bit... 18:09 Confronted it... 18:11 I would never hold it by myself. 18:12 So, you would never buy a pet snake? 18:15 No... Kim: Okay, no... 18:16 If I ever bought any, like, exotic animal or anything... 18:20 I would probably buy a lizard, I would never get a snake. 18:25 Really? But that comes from the reptile family. 18:28 I mean, if I got anything, like, from within the reptile... 18:30 snake family... reptile family, I will only get a lizard, 18:34 I would not get nothing near a snake. 18:36 Okay, so, do you know how to cook? 18:39 Because a lot of our young people today, 18:40 don't know how to cook. 18:41 I had a patient last night and she doesn't know how to cook 18:45 so, I was doing recipes in my therapy session 18:48 because it was causing such anxiety for her and her mother 18:51 so, do you know how to cook? 18:53 Well, I would just say this, I do know how to cook 18:56 and I learned from my dad... my dad... he's the cook... yes. 18:59 Really? 19:01 Because my grandmother who passed a couple of months ago, 19:03 my grandmother... she was like the queen of cooking 19:07 so, I definitely learned how to cook 19:10 from watching my dad cooking Thanksgiving Dinner 19:12 or, you know, just cooking in the house most of the time... 19:15 so I know how to cook macaroni and cheese, 19:17 I know how to do some spaghetti sometimes, 19:19 you know, just like the small stuff. 19:22 Small things... you sound like Erin, okay. 19:24 This morning, I want to learn more 19:28 I want to know... know more about cooking and everything 19:31 because it's just healthier living. 19:33 Yes, so you like vegetables you eat fruit... lot of water... 19:37 Yes. 19:38 All right, do you work out... do you exercise? 19:40 I mean, right now, I do exercise in the summer time 19:44 but like, when school starts... it's... I have to balance that. 19:47 You have to balance that. 19:48 Because you have school... you may have 12-Credit classes 19:51 and then you have homework to do 19:53 and lean towards your job 19:54 so it's like... during the school year 19:56 I definitely had to... I know how to balance everything 20:00 so, I do work out and I could work out more... 20:03 Kim: Could work out more... 20:04 I could work out more... there's always room for improvement 20:06 and everything... 20:07 See this is that old soul in you all right, 20:10 and I'm just listening to you, you know, so let's... 20:14 dating... because with school and work and ministry, 20:18 is there anyone special you like 20:20 or you're just waiting for the Lord. 20:22 No... no... there is no... 20:24 You can tell me... all right, tell me... 20:26 nobody ever said, "No" all right. 20:28 No, there is no one special right now, 20:31 I'm not going to say that men have not... 20:34 oh, not men but young men... 20:35 young men have not tried to come into my life 20:38 and when there was that time, I'm just like, 20:41 "Okay God, show me who they really are" 20:44 I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone 20:48 who is not willing to increase their relationship with you, 20:52 anyone that I date or intend on dating 20:56 we have to be friends first, 20:58 I want to make sure that I'm dating my best friend... 21:00 I don't want to date anyone that I do not know 21:02 I don't want to date anyone who doesn't have... 21:04 or close to the same values that I have... 21:07 which is God first in everything that I do... 21:09 purity... I'm not having anything until I get married, 21:13 and just... education is very important to me as well. 21:16 If you are not educated 21:18 or if you're not trying to improve yourself 21:20 in where you are right now, 21:22 then, there's really no point of talking to me 21:25 because I'm not... 21:27 You're not taking care of a grown man. 21:28 No... I am not... ah... ah... 21:29 Your father... and I know your father... 21:31 he's not having it, all right. 21:32 Now, if you marry and something happens, 21:34 there's an accident... he's laid off work... 21:37 or a shift in the business or something 21:39 that's understandable. Ki'Rah: Yes. 21:41 You know, when I met Elder Nowlin, 21:42 he was working for an Agency and one day he came home 21:45 and he was looking very depressed... 21:48 I think he used it to manipulate me 21:50 and I said, "What's wrong?" 21:52 And he says, "I just quit my job. " 21:54 I said, "Really, we just bought a new house" 21:56 and he said, "But I just don't want to do this anymore, 22:00 I don't want to work at this Agency" 22:01 and I said, "Well, what do you want to do?" 22:03 And he said, "I want to get my Master's 22:06 and I want to get certified... 22:07 I want to get my Clinical Drug Test... 22:09 pass all of that... 22:11 and I said, "And then what?" 22:13 He said, "I want to come work with you. " 22:14 And I said, "Okay" 22:16 and I told him... I said, "If you leave me 22:19 after you get these degrees, 22:20 I will hunt you down all right" 22:22 and he went to school... knocked it out in a year... 22:25 I would take him, pick him up, fix his lunch... 22:28 and he graduated... he was so happy... 22:32 and he went on to get his license... 22:35 and certification... certification... certification 22:38 and we joined Practice together 22:41 until the day he passed we were one... 22:44 and I think that's very important 22:46 to be able to stand behind someone... 22:49 to believe in someone and I took a risk... 22:51 I took a major risk to say, "Okay, quit your job" 22:55 that meant that my finance... our finances... had to be right 22:59 and he said, "Well, Honey, you work all the time" 23:02 which I do... I love to work... 23:04 and I'm trying to balance it now, 23:06 I love helping people, but I had to say to myself, 23:10 "He is very sincere, 23:11 I don't believe He would leave me 23:13 and he would be here" 23:15 and he was... he gave everything he had 23:18 even to Dare to Dream... this broadcast. 23:21 Dating... what's a good age to date? 23:24 You did not want to know my answer to that 23:26 but what's a good age to date? 23:28 In my opinion, I feel like, it all depends on the person, 23:32 I'm very mature for my age, 23:35 a lot of people wouldn't think I'm only 20 years old, 23:38 they would be like, "I thought you were 25" 23:41 I'm like, "No... I'm only 20 years old" 23:44 and I would say, my maturity came from 23:46 just being around the people that I had... my grandparents, 23:50 my parents, you... for example... 23:52 just seeing other young... 23:54 just seeing other women in my life. 23:56 People mentoring you. 23:57 Yes, people mentoring or pouring into me... 23:59 just seeing how they went about life... 24:02 and I just took that and I ran with it, so... 24:04 Would you date an older man? 24:06 Would I date an older man? 24:08 If I did, it wouldn't be over like three years, 24:11 I wouldn't... the three years would be like my max. 24:14 Okay, see, now, see... 24:16 Uncle Arthur was nine years older than me 24:18 it worked... it worked. 24:19 I'm not saying it couldn't work, I'm not saying... 24:21 I guess... I guess like right now, 24:25 when it comes to age and everything, 24:28 it's all in God's hands... 24:30 I'm not going to go put a time limit 24:33 but me, personally, and I know my dad... 24:36 he's like, "You can't date no one 24:37 past five years or three years" 24:39 so I was like, I have my dad... 24:40 Who's older, your father or your mother? 24:42 My dad is older. 24:43 Than your mother... okay. 24:44 Yes, but only about a couple of months 24:46 because my dad was born 1969, my mom was born 1970... 24:48 so it was not... 24:50 They're going to get you... telling their age 24:51 on national television, oh my goodness, 24:53 so, all right... so... 24:55 it is right to allow the Lord to lead... 24:58 allow the Lord to guide you to that right person 25:02 and where He wants that fit to be... 25:05 Are you strictly interested in marrying an African American? 25:11 I am not... I am not... 25:14 Really... let's talk about that. 25:16 I would... I mean... I would definitely say 25:19 that I don't... you know... 25:21 whatever God has for me and what not... 25:23 so if another ethnicity young man tried talking to me, 25:29 I wouldn't be like, "No... " 25:30 "Because you're not African American... " 25:31 Exactly, even though my grandfather was like, 25:34 "You need to marry within the race" 25:36 and things like that 25:38 I said, "I understand Grandfather 25:41 but if other races come to me, 25:43 if an African American man doesn't come to me, 25:46 and is correct or has some stuff going on... 25:48 but then I have another young man who's interested, 25:51 who is not our color, 25:52 you know, I'm not going to just be like, 25:54 'I'm sorry, I can't date you 25:55 because my grandfather told me to date within our race'" 25:59 as long as you love God... as long as you... 26:01 as long as I can follow you... 26:03 because a man is supposed to lead the household... 26:05 spiritually... in marriage and everything, 26:07 as long as I see that in you, 26:09 as long as you do put God first even before me, 26:13 then, I know that you are a good match to me. 26:16 So, if he's says... 26:17 okay God, brings this wonderful person to you... 26:19 he may not or may be African American... 26:22 may not... and he says, "Well, I live in Turkey" 26:25 you know, your family is here in Michigan 26:28 and you love him, he's of God... 26:30 he's educated... has a good job 26:32 but is in Turkey 26:34 you know, 26:35 that's a long way from mummy and daddy. 26:39 It is a long way from mummy and daddy 26:41 but it's funny that you say that because I told mom and dad, 26:44 I said, "Mom and Dad, what if my husband is in Texas, 26:46 what if my husband is in California, 26:48 or he's somewhere because I love down south, 26:50 if I could do it... I would move down south in a heartbeat, 26:54 I don't like being cold in Michigan... 26:57 it's like snow, it's cold... 26:59 you don't know what it wants to do 27:01 because we get half a day's rain... and that... so... 27:02 if the guy who wants to marry me and he's like, 27:06 "I live in Turkey" and what not... 27:08 I would definitely have to adjust to it... 27:12 and pray about it, 27:13 but if God is saying, 27:15 "This is the man you're supposed to be with" 27:16 then, I'm going to go... Kim: You're going to do it. 27:19 Yeah, I'm going to go... 27:20 it's all about being that support system... 27:22 it's all about being there for him and everything 27:24 and if I... as long as it's going to work for both of us, 27:27 I'm not going to... 27:28 Kim: It will work. Ki'Rah: Exactly. 27:30 In closing, your favorite Scripture. 27:31 Psalm 46 and 5... 27:34 it says, "God is within her, she cannot fail" 27:37 I hold that very dear to my heart 27:38 because God is in everything that I do, 27:41 I don't pray... I mean, I pray every day... 27:43 anything that I do as far as school... 27:46 as far as relationships... as far as ministry, 27:48 I always, "Okay God, give me the okay to do this 27:52 give me the okay to do whatever you want me to do, 27:55 I want to make sure that you are in in my life... 27:57 and that you are Head of my life, 27:59 I don't want to do anything that is not... 28:01 if it does not have you in it" so... 28:04 Well, I just want to thank you for being here, 28:06 you gave us a lot of great information... 28:09 a lot of high energy... all right... 28:11 you just made me tired all right... 28:13 and people say, "Dr. Kim got all this energy" 28:15 but I praise God for your life... 28:17 continue to live to be well. 28:18 I will. 28:20 Positive reflection... 28:21 let it be said in your life that you do have a reflection of God, 28:26 I'm Dr. Kim, continue to live to be well. 28:29 God bless. |
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