Pure Choices

Can A Man Be Pure?

Three Angels Broadcasting Network

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Participants: Pr. Joshua Nelson (Host), Sasha Diambois, Kean Baxter, Jonathan Gustave, Maxwood Annulus

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00:40 Hello, and welcome again to Pure Choices.
00:43 I'm your host, Pastor Joshua Nelson.
00:45 And we have another exciting program
00:47 lined up for you.
00:48 Today, we have some bright young men
00:52 from the ministry of Pure Reality,
00:54 a ministry based in Miami, Florida.
00:57 And so they've just come to talk to us
00:58 a little bit about purity, sexuality,
01:02 and these topics here.
01:04 So I just want to begin by talking
01:05 with a man here, Sasha.
01:07 Actually introduce yourself for us.
01:08 After you've introduced yourself for us,
01:10 then I'm gonna hear from Sasha.
01:11 Go ahead. I'm Sasha Diambois.
01:13 I'm originally from Miami, Florida,
01:15 and I'm a freshman at Oakwood University.
01:19 All right.
01:20 My name is Jonathan Gustave,
01:22 also from Miami, Florida of Haitian descent.
01:24 And I also, at this time,
01:26 at the moment I attend Oakwood University.
01:30 My name Maxwood Annulus, originally from Haiti.
01:33 Now I live in Miami, Florida.
01:34 And I'm a Pure Ambassador. All right.
01:38 Well, it looks we got some strong Haitian brothers
01:39 here with us today, it's all right.
01:41 I also introduce you to my co-host for today.
01:44 This is...
01:45 Go ahead, introduce yourself, sir.
01:47 My name is Kean Baxter
01:48 and I just finished the seminary.
01:49 All right, all right.
01:51 So we have some educated men here today.
01:52 And we want to just talk
01:54 to Pure Reality, this ministry again.
01:56 I want to just talk to Sasha a little bit.
01:58 Share with us just a little bit about your testimony,
02:01 and kind of why you're here?
02:03 Well, growing up in the church, it's very...
02:06 What usually happens is that
02:08 you just do things out of routine.
02:10 And you never know why you do it.
02:12 So I was told, you know, keep your hands to yourself,
02:14 and don't mess around with the girls, you know.
02:17 But after a certain age
02:19 when you start getting feelings like that,
02:20 you don't know why, you just do it.
02:23 Thankfully I never got to the place
02:24 where I tried to explore anything,
02:26 Pure Reality was there.
02:27 So after I went to Pure Reality, you know,
02:30 I understood why,
02:32 understood why I didn't do certain things,
02:34 and it wasn't just about sex, it was just about
02:36 why I believed in what I believed,
02:38 and then why I obey certain laws.
02:40 And then, I made my decision finally,
02:42 you know, that I'm worth something enough to stay away
02:45 and abstain from the worldly things
02:47 because it's really not worth it in the end.
02:50 It's awesome, man.
02:51 So as a young man you made that choice to be pure.
02:56 You know, and it had a lot to do
02:57 with this Pure Reality Ministry.
03:00 So what I want to ask then is,
03:04 what is this Pure Reality Ministry?
03:06 Why is it so important or what does it do, you know,
03:09 so what, you know, why should someone take part
03:13 in this Pure Reality Ministry?
03:15 Well, I would say this Pure Reality Ministry,
03:18 it opens the door for young people
03:20 to come with their burdens.
03:22 Okay.
03:24 Whether it be sexual, immoral things,
03:26 whether it be things that you're struggling
03:28 at home with your parents.
03:29 It's a place, it's like a safe haven,
03:31 and you know that when you go there,
03:33 you come with all your burdens
03:36 but you leave with all the hope of the Lord
03:38 because now you see the light at the tunnel,
03:40 and you could begin to build relationships
03:42 with these people there
03:44 that can help you to grow in Christ,
03:45 and to grow out of the things
03:47 that the world is telling you that you should be.
03:50 That's awesome, so it really creates
03:53 that open environment for people to talk
03:56 or even men to come
03:58 and talk about these issues and stuff.
04:01 A lot of people would wonder why,
04:04 why put yourself through this, this sexual urge is so strong,
04:08 what's the point of trying to stop it,
04:12 and trying to just be pure?
04:15 Well, if we understand who we are
04:20 and who made us, I should say, then you'll see the grand scope
04:24 of why you should stay pure
04:26 because it's more than just not having sex,
04:30 or it's more than just not watching pornography,
04:32 but it's keeping yourself
04:34 not only for that person to come
04:36 but for the Lord
04:37 because a lot of us may not get married
04:40 before God comes.
04:41 But we're keeping ourselves for Him,
04:43 and this is where He speaks to us,
04:46 you know, in our minds, in our bodies.
04:48 And He wants us to be pure in a way
04:51 where we can glorify Him so that the world can see that
04:55 it is possible in the midst
04:57 of all these things that we see,
04:58 you know, on the shows, and commercials,
05:00 and all these perverse things,
05:02 there is a people that can be pure,
05:04 and it starts from a very young age.
05:07 That's why the enemy does this thing
05:08 where he tries to instill the impure things
05:10 at a very young age,
05:12 at the age of six, seven, you know, even younger.
05:17 I want to piggyback on that, and I want to ask Maxwood,
05:20 do you feel like you're missing any,
05:22 missing out on anything
05:23 by being involved in this ministry?
05:26 Not at all, I actually believe that I'm gaining more.
05:31 The message that Jesus preached me,
05:34 He was here was when you'd leave
05:36 the things of earth, you gain in heaven.
05:39 And I think, our whole,
05:41 as Christians our whole mindset should be not to try
05:44 and living in now but to try and restore
05:46 and regain that perfection, that purity that when Jesus
05:51 and God originally made us in Garden of Eden,
05:54 that's what we should need to get back to.
05:57 And that's what purity is about,
05:58 that's what our Pure Reality's message is about.
06:00 You know, I first encounter Pure Reality back in 2007,
06:04 I thought it was just a sex camp, like,
06:06 you know, okay, don't have sex.
06:08 Right. I thought that's all it was.
06:10 But through my years until now,
06:14 I realized that it's more than that.
06:17 It's your language, it's your mindset,
06:19 it's the way that you treat others,
06:21 and purity is who God is.
06:23 So if we say that we're Christians,
06:25 if we say that we're followers of Christ,
06:27 then we should seek to try and be just like Him.
06:29 And that's why I believe that I'm not losing anything at all
06:33 because even the things of earth
06:35 that we gain now, we can't take with us
06:38 whether we go to heaven or to hell.
06:40 Yeah, yeah.
06:41 You know, that's something that really,
06:43 personally I had a struggle with saying,
06:45 you know, while there are so many good things
06:46 or things you think would be good
06:47 out there in the world that you,
06:49 all your friends are doing, you want to do,
06:50 engage in all these things.
06:52 But really saying, "Hey, I'm going to forgo this now
06:55 for what God has for me later."
06:57 And really believing that.
06:59 But it's hard, it's hard, you know, it's hard.
07:01 So, you know,
07:03 what struggles have you really felt
07:05 and really tackling that, really saying,
07:07 "I'm gonna do this thing," you know.
07:08 Well, personally, you know,
07:11 being in school, being in college as a freshman,
07:13 everybody always wants to go to parties
07:15 or everybody always wants to do certain things,
07:17 but right now it ain't that hard,
07:19 but my hardship took place
07:20 in my senior year of high school
07:22 because I was going through so much, you know.
07:25 Well, school is stressing me out,
07:27 and it was at home,
07:29 I was not used 'cause my parents were arguing,
07:31 so I wasn't used to it.
07:32 So what happened was,
07:34 I started drinking to go to sleep,
07:36 and I couldn't sleep unless I was heavily,
07:39 like very near like knockout intoxication.
07:42 And when I finally came to
07:44 and realized what was going on with me
07:46 and I realized that I was literally a drunker,
07:48 I had to pray that off of me,
07:50 I had to pray that away from me.
07:51 And it was so difficult because, you know,
07:53 like when you're going through things
07:55 in your conscious mind,
07:56 I was never able to understand why people do drugs
07:59 if they were just going to come back here.
08:01 But it's just that separation where you're not conscious,
08:03 where you can't think about things clearly,
08:05 is just enough, you know, it was just enough
08:07 to put me to sleep at that time.
08:08 But the prayer that I prayed wasn't necessarily,
08:12 "God take away the alcohol."
08:13 Because if He just took away the alcohol,
08:15 the desire would still be there.
08:16 I had to pray for my perspective
08:18 of the situation to be changed because the problem
08:22 was not necessarily the alcohol,
08:24 it was the fact that I wanted it.
08:25 You know. Right, right.
08:27 And just like that, just like with purity
08:28 and all of that, we were just naturally sinful,
08:31 naturally perverse people.
08:32 So what I realized is I need to stop praying
08:34 for actions to change
08:36 because actions only change from a inner change.
08:38 So when I...
08:40 I had to pray to God from the very beginning,
08:41 help me to make Jesus my alcohol,
08:44 you know, make Jesus my crutch
08:45 so that when I'm going through situations,
08:46 when I'm going through things that are rough,
08:48 I can pray and He can be the peace
08:50 that gives me that I go to sleep
08:52 'cause in Psalms it says that, that rest, you know,
08:54 not just sleep but rest in your sleep,
08:56 that's a gift from God. Yeah. Yeah.
08:57 So if I wanted to rest, I had to go to back to heaven,
09:00 so that I could get that gift and that's what I prayed for.
09:03 And that's how I got over it.
09:05 That's deep, and I want to just...
09:07 I got to touch on that right there
09:08 because that's really where it is for a lot of men.
09:11 You know, we have this desire but there you're saying,
09:14 I'm praying to God, saying take away this desire,
09:17 start with the root of it.
09:18 That's awesome, man, that's awesome.
09:20 Powerful.
09:21 Maxwood, I want to ask you about a teen ambassador,
09:24 what is that about?
09:26 Pure ambassador is all we are young people
09:29 who have attended the retreat,
09:32 and really just want to get back
09:34 and spread His gospel.
09:36 We have our directors and our people
09:38 who put on a program or the retreat itself.
09:42 But they are older,
09:45 and they, most of them don't have the time
09:48 and the knowledge to reach the youth
09:50 that we have as young people.
09:52 So they need us as a work force to go out there
09:55 and really spread this message.
09:57 So we went to training to actually know
10:00 when we go to churches how to...
10:02 What to say, what to present,
10:04 what to talk about, how to respond.
10:06 We put on skits, and plays, and we go around...
10:11 And we ourselves have to be able
10:14 to hold up that banner.
10:16 And it's not easy at all
10:17 because now it's an actual spotlight on you.
10:20 But I don't mind a spotlight
10:22 because it's actually a boost of accountability,
10:25 because I look at it as man, okay, now I'm someone
10:29 people are looking for as a role model.
10:31 So I really have to step my game up,
10:33 and make sure I stayed up
10:34 to the standards that are required.
10:35 So we're just a group of young people
10:37 willing to give back
10:39 and willing to really take this message
10:41 to the next level
10:43 because I'm a Sabbath school teacher,
10:46 I'm a pathfinder counselor.
10:47 I deal with young people of my age or younger
10:51 on a regular basis, and that's the...
10:53 There's dearth in our youth in our churches,
10:56 and there is so much
10:57 that we're dealing with so it's...
11:00 I believe being a pure ambassador
11:01 has helped me to just be able to deal with those issues
11:06 that I deal with by being Sabbath school teacher
11:08 and a pathfinder counselor.
11:09 So that's what being a teen ambassador is all about.
11:12 That's good. That's awesome, man.
11:14 That's awesome.
11:15 So as you're doing this teen ambassador,
11:17 as you're going out,
11:19 and talking to these various men,
11:20 and, you know, ladies
11:21 or whoever you're talking about this subject,
11:24 I want to just come at it,
11:25 you know, from a man's perspective.
11:27 Let's just be real now, you know.
11:28 As men, you know, we have this natural...
11:32 It seems more than the woman do,
11:34 this urge, you know.
11:35 We have this natural desire just to have sex,
11:39 and just to go around
11:41 and spread our seed if you want to say,
11:43 with whoever we come in contact with, you know.
11:45 Like the song you can talk about that,
11:47 you know, we often hear.
11:49 So, you know, here you have men listening now
11:51 and we're just saying, you know,
11:54 how do you really stop, I mean, come on,
11:56 you know, you all sitting here, we sitting here, you know,
11:58 act like, you know, we got it all together.
11:59 But how do you stop?
12:01 How do you really get to that point?
12:02 I know, Sasha, you want to talk about
12:04 the spiritual aspect of it.
12:05 It's just...
12:07 You have to fill up,
12:08 fill up your tank 'cause you don't...
12:10 When you go to the war,
12:12 you don't start doing pushups on the frontline.
12:14 You do that before, you get your muscles ready,
12:17 you know, you make sure that you're physically fit,
12:19 you have endurance so that you can fight it.
12:21 And so many times we're looking for results
12:24 but we don't want to put work in.
12:25 But that's not even scientifical
12:27 because every reaction has an equal
12:29 and opposite reaction.
12:30 So if I don't put any time in,
12:32 I don't do my devotions in the morning,
12:34 I don't pray.
12:35 It's not that necessarily I'm gonna be tempted less
12:38 if I pray in the morning. Right.
12:39 It's just the fact that when I pray in the morning
12:42 or when I take time to give God His time,
12:44 I have to be tempted more,
12:45 for the devil didn't get results.
12:47 So when I don't pray, I mean, that first temptation
12:49 that comes, that first slight hint
12:51 of something that is wrong, I'm going to jump at it
12:54 because I had not put my guard up from the morning.
12:56 And there's so many verses in the Bible
12:58 that talk about how to resist temptation.
13:02 "Greater is he that is in me
13:03 than is he that is in the world."
13:05 You know, things like that,
13:06 and it's just a matter of removing your self
13:08 from the equation and realizing that this is not your battle.
13:10 God has already won, so when the devil comes
13:12 at you with something like that,
13:14 you just need to remove yourself
13:15 and stand behind Christ because behind Christ,
13:18 temptations can come
13:19 but they can never make it through,
13:20 they can never penetrate the protection
13:22 that you've put up from the morning
13:23 when you've woken up, you know...
13:25 That's good. I like the imagery.
13:27 But, Kean, honestly, man,
13:29 I mean, I'm sitting here listening to this,
13:30 this is great.
13:31 But I mean, let's be practical.
13:34 I mean, what does that really look like though,
13:36 to stand behind Christ?
13:39 I would say to make it practical,
13:43 for me personally it would begin
13:45 with relationships, you know.
13:47 And the number one relationship is Jesus of course
13:49 because you can't just tell a guy,
13:51 "Oh, stay pure, don't have sex, don't touch her.
13:54 Why are you doing this?"
13:55 You know, so you got to get to know
13:57 the person Jesus first for yourself.
13:59 And then God will start to reveal to you
14:01 the practical things that you can do.
14:02 You know, me I like to work out,
14:04 you know, I like to play basketball,
14:06 you know, and just having that accountability,
14:09 being with guys that are willing to be open.
14:11 I think that's one of the most important things.
14:13 If you have a group of friends that are willing to be open
14:16 to talk about their struggles
14:17 when they are in their personal rooms,
14:19 then you'll be able to share your things.
14:21 And then, you know, you guys are no,
14:23 man, I'm not alone in this.
14:24 But on the other hand,
14:25 if you have friends that are about doing the things
14:28 that the world does, then the pressure comes.
14:31 You know, and I think a lot of the young men,
14:33 we put ourselves in those positions.
14:35 We put ourselves in a position
14:37 where, okay, we have this type of friends,
14:39 and we grew up with these friends,
14:41 and we just want to stay tight with them.
14:42 But God is leading us in a different direction,
14:44 but we don't want to leave our friends.
14:46 And then we get on with our friends,
14:47 we're trying to be holy,
14:49 and then they are declowning us.
14:50 You know, they're making fun of us
14:51 because, "Oh, you're trying to do."
14:53 It's inevitable, you're going to go right back
14:54 to the same thing. So it's all...
14:56 I think it starts with your crowd of people,
14:57 you know, start finding things you can do,
14:59 you know, meeting other people,
15:01 being active in church, playing sports.
15:03 You know, guys, we macho like sports, play sports,
15:06 you know, go work out and things like that.
15:08 Yeah, yeah.
15:10 Okay, that sounds good, sounds good.
15:12 So we just kind of make sure we have it all together here.
15:15 Staying behind Christ, you know,
15:17 get the relationship with Jesus, you know,
15:19 that that's kind of the reason why
15:20 you're doing that, you know, you were...
15:22 And I like to talk about the fact
15:23 that you were bought with a price,
15:24 you know, 1 Corinthians,
15:26 you know, you're bought with a price.
15:27 And so you glorify God in your body,
15:28 you know, you understand that you are His.
15:31 But also now going a little further you're saying,
15:33 "Okay, let's get an accountability partner."
15:35 You know, and I think what Max was saying this,
15:38 you know, earlier he was saying stay busy.
15:39 Stay busy.
15:41 Definitely because if you...
15:44 When you find yourself in idle times,
15:46 that's when temptation comes.
15:49 You know, the computer at midnight,
15:52 really not doing anything productive,
15:55 you get all kinds of temptations.
15:58 Yeah.
16:01 Personally, I developed a pornography addiction
16:03 at the age of 12.
16:05 It was my first time I was exposed to it
16:06 but that's when the addiction started.
16:08 And at the age of 18, 19,
16:10 that's when I really went to make conscious decision to,
16:14 you know, be removed from that,
16:15 and that process still continues
16:17 to be totally delivered from it.
16:19 But during that process,
16:21 I had to do some practical things
16:23 to detach myself from that.
16:25 I had to get off my Facebook for a couple of months
16:28 because simple triggers as a girl
16:31 posting her picture of herself in a certain manner
16:34 which probably to her don't even look like nothing,
16:38 we're just like...
16:39 And the next thing I know I'm on another website,
16:42 the one I'm not supposed to be doing.
16:43 Simple things like that. Yeah.
16:45 So in fighting this battle,
16:49 we really have to be engrained in it,
16:51 not to give the enemy any...
16:54 Don't give him a inch, don't give him nothing at all
16:58 because he is gonna take it,
17:01 and he is going to take advantage of it.
17:03 He studies us, he knows our weaknesses,
17:05 he knows the areas, he knows what we like,
17:07 he knows what our mind's and heart's desire,
17:09 he knows as men we're visual, he knows that.
17:13 So he is gonna place those things
17:15 within our paths to try and detour us.
17:17 So it's our responsibility if we really want to be pure,
17:22 to put ourselves in a situation
17:25 where we won't even have to face them.
17:28 So those practical things and doing, staying busy,
17:33 not spending time doing idle things,
17:37 conversations, you know, knowing that
17:40 "Hey, I may not,"
17:41 even if I'm in a relationship with a young lady,
17:44 may be talking after 10 o'clock at night
17:46 is not good for us. My Lord.
17:48 Because we all know after certain time on phone...
17:52 Something happens, man, Something happens.
17:53 The conversation just always seems
17:55 to go down that slippery slope.
17:58 So it's very important to really take conscious,
18:01 to be conscious.
18:02 And not say, "Oh, this is not going to affect me,
18:04 it's not..." No, but to consciously say,
18:07 "This is not the best way for me to go."
18:09 I want to key on, in on what you said about
18:12 staying busy, and as a teen ambassador,
18:15 you've made yourself responsible
18:18 to younger children,
18:21 and to do not only to stay busy for busy sake,
18:25 but busy doing good things.
18:27 Doing good things.
18:28 And this is, of course,
18:29 another thing that the devil
18:31 will like to take away from us that,
18:32 you know, we're just busy doing
18:35 our own thing for our own purpose
18:37 but we have to be busy doing what God wants us to do.
18:40 Yes, definitely.
18:43 All of us here are very much involved in church,
18:46 you know, I always say my first priority is church
18:49 when it comes to being involved
18:51 because I mean, "Oh, is that your church?
18:52 Oh, let's doing something."
18:54 That's what keeps me, that's what keeps me
18:56 being pure part of a pure ambassadors
18:58 and Pure Reality, and, you know,
19:00 Jonathan does naps and Sasha, you know, he is doing ministry,
19:05 and that's what keeps you.
19:07 Because the more you get involved in this work,
19:09 is the closer you get to Christ,
19:10 the closer you get to Christ is Him always able to keep you.
19:13 So being involved like, you know, Kean says,
19:16 in the good things,
19:18 closer to Christ, doing His work,
19:20 removing self is really the way to go.
19:24 That's right, yeah, we have a few more minutes left,
19:28 but I really want to tackle relationships a little bit.
19:31 And I know some young ladies watching
19:33 are wanting to us to talk,
19:34 ask some of these questions about relationships.
19:35 And I want to ask this question.
19:37 As men, we got to be real, we got to be honest.
19:40 Question is, why is it so hard for us
19:43 brothers to pop the question?
19:45 And I know my brother here, he is married,
19:46 so he did, he did, he made the point.
19:48 So why is it so hard you think for us now?
19:50 You know, a lot of young ladies can't complain about that
19:52 though he is just kind of dating me.
19:53 Talking about that, what do you all think?
19:56 If I may answer first, I think that for me personally,
20:02 one main thing is know when God's time.
20:06 Sometimes we want to move in our time
20:09 whether it be the guy or the young lady.
20:12 We want, you know, to move on and do this,
20:14 I mean, you know, for whatever pressure there is.
20:17 But it's important to remember what God time is.
20:19 And if we move on God's time,
20:21 we will find ourselves to be in better position
20:23 to succeed than to fail.
20:26 And one of the thing is that for myself,
20:30 I have not been in a relationship
20:32 for like almost six years now.
20:34 And one of the main things is purity
20:36 because a lot of people I have encountered
20:38 or young ladies I meet, even being interested in,
20:41 purity is not that important to them.
20:43 So when you don't have that connection
20:48 or that thing in common, then we can't move forward.
20:50 So we have to make sure that
20:52 when it comes to principles, and values, and morals,
20:54 that the young man and the young lady,
20:57 they have those things in common.
20:59 And also that both people are ready
21:00 for that next step so they can move ahead.
21:03 I mean, let's just say,
21:04 just playing, sometimes it's hard
21:06 to find a good woman.
21:08 I mean, they always talk about it's hard to find a good man,
21:10 but and that's people trying to be right,
21:11 it's kind of hard to find a good woman, you know.
21:13 Yeah, yeah.
21:14 I started preaching at like 12.
21:18 So by the time I was like 15, 16,
21:20 I was starting to get invited to places,
21:22 and what I've realized is so many times,
21:24 especially down in, 'cause I'm from Miami,
21:26 sort of highly Caribbean and things like that.
21:29 They just want their children to be with ministers so bad.
21:32 And it got to one point where I was like this is ridiculous,
21:35 this lady, I just met her that day when I spoke,
21:39 and she took me into the room with her...
21:41 I was 16, and she took me with her
21:43 16-year old granddaughter,
21:44 and like, "This is my granddaughter.
21:45 She is single, she is 16.
21:47 Why don't you guys speak?"
21:49 And then left and closed the door.
21:50 And I'm thinking to myself, you know,
21:53 "This is your grandchild, not property.
21:54 You don't know me from anywhere."
21:57 You don't know if I'm just good at preaching.
22:00 And what I've realized is, you know,
22:02 we approach marriages very, very wrong,
22:05 you know, very, very, very, very incorrectly.
22:07 Marriage is supposed to be prayed on,
22:10 it's not just because a person looks good from the outside,
22:12 you don't know what they struggle with,
22:13 you don't know their family history,
22:15 what type of generation or curses
22:17 are you inviting on your children,
22:18 on your offspring 'cause you don't know the person.
22:21 And I think that that spiritual aspect
22:22 is lacking and also with dating,
22:25 as Maxwood said it's very difficult
22:27 to find someone who is bent on purity.
22:29 So many times,
22:30 I've spoken to a girl or tried to be interested in her,
22:35 and invest time in her,
22:36 and what it starts off is because they know like,
22:40 basically what I do or my history
22:42 with Pure Reality and things like that,
22:43 they put a facade that they are pure,
22:46 that they are genuinely trying to live right.
22:49 And then within like six months of speaking to them,
22:52 not even dating, they will say, "Why haven't you kissed me?"
22:55 And I'm thinking to myself,
22:57 "Did you hear what you just said?"
22:58 You know, what happened to that purity,
23:00 what happened to waiting
23:02 because people forget a kiss is something very,
23:04 very, very powerful, a kiss.
23:07 It's not something to be thrown around,
23:09 and it's so sad that mainstream society
23:11 and TV just throws kisses around.
23:13 Kisses are used to seal your marriage,
23:16 "You may kiss your bride."
23:17 And things like that...
23:19 Kisses are intricate because,
23:21 you know, your lips are very sensitive,
23:23 the most sensitive part of your body is your lips.
23:25 And when you kiss someone,
23:26 you can just open doors to all type
23:28 of sexual immorality after that.
23:30 And I feel like, you know,
23:31 if you're going to try to become
23:33 wifey material as we would say,
23:35 someone who is worth being a wife,
23:37 and you would like someone to be engaged,
23:38 firstly, you have to value yourself
23:40 so that they can know that you're valuable.
23:42 And secondly, give them something to go after,
23:45 don't just throw everything on the table
23:46 because if the guy doesn't feel like
23:48 there is anything to chase for,
23:49 most likely he is not going to ask the question.
23:51 Experience honest, yeah.
23:53 So for those reasons,
23:55 how important is it then to depend on God?
24:00 Because you say that we put up facades all the time.
24:04 And what do we...
24:07 How do we approach that?
24:08 Well, in the Bible,
24:11 there are a few indications of what it means to be a man,
24:14 you know, when God made Adam, he had a job.
24:18 He was supposed to take care of the garden,
24:19 he was knowledgeable,
24:20 he knew what his purpose was in life,
24:22 you know, and he was at one with God.
24:26 God gave him his mind.
24:28 And we don't look for people with the mind of God anymore.
24:33 So much so that he had the mind of God
24:34 and so much so that they were one,
24:36 that the Bible never lists that God told Eve
24:38 the rules of the garden.
24:39 Adam knew his duties as the husband
24:43 and told Eve what she was supposed to do,
24:45 you know, or what the rules were,
24:48 and how to follow the will of God.
24:50 And also the next example
24:51 I would like to give use is Jacob, I'm sorry.
24:54 He worked seven years for his first wife
24:56 that he didn't want but he worked those seven years
24:58 because he loved that woman.
25:00 He loved her.
25:02 And so many times girls are saying
25:03 they don't want to wait or they don't want to wait
25:05 to give their boyfriend his sexual needs
25:08 because he is not going to wait for them.
25:09 If he is not going to wait for you,
25:11 he doesn't love you, he doesn't value you,
25:12 he doesn't cherish you,
25:14 and those are not the qualities you'd like in a husband.
25:16 And the good thing about Adam and Eve
25:19 was when Adam was ready, God brought Eve to him,
25:23 he didn't have to go out looking for her.
25:24 Yeah.
25:26 God knew Adam and exactly what he needed
25:28 and the same with Eve.
25:29 Yeah, there is a lot to say about waiting on God,
25:31 and really a lot of this has to do with waiting,
25:33 you know, it's just being willing to wait on Him
25:35 and trust in Him that He will give you
25:38 that great experience when it's time.
25:40 And thinking about that in practical...
25:42 We only have a few minutes left but,
25:43 John, we were talking about Job 31,
25:46 how it says, "I made a covenant with my eyes,
25:48 why then should I think upon a maid?"
25:50 Why should I even look at a woman?
25:52 Now in our society and media,
25:54 it's hard to keep our eyes holy.
25:56 Is this applicable today?
25:57 Most definitely I believe so.
26:00 And I honestly believe that enemy has the great job
26:04 of making all the things in this life,
26:08 everything that we do, you know.
26:10 I love basketball.
26:12 If I go to the basketball game, there's cheerleaders there.
26:15 If I go to a football game, same thing,
26:16 and these people, these women are half naked.
26:19 You know, music and you just start thinking
26:22 about certain things when you hear
26:23 certain times the music.
26:25 So I mean, the way you would do that
26:28 is abstaining from certain things,
26:30 you know, like I said, you know,
26:32 I like to watch basketball, I like play basketball.
26:34 I'm not going to just stop watching basketball altogether.
26:37 But I'm not going to put myself and go through a game if I know
26:40 I'm going to see these types of things,
26:42 you know, I'll watch it from my home,
26:43 you know, these type of things.
26:45 And it's not just walking in the streets
26:47 with your eyes up and not looking at anyone.
26:49 Yeah. It has nothing to do with that.
26:50 But I believe it's more of a mental thing like,
26:54 what are you going to do, you know,
26:56 are you going to go to this store here
26:59 where you know they have this type of things
27:01 'cause I know you know guys...
27:02 Yeah, yeah. We're very, very, very visual.
27:05 And if you even look at a Victoria Secret catalog,
27:09 it's... Your mind, it's going crazy, it's going crazy.
27:13 So it just goes back to
27:15 what are you doing with your time,
27:17 you know, what are you doing with your time,
27:19 what are the type of people that you're around,
27:21 you know, because all these things
27:22 have a part to play in your eyes,
27:24 you know, making the covenant with your eyes with God.
27:27 Man, that is so true.
27:28 We really have to make that covenant with our eyes,
27:30 and in the practical sense,
27:31 when we're watching something on TV,
27:33 we're watching a show,
27:34 we have to turn away from that thing,
27:35 turn it off, you know, walk away, get out of the room,
27:37 you know, and really make that covenant.
27:39 And I truly believe that we can do it.
27:41 And if there's man watching here,
27:43 you can do it.
27:44 There is hope, you can make it happen.
27:46 And just know that God is there with you.
27:47 So that's our program for today,
27:49 we're going to wrap it up here.
27:50 But remember, make pure choices.


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