Pure Choices

The Hip Hop Of Sex

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Participants: Pr. Joshua Nelson (Host), Kean Baxter, Kimberly Pearson, Kory P. Douglas, Marquis Jackson

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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
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00:05 may be too candid for younger children.
00:39 Hello, and welcome to Pure Choices.
00:41 I'm your host Pastor Joshua Nelson,
00:43 and we have another good one for you.
00:45 Today, we're talking about the hip-hop of sex.
00:49 And before we get into our subject
00:51 and topic today, I want to introduce our panel again.
00:53 To my left, I have Pastor Marquis Jackson
00:57 who is the pastor in South Carolina,
00:59 Sumter and Manning district.
01:02 We also have over here, Miss Kimberly Pearson
01:04 who is the assistant chaplain at Oakwood University.
01:08 We also have Pastor Kory Douglas
01:10 who is the pastor over there at Grand Avenue
01:15 and New Life Fellowship
01:16 which is in the Central States Conference,
01:17 I believe. Yes, sir.
01:19 And we also have our professor, we call him Kean Baxter,
01:23 who is our recent MDiv graduate from the seminary.
01:27 And so we just want to talk about
01:28 this important topic today,
01:31 talking about the hip-hop of sex
01:34 and really wanting to figure out
01:36 what has the society or media done
01:40 to give us an image about sex or sexuality today.
01:46 And basically, really what I want to ask
01:48 first is looking at the past, okay,
01:52 and how things were in the society,
01:53 in the media, has anything changed?
01:56 And if so, what has changed?
01:58 I want to say, it has changed.
02:00 It's just a level of it's been available or open.
02:04 There'd be songs, you know, back in,
02:06 you know, our parents or grandparents' days
02:08 that may give suggestions of sexual implications
02:13 but they are very mass encoded.
02:15 Now we're living in a society
02:16 where everything is just all up in your face
02:19 and it's just even into tenth and eleventh degree
02:22 and all that stuff.
02:23 So it's not as much of a code, it's just blatantly,
02:26 overtly in your face.
02:27 Okay, would you all agree with that?
02:28 I would agree but I would add.
02:30 So I think that a lot has actually changed,
02:32 you know, media...
02:34 And I would even go beyond sex.
02:36 I mean, definitely sex has become
02:38 more prevalent on television
02:39 but I was watching television the other day,
02:41 and I'm starting to realize that now more and more
02:43 has become more acceptable to even curse on television.
02:46 And I'm not talking about cable,
02:48 talking about, you know,
02:49 primetime, regular public access,
02:52 public network television,
02:53 people are going to say an A word,
02:55 and now they're saying the B word.
02:56 I mean, they're just saying like it's nothing.
02:58 And the same thing can be said of sex,
02:59 you know, at first, it was you know
03:01 just a little skin here and there,
03:03 and as we've grown on,
03:05 it's almost like watching pornos
03:08 on network television.
03:10 And that really what's being said now
03:12 is that's just a part of who we are,
03:14 you know, we should just be proud of our sexuality,
03:16 we should flaunt it, it's a celebration of art
03:19 is often what said, you know, so is that a problem?
03:23 Well, I think that, you know,
03:26 what hip-hop and media, it's powerful, it's powerful.
03:32 It has the means to put a lot of information
03:35 to a lot of people, you know, in lots of different ways
03:38 but the danger in that is that we become over stimulated
03:43 by the thing that we see, so I can go,
03:45 leave my house on a billboard.
03:47 I see four billboards that have a sexy body, a sexy figure,
03:51 then I get to the grocery store,
03:53 and then as I'm walking down the aisle,
03:54 I think of all the commercials I've seen
03:57 where somebody was doing something sexual
03:59 to advertise something I want.
04:01 Then I get in the checkout
04:02 and now there's 20 magazines with,
04:04 you know, famous people doing things
04:06 and this one is pregnant and oh, there is a scandal.
04:09 And so I learn how to relate to people sexually.
04:13 I learn about what is appropriate,
04:16 and what people like
04:17 from all these different forms of media.
04:18 And there's no filter to come in
04:21 and combat these images I'm being given.
04:23 Right, and really even if you try to say
04:26 something against that you looked at it as,
04:27 okay, you're all too conservative,
04:30 you're just you know you're just weird,
04:33 whatever the case may be.
04:35 Yeah, yeah.
04:36 I was going to say, the boundaries
04:39 are definitely being pushed.
04:42 And, you know, understanding the great controversy
04:46 between Christ and Satan.
04:50 And we realize that the devil has an agenda
04:53 and it's not only in media, it's in movies like we say.
04:57 The curse words, the nudity, sexual content,
05:01 the music as well have least sexual content.
05:05 One of the dangerous thing about music is that
05:08 how it influences the mind, it bypasses the logical filter
05:15 and go straight to the emotional bit.
05:17 So you can be affected by music and not even realize it.
05:22 The other thing I want to throw in is the clothing.
05:26 Especially...
05:28 Well, I don't know if it's especially,
05:29 you know, I could say women's clothes
05:31 but even nowadays, men's clothes are,
05:34 they're becoming tighter, more revealing
05:37 especially with the homosexuality
05:41 becoming mainstream and, you know,
05:45 men's dresses kind of starting to change as well
05:47 and becoming more sexual.
05:50 But I think what it does if you look at,
05:52 you know what hip-hop does, sometimes is,
05:55 it changes the terminology in how we relate to each other.
05:59 So you know in music, you may hear someone saying,
06:02 "Oh, you know, she's a B."
06:04 Or she's this or she's that and everybody's dancing to
06:08 and everybody loves it but then,
06:10 if you call me by that,
06:12 I have a problem with you, it's bad.
06:14 Or now, you know, now a lot of women,
06:17 if a man calls a woman out of her name, it's bad.
06:20 But if we call ourselves a name and put bad in front of it,
06:23 I'm a bad, you know, B or whatever,
06:26 then it's a good thing.
06:27 Now it means I'm sexy, now it means,
06:30 you know, I've got respect.
06:31 And so that comes out of a culture
06:35 where we're being kind of brainwashed.
06:37 Brainwashed, yeah.
06:41 We're being brainwashed
06:42 and it's developing into that society.
06:44 I just wanted to add a little bit to that
06:46 as well earlier is that when you look in the Bible,
06:49 Cain killed his brother Abel, and God was,
06:51 you know, going to bring punishment to him
06:53 seven fold to someone who's going to kill Cain.
06:55 But later on, Lamech has a son,
06:58 Lamech is going to kill someone, I'm sorry,
06:59 he's going to kill someone and he say,
07:01 "Well, if Cain was avenger would have been...
07:03 Who killed Cain seven fold,
07:04 who ever kill Lamech will be seventy seven fold.
07:07 So there is aggression,
07:09 arise of the fall of moral base,
07:13 but there's always has been that situation.
07:15 It just says we continue go on, it has developed more,
07:18 and the devil knows his time is short,
07:20 and he's just going to go straight
07:21 for the maximum pushing to see how far people will go.
07:24 Yeah, I mean, and that's a good point
07:26 because, you know, look at Sodom and Gomorrah,
07:29 I mean, different places in the Bible.
07:30 And these places were pretty bad,
07:32 you know, so I think there always
07:34 it's every generation has that point
07:37 where it just becomes just so overt,
07:39 you know, the state always pushing the agenda.
07:42 It's always someone who's going to be there
07:44 trying to bring it back to where it supposed to be,
07:45 but Satan always comes back, he says, "No.
07:47 Let's take it away from God's hands."
07:49 And then the people who try to bring it back
07:51 to conservative look at as fanatic,
07:53 you know, and uses that as well, you know.
07:56 I was going to ask a question.
07:58 How does seeing all these sexual images,
08:01 like he says, proliferated in movies,
08:05 network TV, magazines, everything, music,
08:08 how does it affect us?
08:10 What is the desired effect that the enemy is going for?
08:14 Okay, so let's talk about that then.
08:15 Let's talk, he's brought the movies thing,
08:16 and the TV thing, so let's talk about it.
08:18 I mean, we're trying to be as practical
08:20 as we can on this show, on this program,
08:23 so we want to really tackle and answer the question,
08:26 what is okay to watch on TV,
08:29 and what is okay to watch in the movies?
08:31 Should I watch the R rated movie?
08:33 Should I just keep to PG13, because they have
08:35 you know this amount of clothes on, so it's okay?
08:37 Should I say I shouldn't watch this TV show?
08:40 Should I close my eyes here in the commercials?
08:42 What, you know...
08:44 You know, one of the interesting things
08:46 and I was gonna say this a little bit earlier
08:48 one of the interesting things about hip-hop specifically
08:50 is that what you get now more and more of is music videos
08:54 more than anything else, you know,
08:55 we were growing up listening to,
08:57 you know, hip-hop, rap whatever it meant,
08:59 you know, listen to the radio.
09:00 And there wasn't many images to put
09:02 to what you were hearing, you know,
09:04 but nowadays, like he was saying,
09:06 now we have to contend with the fact that
09:08 these messages are now being
09:09 brought to life on the big screen.
09:11 You know, not only do we have the music
09:12 that's calling women out their names,
09:14 presented them as animals to be had
09:17 but it's also showing guys
09:18 actually in the act of having them,
09:20 you know what I'm saying?
09:21 Showing, children seems that they should have
09:23 no business seeing such as a music video shot
09:26 in strip clubs, shot in clubs,
09:28 you know, and shot in all kind of places
09:30 that you don't want a 12 year old to know
09:32 what a strip club looks like on the inside
09:34 but that's what is shown in music videos.
09:37 I mean just the imagery, you know.
09:40 And the thing is, it would be one thing to say,
09:42 "Let's try to block out the music,"
09:45 but now you got to block out the music and the imagery.
09:47 Yeah, and so now they're trying to emulate these things
09:49 that they're seeing,
09:50 and this becomes cool, you know.
09:52 It's invasive. Yeah, it really is.
09:54 But still, you all trying to get away from me.
09:57 What are some things we should or should not watch?
09:59 I mean, what should be the basis,
10:00 what should be, you know...
10:02 You know, what I think is interesting is that,
10:04 you know, a lot of times, we try to prettify,
10:10 make nice things that are comfortable for us.
10:13 So I'm not going to go to the movies
10:16 and watch a movie where somebody is,
10:19 you know, having sex openly with somebody else
10:22 but I'm going to get it from Redbox,
10:23 and bring it, and watch it in my house
10:25 so that I can watch it and I'll fast forward
10:29 through the other scenes, you know, and lot of times,
10:32 we're just not keeping it real with ourselves about
10:35 what we can handle and what we can't handle.
10:37 You know, if I am, you know,
10:39 in the middle of a breakup, women do it all the time.
10:41 You're in the middle of a break,
10:43 you're in the middle of a relationship situation,
10:44 so you go and watch the saddest,
10:46 most emotional movies you could think of,
10:49 and you're crying and it feeds into
10:52 how you're already feeling
10:53 as opposed to making you feel better.
10:56 And so I think sometimes, we use movies and television
11:00 to maybe feed into either things we want to do
11:03 but can't do or, you know, we feed into
11:07 maybe our own kind of emotions
11:10 and you know, self gratification.
11:11 So are we sayings then that we shouldn't watch anything
11:14 that has someone having sex on screen?
11:17 I have a confession.
11:18 I struggle a lot, I like to eat candy,
11:21 and my problem is when I eat one piece of candy,
11:22 it's hard to put that candy away,
11:25 and so I eat more candy, and I eat more candy
11:27 till the whole case is over.
11:28 Well, I was just going to eat maybe piece or two,
11:30 the whole box is gone.
11:32 In my situation, if I find myself watching television
11:34 that has those kind of implications,
11:37 I'm going to find myself watching that
11:39 and then adding a little bit more,
11:40 and watching a little bit more
11:41 and maybe even being to another case
11:44 that if no one sees me watching this,
11:46 then I'm going to definitely watch this
11:47 and then something more.
11:48 And so, I guess the danger in that
11:51 is if you watch those kind of shows,
11:53 it's going to automatically prod you to do even more.
11:56 And so, if I'm going to speak, I will speak in a principle.
12:00 Whatever you find yourself watching,
12:02 the devil's going to try to find a way
12:04 to make it even more and built more.
12:06 I'm gonna challenge with that, I'm gonna let Kean speak,
12:08 but someone is gonna say to you,
12:10 "Well, you know, I don't have that problem.
12:12 I can just watch it, you know, I don't get affected.
12:14 I can just watch it and it is good."
12:16 So I'm also going to go a little deeper
12:18 and say "Well, is it even right for us to look at something
12:21 that may be considered say, adultery in God's eyes?"
12:25 You're right.
12:27 It's a slippery slope, A, but we also have to ask
12:30 is how it's affecting us
12:32 and even if we don't think it's affecting us,
12:35 are we being honest with ourselves.
12:37 Can we look at something
12:38 and it not affect you on some level?
12:42 And I would suggest that watching sex on TV
12:46 whether it's adultery or it's between
12:49 husband and wife,
12:51 it's doing a couple of things
12:53 that I can think of right now is,
12:55 one is exciting you, and if you're not married,
12:58 what are you going to do
12:59 with those feelings that aroused.
13:02 The next thing is also desensitizing you
13:05 because we're not made to watch sex on TV.
13:10 So when you continue to do this,
13:14 it's actually perverting you.
13:16 So when you get into a marriage relationship,
13:19 you're going to have difficulties
13:21 because your sexual experiences
13:23 has not been with an actual person in the flesh,
13:29 so there's going to be some trouble there.
13:31 Okay, well, some would say it's just real life,
13:34 you know, that it's just real life.
13:36 It's just what happens in life and this is what we're just,
13:38 you know, video movies, it's all fake,
13:40 it's to make believe, it's just what...
13:42 we're just seeing, you know.
13:43 TV is not real life though. It's depicting real life.
13:46 Well, there is reality television now, too.
13:47 It is. Is it reality television real?
13:49 I think what reality television is, A,
13:54 I guess, it's made to portray real life.
13:57 It's real life in contained situations.
14:01 But here is a thing, media is a tool,
14:04 the TV and music are tools.
14:07 Now what you use to make with those tools are different like,
14:10 we all grew up singing the Bible songs.
14:12 I know the books of the Bible because of a song.
14:15 You know, I have learned
14:17 all kinds of Bible stories by watching,
14:20 you know, movies or watching TV,
14:22 so there are tools.
14:24 The question is, how are we using those tools?
14:27 It's a form of education.
14:29 And here is, there now where the responsibility
14:31 of parents and pastors, and the church comes in
14:34 is that, "Okay, we know that media is being used
14:38 as a tool to teach young people about sex,
14:41 about sexual relationships, about all kinds of things.
14:45 Now how are we combating that?
14:47 Are we giving them the proper information
14:49 that they're seeing adultery on TV?
14:52 Are we talking to them about adultery?
14:54 Are we sharing our experiences with adultery
14:58 and how it's affecting our families?
14:59 Are we letting TV and media
15:02 and music videos be the educator?
15:03 Right, and that's why, you know,
15:06 programs like this are so important,
15:08 you know, and we're not of course bashing TV
15:09 because of course you know we're on TV.
15:13 And this is really what it should be about,
15:17 you know, promoting things in this way, the positive way.
15:20 But I want to even go a little deeper
15:21 and really challenge it because, you know,
15:23 I'm stepping, about to stepping my own toes.
15:26 Step on, step on. Oh, yeah.
15:28 Better step in my own toes because there is a TV show
15:31 that is very popular and it kind of exciting,
15:37 or even promotes the idea that it's okay to have adultery
15:41 if it's maybe cool and you're really smart,
15:44 it's with the president and, you know,
15:46 no one knows about it,
15:47 and just the really adventurous type of show.
15:51 And so, you know, you get something
15:52 because of the story line, the story line is exciting.
15:54 You know, sometimes we can maybe put aside our morals
15:59 because of the show, because of the story.
16:03 Well, this actually it's kind of contextual
16:06 to what you were saying.
16:07 And I want to use the example of music
16:09 in order to get where I'm going.
16:10 When I was in high school, I started playing basketball,
16:12 I started listening to a lot of rap
16:14 because we used to get hype for the game,
16:15 you know, and I start listen to a lot of the certain artist,
16:19 and then I started eventually progressing,
16:20 I started to listen to the radio at night,
16:22 falling asleep to it.
16:23 And I notice a change in my behavior.
16:25 I would start to be really aggressive,
16:27 I started, you know,
16:29 curse words started slipping out.
16:30 And I'm like, you know,
16:31 "Where's the behavior coming from?"
16:33 And I realize the music,
16:34 you know, we can't fool ourselves.
16:36 The Bible is plain, as you were saying,
16:37 "By beholding, we become changed."
16:38 It's why we keep our eyes on Christ,
16:41 because we want to be changed into His image.
16:43 And at the end of the day, if we believe that sex
16:45 is something that God gave us in the context of marriage
16:48 and this is the way it should work
16:49 and then we go out and watch adultery, we watch.
16:52 And remind you, on television whenever sex is presented,
16:55 it's almost never presented in the context of marriage.
16:58 It's in the context of shacking up,
17:00 it's in the context of dating,
17:02 it's in the context of adultery,
17:03 and sometimes glorify,
17:05 you know, it's okay to cheat with this person
17:07 and even if they don't say it's okay.
17:09 It must be okay. Because that's your true love.
17:10 So it's okay. You're stuck in a bad marriage.
17:13 And so now young people are growing up
17:15 with this view of intimacy that has been highly tainted
17:19 where they believe that sex is something as acceptable
17:22 in other contexts other than marriage.
17:24 Yeah, yeah. Yeah.
17:26 Oh, Kean, go ahead.
17:27 I just want to add to that
17:29 in reference to the show you mentioned
17:33 that the thing that complicates the situation
17:35 is that I haven't seen it but I've heard that the way
17:40 that it happens the affair,
17:42 you actually feel sorry for the man in the affair...
17:46 And the woman. And the woman, so...
17:52 You seen it a couple times?
17:53 Seen few clips.
17:56 You know, tell the truth, shame the devil.
17:59 So this is the thing that the devil
18:01 is kind of twisting the situation,
18:03 so you know whereas ten years ago,
18:06 you would say,
18:07 "They're having an affair, they're wrong."
18:10 Nowadays, it's like, "They're having affair
18:12 and, aw, well, I kind of understand like,
18:18 he's kind of you know...
18:19 Yeah, she's trapped. Yeah, he's trapped.
18:21 And the danger we face is that, you know, five years from now,
18:25 you're married.
18:26 Somebody makes advances at you, you know what I'm saying?
18:29 And it looks just like it looked in the movie,
18:31 and now, you, instead of being in a situation where normally,
18:35 had you been focused on the Word of God
18:36 and had been rooted, you'd have just dismissed it.
18:38 Or some Joseph, "No!"
18:41 But now, you're actually thinking about it like,
18:44 you know, "Well, is this okay?
18:46 Maybe if I just, you know, take it back a little."
18:49 You know what I'm saying. Like it did on TV.
18:51 And I'll just going to say, again, I'll be one that
18:53 want to say that I know what you're all saying is true
18:56 because I felt that before, you know, I felt that
18:58 where you start to, your morals begin to drain
19:02 because of the stuff you're watching.
19:03 And I begin to, you know, now we're at the age
19:05 and hopefully warn other people before they get to this point.
19:07 You can now see, "Okay, that was the reason
19:09 why this stuff happened in my life.
19:11 You know, the music you said,
19:13 you know, I used to be just like,
19:15 it's okay to watch or listening to certain music
19:17 but now I recognize, "Man, when I watch or listen
19:20 to certain things, that was my behavior
19:22 begin to go crazy and change."
19:25 We would lie to our self and say,
19:26 "Oh, we're just listening to the beat.
19:28 We don't listen to the words, we just listen to the beats."
19:30 But I mean, you know,
19:32 the thing is we all listen to the beat,
19:34 but unfortunately, with the beat comes words.
19:36 And I have a little sister
19:39 and I praise God that I have a little sister.
19:40 She's 17 years old.
19:42 And with her being 17 years of age,
19:45 when she was born, she calls me to be accountable
19:49 because I was already listening,
19:50 like you said, I mean, I know there's one album, they say it
19:53 the most controversial album of the year.
19:55 I was 15 years of age.
19:57 I couldn't go to one store to buy it
19:58 so I ask my mom to take me to another store
20:00 and they allow me to buy the tape.
20:01 So tape...
20:04 So, there you so, there you go.
20:08 But you know, when my little sister was born,
20:12 the Lord just put it to say,
20:13 "Would you want to show your little sister
20:15 to date somebody who listen to that stuff?"
20:17 Because it was straight changing me.
20:19 I mean, at one moment, I was starting to get
20:20 infatuated with even gang life.
20:22 And so, I mean, I just praise God
20:23 but when we find ourselves in those kind of situations,
20:26 it does start to dwindle away our moralities to a point
20:30 that we start to become empathetic
20:32 with these situations.
20:33 And we become empathetic,
20:34 it eventually makes you spiritually pathetic.
20:36 What I want to say is, in addition to it...
20:38 Hey, hey, hey, hey. Hallelujah.
20:41 But in addition to empathy,
20:43 I think it also translates into identity
20:46 because we now start to identify ourselves,
20:49 you know, I'm thinking about,
20:50 I have a lot of nieces and nephews,
20:52 I love all my nieces and nephews,
20:54 but they range in age and the oldest is like 21,
20:59 and the youngest is like three.
21:02 And so they're listening to lots of secular music
21:05 and so it's home, and you know,
21:07 I saw they were putting on a song,
21:09 and the older kids were singing it,
21:11 and the three year old knew all the words.
21:16 And so you know, we say,
21:17 "Well, I'm an adult enough to reason
21:21 and think through these lyrics,"
21:23 but what we don't realize is that
21:24 because music does what music does,
21:27 it infiltrates our minds in ways
21:29 that we can't even understand.
21:32 And so then what was interesting was for Christmas,
21:34 she got little pink wig, and some pink heels,
21:38 and some pink nails, you know,
21:40 we can identify who that looks like.
21:42 And so they were calling her,
21:44 you know, a little tiny version of this popular rapper.
21:48 And she's ascribing herself at three,
21:51 identifying her womanness and femininity with somebody
21:57 who's portrayed in this way, and that's concerning.
22:00 Yeah, very concerning.
22:02 Let's talk, where are the songs that used to talk about
22:05 the books in the Bible
22:07 or you've memorized certain stories and stuff,
22:09 you know, all that stuff is gone now.
22:11 Or even marriage, you know, when I was younger,
22:14 there was R&B song was saying, "Girl, let's just get married."
22:17 Get married, right, right, right.
22:18 But now, it's like porn.
22:20 Even back then, how many songs talked about marriage?
22:22 But at least, there were some. Maybe one.
22:23 But at least, there were some.
22:25 I mean, you get the rare one, but that's a good point.
22:28 It's like, why is it that R&B industry
22:34 doesn't promote happy marriage?
22:36 Why is it always, "Girl, I want to get you in bed."
22:40 They do but it does itself.
22:43 If you notice, but there are songs out there
22:47 that promote marriage,
22:49 you know, that promote godly love,
22:51 and principles of godly love, but the problem
22:54 is those are the songs that aren't making money.
22:56 Those are the songs that aren't,
22:58 you know, making the top ten, top hundred.
23:00 Well, maybe the people who actually producing,
23:02 writing and producing these things,
23:03 maybe they have an agenda.
23:07 And maybe they don't want to see more healthy family,
23:11 maybe the devil is behind a lot of this.
23:13 Good one, yeah.
23:14 Well, you know, I didn't really say I was going to say earlier,
23:16 but it's all about identity,
23:18 you know, we talked about it before.
23:20 It's about Satan trying to destroy the image of God.
23:22 It's who do you identify with,
23:24 as you say with your little cousin identify
23:26 with a certain star, I guess.
23:29 When we talked about it with Joseph,
23:31 Joseph identified with God.
23:33 He said, "How can I do this but how can I sin against God?"
23:37 He was God's man. He was a slave.
23:39 You know, maybe it was slaves,
23:40 that would just happen because he's a slave,
23:43 he could have said, you know,
23:44 maybe the culture would allow for me
23:46 in the context of the slavery to perform my slave duties
23:50 but how could I sin against God?
23:52 He didn't identify with his culture,
23:54 the culture or the slavery, he identifies with God instead.
23:57 So he was in that culture, but still understood
24:01 he had a culture of God that he still had to cultivate.
24:04 Yes. And part of first.
24:06 You know, I read some history.
24:10 Those who were underneath leadership in those days,
24:12 some of them became eunuch.
24:13 So it very well could have happened that Potiphar,
24:16 it suggests that Potiphar may have been a eunuch.
24:18 So you're right, you know, it could have been culturally
24:20 that Potiphar's wife may have been around other people,
24:23 and she saw Joseph and the Bible says that
24:25 he looked good, and so she...
24:27 Joseph is fine. Yeah.
24:31 So she came up, she came up to him
24:34 and he did what you also say, you know, he said,
24:37 "How can I sin against God?"
24:39 And when we look in the aspect of Psalms 139
24:42 that God is everywhere and we have to understand
24:45 that God sees every single thing we do.
24:48 It's not that just because we may not see God,
24:50 but God does see us.
24:52 And so if we put that in our minds and perspectives,
24:55 it will causes to keep ourselves
24:56 from very dangerous situations
24:57 that can affect us on a long call.
24:59 Okay, and you want to say something?
25:00 Yeah, I was going to say, you know, the Bible says,
25:02 "Let everything that have breath praise the Lord."
25:04 It talks about praise Him with tumbrel,
25:06 it talks about instruments, praising God with instruments.
25:09 It talks about, you know, David dancing
25:10 as a part of praise but it's a part of praise.
25:14 We were created to praise and worship God.
25:18 So if whatever I'm doing
25:20 is not an act of worship or praise,
25:22 I then need to question, you know,
25:25 if even what music I'm listening to,
25:29 how I'm dancing or, you know, that,
25:31 is what I'm doing, giving honor and praise to God
25:36 or am I trying to attract honor and praise to myself?
25:41 As I'm listening to this, this is convicting, you know,
25:45 and it's making me think I have to go even further,
25:47 you know, to really protect myself.
25:49 And it's not just say, "Hey, I'm a pastor
25:51 and I have arrived."
25:52 You know, but really continually going higher
25:54 to say, "Hey, we have to protect ourselves
25:56 even more against this thing," because as you're all talking,
25:58 this thing is serious.
25:59 You know, but I want to kind of just...
26:01 We have a few more minutes,
26:02 I want to also ask this question,
26:03 I didn't want to let this one go
26:05 about the word sexy.
26:07 Okay, that's kind of a common word we use now,
26:10 we've even used it on here.
26:13 But is that word bad and what does it really mean
26:17 when someone says, "I'm dressing sexy?"
26:18 You know, it's kind of word we use there.
26:20 Well, I don't think we have enough time for that.
26:21 Yeah, we don't have much time too.
26:24 I mean, in this culture, man, sexy has just become
26:26 one of those words
26:28 that just mean something good, you know.
26:30 My jump shot is pretty sexy, you know what I'm saying?
26:33 Because it just looks nice, you know what I'm saying.
26:36 So sexy is nice. So using sexy in...
26:41 Well, I mean, that's just the way it has become,
26:42 you know, just like saying, I know, where I'm from,
26:44 people say, you know, "That's beast."
26:46 You know, they're not talking about the end of relation,
26:47 they're saying that, you know,
26:49 that is just as easy it's gong to get.
26:51 You know what I'm saying.
26:52 So I don't know, if we got to take into consideration,
26:55 you know, the culture as well when we use the word.
26:58 But I also think that, as a woman, as a young woman,
27:02 when we're presenting these images,
27:03 we've used sexiness as how men should identify us.
27:08 And so we don't fit into the mode
27:09 of what we ascribe sexy to.
27:11 Sexy is something good, and beautiful, and sleek.
27:14 Whether we say that or not, that's the connotation.
27:16 And should be covered up.
27:18 And so that's how we attribute it.
27:20 And so if you have people walking around,
27:22 "That's sexy, that's sexy," and I don't look sexy,
27:24 then it's hard to wrestle that with our identity.
27:27 All right, well, we have no time to finish it out,
27:29 but I just want to end with this
27:30 quote from Revelation 2:20.
27:31 It says, "Nevertheless, I have this against you.
27:34 You tolerate that woman Jezebel who calls herself a prophetess
27:38 but her teaching, she misleads
27:41 my servant into sexual immorality."
27:43 So we got to be careful what we tolerate
27:45 as Christians, okay?
27:47 We got to be careful what we watch
27:48 and what we listen to.
27:49 So that's our program, I hope you enjoy it.
27:51 And remember to make pure choices.


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