Participants: Brittany-Hill Morales (Host), Jacques LaGuerre, Myesha Lawson, Timothy Lawson, Xavier Morales
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000099A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:02 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:04 may be too candid for younger children. 00:39 Hello and welcome to another wonderful episode 00:42 of Pure Choices. 00:44 I'm your host Xavier Morales and next to me 00:46 I have Mr. Timothy Lawson. 00:49 Right here we have my lovely, wonderful, amazing wife, 00:52 Brittany-Hill Morales, Mr. Jacques LaGuerre, 00:55 and Timothy's wife of course we had to separate them, 00:58 Myesha Lawson. Welcome. 01:00 Also lovely and beautiful... 01:02 Yes, yes, yes. I can't say that, but you can. 01:05 Amen. Thank you. 01:07 But welcome, guys. 01:08 Today's topic is going to be a good one, 01:11 obviously there are good but this is one 01:12 that's very critical to us today, 01:14 it's called Commitment Phobia. 01:16 The title for today is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, 01:20 but before we get into the nitty-gritty of it, 01:23 let us pray. 01:25 Dear Heavenly Father God, 01:26 we just want to thank You for bringing us here today. 01:28 Thank you for this topic. 01:30 And, Lord, help us to answer these questions 01:33 and address the viewers to the best of Your ability 01:36 in Jesus' name, amen. 01:38 Amen. 01:40 So commitment phobia that is obviously phobia, fear, 01:44 commitment, we know what that means. 01:46 But one question is, what is...? 01:50 How is commitment phobia defined? 01:52 What is commitment phobia to you? 01:55 Being afraid to take 01:57 the next step in a relationship, 02:00 you're only willing to go so far, 02:03 but the moment the opportunity comes to go 02:05 a little bit further, 02:07 all these rationale start coming up, 02:10 well, maybe not so, maybe you're not really the one 02:13 or, you know, you comb your hair 02:16 to the left instead to the right, 02:18 you leave your toothbrush on the sink, 02:21 like all these crazy reasoning starts happening 02:23 because you don't want to take that additional step. 02:26 Myesha? 02:27 I also like to say that, 02:29 you've been afraid to be vulnerable, 02:33 you know, to open up, to show yourself, 02:37 who you really are for that person to get to, 02:39 you know, I basically say let them in your heart, 02:43 you know, you have this wall up. 02:46 Jacques? 02:47 And I think with the commitment phobia, 02:48 it can manifest itself at different parts 02:51 in the relationship. 02:53 One person might be afraid of taking it past 02:55 just the physical relationship 02:57 and so once they feel their emotions being engaged, 03:00 they just, they end the relationship. 03:02 Some people might feel comfortable 03:04 having a boyfriend or having a girlfriend, 03:06 but once the relationship is gone to the next level, 03:09 then they get afraid or some people, 03:12 they're perpetual daters, 03:13 but they never really want to get married. 03:16 And so you can be afraid 03:17 of different levels of commitment. 03:19 And I like that 03:20 because I was watching a television show 03:22 the other day that people have been together dating, 03:26 you know, boyfriend on and off girlfriend for 10 years. 03:30 I would call that a commitment phobia 03:31 just a little bit, 03:33 just a little bit, for 10 years, 03:35 and, you know, it makes me think 03:38 how does upbringing, how does your, 03:39 you know, your upbringing affect 03:42 your ability to commit in a relationship. 03:46 I think it, you know, everything starts 03:49 from your childhood, the training that you receive. 03:52 And so if you've had a childhood 03:55 where you seen that people could be together 03:59 like you're saying for 10 years 04:00 without having to commit, then you get an idea 04:03 that you don't need to take that extra step. 04:06 But also if you've seen a lot of failed marriages, 04:09 if you've seen your parents go through, 04:11 more of your aunties or your uncles, 04:13 it makes you feel like, 04:14 "Well, I'm never going to do that, 04:16 you know, 'cause I don't want that to happen to me 04:18 and so what's the point?" 04:20 And so what you see is a child will gear you towards a person 04:25 who saw a good relationship and it go right, 04:28 and they're saying, okay, this could work. 04:31 Yes. Yeah, Jacques... 04:33 What Tim's have reminded me of a friend that I had, 04:36 during my college days, you know, I was just at the bar 04:39 with a friend with a couple young ladies, 04:41 and we began to talk, 04:43 and the conversation of relationships 04:45 and marriage came up, and she told me 04:47 that she never want to get married. 04:50 And I thought that was weird 04:51 until I asked her why and she said 04:53 because I've never seen one that works. 04:55 And so even in looking around to your aunts 04:59 and to your uncles, and to your parents, 05:01 if you've never seen a successful relationship, 05:04 you think it's impossible, 05:06 and so you don't even want to take that risk. 05:08 So here's the question for the... 05:10 Oh, go ahead, Britt. 05:12 I was going to also add I think terminology 05:13 has also played a role in what, 05:15 and how society views that extra step 05:18 if you make in marriage 05:19 or if you're going to even date someone, 05:22 if you're going to be with the person, 05:23 oh, that's your old lady 05:24 or that's the old ball and chain, 05:26 it seems like, if you go a step further 05:29 or you really want to only be with that one, 05:31 that's when things are going to get dull, 05:32 it's going to get boring, 05:33 those ideas that if you go into a long term relationship, 05:38 it is not going to bring you as much fulfillment 05:41 as always being in new and random relationships. 05:44 Interesting. I like that, I like that. 05:47 Now here's my question, this is for the ladies, 05:48 this is for the ladies, 05:50 how do men express or show commitment phobia? 05:54 Let's start from what we see on TV, the usually, 05:56 you know, what do you think, Myesha, 05:57 you smiling over there? 05:58 Go ahead. 06:00 Well, let's just say I went through it. 06:01 So the woman. 06:03 You got to behave now... 06:04 Oh, please. 06:08 Well, as my husband said something, 06:11 you don't mind, do you? 06:14 Well, let's just say I wanted more and he didn't. 06:19 So he called himself keeping it real, 06:22 telling me exactly what he wants 06:24 and how he wanted to be. 06:26 And he didn't want a commitment 06:28 and so a man can either verbally say 06:32 what he wants and what he don't want, 06:34 or the man can act. 06:37 He can, like I said, 06:38 well, in the beginning he gives you 06:40 so much attention and then, 06:43 you know, he give you text messages, 06:45 good morning, good night, you know, all of that, 06:49 sending you pictures and all like, 06:51 you know, all like mushy stuff. 06:53 And then once he thinks things are going a little bit too far 06:57 and this is not towards my husband by the way. 06:59 Amen. A little bit of it was... 07:01 Disclaimer. In the beginning he was. 07:03 Disclaimer, disclaimer... 07:04 In the beginning he was, he told me straight up, 07:06 but anyway so... 07:08 Like I was saying commitment phobia, 07:11 he started to withdraw himself, 07:15 you know, from the woman and less texting, 07:18 he doesn't have that much time for her, 07:21 he's not giving out all the attention, 07:23 and then it's going to cause the woman to say, 07:27 you know, "What's wrong?" 07:29 You know, and start to question if it's her or if it's him. 07:35 I was going to add to that, it seems like, 07:39 in my experience when I've heard about men 07:41 who have phobia problems... 07:43 Not me. Not you. 07:46 But it seems like there wasn't this straight up, 07:50 "Okay, I'm not interested in you anymore. 07:51 I don't want to go any further. Let's just end it." 07:54 It'll probably be one minute you're texting all a lot 07:57 and then next minute I haven't heard from him 08:00 and it's been like two days... 08:02 Right. 08:03 Or you're walking down the street and you're like, 08:05 "Wait, he's wedded somebody new." 08:07 That it is not that straight, you know, direct speech of, 08:10 "Okay, no, I'm not interested anymore." 08:13 It's like this shy, 08:14 like they don't want to get hurt or something 08:17 or maybe they don't want to hurt you straight up, 08:19 so they just shy away, you know, slowly but surely. 08:23 I don't know if maybe they're hoping, 08:25 you'll just forget their number, 08:27 just be so mad that you say forget you. 08:30 I actually had a girlfriend that she was talking to a guy 08:34 and he was so sweet, 08:35 all of a sudden he started acting all crazy. 08:37 And she said, "Why are you acting like this? 08:39 Why are you getting upset." She's like, "Okay, we're over. 08:41 Let's break up." And he was like, "Great. 08:43 That's exactly what I wanted." 08:44 Oh, my... 08:45 He deliberately pushed her and pushed her, 08:48 got under her skin so that she would be the one 08:52 to break up with him. 08:53 So it seems like 08:54 she wasn't going to be that hurt, 08:56 but he was able to be free. 08:58 Wow. 08:59 And I find that interesting because phobia is a fear, 09:01 a fear that's overpowering you. 09:05 People have different types, 09:06 but, you know, the phobia is what controls 09:08 how you express yourself, your emotions and everything, 09:11 and I find it interesting 09:12 that men and women tend to express 09:15 the same kind of things 09:17 or reactions in commitment phobia. 09:18 I don't know, you know, for the fellows, 09:20 I don't know how you think, you know, how you view, 09:22 how women express their phobia, 09:23 but I know, I've seen it similarly, 09:25 well, not with my wife, my wife is wonderful, viewers. 09:27 My wife is just amazing. 09:29 Just want to make sure that disclaimer. 09:31 But, you know, that commitment phobia 09:33 is expressed that way too, 09:34 you know, that pushback, we push away to, 09:38 you know, to kind of withdraw a little bit with the texting, 09:41 with the calling, you know, but it's always 09:43 that pushback kind of getting you, 09:44 you know, pushing you away. 09:46 I don't know what do the men think about, 09:47 how women express commitment phobia, 09:49 what do you guys think? 09:52 Well, nowadays for the most part 09:57 from what I've seen is almost the same. 10:01 You know, the guys, the way they act 10:03 is almost to say the same way the women act. 10:05 They could do it like, 10:06 you know, like Myesha said the girls can say straight up 10:10 this is what they want, you know, this is how far 10:12 they want to go in X, Y and Z and stuff like that 10:15 'cause they're trying to protect themselves 10:17 or they can do it like Brittney said, 10:22 the girl will just, you know, not say it, 10:26 but she might have 10:27 other guy friends, and then say, 10:29 "Well, you know, this is just my friend. 10:30 You know, this is just my friend. 10:32 I don't see the problem. 10:34 I don't see what's wrong with it, you know?" 10:37 And I've also seen in another way, 10:39 you know, a lot of women who are scared of commitment 10:41 because they're scared or they're hurt 10:42 or they're scared of being tied down, 10:45 they might like a guy but play, 10:50 you know, hard to get in a certain aspect, 10:52 you know, withdraw themselves like that. 10:54 I like that. What do you think, Jacques? 10:56 I think that a lot of women who, 10:58 they're afraid of commitment, 11:00 I think that manifests itself in the types of guys 11:03 that they go for, 11:06 and that's where you see a lot of the girls 11:08 how like the bad boys, 11:10 because they know deep down inside 11:13 that this guy is not going to commit to them. 11:15 He has a reputation and he might have even played 11:20 as they say that woman's friend, 11:23 and so she knows intimately that he's not a good guy. 11:27 But she's afraid of being with someone nice, 11:30 she's afraid of being with someone 11:31 who's actually love her 11:33 and so her commitment phobia it manifests itself 11:37 with her being with a guy 11:38 that's not going to treat her right, 11:39 and then when it ends, you know, she's crying, 11:42 and she's upset, but that's just the way 11:44 she knows how to deal with things 11:46 and how to cope with life. 11:47 And I like that because, you know, commitment 11:51 is not just commitment in a relationship, 11:54 you know, it's also in friendships. 11:56 How do you think commitment phobia 11:59 affects your friendships, something that is, 12:02 you know, you have friendships and you have relationships, 12:04 but how does it affect your friendships? 12:07 I think it makes you, you know, selfish 12:10 because you see this person as your friend, 12:14 but you really try to withhold all your feelings, 12:17 so in case they betray you or in case they do some, 12:20 I didn't really know him anyway or he was just an acquaintance. 12:23 So you don't invest all of your time and energy 12:27 into really trying to care for that friendship 12:29 because the stigma out there 12:30 that friends will always betray you in X, Y, and Z, 12:34 and while that does happen, 12:36 you know, a relationship can never be genuine 12:38 unless you go 100% at it so. 12:41 I say it makes you feel alone, 12:43 because you're always scared of the worse, 12:49 and what I've seen among women 12:51 who have commitment phobia, and they don't trust men, 12:54 they don't believe a man will be faithful 12:57 that he will go all the way, 12:58 and if he goes all the way he's going to cheat on you. 13:00 He's going to do this and that to you. 13:03 So what they do is the girlfriend meets the guy, 13:07 "Girl, why are you trying to be with a man, 13:09 you already know how men are, their X, Y, and Z." 13:12 The girlfriend is going to step further, 13:14 "I love him, you know, he's what God told." 13:16 Girl, you know, that's not true, 13:17 he's going to do X, Y and Z." 13:19 And then that relationship has a strain on it, 13:22 because that friend is being so negative, 13:25 feeding all this negative energy 13:28 that even that friend might start wondering. 13:30 I wonder if she's right, but maybe she's not right, 13:32 maybe I should just cut up that relationship. 13:34 So you keep on like ending relationships, 13:37 because most likely if the girl doesn't trust men, 13:39 she may not have a lot of men friends 13:42 or she might also betray too to men. 13:44 "Why are you, you've always been 13:45 with all these different women." 13:47 "No, I'm not." 13:48 Yes, you are, I see how you talked to her". 13:50 Just causing all that contention 13:51 and, you know, distrust and you just end up alone 13:54 because you're not really comfortable 13:56 at trusting anyone. 13:57 True. I like that. 13:59 What do you think, Jacques, 14:01 you will be thinking about something over there? 14:03 Man, get the wisdom. Get the wisdom. 14:06 When it comes to commitment phobia, 14:09 on just a grander scale, it's... 14:15 I believe it's a serious disorder 14:17 where someone is just trying to protect themselves, 14:19 it's all about protection. 14:21 You know, because, 14:22 and when it comes to your friends 14:23 like what Brittany was saying, if you're afraid of being hurt, 14:28 then you won't really open yourself up 14:31 to your own friends, 14:32 and so they're not even really seeing 14:34 the true you, they're seeing a mask. 14:36 And even if you guys have a disagreement, 14:39 you might not even express yourself, 14:41 and have a healthy discussion about your disagreement 14:43 because you're afraid of opening yourself up, 14:45 you're afraid of people knowing who you really are. 14:48 And you're kind of living a double life 14:53 and it's not because you have to, 14:55 but it's because you're afraid. 14:56 You're afraid of what it really means 14:58 to connect with another person, 15:00 because the more you let someone know who you are, 15:03 the more they can hurt you. 15:05 I want to give like, you know, personally I never, 15:09 you know, I had commitment phobia. 15:10 When I was like younger, I was basically like, 15:13 you know, I'm not getting married, 15:15 because society is geared toward me 15:16 getting whatever I want to get. 15:18 As far as a female is concerned and not having to marry her, 15:22 and go through her maybe cheating on me 15:26 or maybe hurting me in some kind of shape, 15:29 form or fashion, 15:30 so I'm not going to get married. 15:32 So my commitment phobia made me switch my mind state 15:36 into thinking that the life 15:37 I was living was actually what I wanted, right? 15:40 Because I can't say that I want a relationship 15:42 because that might hurt me, 15:44 so I'm scared to commit and so I'll say 15:46 that I want to be single, I want to be a hook up guy, 15:50 you know, I want to be the type of guy 15:52 that will talk to different girls, 15:54 but really it was no fulfillment in that, 15:57 but I have to tell myself 15:59 this is what I want so I can protect myself. 16:04 It's like you deceive yourself. 16:05 You're trying to tell yourself, 16:07 "Okay, I don't need this 16:09 because I'm strong, I'm independent, 16:13 I can be bad all by myself. 16:15 I can handle things. 16:17 I don't need this person in my life. 16:19 I'm good." 16:20 And it's like, you are trying to sell it to yourself, 16:23 but your heart doesn't believe it. 16:25 I like that because here's a question for you, 16:29 in reference to this, 16:31 the commitment to an individual 16:32 whether it be a in a relationship 16:34 or friendship can affect you so much 16:37 where you just, you are socially awkward. 16:41 You know what I mean. 16:42 So in this phobia, 16:45 because the Bible talks a lot about commitment, 16:47 about committing yourself to Lord, 16:49 about committing everything you do to Him. 16:51 How does your ability to commit to a human affect your ability 16:56 to commit to God who created us. 16:59 How do you think that plays a role? 17:01 How does commitment phobia play a role 17:03 in your commitment to God? 17:05 Are you able to commit? 17:07 Are you able to really do anything? 17:10 Or are you too stuck in your own fears? 17:11 What do you guys say? 17:13 It's almost like that scripture, you know... 17:14 I was just thinking that... 17:16 "How can you love the Lord, who you can't see if you can't, 17:18 you know, have love for your brother 17:19 who you can see?" 17:21 And so, if you have a disconnect 17:23 with human relationships, 17:25 then you'll treat the relationship 17:27 with God that same way. 17:29 Oh, I know you love me, I know you said all of this, 17:31 but, you know, 17:33 do you really care about me or you, 17:35 is this something in it for you, 17:37 why you're doing this? 17:38 And you'll start to bring 17:39 that relationship down to a base level. 17:43 And basically what will happen is, 17:45 it will really be hard for you, you might have faith in God 17:48 and believe that He exists, but it will be harder, 17:51 almost impossible for you to really trust in the Lord 17:55 at that point. 17:56 Yes, Jacques. 17:57 Our relationship with Christ is a huge commitment. 18:00 Every one of the disciples, 18:02 when they were called they had to leave everything 18:04 and follow Christ. 18:06 Even if they decide to turn back, 18:08 they still made a huge decision, 18:11 they took a huge... 18:12 Well, some people call it risk, but when you serve God 18:14 you're really never taking a risk 18:16 'cause He's 100% all the time. 18:19 But when we're afraid of that commitment to Christ, 18:22 it will inevitably lead into sin. 18:25 And since we're talking about relationships, 18:27 you know, and we're talking predominately 18:28 to young people, when you look at the culture, 18:32 many people fall into pornography 18:34 because they're afraid to commit. 18:36 You don't have to commit to this woman on a screen. 18:40 There's no fear associated with your interaction 18:43 and people that are highly introverted 18:44 like myself tend to fall into that even more, 18:47 because they're socially awkward 18:49 like you are saying, 18:50 and they don't know how to interact, 18:52 they don't want to open up, they don't want to get hurt, 18:54 and they go to a computer to find someone 18:56 that will never hurt them. 18:58 Interesting. 19:00 Well, you know, it's just interesting to think 19:02 about this concept of being having 19:05 a phobia towards commitment, 19:07 especially if you're a Christian, 19:09 how can you have a commitment phobia 19:10 if you are a Christian? 19:12 You know, you're committing yourself 19:13 unto the Lord. 19:14 And I know one of the questions for you, 19:16 you know, maybe our viewer is asking, 19:18 "I don't have a commitment phobia, 19:20 I'm just being cautious on who I choose 19:22 or who God has for me." 19:24 You know, but my question for you, 19:27 the viewer audience there and also for my panel here, 19:32 is there a distinction between commitment phobia 19:35 and being cautious? 19:37 And if there is a distinction, 19:38 what is it, can you explain a little bit? 19:42 I probably say that the distinction is 19:45 if God is telling you to move forward, 19:48 and you're giving him 21 reasons 19:51 why you should not. 19:54 I think that's the biggest distinction. 19:56 God is clearly saying, 19:58 this person is the one for you and you're saying, 20:02 "God, no, this person cannot be the one for me 20:05 because they don't pray the way I think they should be praying, 20:10 they don't do to ministry, I think they should be doing. 20:13 They don't carry themselves the way I think 20:15 they should to carry themselves." 20:17 And the list starts getting longer and longer 20:20 that you start thinking, "You know, what? 20:23 God, I'm crazy. 20:24 It wasn't you who was talking to me. 20:26 You weren't the one telling me to go be with this person. 20:29 It was the devil. 20:30 It was something else going on inside of me." 20:32 And you start rationalizing and rationalizing. 20:35 And if you're in that place, 20:38 you really need to sit down and be like, 20:39 "Okay, whoa, what is it that's really causing me to be 20:44 so afraid of commitments?" 20:48 And also if you're considering not marrying a person, okay, 20:52 I'm going to be with this person, 20:54 but I'm going to break God's law, 20:56 I'm not going to marry them. 20:57 I probably live with them. I'll have kids with them. 21:01 I'll spend the rest of my life with them 21:03 because that's what God wants, right? 21:04 For us to spend the rest of my life 21:06 with a person who really love. 21:07 Yeah. 21:09 We don't need to make that, you know, commitment-commitment 21:10 because that's just a legal document. 21:11 You start doing 21:13 all these different types of rationalization, 21:16 that's the difference. 21:18 If you're so cautious that you can't even see God, 21:21 what He has in store for you, that's like a huge red flag. 21:27 What do you think, Jacques? 21:29 Well, there's a difference between being cautious 21:31 and suffering from commitment phobia. 21:34 I'd say when you're cautious, 21:39 you're comparing this person or you're comparing 21:44 the relationship against something objective. 21:46 So if this person does not meet 21:49 some sort of spiritual requirements, 21:51 if they don't belong to the same church as you, 21:52 if they don't have the same faith, 21:54 if they don't have the same commitment, 21:55 then that is a valid reason to not move forward, 22:00 but I'd say that you're suffering 22:02 from commitment phobia when you can stay 22:04 in the same place in a relationship 22:07 for a prolonged period of time. 22:09 So if you come to a realization that you're dating someone 22:12 and you don't want to move forward, 22:14 if you don't end the relationship 22:16 and you stay in the same place 22:17 for the next two years, three years, four years, 22:20 you might suffer from commitment phobia 22:22 because you're not willing to go forward, 22:24 and you're not willing to end the relationship either, 22:26 you're just kind of stuck. 22:29 I think a real big difference with knowing 22:32 when God is saying stop 22:34 and having commitment phobia is, 22:36 you know, I love the Bible 22:37 'cause there's a verse says this, 22:39 "Commit thy ways unto the Lord 22:40 and so shall thy thoughts be established." 22:42 And so the big difference is trust, 22:45 if you are actually actively every day committing your life 22:48 to the Lord, asking Him about your relationships, 22:51 He's going to tell you 22:52 when to stop, when to go forward. 22:54 Yes, this person is right for you. 22:56 No, they're not, 22:57 you know, or maybe this person is right for you, 22:59 just not right now, you should wait. 23:01 And when it comes to commitment phobia, 23:03 I think you'll take the Bible and find anything 23:06 you can rationalize your own situation 23:09 to kind of do what you want. 23:10 You know, you want to go this far, 23:12 but maybe you want to come back, 23:14 maybe there's stuff that you want from this person, 23:16 but you don't want to go all the way, 23:17 and so you will put your mind above what God says 23:22 and those are the two real big differences. 23:25 One is you're listening to what God says 23:27 and following His example, the other one, 23:29 you're kind of listening to what you think should happen 23:32 or what whoever else is telling you should happen. 23:35 And I like that, because, you know, 23:37 that kind of leads us into our last question 23:39 which is how do you overcome commitment phobia, 23:43 you know, especially 23:44 if you're already in a relationship? 23:47 You know, if you're in a dating relationship, 23:49 how do you overcome to, 23:50 how do you proceed on to the next phase, 23:52 how do you heal from that? 23:54 Perfect love casteth out all fear. 23:58 And I'm going to just almost piggyback 24:00 to what I said earlier, 24:01 if you are trusting in the Lord 24:03 with all your heart, mind, and soul, 24:08 you don't have to be afraid of any situation 24:10 He puts you in. 24:12 And if it's commitment, whatever road He takes you now, 24:15 you can be rest assured and trusting in Him 24:18 that He's leading you in the right path. 24:20 Jacques? 24:22 I was going to say something along those lines, committing, 24:26 it can be a very nerve-racking process. 24:30 And so it's only when you can commit to Christ, 24:33 and you can get His love, 24:34 and when you can get His wisdom, 24:36 and you can get His spirit within you, 24:39 that when you're committing to other people 24:40 you'll have that discernment to know 24:42 whether or not you should move forward. 24:44 And even when you know that it's God who's telling you 24:46 to go forward, 24:47 you still might be a little bit nervous, 24:50 but you have the assurance that if you trust in God 24:52 and lean not on your understanding, 24:54 He is the one who is directing your path. 24:58 I like that and, you know, to our viewers out there, 25:02 understanding the fact that phobia is a fear, 25:06 it does overwhelm your every being, 25:08 it does overwhelm every sense in your body, in your mind, 25:12 and being committed, 25:14 you know, to something that's permanent 25:15 like a marriage can be scary. 25:17 There's nothing wrong with you for being scared. 25:20 But the Lord promises to heal you from those fears, 25:23 to help you along the way. 25:26 I don't know what you've been through, 25:27 only God knows what you've been through. 25:29 Again, just because you're afraid doesn't mean 25:31 you're a bad person, 25:32 doesn't mean there's no going back, 25:34 it just means you need a little extra help. 25:37 You know, if you need prayer, reach out. 25:38 If you need counseling, reach out. 25:41 Just don't forget that God is always with you 25:44 and He's never too weak 25:47 to help you heal from these phobias. 25:49 So commit your ways unto the Lord 25:52 and set your eyes upon Him, 25:53 and always remember to make pure choices. |
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