Participants: Myesha Lawson (Host), Brittany-Hill Morales, Jacques LaGuerre, Timothy Lawson, Xavier Morales
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000101A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:04 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:06 may be too candid for younger children. 00:42 Hi, welcome to Pure Choices. 00:44 I'm your host today Myesha Lawson. 00:47 Let me start with introducing my wonderful panel today, 00:51 Brittany Morales, Jacques LaGuerre, 00:55 Xavier Morales, and Timothy Lawson. 01:00 Today's topic is Let's Make it Count. 01:05 But let us start with prayer first. 01:07 Please bow your heads. 01:10 Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that You bless this topic 01:13 today, Lord God. 01:15 And I ask that You speak to us as well 01:19 and the viewers, Lord. 01:22 And we thank You in Jesus' name, amen. 01:24 Amen. 01:26 So today, we're going to be talking about 01:28 make-up and breakup sex. 01:31 So, I know it's going to be heavy duty, 01:34 but I think it's very important that it should be discussed. 01:38 So the first question is what is breakup sex? 01:45 I would consider it probably like the last hurrah. 01:49 It's when a couple has decided to terminate their relationship 01:53 and they decide that, just to, 01:56 before it's completely done with, 01:58 let's just have sex one more time, 02:02 something to cherish each other with, 02:04 even though we're not going to be together anymore. 02:06 Oh, okay. 02:08 It also can be used as a form to stop the breakup. 02:12 Person can say, "Okay, we're going to breakup, 02:15 so let this be our last time." 02:16 But they really have hopes of enticing this person 02:20 or keeping them or at least during the breakup, 02:22 they can still have that little sex part. 02:25 I'm glad said that but hold that thought. 02:29 Anyone else? 02:30 Okay, well, what is make-up sex? 02:35 Well, they just had an argument, 02:38 they're in a relationship and they just had an argument, 02:41 and to kind of, maybe they work things out, 02:45 maybe not, but to come back together 02:47 and continue the relationship, they have sex. 02:50 Right, okay. 02:52 So what is breakup? 02:55 Is make-up and breakup sex healthy for relationship? 02:59 No. From a non-marital... 03:02 No, it wouldn't be healthy because, you know, number one, 03:06 you're non-marital, you're fornicating. 03:08 Right. That's the obvious one. 03:11 But the other part is, you know, you're really not 03:13 accomplishing anything. 03:15 You're really just, you know, 03:17 going after the physical and pleasure, 03:18 but you're not really doing anything 03:21 that will solidify or improve your relationship. 03:26 I think sex in any relationship besides a marital one 03:31 is destructive and harmful, period. 03:34 And so that's why the Bible cautions us not to do it. 03:37 But this even more so 03:39 because it can make the relationship feel like 03:41 it's more important than it is 03:43 and give you blinders to the real problems. 03:46 If you're about to breakup 03:47 but you're constantly sleeping together, 03:48 then you're not listening to the signs 03:51 that are showing you guys are not a good couple. 03:53 And then if you are constantly having arguments 03:56 but you're constantly are having, 03:57 you know, make-up sex afterwards, 03:59 then you're not seeing that these arguments 04:01 are real red flags and real problems 04:03 that you guys shouldn't be together. 04:05 Also, with the flag that you guys 04:07 are fornicating in the first place. 04:08 Right. 04:10 And also add that, it limits the beauty of sex. 04:13 As you stated earlier 04:14 with the definition of breakup sex, 04:16 it's that thing that we do 04:18 because we kind of want to connect one more time or... 04:24 So in some cases, 04:25 the woman or the man would be like, 04:27 "I'm going to make sure they remember me. 04:29 So I'm going to make it really, really great." 04:31 So when it's all said and done, and we're gone, 04:34 the person said, "Okay, I remember, 04:36 our last time was really, really great." 04:38 It's like this psychological malfunction. 04:44 It's dysfunctional just to think that, 04:47 "Okay, we're going to use this as our last moments together 04:51 to cherish the relationship." 04:55 Not only it is a fornication, 04:57 which we clearly know to be wrong, 05:00 but I think that it can kind of lead to some sort of 05:03 deification of the other person and let me explain that. 05:06 If you're in a relationship with someone 05:08 and you guys know you're about to break up 05:10 and you say let's just have sex one more time, 05:11 you know, last hurrah, 05:13 that last experience in your mind, 05:18 you'll probably mentally fantasize about it 05:20 in the future more and more and more. 05:23 And then, when you do meet someone else, 05:26 that person won't be able to live up 05:28 to that fantasy that you had 05:29 because you knew it would be your last time, 05:31 and there was just all these different emotions 05:33 engaged that really aren't healthy, 05:35 and so it might ruin you for a genuine sexual encounter. 05:40 Okay, why do you think 05:43 media supports this act? 05:48 I think they just make it enticing, 05:51 like this element of, when you have make-up sex, 05:54 it's better than the regular sex 05:56 or when you're doing the breakup, 05:57 it's really a, truly a cherished moment to have. 06:00 They felt in the entire relationship 06:02 that the sex was bad, 06:03 but the last hurrah just happened 06:05 to be the most wonderful, the most amazing, 06:07 like they just make it seem as if, 06:10 I think it's dysfunction. 06:12 The media doesn't know 06:13 how to support beauty in a marital relationship 06:18 and how you stay together 06:20 and you have just encounters that worship God, 06:23 they don't know how to do that. 06:25 So instead of doing that, 06:26 they're going to show these dysfunctional methods of, 06:29 "Okay, we're breaking up, we're separating." 06:32 And instead of sitting down 06:34 and having a talk about what was wrong 06:35 or good in their relationship, 06:37 what we're going to do is have sex instead. 06:40 I think we also have to remember 06:42 that the Bible calls Satan the prince of this world. 06:46 And at all times, there's a great controversy 06:49 going on between him and Jesus. 06:50 And when God decided to create the human race 06:53 and make them in His image, He made a male and female. 06:56 And so He used the beauty of sex 06:57 inside a family structure 07:01 so He could show the whole universe His image. 07:03 And what Satan wants to do is take it and pervert it 07:07 so he can use it as a tool to destroy 07:08 the image of God in this. 07:10 So the media presents it, so everybody can have sex, 07:13 and so it's normal, 07:15 and so you can pay attention on the physical, 07:17 but miss the mental and the spiritual aspects 07:19 because if you want to take over the world, 07:21 then you have to take over the countries, 07:23 but countries are made of states, 07:25 states are made of cities, 07:26 and cities are made of communities, 07:28 and the foundation of that is families. 07:30 So Satan wants to destroy the family structure. 07:33 I agree, I agree. 07:35 Yes, the media has a huge influence 07:37 on how things should be or relationships, marriages, 07:41 so I totally agree with that. 07:44 So we know, in marriages, 07:47 that these practices are being performed. 07:50 If so, what are the effects? 07:53 Well, I think for one, it's the fact that, 07:56 again, it goes back to the whole avoidance issue. 07:59 You know, you're having these issues 08:03 and you're using them to kind of cover up, 08:05 you know, what's really going on, 08:08 and the make-up and break, you know... 08:10 I don't think you really breakup per se, 08:12 I mean, people get divorced 08:14 and they do what they call, you know, divorce sex, again, 08:17 it has the same connotation as makeup and breakup. 08:20 But at the same time, it's, you know, you're using... 08:23 And I have to go with what Tim said, 08:25 you're using something that God created to be beautiful 08:28 in order to satisfy your needs, 08:31 and the detriments to that marriage 08:32 are going to be great 08:34 because you're never really focusing 08:37 on what the issue at hand, 08:39 you're just focusing on the self. 08:41 It's almost borderline, 08:43 lustful in a way you're using sex to really use... 08:49 to kind of use the situation 08:50 to your benefit to get your satisfaction out of it. 08:54 If you're trying to viable each other, 08:56 and we're trying to work out our problems, 08:59 and we have a big disagreement and we come back together, 09:02 you know, mentally and spiritually, 09:04 then sometimes there's that desire, 09:07 you know, to want to be near and close to that person 09:09 in that special way, and that's fine. 09:12 But just like Xavier said, 09:14 if you're just having major problems, 09:17 but you're kind of using the sex to gloss over it 09:20 and keep the marriage going, then, you know, like he said, 09:23 you're using something God created 09:24 to be beautiful as a handicap 09:27 so everybody can stay together and everybody can be cool. 09:30 It's like delusional, 09:33 our spiritual relationship is bad, 09:36 our social relationship is bad, we can't connect emotionally, 09:40 we can't connect mentally, but you know what? 09:42 Even though we just had a fight, 09:43 at least we can connect sexually. 09:46 So it makes, it seem that the relationship, 09:48 you know, is somewhat successful 09:50 because at least we can connect on that external elements, 09:54 when in reality, when there is an argument, 09:57 there needs to be that moment to sit down 09:59 and say, "Okay, what happened? 10:02 Let's talk it out. 10:03 How can we probably make things better next time?" 10:06 And because that discussion happened... 10:09 and if I may go into the element of, 10:12 "Okay, now we're in a better place. 10:16 We're closer now 10:17 because we are able to figure out 10:18 that spiritual disagreement," 10:20 that emotional disagreement 10:21 where probably the wife is upset 10:23 and husband just wasn't getting it, 10:25 now he gets it, now we can really be able to move forward, 10:29 and both parties understand it better. 10:33 Okay. 10:35 So is sex being used to cover 10:37 and erase conflicts in marriages? 10:40 Yes. 10:43 You know, most definitely kind of 10:44 like some examples that you gave. 10:49 A husband can do something and, 10:52 you know, he might know he's wrong, 10:53 maybe he don't want to apologize, 10:55 maybe he don't want to come clean with it, 10:56 but he'd be like, you know what? 10:58 I'm going to just, you know, 10:59 "I'm going to pour this bubble bath," 11:01 you know what I'm saying? 11:02 "I'm going to put roses in there, 11:04 I'm going to give a massage, 11:05 we're going to say 11:06 and everything's going to be all right. 11:08 "And ain't got to talk about it, 11:09 and I ain't got to worry about it tomorrow, 11:10 and I'm going to just, you know, cover it up." 11:12 Not saying he can't do that and still, 11:14 you know, say, "You know, dear, I was wrong x, y, and z." 11:18 And it could be a beautiful day with that. 11:19 So we don't want to get to picture we're saying, 11:22 you can't have an argument, 11:23 and still sleep together, and still workout your stuff. 11:27 But to do it so you don't have to 11:29 her mouth no more, 11:30 you know, you just want to do what is she likes 11:32 or whatever the case may be, 11:33 is not a good way to go about, you know. 11:37 And sometimes, one of my friends has told me, 11:40 like, it's only during the make-up, 11:42 it's like the only time 11:44 he really does stuff that she likes. 11:46 He's so sorrowful, so he will do what ever, 11:49 he will focus on her and make sure she is satisfied, 11:52 probably give her few massages, 11:54 before it was just like, 11:56 "You know, honey, let's just get this done." 11:57 But because he's still sorrowful, 12:00 he'll go that extra mile 12:02 versus in the regular lovemaking, 12:05 that is what should be happening in the relationship 12:09 because you are married, 12:10 you made that commitment to each other and to God. 12:13 And again, sex is an expression of intimacy, 12:16 it's part of intimacy, 12:18 and it should be actually done to be selfless during sex. 12:23 I care about what you need during this moment. 12:25 It's not just about me, it's also about you. 12:28 And it shouldn't only happen 12:29 because you forgot to pick up the kids, 12:33 the kids were stuck at the place for half an hour, 12:35 you feel so sorry, 12:36 "Honey, I'll do whatever you want me to do." 12:38 It shouldn't be that way. Right. 12:41 Well, you also see it in the media, 12:43 that's what the right thing to do is. 12:46 You know, to, even if you, 12:48 you know, when you're married, 12:49 you have an argument, it's like... 12:51 And they show it on movies and everything, 12:52 you're married, you have an argument, 12:54 and like 10 seconds later, everybody stripped down, 12:56 and, you know, having sex 12:58 and its like, you know, and again, 13:01 it doesn't solve the issue. 13:03 It doesn't solve the issue. 13:05 It actually can compound the issue further 13:07 and make it worse, which can potentially... 13:09 And it's funny, it's ironic 13:11 because God created sex for man to be married, 13:14 you know, men and women to... 13:16 when they're married, 13:17 but, you know, sometimes using sex 13:21 in such a way as a tool can often lead to divorce. 13:25 Right. 13:27 So you see, viewers, you should not use 13:31 make-up and breakup sex or just make-up sex, 13:35 I'm sorry, to erase and cover the conflicts 13:39 that are in your marriage. 13:40 You should talk them out, work them out, 13:43 however you see fit. 13:45 So my next question is why do you feel make-up sex 13:50 is better than regular lovemaking? 13:54 Well, I say is that some people feel 13:56 that it's better the same way, 13:57 some people think that sex was better with their wife 14:01 before they were married 14:03 because there's an aspect of sin involved. 14:04 Right. 14:06 And many times people think that they're in love with sex, 14:09 no, they're really in love with sin. 14:11 And so they need that argument, they need that anger, 14:15 they need that high degree of like negative emotions. 14:20 So it's like perverted. 14:21 Yeah, it's some sort of perverted, 14:23 kind of fetish in a way that they need that anger there, 14:26 and I think that's better than two people 14:29 who are just trying to express their love 14:31 and they kind of get addicted to it. 14:35 You know, I want to just piggyback of what Jacques said 14:38 and just agree. 14:40 I don't think it's better, 14:41 but people get the idea its better. 14:44 And largely, you know, like we've been 14:46 saying in this program, 14:49 you know, we're taught or trained 14:50 this in the media that to, 14:52 you know, have it this way or, 14:54 you know, with this anger and emotion involved 14:57 is actually going to make you feel better. 15:00 And what you don't see is two people who are together 15:05 and on one accord, you know, he's in her mind, 15:08 she's in his mind, 15:09 and they're together with one another, 15:11 and how beautiful that can be. 15:13 And so it's a perversion that's taught 15:16 and, you know, like a fantasy 15:18 and a fetish that people think they need to have 15:20 because they've seen it, you know, somewhere before. 15:23 I think also to, you know, 15:25 speaking from a psychological standpoint, 15:28 you know, make-up will involve something 15:30 before that you were angry that you had to makeup for. 15:33 So, you know, physiologically, 15:34 your body is already releasing these chemicals in your brain 15:37 kind of like adrenaline 15:39 'cause you're angry, you're upset, 15:41 and you're having this euphoria from the anger, 15:44 and then you are using that to, like we said earlier, 15:48 to kind of like taint sex, you know, taint lovemaking 15:52 within the marriage or using that to... 15:55 and people think, you know, oftentimes they do it, 15:57 they think that it feels better, 15:59 it feel so much greater, when in reality, 16:02 you're really just, you know, what you're doing 16:05 is using the anger and those feelings 16:08 that you're having to have sex, 16:11 but in reality, it's not better. 16:12 It's not better. 16:14 You're just really masking the anger 16:16 that you're having inside. 16:17 So it's really, there's no end result. 16:22 I would probably... I like two different elements. 16:25 The first one is they feel like it's better 16:29 because they just had an argument. 16:31 There were really, really angry with each other, 16:33 they thought the end was near, 16:36 the relationship was going to end, 16:37 someone was going to pack their bags and leave, 16:40 it was going to be done, 16:42 the world was coming to an end, 16:44 but then, no, they're still here, 16:46 they still love me. 16:48 Despite the fact that I just acted 16:49 completely stupid right there and then, 16:51 they still want to be here in this relationship, 16:54 in this marriage with me, 16:56 they still want to push forward. 17:00 And the act that when they are about to have sex, 17:02 it feels better 17:04 because there is a different mindset verses regular sex. 17:08 During regular sex it's like, "Yeah, of course, she's here, 17:12 he's here, of course, we're together." 17:14 But when it comes to make-up, 17:16 it was, "I almost lost this person. 17:19 This person was almost out the door 17:21 but they're still here." 17:23 So it's almost feels like 17:25 a different level of intimacy kind of 17:28 because it's like, "Okay, I could have really, 17:30 truly lost you, but I didn't." 17:34 And then a second element is which I will think 17:38 is more of a Christian perspective 17:40 where you worked things out. 17:43 You understand your spouse better 17:45 because even though you had the argument, 17:48 you had the discussion, I understand you better. 17:51 I understand that when I do this, 17:53 it makes you feel this way. 17:55 And you understand that when you do this, 17:57 it makes me feel this way, reflected out, 18:00 we've made a promise to move forward, 18:02 understanding that we can't do these things 18:05 because we love each other, and we can't hurt each other. 18:08 So the sex that falls after that 18:10 is not a matter of covering up, 18:12 it's a matter of we have just grown closer. 18:15 We have just understood each other more. 18:17 We're about to make our marriage better 18:19 because we've had that discussion. 18:24 So you see, viewers, don't use sex as if, 18:30 you know, you can connect with your spouse. 18:35 But you're connecting with them through your arguments 18:37 because you guys are getting to know each other. 18:39 So I want to also ask, 18:43 how does makeup and breakup sex 18:47 can be used as to manipulate a person's decision? 18:52 You know, can it be used to manipulate someone? 18:54 Most definitely. 18:56 You better believe it. 18:57 Please explain how. 18:58 So like, you know, if you guys 19:00 are getting in argument about something 19:02 that the other spouse doesn't want to do 19:05 or doesn't think is positive for the marriage 19:08 or for the kids or whatever the case may be, 19:12 and then, you know, then the other person says, 19:16 "Okay," you know, "And I know how I'm going 19:18 to get what I want." 19:19 You know, and they'll use it, you know, they might even say 19:23 they're sorry for their part, 19:25 but really inside, they're going to say, 19:27 I'm sorry, act humble, 19:29 use the sex to soften the heart of the other person 19:32 so they can really get what they want, you know. 19:34 And then with breakup, 19:37 as said earlier, a person could really want to break up 19:40 with the other person 19:41 and think to leave, but that person can say, 19:43 "No, let's just sleep together again..." 19:45 And really try to have the best sex with that person 19:49 in a way to keep them, 19:51 you know, to keep them still in that relationship, 19:54 to make them think it's still so important 19:57 because the sex was so good or so important 19:59 and not look at the other issues. 20:01 All right. 20:03 And as a form of manipulation, I'm just remembering something 20:06 that I saw a few years ago, 20:08 where the woman knew that if she told her husband 20:12 what just happened, 20:13 he would have been so upset. 20:15 So when he walked through the door, 20:16 she already knew what he liked and she had the room set. 20:20 She was wearing the special outfit 20:22 and the special music was playing, 20:24 you know, regularly she probably 20:26 wouldn't have worn the outfit, 20:27 but she was wearing it that day, 20:28 you know, had the food set out, so when he would come in... 20:31 His favorite. 20:33 Of course, his favorite food set out. 20:35 So it will kind of soften the blow 20:37 because he would be so happy that she, 20:40 you know, is trying to satisfy him, 20:42 that probably halfway through, she might whisper, 20:45 "And, you know, this kind of happened today." 20:47 So when he's about to be upset, 20:48 "Oh, hi, baby, don't worry, baby, it's going to be okay." 20:51 Kind of like... 20:52 Have some more food. Have some more food. 20:55 You know, you love these mashed potatoes. 20:59 Deceitful. Right. 21:03 Well, that's just something to think about, huh, 21:05 I have to use that. 21:07 "Oh, honey, I scraped the car on the side, I'm sorry." 21:11 It won't work, it won't work. 21:13 Oh, I got to try something else then, huh? 21:18 Okay, well, how does make-up and breakup sex 21:21 scar a person or a relationship? 21:25 When you breakup, you know, 21:27 and you're having as we said earlier, 21:29 we've been saying the last hurrah, 21:31 you know, you're never going to be really in... 21:35 and Jacques touched on it, 21:36 you're never detached from that individual. 21:39 Somewhere along the line 21:40 you're still going to carry that. 21:42 You know what, you're doing something, 21:43 you know, maybe now, you know, you were single, 21:45 you were in a relationship, you were fornicating, 21:47 and, you know, you had the last hurrah, 21:50 now then you realized it everywhere, 21:52 and you got in a marriage. 21:53 Now when you're in a marriage, 21:55 that's going to be in the back of your mind, 21:56 that's going to be the predominant feeling, 21:58 and it's just not fair to the other person. 22:01 And at the same time, 22:03 there's severe scarring from both sides. 22:08 I think what can happen is it can change your view 22:10 of what sex is intended for. 22:13 You know, if you're always using sex 22:15 to fix a conflict or you always use sex 22:20 when you're about to end a relationship, 22:22 now you're married 22:24 and sex is supposed to be a natural 22:26 and healthy expression of love, 22:29 you don't know how to use it that way, 22:32 so you might only have sex when you're fighting. 22:35 And so people might try to cause fights, 22:37 your husband might even try to cause fights 22:38 'cause that's the only time you want to have sex 22:40 is when she's upset 22:42 because she's conditioned or he's conditioned himself 22:45 that the only time that sex is supposed to be 22:48 shared between two people 22:50 is when there's some sort of anger, 22:52 and you ruin what sex is supposed to be, 22:54 and you won't even really be able to enjoy it. 22:57 You know, and that might also 22:59 change the type of people you're looking for. 23:02 You know, if you think that a woman is nice 23:04 and she's safe, and she's holy, 23:06 then that might just not do it for you 23:10 'cause, you know, we're not going to have that many fights, 23:11 there's not going to be that excitement, 23:13 and all these things. 23:15 And so I think that the deep scarring happens 23:17 when we engage in these practices 23:19 over and over and over. 23:21 Us being creatures of habit, 23:23 it just changes the way we look at sex. 23:26 I think it's very emotional scarring 23:29 as it deals with some of the self-worth. 23:31 If you're fornicating, that's already bad, 23:34 you know, on a physical, mental, and spiritual level, 23:37 but in that relationship or even in a marriage, 23:39 what it says is I'm important enough to sleep with 23:43 or to meet that physical need, 23:46 but you don't care what I think, 23:47 you don't care what I feel. 23:50 I'm in pain, what happened is hurting me, 23:53 but that doesn't matter as long as, 23:55 you know, we can physically connect, 23:57 that's as deep is our relationship goes. 24:00 And I can only be used for that aspect, 24:04 but I can't be used to have my emotional needs met 24:08 and come together on that level. 24:11 And for a person who starts to realize that, 24:14 their self-worth will be wrapped up 24:16 and identify in that physical trade. 24:19 And then like Jacques said, it can get to that person 24:21 only identifying their self-worth 24:23 with the physical, 24:25 and so they can start to see 24:27 that is the most important part of their self 24:28 and go through destructive relationships 24:31 based on the physical aspect 24:33 and miss totally what God has 24:36 intended for relationships to be. 24:38 Yeah, I would definitely add to that, 24:40 like in the non-marital segment, 24:41 like if you're having make-up sex, 24:45 probably that argument 24:46 was supposed to be a huge red flag 24:48 for you to end a relationship. 24:50 But because you included sex into it, "Yes, we just fight. 24:53 We just had a big fight, 24:55 but because he did this with me, 24:57 maybe it's not that bad." 24:59 Maybe he cares. 25:00 Or, "Even though she did x, y, and z, 25:02 well, you know, she satisfied my needs. 25:04 So maybe I can just forgive her and keep moving on 25:07 'cause who else is going to give it to me like her?" 25:09 And it starts confusing you, 25:12 and it makes you stay stuck in the relationship 25:14 where you weren't supposed to be there. 25:16 Yes, you weren't supposed to fornicate to begin with, 25:18 but one of the dangers of why we say, 25:20 why God said do not fornicate 25:22 is because He knows how it can really mess you up 25:26 and confuse you and make you stay in something 25:29 that He had never ever desired for you to stay in 25:32 because you're connecting on this level 25:35 when he didn't want you to connect on that level. 25:37 I just want to stay that, 25:39 and especially, viewers, if you watching, 25:41 you might even be in one of these relationships. 25:43 There are a billion relationships that only exist 25:46 because you guys are physical. 25:49 If you guys were not physical, 25:51 that relationship would have been done. 25:54 It'd be done by the time this program is finished, 25:58 you know, but because you are physical, 26:01 it distorts your view 26:03 and really with makeup and breakup sex, 26:05 just like she said, it can just hold you, 26:07 I mean, it can be years you can be in this relationship 26:09 and think it's important because of that aspect. 26:13 Tim, I definitely agree with that. 26:15 And another thing that sex is for, 26:17 I think, God intended for it, He created it. 26:21 You know, that's something that we sometimes forget 26:23 that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed 26:28 and to be explored within a marriage covenant 26:31 between two people of opposite sex. 26:33 And so anything else that does not bring glory to God, 26:37 like Tim said, and is not a healthy expression of love, 26:41 it shouldn't be in the marriage covenant at all. 26:42 You know, all these perversions, 26:44 you know, makeup and breakup, 26:46 I don't think it brings glory to God, 26:47 and if it's not a true expression of love 26:50 between a husband and wife, 26:51 then that's something that they should keep to the side. 26:54 Right. Right, definitely. 26:57 Because as we've been saying sex is about worship, 27:00 it's about worshipping God, that's why He intended it for. 27:03 It's that moment where a husband and a wife 27:06 come together and they worship God. 27:08 And from that, God might give them 27:09 that extra blessing of a child or children. 27:13 And that's what it really is for, 27:15 it's not just to try to cover up issues 27:17 in a relationship or to, 27:19 you know, prolong a bad relationship, 27:22 it's truly about beauty in its essence. 27:26 So you see, viewers, as we talked about make-up 27:30 and breakup sex, what to do, what not to do, 27:34 what it's used for, and what it's not used for. 27:38 Do not use sex to manipulate a person's decision. 27:43 Do not use sex to cover 27:47 or erase problems in your marriage. 27:50 Do not use sex as what the secular media tells you. 27:55 Sex is a gift from God. 27:59 Sex is a form of expression of love. 28:03 Sex is to be used to glorify God and God alone. 28:07 Remember to make Pure Choices. |
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