Participants: Brittany Hill-Morales (Host), Dajanae Anderson, Keith Hackle Jr
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000125A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:03 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:05 may be too candid for younger children. 00:42 Welcome to Pure Choices. 00:43 My name is Brittany Hill-Morales 00:44 and I am today's host. 00:46 We have a great topic today. 00:49 We're talking about built-in intuition, 00:51 sexuality in Christian marriage. 00:54 But before we jump into the conversation, 00:56 let's pray. 00:57 Dearest most heavenly Father, 00:59 dear Lord, we pray that You will be with us here 01:01 as we have this discussion 01:02 and that you also be with the viewers at home. 01:05 We love you so much dear Lord, in Jesus' name, amen. 01:08 Amen. 01:09 So I have two wonderful people here with me 01:12 who are going to join into this discussion with us. 01:15 We have Keith Hackle, Pastor Keith Hackle. 01:17 He lives over there in Iowa. 01:20 And we also have Dajanae Anderson, 01:22 who's recently married. 01:24 Congratulations. 01:26 And she is a graduate student in Texas. 01:30 So built-in intuition, we all have been there. 01:35 We all are married for different periods of time. 01:38 Dajanae is the newly one on the block. 01:41 Been married for almost four months? 01:42 Yes. 01:43 And Keith has been married for 12 long years. 01:48 Yes. Yes. Yes. 01:49 And I'm a humble two years, 01:51 almost getting near to that three. 01:54 And it's exciting 'cause you love your spouses. 01:57 You're glad to be with them. 02:00 But sexuality can be a little bit tricky. 02:04 Oh, yes. Or is it? 02:05 Because the statement is made that 02:07 Christian marriages don't have sexual issues. 02:11 Yes, I wouldn't necessarily say that that was true. 02:15 I have heard that before though, 02:17 before getting married even though I'm the newest kid 02:20 on the block in this marriage reality. 02:23 Before getting married, 02:25 I spoke with a lot of older people 02:26 that have been married for 20 plus years 02:28 and even some who have been married 02:30 a little bit less than that. 02:31 And they all gave me advice about sexuality. 02:34 One of my Aunt Neal, I call her my Aunt Neal, 02:37 my aunt in the church. 02:38 She let me know that having discussions about sexuality 02:44 is something very important. 02:46 So I was told very early when I first got engaged 02:49 and speaking about getting engaged 02:51 that sexual issues are common in Christian marriages. 02:55 I agree. 02:56 I mean, the idea that you're not going to have any issues, 02:59 it's a relationship, 03:01 you're interacting with someone else, 03:02 so there's going to be times where there's difficulties, 03:05 there's going to be times when there's confusion. 03:07 And so I think that the issue is not, 03:10 are you going to have issues, 03:11 it's how are you going to resolve those issues 03:13 by coming together. 03:15 So individuals need to know that 03:17 you're going to have some issues. 03:18 And so expect it and now put together a plan 03:21 when they come up. 03:22 That's how you're going to resolve them. 03:24 I agree, there are issues in your Christian marriage, 03:29 in marriages generally. 03:31 But there is this belief that 03:32 Christian marriages won't have any problems. 03:37 Another quote has said that Christian marriages, 03:40 you automatically know what to do. 03:44 You automatically have healthy sexuality 03:46 when you get married. 03:48 And it also... 03:50 Some people I also heard state that. 03:53 When you are married, it's good, it's great. 03:58 I think it's also based on the premise 04:01 of both are entering the marriage untouched. 04:05 They're both virgins. 04:06 So there's this belief that two people 04:09 who don't know what they're doing will automatically know 04:12 what they're doing and do it well. 04:14 Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right. 04:16 That's tough. 04:18 And it creates another layer to this 04:21 like you said you both coming and you're untouched, 04:23 you're both virgins. 04:25 And so where do you get this education 04:27 and hopefully you've had that conversation with an aunt, 04:31 someone at the church. 04:32 There are certain things that we don't like to talk about, 04:34 but I think this is important for us 04:37 to have those conversations with our young adults 04:40 or young people before they get to that point 04:42 so that we can kind of dispel some of these myths 04:45 that make it difficult when you get into the marriage. 04:47 Right. 04:49 And I think one of the issues that you just brought up, 04:50 kind of, in your question, bring saying that people, 04:54 the premises that they are and that everyone is untouched, 04:58 that there is a reality 04:59 that some people deal with molestation, 05:02 some people deal with rape, and things like that. 05:05 Or maybe have just been exposed to sexuality, 05:08 maybe they weren't touched, 05:10 but they saw things or they heard about things. 05:13 And so "Wow, being married," okay now, you know, 05:17 it's acceptable in the sight of the Lord, 05:19 it's worship, to come together in your marriage 05:22 and experience that level of intimacy. 05:24 Sometimes there is still... 05:26 There's baggage 05:28 that individuals bring into the marriage 05:29 that sometimes are not, 05:31 it's properly discussed before saying, "I do." 05:34 Yes, I totally agree. 05:37 When my husband and I were preparing to be married, 05:40 we went through premarital counseling 05:43 and I don't want to throw my premarital counselor 05:45 underneath the bus. 05:47 But she had us do a test that had different questions 05:50 on what we would like for when we were married. 05:53 And I guess whatever the answers were, 05:57 it concluded that we would be compatible, 05:59 and we'd be okay. 06:00 So she said, "You guys are okay in this area. 06:02 When it's time for you guys to get married, 06:04 everything will be great." 06:05 That's basically what it seemed like she was saying, 06:08 "Don't worry about it. 06:09 I guess you'll figure it out. 06:11 That's it." 06:12 And we focused for the next six months 06:15 on everything else, no talk on sexuality. 06:19 And that can be hard when you're about to get married. 06:24 You may have a few ideas of what should be happening, 06:29 but you're not completely certain 06:31 in how to make it a long-term success. 06:35 Right. 06:36 So when should couples seek help? 06:40 Like how do they know we're in a bad place? 06:43 I should probably try to figure out 06:45 how to get us to a better place. 06:47 As it relates to intimacy? 06:49 Mm-hmm. 06:51 It's tough. 06:53 Maybe when a person... 06:54 When you start to notice, when one person notices, 06:56 they don't like that time, 06:58 they don't like when it's time to be intimate, 07:00 they don't like being close to each other, 07:01 they try to avoid it as much as possible. 07:05 And maybe even before the difficulty, 07:08 maybe when things are going well, 07:10 or you're in that moment and you realize, 07:13 you know what, this just isn't working for me. 07:16 And so at that point, 07:18 I believe it's time to talk to your spouse, 07:20 and it's time to go and seek help 07:22 and get some advice from others 07:24 to see how to make this thing work. 07:26 Yes, I would totally agree with that. 07:28 Earlier I mentioned my Aunt Neal, 07:30 and that was something that she said to me, 07:32 she gave me an example saying that there was a young couple, 07:36 where there was a young lady that she knew 07:37 that had recently gotten married. 07:39 For my Aunt Neal, nothing is taboo. 07:41 So she, you know, she pulled the young lady to the side 07:43 and asked her about her sex, you know, 07:46 her sex life with her husband 07:48 and the young lady said that she was uncomfortable, 07:52 she was dissatisfied. 07:54 And Aunt Neal asked her 07:57 if she had conversations during. 08:00 And did she tell her husband 08:01 that what we just finished doing 08:04 wasn't comfortable for me. 08:06 And the young lady said no. 08:08 And so Aunt Neal's advice was communicate with your husband, 08:12 you can communicate with him during, 08:14 and you can communicate with him after, 08:17 I mean, even before. 08:19 And so that I would definitely agree 08:21 with the statement that you just made. 08:23 I would agree as well. 08:24 Another factor that is a concern 08:27 'cause I'm not sure how 08:29 it was for Dajanae growing up in high school, 08:31 and you did biology, 08:33 and you learnt about the differences 08:36 between men and women. 08:37 Right. 08:38 And you wondered how would this work. 08:40 And I have a lot of female friends 08:43 who have fortunately never had sex. 08:47 They're not married. 08:48 And one of their concerns is a man is bigger 08:53 in certain respects and how would that work. 08:56 Is it going to be hurt, is it going to be painful, 08:58 is it going to hurt. 08:59 That's one of their main fears of it being painful, 09:03 because based on biology, 09:07 a man is of certain size and a woman is of certain size. 09:09 And it seems like it would just be an extreme stretch. 09:12 I remember having that conversation 09:14 and they're fearful of it. 09:16 And that's one thing that a woman needs to understand 09:20 because she may have this mentality, 09:21 "Okay, it's supposed to hurt." 09:23 So during their sexual relationship, 09:25 it's painful, it hurts. 09:27 It's not comfortable. 09:29 And if it's painful, please seek medical help 09:36 because there might be something going on 09:38 that's causing that pain. 09:41 There are different things that go on in our bodies 09:45 that could cause that pain, 09:46 and I'm not a medical professional, 09:49 so please have that conversation 09:52 with your doctor. 09:53 I will be transparent for a minute, 09:56 after I got married, 09:58 and we had our first child, for the first couple of weeks, 10:03 you know, they say, you don't have intercourse, 10:05 you should be fine. 10:06 Don't do anything, just relax. 10:08 But it was six months after. 10:10 And I love my husband, he loves me, 10:13 and I want us to be able to interact with each other. 10:15 But it wasn't feeling great. 10:19 And I went to my doctor 10:22 and I sat down there and I was nervous 10:24 because I was like how am I going to tell my doctor 10:27 that this is not feeling great. 10:30 It's not like... 10:31 I know it's not my husband. 10:32 I don't think he's doing anything wrong, 10:35 but I don't want to make 10:36 it seem you have those antsy feelings. 10:38 If you're there and you're feeling unease, 10:42 it doesn't feel good, please talk to your doctor, 10:45 because there might be something going on. 10:47 And when I spoke to her, she was like, 10:48 "Oh, that makes sense. 10:49 You just need to do this and this and this. 10:51 And then it will make you feel a lot better." 10:52 Now it's great. 10:54 Have that conversation you need to. 10:56 Yes. Yes. Yes. 10:57 Now, I'll agree with that. 10:59 That's very, very important. 11:00 And we have to understand 11:02 that the issues that we go through, 11:03 we're not going to be the first person 11:04 to go through it. 11:06 We're not gonna be the last person 11:07 to go through it. 11:09 Right. 11:10 And so that's why your doctor had the answer. 11:11 They've seen this thing many, many times before. 11:14 And I just want to go back to if we can just hone in 11:16 on the importance of that conversation before, 11:21 conversation during, 11:22 and even conversation afterwards. 11:25 That's so important in a relationship, 11:27 in a marriage to have that communication 11:30 because I need to know that this is going well for you 11:34 in all facets of our relationship. 11:36 And you need to know if there's something going on with me. 11:39 And then also it's those things that we keep hidden, right, 11:43 that continue to materialize 11:45 and become worse and worse and worse. 11:47 Let's say it's not intercourse or anything like that 11:50 but let's say there is a pain in your side 11:51 and you wait 10 years to go to the doctor, 11:54 and by the time you go you find out you have cancer, 11:55 right? 11:56 And so like you said, 11:58 there's other things that could be going on, 11:59 and we want to make sure 12:01 we're not making the situation worse. 12:02 And then also adding to that sex is something 12:06 that God has created and ordained for us, right? 12:09 So I don't think He would ever create something for us 12:12 that He wants to hurt us. 12:13 It should be a pleasurable and beautiful experience. 12:16 I would agree. 12:18 I would definitely agree with that. 12:20 And just on those same lines 12:21 when it comes to communicating with your spouse, 12:26 it's one of those things you'll learn in each other. 12:29 How to even communicate with your spouse? 12:31 You're learning things that you never saw before 12:34 when you were just dating or when you were engaged. 12:37 And so that's just another aspect of what it means 12:40 to communicate with your spouse. 12:42 Just as you're learning what kind of foods they like, 12:45 what kind of foods they don't like, 12:47 that you need to learn 12:48 what things are pleasurable in the marriage bedroom. 12:54 And, Dajanae, you had mentioned earlier 12:56 about history of sexual abuse 12:59 or even I had history of sexual addiction 13:02 and that possibly also being one of the things 13:05 that they should maybe seek help for. 13:06 Right. 13:07 Can you expound a little bit more on that? 13:09 Yes, I can. 13:12 There are, you know, I've heard stories 13:16 and like I said, I've spoken with a lot of people. 13:18 And when it comes to, if I've been molested 13:24 or if I've been raped then in the middle of... 13:27 Maybe the first time I'm fine, you know. 13:29 Now I'm married in the first time 13:32 because I'm on cloud nine, 13:33 the wedding just ended and we're on our honeymoon 13:37 but then later on down the line, 13:38 let say, my husband said something to me 13:42 that reminds me of the abuser. 13:45 And so then now it's time to be intimate. 13:47 I bring that with me in the bedroom. 13:51 And if my husband is not aware of it 13:54 and I'm not, maybe I'm not even all the way aware of it 13:59 then that will create dissatisfaction. 14:03 And then I will not be able to acknowledge 14:06 what the issue is and he definitely won't know 14:09 because I never informed him. 14:10 So I believe that if you have been, 14:13 if anybody has been molested or raped 14:17 or have any kind of negative sexual experiences 14:20 before marriage, 14:21 that counseling is a wonderful option. 14:26 Counseling is a wonderful option. 14:27 Talking to spiritual advisers, 14:30 whether it would be a pastor 14:32 or an older person in the church 14:35 whether it be a deaconess or something along those lines. 14:39 It's necessary and then informing your spouse 14:43 that this is something that I experienced 14:45 so that they can be sensitive. 14:48 And sometimes it may be the male, 14:49 it may not be the woman, so. 14:52 That's how I would. 14:54 So we've been talking a lot about talking to your spouse. 14:58 I think that is one of the most profound statements to make 15:01 and the most profound tip to give to our couples, 15:04 our married couples. 15:06 You need to talk to your spouse. 15:09 A lot of people are scared to talk to their spouses. 15:14 How do you feel about that? How about for you? 15:15 Is it easy to talk to your spouse? 15:17 Is it hard? 15:18 Are you scared, nervous? 15:20 After 12 years, it's easier to talk. 15:24 But initially though, honestly, 15:26 just coming from different backgrounds, 15:30 different experiences in regards to just upbringing, 15:34 coming from households where maybe it was taboo 15:37 to talk about certain things, sex and money. 15:40 I can say that we really didn't talk much about in my house. 15:44 So the idea of having a bad intimacy life in marriage 15:48 and being financially unstable would carry over. 15:53 You know, but we did have not an Aunt Neal 15:56 but we had some individuals in our lives 15:59 who helped us and coached us, and it's important. 16:04 It's important to have that open communication 16:07 because if not, you'll be 20 years down the line 16:11 with this person and you won't even know him. 16:13 So having that open channel of communication 16:16 is vitally important. 16:17 I would agree. 16:19 I was at a women's conference on Bloom. 16:21 Pastor Lola Moore is over Bloom and there was a counselor, 16:26 Dr. Chester, I believe her name was Anne Chester. 16:30 And she was sharing with us 16:31 that she experienced this... 16:38 When she first got married, 16:40 her parents had not told her about sex. 16:45 And so the night of her honeymoon, 16:48 she was terrified. 16:49 And it wasn't she didn't have any sexual issues beforehand, 16:54 she hadn't been molested or raped or anything like that. 16:56 It was just it was all the way taboo like 16:59 what you're saying was present in your household. 17:02 And so she locked herself in the bathroom 17:05 when it was time to be intimate with her husband, 17:08 but she has a wonderful husband in my opinion 17:11 to where he was very patient with her. 17:15 And, you know, spoke with her. 17:16 And, you know, catered to her for that night. 17:20 And then they had some conversations. 17:22 But then Dr. Chester went to her mother 17:24 and said, "Don't do this to my sister. 17:26 Have the conversation, so that she's not afraid 17:29 when it's time." 17:31 And then there's this. 17:33 We've got to be careful about the stuff we watch, 17:35 the movies we watch, the shows we watch, 17:36 the books we read, the shows we listen to 17:40 because we get these, 17:42 fed these messages that aren't true, right? 17:44 And they create these expectations and things. 17:47 So you would think that as a guy, 17:49 as a man coming into this thing, 17:50 I'm supposed to be the man, 17:51 I'm supposed to know what to do. 17:53 But maybe you don't, right? 17:55 And so that's were taking those baby steps 17:58 and having those conversations comes into play. 18:00 And you also have to recognize that 18:02 my marriage is not going to be the same as your marriage 18:04 and not going to be same as her marriage. 18:05 So we're coming together as a union 18:08 and making our thing work. 18:10 And we can't base it upon 18:12 what this individual has told us that they do 18:14 or what that individual has told us that they do. 18:16 We need to come together and say, 18:18 "Okay, what works for you. 18:19 What makes us happy?" 18:21 And if we come in there with our understanding of things, 18:25 then it takes the stress and the pressure away. 18:27 It really does. I would agree. 18:29 Expectations need to be discussed. 18:34 And I think that's what you just said 18:36 so I just put a word on it. 18:38 But you just already went into detail 18:41 about coming into a marriage 18:42 having expectations once again without discussing 18:45 what those expectations are. 18:47 And comparing is a dangerous thing. 18:51 When it comes to, "Well, these people do that, 18:53 so why can't we?" 18:55 If it doesn't work for you, 18:56 then there's something that I believe 18:58 that God has for you. 19:00 And so sometimes it's just figuring out what that is. 19:03 Yeah. 19:04 And I like the fact that you said, do you feel compared? 19:07 'Cause that's one of the questions 19:08 that you need to sit down with your spouse. 19:10 I wrote down like a list of like different questions like, 19:13 do you feel pressured 19:15 to do certain activities over another? 19:18 Do you feel like your spouse is comparing you 19:20 especially if that spouse has previous sexual experiences? 19:26 That can challenge your relationship if you feel 19:29 that you're being compared to 19:32 so-and-so and so-and-so and so-and-so. 19:35 And based on how many so-and-sos there were. 19:37 Right. Right. 19:39 Based on how many so-and-sos there were. 19:41 Because the whole time you may not actually be there 19:44 with your spouse, you might be thinking about, 19:46 are they thinking about the other person, 19:48 am I doing it the way he or she did it? 19:51 Or even another question is do you feel unsafe. 19:55 Is your spouse allowing you to feel at ease? 19:58 Is it over aggressive? 20:00 'Cause there are certain things that are just too much 20:03 when you're married. 20:05 And also, is one person being more selfish 20:08 than the other? 20:09 Can you think of anything else that 20:11 maybe couples need to discuss? 20:15 Not necessarily you need... 20:17 Okay, so this is how the Lord explained it to me. 20:20 Okay, this is how the Lord explained it to me. 20:23 And I was reading my Bible one day, 20:25 I was really walking around in my dorm 20:27 when I was at Oakwood, Oakwood University, 20:30 and I was walking around in my dorm by myself, 20:32 and I'm cleaning and an audio Bible was playing. 20:35 And it was, we were in the Book of John, 20:37 no, the Gospel of John, 20:39 and there was this conversation about, 20:42 you know, Christ is saying that, 20:43 "I want you to be one, 20:45 just as I and the Father are one." 20:47 And there is this level of intimacy. 20:49 And so being able to invite 20:52 Christ 20:54 into the marriage bedroom 20:59 and into that level of intimacy, 21:01 there is this understanding that the Lord gave me, 21:04 in that just as two married people 21:07 yearn to be with each other. 21:11 The Lord and not in a perverted way, 21:13 but that the Lord yearns to be with us. 21:15 And so being able to become one 21:18 just as God and the Father and the Spirit are one. 21:21 That marriage is a beautiful thing. 21:24 And sexual intimacy is a beautiful thing, 21:26 and it's an expression of the desire 21:29 that Christ has for us. 21:31 It's a way that we can have a foretaste of the intimacy 21:35 that we will experience with Christ. 21:38 Definitely we need to talk to God. 21:40 Yes. 21:42 Being Christian means 21:43 you have a relationship with God. 21:45 So you need to sit down and say, "Okay, God, 21:47 this is not working, either this is a problem, 21:49 that is the problem." 21:51 Whatever the problems may be, speak it from your heart 21:53 and say, "Okay, God, what do I do here? 21:55 How do we improve this?" 21:59 People might think, God is not listening 22:01 and He may not have an answer, but He will. 22:04 And maybe the couple needs to try new exciting activities 22:09 outside of the bedroom 22:10 if they're having problems inside. 22:13 Sometimes we get busy. 22:14 We're busy doing a lot of different stuff. 22:17 Keith, I think you know how busy life can be. 22:22 We're dealing with kids, we're dealing with our jobs, 22:25 we're dealing with work, 22:27 and sometimes you get so consumed 22:29 with everything that you're doing, 22:32 you kind of neglect your spouse. 22:35 So when you're coming to have intimacy, 22:37 there's no connection. 22:39 Right. Right. Yes. 22:40 You're right. Yeah. 22:41 So sexual intimacy is holistic, that's what you're getting, 22:43 I feel like that, you know, that's the point 22:46 that you're expressing is that it can't just be. 22:50 We're not taught, we haven't been talking all day. 22:52 We haven't gone out 22:54 and done things outside of the house. 22:57 We have unresolved issues within our marriage, 22:59 but we're going to be sexually intimate, 23:01 that's not going to work. 23:03 That's just not going to work because that coming together 23:07 in that way is a manifestation 23:09 of what's already going on in your marriage. 23:12 And so if there is issues in your marriage 23:13 then having sex with your partner 23:16 is not going to be enjoyable. 23:19 One person... It's just having sex. 23:20 Yes, it's just the physical part. 23:22 It's not the spiritual part 23:24 and it's not the emotional part. 23:25 All of those things need to be addressed, 23:28 not just physical. 23:30 In our premarital counseling that Ephraim and I, 23:33 my husband, and I went through 23:36 there was the conversation that animals, 23:39 right, are sexually intimate 23:42 but it's just physical, it's instinct. 23:44 It's this is what needs to happen. 23:46 The animal is in heat, the dog is in heat, 23:48 reproduction happens. 23:50 For the human being 23:52 that has been made in the image of God. 23:54 It's not just physical, it's not just instinct. 23:57 It's spiritual when you're inviting Christ into it. 24:00 And I have an emotional component 24:02 that is different 24:04 than when animals are having intercourse. 24:07 And so understanding that in the marriage relationship 24:12 will make intimacy that much more beautiful, 24:14 and that much more enjoyable 24:18 when the outside issues are also addressed. 24:20 If I could just, I mean, and that's perfect. 24:24 But guys we don't always understand that 24:26 if I can just speak for the guy. 24:29 And so early on in our marriage there were times 24:32 where me and my wife would have a disagreement. 24:35 And, but then we're also laying down 24:38 in the same bed at night, 24:39 when I have an argument 24:40 and sleeping in different rooms, 24:42 we're sleeping in the same room. 24:43 So to me, you know, now the argument is over 24:45 but for her it's like, 24:47 "No, do we got issues that we need to resolve." 24:49 And so this is where the whole communication thing comes in 24:51 because and I don't want to make it 24:55 just male versus female but for guys, 24:57 because I'm a guy, I can speak from that perspective. 25:00 We kind of compartmentalize things. 25:02 So the disagreement was over here. 25:05 Now we're talking about intimacy right and beyond 25:08 and for women a lot of times, 25:11 it's "No, we haven't dealt with that thing." Right? 25:13 And so I can't go into this experience with you 25:17 the way I want to 25:19 because there's still something dividing us. 25:21 There is something separating us. 25:22 And that's why that communication 25:24 is vitally important. 25:25 And for guys we have to understand 25:27 and be able to listen 25:29 and to receive that before we go further. 25:32 I completely agree. 25:33 Conversations are extremely important. 25:37 Communicate, communicate, communicate. 25:40 Yeah. Talk to your spouse. 25:42 We want you to keep on having the conversation 25:45 because you don't want to be dissatisfied. 25:46 You shouldn't be in pain. 25:48 You shouldn't feel uneasy, feel regretful, pressured. 25:52 All those things are not what God wants for you 25:55 in your marriage relationship 25:57 especially in your sexual intimacy. 25:59 So have a conversation. 26:02 Some questions to think about is, 26:03 are we struggling with our sexual intimacy? 26:06 Are we having problems? 26:08 Is there something that's just not working right now? 26:11 Another question to probably ask is 26:13 what can we do to improve it? 26:15 And also are there other couples 26:17 in our community, in our church 26:20 that are married that are struggling with this. 26:22 And lastly what is preventing 26:25 or hindering the sexual satisfaction? 26:27 Is there an issue of sexual addiction? 26:29 Have history of maybe sexual abuse? 26:31 Have the conversation 26:33 and see what could be the issues. 26:36 I would like to read to you from Song of Solomon 4. 26:42 It states, "You have captured my heart, 26:45 my treasure, my bride. 26:47 You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes 26:50 with a single jewel of your necklace. 26:52 Your love delights me my treasure, my bride. 26:56 Your love is better than wine. 26:59 Your perfume more fragrant than spices. 27:01 Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride. 27:05 Honey and milk are under your tongue. 27:07 Your clothes are scented like the cedars of Lebanon. 27:11 You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride. 27:14 A secluded spring, a hidden fountain. 27:17 Your thigh shelter a paradise of pomegranates 27:20 with rare spices, henna with nard." 27:23 And she replies, "Awake north wind. 27:26 Rise up south wind. 27:28 Blow on my garden 27:30 and spread its fragrance all around. 27:33 Come into your garden, my love, taste its finest fruits." 27:39 The key to your relationship 27:41 is to communicate, to compromise, 27:45 have the discussion, 27:46 we can't keep on saying that over and over again. 27:48 I want to thank you guys for being here 27:51 for having this discussion with us. 27:52 And please remember to make pure choices. 27:55 Have a great day. |
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