Pure Choices

Built-in Intuition

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Participants: Brittany Hill-Morales (Host), Dajanae Anderson, Keith Hackle Jr

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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:03 Parents are cautioned that some material
00:05 may be too candid for younger children.
00:42 Welcome to Pure Choices.
00:43 My name is Brittany Hill-Morales
00:44 and I am today's host.
00:46 We have a great topic today.
00:49 We're talking about built-in intuition,
00:51 sexuality in Christian marriage.
00:54 But before we jump into the conversation,
00:56 let's pray.
00:57 Dearest most heavenly Father,
00:59 dear Lord, we pray that You will be with us here
01:01 as we have this discussion
01:02 and that you also be with the viewers at home.
01:05 We love you so much dear Lord, in Jesus' name, amen.
01:08 Amen.
01:09 So I have two wonderful people here with me
01:12 who are going to join into this discussion with us.
01:15 We have Keith Hackle, Pastor Keith Hackle.
01:17 He lives over there in Iowa.
01:20 And we also have Dajanae Anderson,
01:22 who's recently married.
01:24 Congratulations.
01:26 And she is a graduate student in Texas.
01:30 So built-in intuition, we all have been there.
01:35 We all are married for different periods of time.
01:38 Dajanae is the newly one on the block.
01:41 Been married for almost four months?
01:42 Yes.
01:43 And Keith has been married for 12 long years.
01:48 Yes. Yes. Yes.
01:49 And I'm a humble two years,
01:51 almost getting near to that three.
01:54 And it's exciting 'cause you love your spouses.
01:57 You're glad to be with them.
02:00 But sexuality can be a little bit tricky.
02:04 Oh, yes. Or is it?
02:05 Because the statement is made that
02:07 Christian marriages don't have sexual issues.
02:11 Yes, I wouldn't necessarily say that that was true.
02:15 I have heard that before though,
02:17 before getting married even though I'm the newest kid
02:20 on the block in this marriage reality.
02:23 Before getting married,
02:25 I spoke with a lot of older people
02:26 that have been married for 20 plus years
02:28 and even some who have been married
02:30 a little bit less than that.
02:31 And they all gave me advice about sexuality.
02:34 One of my Aunt Neal, I call her my Aunt Neal,
02:37 my aunt in the church.
02:38 She let me know that having discussions about sexuality
02:44 is something very important.
02:46 So I was told very early when I first got engaged
02:49 and speaking about getting engaged
02:51 that sexual issues are common in Christian marriages.
02:55 I agree.
02:56 I mean, the idea that you're not going to have any issues,
02:59 it's a relationship,
03:01 you're interacting with someone else,
03:02 so there's going to be times where there's difficulties,
03:05 there's going to be times when there's confusion.
03:07 And so I think that the issue is not,
03:10 are you going to have issues,
03:11 it's how are you going to resolve those issues
03:13 by coming together.
03:15 So individuals need to know that
03:17 you're going to have some issues.
03:18 And so expect it and now put together a plan
03:21 when they come up.
03:22 That's how you're going to resolve them.
03:24 I agree, there are issues in your Christian marriage,
03:29 in marriages generally.
03:31 But there is this belief that
03:32 Christian marriages won't have any problems.
03:37 Another quote has said that Christian marriages,
03:40 you automatically know what to do.
03:44 You automatically have healthy sexuality
03:46 when you get married.
03:48 And it also...
03:50 Some people I also heard state that.
03:53 When you are married, it's good, it's great.
03:58 I think it's also based on the premise
04:01 of both are entering the marriage untouched.
04:05 They're both virgins.
04:06 So there's this belief that two people
04:09 who don't know what they're doing will automatically know
04:12 what they're doing and do it well.
04:14 Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right.
04:16 That's tough.
04:18 And it creates another layer to this
04:21 like you said you both coming and you're untouched,
04:23 you're both virgins.
04:25 And so where do you get this education
04:27 and hopefully you've had that conversation with an aunt,
04:31 someone at the church.
04:32 There are certain things that we don't like to talk about,
04:34 but I think this is important for us
04:37 to have those conversations with our young adults
04:40 or young people before they get to that point
04:42 so that we can kind of dispel some of these myths
04:45 that make it difficult when you get into the marriage.
04:47 Right.
04:49 And I think one of the issues that you just brought up,
04:50 kind of, in your question, bring saying that people,
04:54 the premises that they are and that everyone is untouched,
04:58 that there is a reality
04:59 that some people deal with molestation,
05:02 some people deal with rape, and things like that.
05:05 Or maybe have just been exposed to sexuality,
05:08 maybe they weren't touched,
05:10 but they saw things or they heard about things.
05:13 And so "Wow, being married," okay now, you know,
05:17 it's acceptable in the sight of the Lord,
05:19 it's worship, to come together in your marriage
05:22 and experience that level of intimacy.
05:24 Sometimes there is still...
05:26 There's baggage
05:28 that individuals bring into the marriage
05:29 that sometimes are not,
05:31 it's properly discussed before saying, "I do."
05:34 Yes, I totally agree.
05:37 When my husband and I were preparing to be married,
05:40 we went through premarital counseling
05:43 and I don't want to throw my premarital counselor
05:45 underneath the bus.
05:47 But she had us do a test that had different questions
05:50 on what we would like for when we were married.
05:53 And I guess whatever the answers were,
05:57 it concluded that we would be compatible,
05:59 and we'd be okay.
06:00 So she said, "You guys are okay in this area.
06:02 When it's time for you guys to get married,
06:04 everything will be great."
06:05 That's basically what it seemed like she was saying,
06:08 "Don't worry about it.
06:09 I guess you'll figure it out.
06:11 That's it."
06:12 And we focused for the next six months
06:15 on everything else, no talk on sexuality.
06:19 And that can be hard when you're about to get married.
06:24 You may have a few ideas of what should be happening,
06:29 but you're not completely certain
06:31 in how to make it a long-term success.
06:35 Right.
06:36 So when should couples seek help?
06:40 Like how do they know we're in a bad place?
06:43 I should probably try to figure out
06:45 how to get us to a better place.
06:47 As it relates to intimacy?
06:49 Mm-hmm.
06:51 It's tough.
06:53 Maybe when a person...
06:54 When you start to notice, when one person notices,
06:56 they don't like that time,
06:58 they don't like when it's time to be intimate,
07:00 they don't like being close to each other,
07:01 they try to avoid it as much as possible.
07:05 And maybe even before the difficulty,
07:08 maybe when things are going well,
07:10 or you're in that moment and you realize,
07:13 you know what, this just isn't working for me.
07:16 And so at that point,
07:18 I believe it's time to talk to your spouse,
07:20 and it's time to go and seek help
07:22 and get some advice from others
07:24 to see how to make this thing work.
07:26 Yes, I would totally agree with that.
07:28 Earlier I mentioned my Aunt Neal,
07:30 and that was something that she said to me,
07:32 she gave me an example saying that there was a young couple,
07:36 where there was a young lady that she knew
07:37 that had recently gotten married.
07:39 For my Aunt Neal, nothing is taboo.
07:41 So she, you know, she pulled the young lady to the side
07:43 and asked her about her sex, you know,
07:46 her sex life with her husband
07:48 and the young lady said that she was uncomfortable,
07:52 she was dissatisfied.
07:54 And Aunt Neal asked her
07:57 if she had conversations during.
08:00 And did she tell her husband
08:01 that what we just finished doing
08:04 wasn't comfortable for me.
08:06 And the young lady said no.
08:08 And so Aunt Neal's advice was communicate with your husband,
08:12 you can communicate with him during,
08:14 and you can communicate with him after,
08:17 I mean, even before.
08:19 And so that I would definitely agree
08:21 with the statement that you just made.
08:23 I would agree as well.
08:24 Another factor that is a concern
08:27 'cause I'm not sure how
08:29 it was for Dajanae growing up in high school,
08:31 and you did biology,
08:33 and you learnt about the differences
08:36 between men and women.
08:37 Right.
08:38 And you wondered how would this work.
08:40 And I have a lot of female friends
08:43 who have fortunately never had sex.
08:47 They're not married.
08:48 And one of their concerns is a man is bigger
08:53 in certain respects and how would that work.
08:56 Is it going to be hurt, is it going to be painful,
08:58 is it going to hurt.
08:59 That's one of their main fears of it being painful,
09:03 because based on biology,
09:07 a man is of certain size and a woman is of certain size.
09:09 And it seems like it would just be an extreme stretch.
09:12 I remember having that conversation
09:14 and they're fearful of it.
09:16 And that's one thing that a woman needs to understand
09:20 because she may have this mentality,
09:21 "Okay, it's supposed to hurt."
09:23 So during their sexual relationship,
09:25 it's painful, it hurts.
09:27 It's not comfortable.
09:29 And if it's painful, please seek medical help
09:36 because there might be something going on
09:38 that's causing that pain.
09:41 There are different things that go on in our bodies
09:45 that could cause that pain,
09:46 and I'm not a medical professional,
09:49 so please have that conversation
09:52 with your doctor.
09:53 I will be transparent for a minute,
09:56 after I got married,
09:58 and we had our first child, for the first couple of weeks,
10:03 you know, they say, you don't have intercourse,
10:05 you should be fine.
10:06 Don't do anything, just relax.
10:08 But it was six months after.
10:10 And I love my husband, he loves me,
10:13 and I want us to be able to interact with each other.
10:15 But it wasn't feeling great.
10:19 And I went to my doctor
10:22 and I sat down there and I was nervous
10:24 because I was like how am I going to tell my doctor
10:27 that this is not feeling great.
10:30 It's not like...
10:31 I know it's not my husband.
10:32 I don't think he's doing anything wrong,
10:35 but I don't want to make
10:36 it seem you have those antsy feelings.
10:38 If you're there and you're feeling unease,
10:42 it doesn't feel good, please talk to your doctor,
10:45 because there might be something going on.
10:47 And when I spoke to her, she was like,
10:48 "Oh, that makes sense.
10:49 You just need to do this and this and this.
10:51 And then it will make you feel a lot better."
10:52 Now it's great.
10:54 Have that conversation you need to.
10:56 Yes. Yes. Yes.
10:57 Now, I'll agree with that.
10:59 That's very, very important.
11:00 And we have to understand
11:02 that the issues that we go through,
11:03 we're not going to be the first person
11:04 to go through it.
11:06 We're not gonna be the last person
11:07 to go through it.
11:09 Right.
11:10 And so that's why your doctor had the answer.
11:11 They've seen this thing many, many times before.
11:14 And I just want to go back to if we can just hone in
11:16 on the importance of that conversation before,
11:21 conversation during,
11:22 and even conversation afterwards.
11:25 That's so important in a relationship,
11:27 in a marriage to have that communication
11:30 because I need to know that this is going well for you
11:34 in all facets of our relationship.
11:36 And you need to know if there's something going on with me.
11:39 And then also it's those things that we keep hidden, right,
11:43 that continue to materialize
11:45 and become worse and worse and worse.
11:47 Let's say it's not intercourse or anything like that
11:50 but let's say there is a pain in your side
11:51 and you wait 10 years to go to the doctor,
11:54 and by the time you go you find out you have cancer,
11:55 right?
11:56 And so like you said,
11:58 there's other things that could be going on,
11:59 and we want to make sure
12:01 we're not making the situation worse.
12:02 And then also adding to that sex is something
12:06 that God has created and ordained for us, right?
12:09 So I don't think He would ever create something for us
12:12 that He wants to hurt us.
12:13 It should be a pleasurable and beautiful experience.
12:16 I would agree.
12:18 I would definitely agree with that.
12:20 And just on those same lines
12:21 when it comes to communicating with your spouse,
12:26 it's one of those things you'll learn in each other.
12:29 How to even communicate with your spouse?
12:31 You're learning things that you never saw before
12:34 when you were just dating or when you were engaged.
12:37 And so that's just another aspect of what it means
12:40 to communicate with your spouse.
12:42 Just as you're learning what kind of foods they like,
12:45 what kind of foods they don't like,
12:47 that you need to learn
12:48 what things are pleasurable in the marriage bedroom.
12:54 And, Dajanae, you had mentioned earlier
12:56 about history of sexual abuse
12:59 or even I had history of sexual addiction
13:02 and that possibly also being one of the things
13:05 that they should maybe seek help for.
13:06 Right.
13:07 Can you expound a little bit more on that?
13:09 Yes, I can.
13:12 There are, you know, I've heard stories
13:16 and like I said, I've spoken with a lot of people.
13:18 And when it comes to, if I've been molested
13:24 or if I've been raped then in the middle of...
13:27 Maybe the first time I'm fine, you know.
13:29 Now I'm married in the first time
13:32 because I'm on cloud nine,
13:33 the wedding just ended and we're on our honeymoon
13:37 but then later on down the line,
13:38 let say, my husband said something to me
13:42 that reminds me of the abuser.
13:45 And so then now it's time to be intimate.
13:47 I bring that with me in the bedroom.
13:51 And if my husband is not aware of it
13:54 and I'm not, maybe I'm not even all the way aware of it
13:59 then that will create dissatisfaction.
14:03 And then I will not be able to acknowledge
14:06 what the issue is and he definitely won't know
14:09 because I never informed him.
14:10 So I believe that if you have been,
14:13 if anybody has been molested or raped
14:17 or have any kind of negative sexual experiences
14:20 before marriage,
14:21 that counseling is a wonderful option.
14:26 Counseling is a wonderful option.
14:27 Talking to spiritual advisers,
14:30 whether it would be a pastor
14:32 or an older person in the church
14:35 whether it be a deaconess or something along those lines.
14:39 It's necessary and then informing your spouse
14:43 that this is something that I experienced
14:45 so that they can be sensitive.
14:48 And sometimes it may be the male,
14:49 it may not be the woman, so.
14:52 That's how I would.
14:54 So we've been talking a lot about talking to your spouse.
14:58 I think that is one of the most profound statements to make
15:01 and the most profound tip to give to our couples,
15:04 our married couples.
15:06 You need to talk to your spouse.
15:09 A lot of people are scared to talk to their spouses.
15:14 How do you feel about that? How about for you?
15:15 Is it easy to talk to your spouse?
15:17 Is it hard?
15:18 Are you scared, nervous?
15:20 After 12 years, it's easier to talk.
15:24 But initially though, honestly,
15:26 just coming from different backgrounds,
15:30 different experiences in regards to just upbringing,
15:34 coming from households where maybe it was taboo
15:37 to talk about certain things, sex and money.
15:40 I can say that we really didn't talk much about in my house.
15:44 So the idea of having a bad intimacy life in marriage
15:48 and being financially unstable would carry over.
15:53 You know, but we did have not an Aunt Neal
15:56 but we had some individuals in our lives
15:59 who helped us and coached us, and it's important.
16:04 It's important to have that open communication
16:07 because if not, you'll be 20 years down the line
16:11 with this person and you won't even know him.
16:13 So having that open channel of communication
16:16 is vitally important.
16:17 I would agree.
16:19 I was at a women's conference on Bloom.
16:21 Pastor Lola Moore is over Bloom and there was a counselor,
16:26 Dr. Chester, I believe her name was Anne Chester.
16:30 And she was sharing with us
16:31 that she experienced this...
16:38 When she first got married,
16:40 her parents had not told her about sex.
16:45 And so the night of her honeymoon,
16:48 she was terrified.
16:49 And it wasn't she didn't have any sexual issues beforehand,
16:54 she hadn't been molested or raped or anything like that.
16:56 It was just it was all the way taboo like
16:59 what you're saying was present in your household.
17:02 And so she locked herself in the bathroom
17:05 when it was time to be intimate with her husband,
17:08 but she has a wonderful husband in my opinion
17:11 to where he was very patient with her.
17:15 And, you know, spoke with her.
17:16 And, you know, catered to her for that night.
17:20 And then they had some conversations.
17:22 But then Dr. Chester went to her mother
17:24 and said, "Don't do this to my sister.
17:26 Have the conversation, so that she's not afraid
17:29 when it's time."
17:31 And then there's this.
17:33 We've got to be careful about the stuff we watch,
17:35 the movies we watch, the shows we watch,
17:36 the books we read, the shows we listen to
17:40 because we get these,
17:42 fed these messages that aren't true, right?
17:44 And they create these expectations and things.
17:47 So you would think that as a guy,
17:49 as a man coming into this thing,
17:50 I'm supposed to be the man,
17:51 I'm supposed to know what to do.
17:53 But maybe you don't, right?
17:55 And so that's were taking those baby steps
17:58 and having those conversations comes into play.
18:00 And you also have to recognize that
18:02 my marriage is not going to be the same as your marriage
18:04 and not going to be same as her marriage.
18:05 So we're coming together as a union
18:08 and making our thing work.
18:10 And we can't base it upon
18:12 what this individual has told us that they do
18:14 or what that individual has told us that they do.
18:16 We need to come together and say,
18:18 "Okay, what works for you.
18:19 What makes us happy?"
18:21 And if we come in there with our understanding of things,
18:25 then it takes the stress and the pressure away.
18:27 It really does. I would agree.
18:29 Expectations need to be discussed.
18:34 And I think that's what you just said
18:36 so I just put a word on it.
18:38 But you just already went into detail
18:41 about coming into a marriage
18:42 having expectations once again without discussing
18:45 what those expectations are.
18:47 And comparing is a dangerous thing.
18:51 When it comes to, "Well, these people do that,
18:53 so why can't we?"
18:55 If it doesn't work for you,
18:56 then there's something that I believe
18:58 that God has for you.
19:00 And so sometimes it's just figuring out what that is.
19:03 Yeah.
19:04 And I like the fact that you said, do you feel compared?
19:07 'Cause that's one of the questions
19:08 that you need to sit down with your spouse.
19:10 I wrote down like a list of like different questions like,
19:13 do you feel pressured
19:15 to do certain activities over another?
19:18 Do you feel like your spouse is comparing you
19:20 especially if that spouse has previous sexual experiences?
19:26 That can challenge your relationship if you feel
19:29 that you're being compared to
19:32 so-and-so and so-and-so and so-and-so.
19:35 And based on how many so-and-sos there were.
19:37 Right. Right.
19:39 Based on how many so-and-sos there were.
19:41 Because the whole time you may not actually be there
19:44 with your spouse, you might be thinking about,
19:46 are they thinking about the other person,
19:48 am I doing it the way he or she did it?
19:51 Or even another question is do you feel unsafe.
19:55 Is your spouse allowing you to feel at ease?
19:58 Is it over aggressive?
20:00 'Cause there are certain things that are just too much
20:03 when you're married.
20:05 And also, is one person being more selfish
20:08 than the other?
20:09 Can you think of anything else that
20:11 maybe couples need to discuss?
20:15 Not necessarily you need...
20:17 Okay, so this is how the Lord explained it to me.
20:20 Okay, this is how the Lord explained it to me.
20:23 And I was reading my Bible one day,
20:25 I was really walking around in my dorm
20:27 when I was at Oakwood, Oakwood University,
20:30 and I was walking around in my dorm by myself,
20:32 and I'm cleaning and an audio Bible was playing.
20:35 And it was, we were in the Book of John,
20:37 no, the Gospel of John,
20:39 and there was this conversation about,
20:42 you know, Christ is saying that,
20:43 "I want you to be one,
20:45 just as I and the Father are one."
20:47 And there is this level of intimacy.
20:49 And so being able to invite
20:52 Christ
20:54 into the marriage bedroom
20:59 and into that level of intimacy,
21:01 there is this understanding that the Lord gave me,
21:04 in that just as two married people
21:07 yearn to be with each other.
21:11 The Lord and not in a perverted way,
21:13 but that the Lord yearns to be with us.
21:15 And so being able to become one
21:18 just as God and the Father and the Spirit are one.
21:21 That marriage is a beautiful thing.
21:24 And sexual intimacy is a beautiful thing,
21:26 and it's an expression of the desire
21:29 that Christ has for us.
21:31 It's a way that we can have a foretaste of the intimacy
21:35 that we will experience with Christ.
21:38 Definitely we need to talk to God.
21:40 Yes.
21:42 Being Christian means
21:43 you have a relationship with God.
21:45 So you need to sit down and say, "Okay, God,
21:47 this is not working, either this is a problem,
21:49 that is the problem."
21:51 Whatever the problems may be, speak it from your heart
21:53 and say, "Okay, God, what do I do here?
21:55 How do we improve this?"
21:59 People might think, God is not listening
22:01 and He may not have an answer, but He will.
22:04 And maybe the couple needs to try new exciting activities
22:09 outside of the bedroom
22:10 if they're having problems inside.
22:13 Sometimes we get busy.
22:14 We're busy doing a lot of different stuff.
22:17 Keith, I think you know how busy life can be.
22:22 We're dealing with kids, we're dealing with our jobs,
22:25 we're dealing with work,
22:27 and sometimes you get so consumed
22:29 with everything that you're doing,
22:32 you kind of neglect your spouse.
22:35 So when you're coming to have intimacy,
22:37 there's no connection.
22:39 Right. Right. Yes.
22:40 You're right. Yeah.
22:41 So sexual intimacy is holistic, that's what you're getting,
22:43 I feel like that, you know, that's the point
22:46 that you're expressing is that it can't just be.
22:50 We're not taught, we haven't been talking all day.
22:52 We haven't gone out
22:54 and done things outside of the house.
22:57 We have unresolved issues within our marriage,
22:59 but we're going to be sexually intimate,
23:01 that's not going to work.
23:03 That's just not going to work because that coming together
23:07 in that way is a manifestation
23:09 of what's already going on in your marriage.
23:12 And so if there is issues in your marriage
23:13 then having sex with your partner
23:16 is not going to be enjoyable.
23:19 One person... It's just having sex.
23:20 Yes, it's just the physical part.
23:22 It's not the spiritual part
23:24 and it's not the emotional part.
23:25 All of those things need to be addressed,
23:28 not just physical.
23:30 In our premarital counseling that Ephraim and I,
23:33 my husband, and I went through
23:36 there was the conversation that animals,
23:39 right, are sexually intimate
23:42 but it's just physical, it's instinct.
23:44 It's this is what needs to happen.
23:46 The animal is in heat, the dog is in heat,
23:48 reproduction happens.
23:50 For the human being
23:52 that has been made in the image of God.
23:54 It's not just physical, it's not just instinct.
23:57 It's spiritual when you're inviting Christ into it.
24:00 And I have an emotional component
24:02 that is different
24:04 than when animals are having intercourse.
24:07 And so understanding that in the marriage relationship
24:12 will make intimacy that much more beautiful,
24:14 and that much more enjoyable
24:18 when the outside issues are also addressed.
24:20 If I could just, I mean, and that's perfect.
24:24 But guys we don't always understand that
24:26 if I can just speak for the guy.
24:29 And so early on in our marriage there were times
24:32 where me and my wife would have a disagreement.
24:35 And, but then we're also laying down
24:38 in the same bed at night,
24:39 when I have an argument
24:40 and sleeping in different rooms,
24:42 we're sleeping in the same room.
24:43 So to me, you know, now the argument is over
24:45 but for her it's like,
24:47 "No, do we got issues that we need to resolve."
24:49 And so this is where the whole communication thing comes in
24:51 because and I don't want to make it
24:55 just male versus female but for guys,
24:57 because I'm a guy, I can speak from that perspective.
25:00 We kind of compartmentalize things.
25:02 So the disagreement was over here.
25:05 Now we're talking about intimacy right and beyond
25:08 and for women a lot of times,
25:11 it's "No, we haven't dealt with that thing." Right?
25:13 And so I can't go into this experience with you
25:17 the way I want to
25:19 because there's still something dividing us.
25:21 There is something separating us.
25:22 And that's why that communication
25:24 is vitally important.
25:25 And for guys we have to understand
25:27 and be able to listen
25:29 and to receive that before we go further.
25:32 I completely agree.
25:33 Conversations are extremely important.
25:37 Communicate, communicate, communicate.
25:40 Yeah. Talk to your spouse.
25:42 We want you to keep on having the conversation
25:45 because you don't want to be dissatisfied.
25:46 You shouldn't be in pain.
25:48 You shouldn't feel uneasy, feel regretful, pressured.
25:52 All those things are not what God wants for you
25:55 in your marriage relationship
25:57 especially in your sexual intimacy.
25:59 So have a conversation.
26:02 Some questions to think about is,
26:03 are we struggling with our sexual intimacy?
26:06 Are we having problems?
26:08 Is there something that's just not working right now?
26:11 Another question to probably ask is
26:13 what can we do to improve it?
26:15 And also are there other couples
26:17 in our community, in our church
26:20 that are married that are struggling with this.
26:22 And lastly what is preventing
26:25 or hindering the sexual satisfaction?
26:27 Is there an issue of sexual addiction?
26:29 Have history of maybe sexual abuse?
26:31 Have the conversation
26:33 and see what could be the issues.
26:36 I would like to read to you from Song of Solomon 4.
26:42 It states, "You have captured my heart,
26:45 my treasure, my bride.
26:47 You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes
26:50 with a single jewel of your necklace.
26:52 Your love delights me my treasure, my bride.
26:56 Your love is better than wine.
26:59 Your perfume more fragrant than spices.
27:01 Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride.
27:05 Honey and milk are under your tongue.
27:07 Your clothes are scented like the cedars of Lebanon.
27:11 You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride.
27:14 A secluded spring, a hidden fountain.
27:17 Your thigh shelter a paradise of pomegranates
27:20 with rare spices, henna with nard."
27:23 And she replies, "Awake north wind.
27:26 Rise up south wind.
27:28 Blow on my garden
27:30 and spread its fragrance all around.
27:33 Come into your garden, my love, taste its finest fruits."
27:39 The key to your relationship
27:41 is to communicate, to compromise,
27:45 have the discussion,
27:46 we can't keep on saying that over and over again.
27:48 I want to thank you guys for being here
27:51 for having this discussion with us.
27:52 And please remember to make pure choices.
27:55 Have a great day.


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