Participants: Brittany Hill-Morales (Host), Dajanae Anderson, Sabine Vatel
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000136A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:03 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:05 may be too candid for younger children. 00:40 Hi, welcome to Pure Choices. 00:43 I'm Brittany Hill-Morales, 00:44 and I'm the host for today's program. 00:46 We have a really great topic that we are discussing today. 00:49 It is women and sexuality. 00:51 Another title, silly lady, sex is for men, 00:54 but before we jump into this discussion, let's pray. 00:58 Dear kind and most heavenly Father, 00:59 dear Lord, I pray that You will be with us 01:01 as we are having this discussion, 01:02 that You also be with the viewers at home 01:03 that are still listening and watching. 01:05 We love You and we praise Your name 01:07 in Jesus' name, amen. 01:09 Amen. 01:10 So as we're beginning this discussion, 01:12 these two ladies are here 01:14 to discuss with us about women and sexuality. 01:18 We have Miss Sabine Vatel 01:19 and we also have Mrs. Dajanae Anderson. 01:23 Women and sexuality, 01:25 that is a huge topic for us as women, 01:29 we're all women, we're all leaders in our churches, 01:32 we all are again women and we are a sexual beings, 01:37 so what...? 01:39 Let's go back a little bit, women sexuality. 01:43 Why is it that, it is easier for men 01:45 to be considered sexual beings but not for us women? 01:51 What is that about? 01:53 Why do we not feel comfortable 01:54 or at ease talking about sexuality amongst ourselves? 01:59 It's often the case that, you know, women, 02:01 we're seen as rather a sexual being, 02:05 as a sexual object of the man, 02:09 and she wasn't considered has having any needs 02:12 because her need were attached to the male need. 02:14 I mean in Bible times even she... 02:16 Most of the times she was not even allowed 02:18 to have a property, because she was, again, 02:20 her need was attached to the man's need. 02:23 And that's what's so amazing about the gospel. 02:25 You know, when the gospel comes, 02:26 when Jesus comes, He changes that. 02:28 Paul explains in 1 Corinthians 7, 02:30 he talks about the conjugal rights 02:32 that the man has upon his wife. 02:34 He says, you know, your body belongs to him, 02:37 but here he comes, he says in next verse. 02:39 Your body as a man belongs to her, 02:41 so that when you have 02:43 a sexual relationship is consensual, 02:44 is something you both pleasing your each other essentially. 02:48 So he kind of restores her as being a sexual being 02:51 and so this... 02:53 So your question is an awesome one. 02:55 Your mind, you know, women that, you know what? 02:58 And, you know, sex also because in our... 03:00 I'll say twisted. 03:01 In our twisted mind, sex is not seen as pure 03:04 and nice and women as femininity 03:07 is associated with that, you know, be sweet, 03:09 be nice but no you can't possibly, 03:11 you know, be messed up with sexual things 03:14 as if it's dirty, 03:15 and that's another aspect of our mind has been twisted. 03:18 Right, I would definitely agree with that and that we... 03:21 That the women's sexuality 03:25 is looked at as something impure or perverted 03:29 and that's just not as you just stated in the Bible, 03:33 that's just not accurate, and I wouldn't agree with. 03:36 I wouldn't agree with that belief system that says that, 03:40 if a woman is comfortable with her sexuality, 03:44 then she is some kind of way perverted. 03:46 That's right. 03:47 And, now, unfortunately the images 03:49 that we are offered in as women 03:50 being comfortable with their sexuality 03:52 is that of being promiscuous and liberated, 03:55 or like, oh, wow, I can just gonna run around. 03:57 See that's the image we're given 03:59 as to women who is comfortable with her sexuality, 04:02 but the Bible gives us a different model 04:05 of what that means. 04:07 Right. 04:08 Definitely I was completely going there. 04:12 The part when we think of sexuality, 04:14 sometimes the only ideas that come through our mind 04:16 is the actual act of sex, 04:19 but sexuality also includes 04:21 the image of ourselves, our bodies, 04:22 different changes that we have. 04:24 This is, you know, we're sexual beings 04:27 and just thinking about the Bible 04:29 regards were God says, 04:31 you know, you're fearfully and wonderfully made. 04:35 That is true for us 04:37 and we're not able to actually see it 04:39 because of how that definitely tells 04:41 about our sexuality is media. 04:42 Media influence and the media presents women 04:46 as these, your sexuality is so perverted, 04:51 you have to wear a certain attire 04:54 and that's order to be a sexual being, 04:56 like if you're dressed properly, 04:58 no that's not sophisticated enough 05:01 to be considered sexual 05:02 because sexual is not considered sophisticated. 05:04 Sexual is considered dirty, filthy, 05:07 but that's not the case. 05:09 Women are beautiful just talking about our bodies, 05:13 for sexuality. 05:16 I love you bring up that point in terms of the dress, 05:18 which again highlights 05:20 the physical attribute of the women. 05:22 It's like going back rather than going forward 05:24 in the sense is definitely not going forward 05:26 towards were God's will is. 05:27 This idea of to arouse the worst instinct 05:32 may be in the opposite sex rather than to arouse something 05:36 that makes women be honored 05:39 and respected for the whole person 05:42 that she is, not just like a body part. 05:44 Yes, I think that I like what you're saying, 05:47 there is a balance. 05:48 I believe that there's definitely a balance 05:51 in that you can be comfortable 05:55 and you're sexuality be comfortable 05:57 with how God has created you to be. 05:59 Each women is shaped differently amongst cultures, 06:03 amongst within cultures, 06:05 you know, women are shaped very differently 06:08 and to be comfortable with yourself 06:11 'cause I think, what I found 06:13 that some women cover themselves up so much 06:17 because they are ashamed of their bodies. 06:19 And so I don't in any way want to make women feel okay, 06:25 that they're not okay with the shapes of their bodies 06:30 because not every, you may... 06:33 Many times if women are shaped in a physically, 06:40 extremely physically attractive way, 06:43 where you may be a little bit busty here 06:45 and other areas. 06:47 On television, the women that are busty 06:51 and shapely are the promiscuous women, 06:54 and so then the women who are in Christ or, 06:59 you know, have or growing in Christ 07:01 try to overly cover themselves up 07:05 because there's a shame associated with the fact 07:08 that they may be bustier than the sophisticated 07:12 or Christ-like person 07:14 that is portrayed on television. 07:16 And so I would definitely say that there is a balance 07:19 with that they know, 07:21 we're not gonna present ourselves 07:22 as promiscuous women 07:24 and want everyone to see the details 07:28 that they can be sexually attracted to us. 07:32 But being able to... 07:34 I just once again having a balance 07:35 between being comfortable but also representing Christ. 07:39 In being modest. In being modest. 07:40 You don't have to wear like a sack of potato 07:42 to be considered Christian. 07:45 Right. You know what I mean? 07:46 And something you go rude, and I have to be very careful 07:48 because I think we ought to be modest 07:49 and well dressed and covered up. 07:51 But at the same time, I think there's some 07:54 who would give away their responsibility, 07:57 you know, they have this extreme, 07:59 I think it's wrong to have the extreme of all women 08:01 are either a jezebel or a saint, 08:05 you know, you mean it. 08:06 I can't think of a name right now but Jezebel or Mary. 08:09 Either Mary or Jezebel, either one is not balanced. 08:13 Let's put the blame on the women 08:16 why they are taking self responsibility as well too, 08:19 you know, so. 08:20 And I wanted to add what women 08:22 and how we are, how we carry ourselves, 08:25 is believed that, when we say women as sexual, 08:29 that is the fact to arouse a certain element 08:32 in the spouse. 08:33 Our intimate, where the automatical factor is, 08:36 I just want to take you to bed and do things with you. 08:40 But being sexual as women, 08:43 when we're carrying ourselves not just to arouse that, 08:46 it's to arouse his need to honor and respect you 08:50 and to treasure you, 08:51 that is part of being the sexual being 08:53 but we don't... 08:54 We, because how society has been, 08:56 we don't talk about that, 08:58 that is important in intimacy for your spouse 09:02 who want to respect and honor you, 09:04 to treasure you, showing that intimate time, 09:07 that should be aroused in how you are, 09:09 that is the part of being sexual. 09:11 It's important, it's crucial 09:13 that your spouse respects you in such a moment 09:16 where you're knowing each other. 09:19 You're knowing each other, 09:21 you're good, you're bad and still accepted. 09:23 Yes. 09:25 You know, I love for a guy to be able to say, 09:28 you know, or, you know, I love your mind 09:31 and I think, I think you're sexy 09:32 because your mind is sexy. 09:34 You know, what I mean? 09:35 They're okay for women to be sexy, 09:37 I means, and of course 09:38 it's about when you speak for male 09:40 because, you know, we, 09:42 what attracts a woman to man is so different, 09:44 because men are actually, 09:45 you know, they see the physicality, 09:47 but, you know, if hopefully it's not just a physicality 09:50 but like you say it's the whole person 09:51 that they fell in love with and so sexuality 09:54 then is in context of what God meant it to be 09:57 within a relationship. 09:58 It's not just a thing that you just picked up, 10:02 but this is a whole person you just wanted to treasure 10:04 and sexuality is just part of that within context. 10:08 Right, and now I'm just gonna go, 10:09 kind of going back a little to talk about 10:12 what it means to be beautiful in society as a women. 10:17 May be not even in a relationship, 10:19 because not all women are in relationships, 10:21 not all women are married, 10:22 not all women are going to get married, 10:24 but there is still a value 10:26 that you have to have as a women 10:28 in the sight of God in terms of your sexuality 10:32 and to know that we are beautifully 10:34 and wonderfully made. 10:36 And to walk around with that sense of confidence 10:40 that Christ has made us 10:41 and formed us is something to treasure, 10:45 is something to care for. 10:47 It's just not the exact same thing 10:49 but something very similar 10:51 and just as God created the beautiful flowers 10:54 and the beautiful trees, and things of color, 10:57 and things that are shaped in differently. 11:01 God had created the human being both the male sexuality 11:04 and the female sexuality 11:07 but there, once again the beauty 11:09 of a female sexuality in society 11:12 does not have to be perverted 11:14 but can be treasured in a Christ-like way. 11:17 And you bring in something I didn't even think about, 11:20 the idea that that beauty 11:22 for beauty sake, in other words, 11:23 you're dressing, 11:25 you're carrying yourself not for an audience of men 11:28 but to please man but just 11:30 because God created you that way, 11:32 and your gift back to God is basically to be 11:35 who you are 11:36 and to just be the beautiful person that you are. 11:37 To be steward. 11:39 It's to be steward of your body... 11:40 That's what I was thinking, steward of your body, 11:42 for our body is a temple... 11:43 Oh, that's awesome, yeah. 11:45 So you're carrying yourself not basically for the fact 11:47 that I'm trying to attract a man 11:50 and trying to get a man. 11:51 I'm carrying myself in a sophisticated manner. 11:53 I am a sexual being who should... 11:57 My body is a temple, 11:58 that's just what comes back to me, 12:00 my body is a temple, a form of worship, 12:02 how I'm carrying myself says, God, I know You created me, 12:07 fearfully and wonderfully, 12:08 and I accept the fact that You created me. 12:10 My curves here, may be I have a little chunk, chunk here, 12:14 but God, I accept that this is who you have created. 12:18 And this is who you want me to be. 12:20 You love me, you treasure me God. 12:24 Who I am is worshiped to you 12:28 and that is such a beautiful thing 12:29 'cause so much, so much we as women. 12:31 Who I am is worshiped to you. That is awesome. 12:33 We as women, we hurt ourselves so much, 12:38 constantly looking in the mirror, comparing, 12:41 saying, I'm not beautiful because I have this. 12:45 We compare ourselves so much and break ourselves down 12:49 and we even break each other down. 12:51 Yeah. 12:52 This what happens if you are not confident 12:53 in God's treasuring of you actually. 12:58 Yeah, that's when you break down other women. 13:00 And that's when you start yourself cheap 13:01 as well too to men when you're not realizing that. 13:05 Right, and I think for the... 13:06 I mean I have brothers in Christ 13:09 and even before I was fully in Christ, I had "Brothers". 13:13 That, you know, guys that I went to school with, 13:15 then we all hung out and so I would hear, 13:18 you know, and they would tell me 13:20 what their opinions were of women. 13:23 That you can tell, a man can tell 13:26 when a women is confident in 13:29 who she is and in the way that she dresses 13:33 and the way that she... 13:36 In the way that she interacts with a man, 13:39 am I being inappropriate and there are many men... 13:44 There's some men that you cannot, 13:45 no matter what you do, 13:47 they may be disrespectful to the women 13:49 because of their own issues, 13:51 because of their own brokenness. 13:52 But then there are some men that say, 13:56 you respect yourself 13:58 and I see that you respect yourself 14:00 and you demand respect from me 14:03 and I will give that to you. 14:05 And then unfortunately there are men 14:07 that I have come in contact 14:09 with who've told me straight out, 14:10 "This woman does not respect her body and that is why..." 14:14 These were men outside of the church, 14:17 "She does not respect her body the way that she dresses, 14:21 the activities that she participates in, 14:23 so I don't respect her body 14:24 because she doesn't respect her body." 14:26 And so, but in this conversation 14:30 this young man, 14:31 cause' we were younger was telling me 14:33 "But Dajanae you, 14:34 you hold yourself different that's why I don't call you 14:36 the names that I call her." 14:37 Because I was kind of like, "Why are you calling her that, 14:40 that's disrespectful." 14:41 And he said, "She doesn't have a problem with it." 14:45 So you're sticking up for her is, 14:48 you know, good in everything 14:50 but she doesn't have a problem with what 14:52 and how I'm treating her, you have a problem with it. 14:55 And as women, we have to have a problem with how, 14:57 if someone says something negative about us, 15:00 we have to respect and value ourselves 15:02 because we are created by God. 15:05 And another myth when it talks about women and sexuality is, 15:09 girls don't want to know about their bodies. 15:12 That's what people... 15:13 That's... 15:15 Wow. 15:16 Actually, I mean women I think are, 15:18 because your body part is not, 15:20 I mean is not dirty inherently bad 15:24 and I think it's important for women to know that 15:25 and when you're growing up, 15:28 you discover, oh, you know, it does the feelings in 15:31 who you are, how God created you. 15:35 I think, well, obviously I think it's the fallacy, 15:37 you know that women are not interested. 15:39 Is that what you said that we are not interested in sex. 15:41 But for me we have to be interested 15:43 in knowing what's going on with our bodies. 15:45 Why is that men are interested but we're not. 15:47 Right. 15:48 There's so much errors in thinking 15:50 and I was reading in the Bible in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 15:55 "That each of you should learn to control your own body 15:57 in a way that is holy and honorable." 16:01 And how can we as women control our own body 16:06 if we don't know our own body. 16:09 And we don't know what the sexual immoralities 16:12 are when it comes to our own body. 16:14 A young lady who I was talking to, 16:16 she's been single for a while. 16:18 She's never had sex and she feels that 16:20 she's gonna be single for a little bit longer, 16:22 and she was wondering, 16:24 is masturbation okay as a form of exploring 16:28 and understanding her body. 16:30 We know, the Bible doesn't speak 16:32 about masturbation directly, 16:34 it says, "Thou shalt not masturbate." 16:36 I mean it doesn't say that, 16:37 but there're some examples however. 16:41 You know, there's a mention of Onan 16:45 who let's says "He spilled his semen on the ground" 16:48 the Bible says, I think it's in Genesis 38, 16:51 and God was not pleased with that. 16:54 He was not pleased with that. 16:55 He was not pleased with the fact that Onan was not, 16:57 was being selfish and didn't want to reproduce children 17:01 for his widowed sister-in-law. 17:05 And so there was a practice that, 17:06 that you had to continue the generations, 17:09 so God was displeased with that. 17:10 So there's not really a direct like, don't do it. 17:13 But there are principles. 17:14 But there are principles, and the law is very clear, 17:16 the Lord says in Matthew, is it Matthew 5, 17:20 he's talking about, "You heard that adultery is wrong 17:23 but he expands the meaning of what that means. 17:26 He says, you know, even if you think about it, 17:28 you lust, you sinned. 17:31 And this is the same principle unto masturbation. 17:33 And if you, if your mind is constantly there 17:36 and it's addictive and you constantly 17:38 are concentrating on lusting, 17:42 again you're using sexuality 17:43 outside of what God's purpose is by doing that. 17:45 Right, right, because I mean, sexuality, 17:49 sexuality is to be shared, right? 17:51 That's right. 17:52 Just as beauty is to be shared. 17:54 And so, of course, there are limits and boundaries 17:57 in what form of sexuality 18:00 and what form of beauty we're talking about, right? 18:03 But when it comes to sex, intercourse, you are not, 18:09 you are participating in the act, 18:12 that's supposed to be serving each other. 18:14 Two people are supposed to come together 18:16 and serve one another. 18:18 It is a beautiful, you know, I say this often, 18:21 it is a unity that represents the triune God, 18:25 the coming together, God says, just as I am one, 18:28 I hope that I pray that you may be one with me, 18:30 and so that goes back to Genesis, 18:32 when God tells Adam and Eve to come together 18:36 to know each other and to be one, 18:38 and so to masturbate is to be self pleasing. 18:44 To masturbate is to self manipulate 18:47 because you have to do something in your mind. 18:50 It's like not often are we able to tickle ourselves. 18:55 You know, if I tried to tickle the bottom of my feet, 18:56 is not going to have that affect 19:00 as much as maybe if Brittany came over 19:02 and tickle my feet, you know, kind of thing, 19:05 so there's in that same way like you're not supposed... 19:09 There are some serious things 19:10 that you have to do in your mind, 19:12 because you're not supposed to be able to give yourself 19:15 that sort of satisfaction. 19:17 Now there, it's possible, right? 19:19 Because that's what masturbation is, 19:22 but that's what I would, 19:23 that's what my response would be to that. 19:25 And I always say to, you know, 19:27 and this is not to be flipping 19:29 or to minimize the fact that it is difficult, 19:32 you've been single for a long time. 19:34 But, you know, and I'm gonna say this very carefully 19:36 when Jesus said, you know, to carry your cross 19:39 and we have different crosses we have to bear. 19:41 This life is, you know, you gonna have suffering, 19:44 you gonna have difficulties, 19:46 and, you know, let's just be real today, 19:47 it's not an easy thing to ask, 19:49 you know, an adult with fully functioning parts 19:52 and hormones to say, you know what, 19:55 you gonna have to bring that under control, 19:57 under Christ control and trust him 20:00 with that control. 20:02 And that's what it is and that's what we mean. 20:04 Sometimes, you know, we're asked to fast, 20:06 you know, from food. 20:08 We're asked to do things that are difficult 20:10 and this is just another thing and I don't say 20:13 'cause it's not important 20:14 but it's another aspect of our Christian walk 20:16 in which the Lord has said, you know what? 20:18 I choose for you abstinence, chastity. 20:20 It don't always be easy but I'm calling you to trust Me 20:24 and to walk that walk with Me. 20:26 Definitely, definitely. 20:28 I like what you're saying when it comes to being single 20:31 and you do have all this working parts and it's hard. 20:35 One of the first things to do is pray about it, 20:38 submit to the Lord and talk to Him 20:41 about the challenges of this thing 20:44 because it is difficult to. 20:45 I remember being a single woman before I got married, 20:48 I had my... 20:50 My parts were working and they were working then. 20:52 So I'm trying to interact with others 20:56 had to have that conscious mentality 20:58 that I have to be careful of my boundaries 21:01 that I set with these people because I am a sexual being 21:03 and it is very easy to go from 0 to 100. 21:07 So understanding and accepting the fact that I am sexual, 21:10 I can't just be hanging out at someone's house 21:13 at 2 am in the morning 21:15 and even if it's 2 pm in the afternoon, 21:17 because sex can happen at any time during the day. 21:20 I have to be careful 21:22 how close are we sitting next to each other. 21:25 Is he just holding my hand or is he going... 21:27 Like you have to be set these from boundaries like, 21:29 no, this can't happen, that can't happen 21:31 because we have to maintain our virtue 21:35 and not only for women but also for men. 21:38 But right now we are talking about women, 21:39 you have to maintain your virtue and say no, 21:41 this cannot happen. 21:43 My body is a temple. 21:44 I understand that I am a sexual being 21:46 and I have to tell you no. 21:49 Yeah, let me add something, 21:50 you also have a compelling reason 21:52 and this extends beyond even just sex in terms of sexuality. 21:58 It be, it extended to who you are 22:00 and who you are called to be and having compelling reason 22:03 that drives your whole life 22:05 including your sex life or lack there of in a sense. 22:09 But this is not to do is also a part of sexuality 22:12 as well too. 22:13 Yeah, kind of jump into women being married, 22:18 the belief that women do not have needs. 22:22 I was reading into a devotional book that stated, 22:26 women do not really have as much 22:28 the need to have an orgasm as men too. 22:30 So most women are just happy to be there, 22:34 is kind of how it was stated 22:36 and I can stay as a woman who is married, 22:40 the notion of just being happy to be there is false. 22:43 Yeah, I think, you know what? 22:47 This idea that that a woman... 22:48 I mean, I have spoken to enough women 22:49 who have come to confide 22:52 and who are frustrated in every sense in the word 22:56 that they are not completely fulfilled, 22:58 and you know what? 23:00 I think this is what marriage is 23:02 that you meet each other's needs 23:04 and to be able to speak to your husband 23:07 and say, you know, this is what's happening 23:08 and having that conversation rather than deny it. 23:12 And by the way, I'll go back a little bit 23:13 to single people into in terms of, 23:14 and marry what, do not deny it. 23:18 We're not asking you to suppress it. 23:20 We're not because then you do some strange things, 23:23 or may be you do things in hiding or in the dark, 23:25 in the deviancy 23:27 but just be truthful about the needs 23:30 that you have as you submit it to the Lord. 23:31 Right. 23:33 And I think for the woman it's the same thing, 23:34 you need to be open about it and to not settle, you know. 23:37 Right, and I think it is very difficult. 23:40 I know, we need to jump into marriage, 23:42 but I know it is difficult for the single woman 23:45 especially nowadays 23:46 because more and more women are waiting 23:48 to get married later and later in life. 23:51 So that time they, 23:52 you're trying to maintain your purity 23:55 and you're trying but you're also comfortable 23:57 in your sexuality 23:58 but you're not allowed to participate 24:01 in sexual intercourse, it's just... 24:04 The gap is longer and longer. 24:05 Yeah, oh, no, I mean you wait, all of this, I mean really... 24:08 I mean if you've been faithful and then you come to that point 24:11 and be disappointed, and I don't think 24:14 it's just my personal preferences 24:16 but I don't think that's what the Lord had in mind... 24:18 Right. From the married women. 24:19 And I did want to mention that in Philippians 2:4, 24:23 "Each of you should be concerned 24:24 not only about your own interest, 24:26 but also the interest of others as well." 24:29 And I can say that does apply to your intimacy 24:33 with your spouse is not only to be selfish. 24:35 I only care about, not that I'm having an orgasm, 24:39 he has to also be careful to ensure that you also are. 24:42 I know they say that you know, men have more concerns 24:45 if they don't but that's not true we have, 24:48 all women also have concerns if they don't have an orgasm. 24:51 And when you love each other, 24:53 when you know each other your initial relationship, 24:55 marriage is a selfless thing 24:57 and you have to be selfless also in your intimacy, 25:00 in your sexuality. 25:01 Yes, I would definitely agree with that 25:03 and also in the Bible in Songs, in Songs of Solomon 1:2, 25:09 it says, "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! 25:12 For your love is better than wine." 25:15 Now, this is from the female perspective, 25:17 and so as you can see here 25:19 women do have sexual desires and sexuality 25:24 is acceptable in the eyes of God, 25:26 so I definitely recommend for anyone 25:28 who has questions about sexuality in women, 25:31 having sexuality, read the Songs of Solomon. 25:34 Read the imagery, the poetry is extremely beautiful 25:39 and so that would be my recommendation. 25:41 When we were doing pre-marital counseling, 25:43 we learned that in with the female body, 25:46 the female body goes up and down 25:48 throughout sexual intercourse, and sometimes it takes a long, 25:52 sometimes it takes longer 25:54 for the women to have an orgasm. 25:56 Where as for the man, on the graph, it's a straight, 25:59 it goes straight up in terms of arousal 26:02 to the point of climax or orgasm. 26:04 And so I can understand why people may be confused 26:06 that women may not enjoy sex 26:09 because you may not have an orgasm all the time, 26:11 it just takes a little bit more work. 26:13 And so that, that would be my response to that. 26:16 And also implied in... 26:19 I'll go back to 1 Corinthians 7 is that women do have needs 26:23 and the admonition is not to deny each other 26:26 and to help each other in feeling fulfilled. 26:31 Yeah, and I would probably and I want to add with that, 26:35 just because it takes small work doesn't mean it 26:39 should not be done. 26:40 You are married, 26:42 you are in a committed relationship with each other. 26:44 You say, I love you, I care for you 26:46 so put into work. 26:48 Because women do have sexual needs. 26:50 Women do have sexual desires, 26:52 and it should be met by our husbands. 26:56 That's just the end of the story in that area. 26:58 It's just end of the story. 26:59 You have to do what is required. 27:02 So we want you to keep on having the conversation 27:05 as women among women about your sexuality. 27:08 Do you value it and what it means in God? 27:12 What can you do to help other women 27:14 to embrace their sexuality, 27:15 not only in our communities but in our church? 27:17 To realize that they are, 27:19 their bodies are a temple of God 27:20 and that God has so much in store for them. 27:24 And what is it? 27:26 What does it mean for them to be sexual beings? 27:30 Proverbs 19:8 says, 27:31 "To acquire wisdom is to love yourself." 27:35 Women, we must love ourselves and embrace our sexuality 27:39 because God loves us, He values us, 27:42 He treasures us, He looks at us and says, 27:45 "You are My daughter, you are My child. 27:48 There is no one that is more important than you to Me." 27:52 So as you go forth, 27:53 I want you to remember to make pure choices. |
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