Secrets to Wellness

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00:21 Welcome again, my friends, to Secrets to Wellness.
00:26 And when you put these secrets into practice,
00:29 you can live longer, healthier and happier.
00:32 So I hope that you've been incorporating them
00:34 into your lifestyle and at least getting eight,
00:39 eight ounce glasses of water a day,
00:41 and then walking 30 minutes for five times a week,
00:46 and you will truly feel better, and live longer,
00:50 and be happier.
00:52 And so, we've discussed
00:53 our secrets of water and exercise,
00:58 and now we're going to our third one which is love.
01:02 And loving relationships
01:04 are part of a healthy lifestyle,
01:07 and so we need to incorporate love
01:10 in order to really be healthy
01:13 and have the physical, the mental,
01:15 and the spiritual all combined.
01:18 So first question is, what is love?
01:21 Well, the dictionary puts it this way,
01:24 "Love is a profoundly tender,
01:27 passionate affection for another person,
01:30 a feeling of warm personal attachment
01:32 or deep affection,
01:34 as for a parent, a child, or a friend."
01:37 So it's a lot of a tender love toward another person.
01:42 It could also be put this way
01:45 that love is a commitment to always unselfishly seek
01:50 the very best for others.
01:52 And that's what love does,
01:54 that's what unconditional love does,
01:56 it seeks the very best for someone else.
02:00 And so it's a choice, it's a choice, my friends,
02:04 to treat them with kindness,
02:06 respect and graciousness
02:08 in spite of their attitudes toward us.
02:11 So when others don't treat us very well,
02:13 we can still take the high road and treat them with tender,
02:17 compassionate, unconditional love,
02:21 because love is a continual choice
02:24 to treat others in the way
02:25 that we would like to be treated.
02:28 In fact, we are told, "Do unto others
02:30 as you would have others do unto you."
02:33 So we want to always make that continual choice
02:37 to treat others like we would like to be treated.
02:40 And love considers the needs of others before our own needs,
02:45 and that often happens in the life of a mother.
02:48 Now, I'm a mother of three children
02:50 and five grandchildren,
02:52 and I know that you have to put their needs
02:55 before your own needs.
02:57 And so we can actually think about what are their needs,
03:01 their need for not only care and love,
03:04 but we have to feed them, we have to bathe them,
03:07 we have to do all these things
03:09 that help them to grow and flourish.
03:15 And although positive feelings
03:17 certainly are one aspect of love,
03:19 true love is not dependent on our feelings.
03:22 It's not whether we're feeling good one day,
03:25 my friends, or feeling good another day,
03:28 and then we're up and down.
03:30 Our feelings...
03:32 We're not to go by our feelings in the way
03:35 that we treat other people.
03:37 Dean Ornish,
03:39 medical doctor, founder, and president
03:41 of the Preventive Medicine Institute
03:43 in Sausalito, California, stated it this way,
03:48 "Love and intimacy are at a root
03:51 of what makes us sick and what makes us well,
03:54 what causes sadness and what brings happiness,
03:57 what makes us suffer and what leads to healing.
04:01 If a new drug had the same impact virtually
04:04 every doctor in the country
04:06 would be recommending it for their patients."
04:10 And so what Dr. Ornish is saying
04:14 is that love and intimacy
04:16 are so connected to our health,
04:19 whether we're sad or whether we're happy
04:22 that if there were a drug, if there was a medication
04:26 or a pill that we could give someone,
04:29 we would actually have everybody recommending it.
04:33 And then he goes on to say,
04:35 "It would be malpractice not to prescribe it,
04:38 yet, with very few exceptions, we doctors with few exceptions,
04:43 we doctors do not learn much
04:45 about the healing power of love, intimacy,
04:48 and transformation in our medical training."
04:51 And so Dr. Ornish says,
04:53 "It would actually be malpractice
04:55 if we didn't prescribed this,
04:57 if we knew there was a medication
04:59 for love and intimacy, that's how important it is,
05:04 and how much it is connected to our health.
05:07 You see, love has unusual healing power.
05:11 And studies, new documented scientific studies are proving
05:16 the fact that love heals.
05:19 ABC News, May 21, 2015 reported
05:24 that medical research indicates
05:26 that loving relationships help to reduce blood pressure
05:30 and the risk of coronary heart disease.
05:33 Amazing, my friends,
05:35 the very chronic diseases that we've been talking about
05:39 that are so plaguing our world today,
05:42 actually research shows that loving relationships can
05:46 actually reduce those diseases.
05:49 I want to have that love in my heart, don't you?
05:53 The healing properties of love transform physical
05:58 as well as emotional health.
06:03 And so, these are healing properties of love,
06:07 my friends.
06:09 Seventy five years
06:10 in the making Harvard University
06:13 just released its epic study on what men need
06:17 to live a happy life.
06:19 In 1938, this study started in 1938,
06:23 Harvard University began
06:26 a Grant Study of adult development
06:28 with 268 men charted over 75 years
06:33 starting with undergraduate days
06:35 and following them into their 90's.
06:38 So they started this study while they were in college
06:42 and followed them all the way through their 90's
06:45 when it took 75 years.
06:48 And in Triumphs of Experience, George Valiant,
06:51 the studies' director,
06:53 raises a number of factors more often than others,
06:57 but the one he refers to the most is this,
07:01 the powerful correlation between
07:04 the warmth of your relationships
07:06 and your health and happiness in later years.
07:10 So your health and happiness
07:12 in later years is directly connected
07:15 to the warmth of your relationships.
07:17 In other words, when you have good relationships
07:20 with your children
07:21 or your grandchildren when they're young,
07:24 and then when you get older,
07:26 this is directly related to how you have health
07:30 in your latter days.
07:32 And so, the number one,
07:34 most important finding from the Grant Study is this:
07:37 The 75 years and $20 million expended
07:41 on the Grant Study points
07:43 to a straightforward five-word conclusion.
07:47 So it took, my friends,
07:49 75 years and $20 million to do
07:54 this study to find out five simple words.
07:58 I want to know what those are, don't you?
08:00 Five simple words and it's this,
08:03 "Happiness is love."
08:06 End of story.
08:08 Happiness is love and love is happiness.
08:12 In other words, that's the end of the story.
08:15 We are happy when we love
08:18 and love brings happiness.
08:22 And so love nurtured
08:24 in the context of positive relationships
08:27 makes a difference in our physical,
08:30 in our mental, our emotional,
08:32 and our spiritual health.
08:36 So let's look at some health principles,
08:38 some simple health principles.
08:40 One is, if you want to be healthy,
08:43 invest in developing healthy relationships.
08:47 Healthy relationships actually help
08:50 our physical health,
08:52 and then relationships developed
08:54 in the context of a loving church environment
08:57 reduce the risk of mortality
08:59 and actually increase life's happiness.
09:03 And so, those people that go to church,
09:06 those people that have a loving church environment
09:11 actually have been known
09:13 to have greater health than those
09:15 who do not attend church.
09:18 So let's take a look at that.
09:19 A ten-year study by the Center for Aging Studies
09:23 at Flinders University
09:25 in Australia revealed that those
09:29 who have a "network of friends"
09:31 live 22% longer than those
09:35 who had few friends.
09:37 So that's why it's so important, my friends,
09:40 for you to have some very good friends,
09:42 because those relationships
09:45 actually make a difference in our physical health.
09:48 And so we want to develop those friendships,
09:50 so we can actually live 22% longer
09:54 if we have a network of friends.
09:56 So good friends, my friends, are good for your health.
10:01 The fewer your friends,
10:03 the more you internalize your problems,
10:05 and the more your health will suffer.
10:07 So there are times
10:09 when you need to confide in your friends,
10:12 and your best friend, maybe your spouse,
10:14 your best friend, maybe your children,
10:16 or your parents, or brother, or sister,
10:19 or someone else in the family,
10:21 or it may be someone that's your neighbor,
10:25 or a church member, but develop those friendships
10:28 because they are crucial for good health.
10:32 In fact, Jesus says in John 15:12,
10:37 "This is My commandment that you love one another
10:40 as I have loved you."
10:43 Jesus says, "I love you so much.
10:46 I died for you. I love you, I care for you.
10:49 And I want you to love others as I have loved you."
10:54 So let's look at some tips for building those love,
10:58 loving relationships.
10:59 We need to build those relationships, correct?
11:02 So let's take a look at them.
11:04 Well, the first one is to make time
11:08 for relationships.
11:10 We need to take time to build relationships
11:13 and relationships do take time, my friends.
11:16 I think of an experience that I had
11:18 when my son was only in the fifth grade,
11:22 and I was actually working on a seminar on priorities.
11:26 And my son was going on a camping trip,
11:31 and I thought, well, I'll get a lot done,
11:33 he's going to have a wonderful time,
11:35 he loves the outdoors, he loves nature,
11:38 he's going with his friends,
11:39 he's going to have a great time.
11:41 And he'll be tired
11:43 when he gets back so I can probably,
11:45 if I don't finish work on it again.
11:47 And so, the time passed
11:49 and soon my son was back at home,
11:53 and when he got home,
11:54 he started telling me about his wonderful trip
11:57 and then he said, mom, I would like you to go with me
12:01 around the lake with my dog.
12:03 Now, it takes about an hour to go around that lake.
12:07 We go up through the apple orchard
12:09 and around the lake and he said,
12:11 "Let's bring a ball and we can skip, and run,
12:14 and play, and throw the ball to the dog."
12:18 And I said, "Mark, are you sure,
12:19 aren't you tired?"
12:21 You've just come back from this trip.
12:23 He said, "No, Mom, I really want to go."
12:26 And so I said, "Okay,"
12:27 because I knew
12:29 that this was another time to build
12:31 that solid relationship.
12:33 So I said, "Okay, let's get ready and go,"
12:35 and so we did, and we got the dog,
12:38 and we started out,
12:39 and we were playing and running and throwing the ball,
12:42 and having a wonderful time.
12:43 And it took about an hour, and soon we got home.
12:47 And I thought,
12:48 "Well, he's surely going to be tired now
12:49 and I haven't finished my seminar"
12:52 although I loved the experience with him
12:55 and it was a wonderful time to build relationships.
12:58 When we got home, he said, "Mom, that was great,
13:03 but my friends are going swimming,
13:05 can you bring me to the pool?"
13:07 And he is...
13:08 And I said, "Mark, are you sure
13:10 that you want to go to the swimming pool.
13:12 Aren't you tired?"
13:13 "No, Mom, please bring me to the pool,
13:16 take me to the pool."
13:17 And so, I said, "Okay,"
13:20 and we got in the car and, my friends,
13:23 he said something very significant
13:25 and it made me realize
13:27 how important these relationships really are.
13:30 We got in the car,
13:31 he was silent at first and then he said,
13:35 "Mom, you're a great mom."
13:38 And I thought, "What did he just say."
13:41 And I said, "Well, Mark, what do you mean?
13:44 What's a great mom?"
13:45 And he said something very significant
13:48 for a fifth grader, he said,
13:50 "A great mom is one who will take time
13:53 to build a relationship with his son.
13:55 And thank you so much
13:57 for taking me and my dog around there
13:59 and now you are going to take me to the pool.
14:02 Thank you so much."
14:03 And I thought after,
14:05 that seminar on priorities didn't matter to me anymore,
14:10 what mattered most
14:11 was that I had build a relationship,
14:13 and I can tell you to this day
14:16 we have a wonderful relationship
14:19 with our children, with our grandchildren.
14:21 They're adults now,
14:23 but we started building those relationships,
14:25 taking time for those relationships.
14:28 So, my friends, out there, those of you that are watching,
14:32 take time to build relationships
14:34 with your family, with your children,
14:37 with your spouse, with even your friends,
14:40 even church members and others, take that time and most of all,
14:44 take that time
14:46 to build relationships with Jesus.
14:49 That's the most important relationship
14:51 that we can have.
14:52 So make time for relationships
14:55 and then cultivate open communication.
14:57 We have open communication in our home with my husband,
15:02 with our children, and so now is the time to communicate
15:07 if you're not feeling well or if something bothers you,
15:10 then communicate it, don't keep it inside
15:13 because that's not good for your health,
15:15 but open up and communicate with one another,
15:19 cultivate that open communication,
15:21 very important.
15:22 And then focus on others,
15:24 not so much focusing on yourself
15:27 and your needs and my needs but on others.
15:30 And there are so many things
15:32 that we can do to make others happy.
15:34 I know that often times at the holidays,
15:37 we will bring just a simple loaf of bread
15:40 to some of our church members or some of our friends,
15:43 so just think of something little
15:46 that you can do for someone else
15:48 that will focus on the needs of others.
15:50 It may be just to go and mow someone's lawn
15:53 or to help someone else,
15:55 but focus on others and then speak kindly.
15:59 You know, especially as people get older,
16:02 they want just a smile sometimes,
16:06 just a kind word just,
16:08 you know, just something that will cheer them up
16:11 and so speak kindly to others
16:15 and then think before acting.
16:18 You know, oftentimes we say things
16:20 that we wish we hadn't said
16:22 and because we were maybe tired,
16:24 we haven't gotten enough sleep the night before,
16:28 and we don't really think before we speak,
16:31 and then when we get up the next day,
16:34 we say, well, I should have waited
16:36 and not spoken so quickly.
16:38 So we need to think before we act.
16:41 Researchers, my friends,
16:43 at Ohio State and Carnegie-Melon University
16:47 have shown that people
16:49 who report having strong relationships
16:51 have more robust immune systems
16:54 and are less likely to succumb to infectious diseases.
16:58 Just having those simple relationships
17:02 is going to build your immune system,
17:04 and we need a strong immune system
17:07 if we're going to live longer, healthier and happier.
17:11 And John Donne put it well
17:13 in his famous poem when he said,
17:15 "No man is an island, no man stands alone."
17:20 We all need support at times
17:22 and we all need support from someone else
17:26 and we need at times someone to carry us.
17:31 And so, I'd like to tell you about Boys' Town.
17:34 Boys' Town is a home
17:36 for homeless boys in Omaha, Nebraska.
17:40 And it's a haven of refuge revealing God's love
17:45 to these boys, love for one another.
17:48 And there's a statue outside the Boys' Town
17:52 and it says this,
17:54 "He ain't heavy, he's my brother."
17:57 And this has become the slogan for Boys' Town.
18:01 And you know what?
18:02 You can say the same thing, my friends, he ain't heavy,
18:06 he's my brother.
18:07 It's not difficult for me to do a kind deed for someone else
18:11 because you have these loving relationships.
18:15 Loving relationships will help,
18:18 will go so far and the founder believed at Boys' Town
18:22 that there are no bad boys,
18:25 there are just bad environments and social conditions
18:29 and you know, children have very soft
18:32 and tender hearts.
18:33 I know, I taught grades five through eight early in my life,
18:39 and I know that these children are very tender
18:44 and they have just hearts that long for that love.
18:50 And so there are no bad boys,
18:52 just bad environments and social conditions,
18:54 so we can change that for sure,
18:58 and the founder also believed
19:01 that love can change any life,
19:04 so you can change someone's life
19:06 even by a loving relationship or a smile.
19:11 In Psychology Today,
19:13 May 22, 2013, Cynthia Thaik said this,
19:18 "When individuals sense that they are loved, cared for,
19:22 needed and wanted,
19:24 the power of love releases positive chemical endorphins
19:28 in the brain which brings healing
19:30 to the mind and to the body."
19:33 So when people sense that they are loved,
19:36 this actually increases the endorphins
19:39 so that they actually have in the brain
19:43 healing of both mind and body.
19:46 And Pastor Arthur Ward said this,
19:49 "Flatter me, and I may not believe you.
19:52 Criticize me, and I may not like you.
19:55 Ignore me, and I may not forgive you.
19:57 Encourage me, and I will not forget you,
20:01 but love me
20:02 and I may be forced to love you.
20:05 Love generates love, my friends.
20:07 And so as we love someone else, they will love us back.
20:12 So in order to have friends,
20:14 we must prove ourselves friendly.
20:17 And Bernie Siegel said this,
20:20 "Unconditional love is the most powerful stimulant
20:24 of the immune system.
20:26 The truth is, my friends, is that love heals.
20:29 So love is part of those eight secrets
20:34 that we're talking about, so important.
20:37 Unconditional love even flows from the heart of God.
20:42 Health is directly related to understanding God's love
20:46 and revealing that love to others.
20:49 So God has unconditional love for you, my friends.
20:53 He loves you unconditionally and our health improves
20:56 when we trust in God's conditional love.
21:00 So if you're experiencing even bad health
21:03 because of thinking
21:05 that nobody loves you, just remember,
21:08 that God has unconditional love for you.
21:11 In fact, 1 John 4:8 says this, "God is love."
21:16 God is a loving God.
21:19 He created this earth for us with all its beauty
21:23 because He loves us so much and God Himself is love.
21:28 1 John 3:1 says, "Behold, what manner of love
21:32 the Father has bestowed on us,
21:35 that we should be called children of God."
21:38 We are children of God, my friends.
21:41 We're not just nobody, we are somebody,
21:45 we are the children of the Heavenly Father
21:49 and of the Creator of the universe.
21:52 And love is a gift from God
21:54 that has wonderful healing power.
21:58 God's love is supplied unconditionally,
22:02 but I must take it in,
22:03 I must feed on it to be nourished by it.
22:06 You know what?
22:08 God's love is free,
22:09 we don't have to buy it, my friends.
22:11 We don't have to purchase it. We don't have to beg for it.
22:15 We have it unconditionally because God loves you.
22:19 And I want you to know,
22:21 if you're out there watching this program today
22:24 that God loves you.
22:26 If you're feeling like nobody loves you, just remember,
22:29 God loves you unconditionally.
22:33 And loving God
22:34 and the people around us is life giving.
22:37 One of the most familiar Bible passages says this,
22:40 John 3:16, and if you're out there
22:43 watching this program, why don't you say it with me,
22:47 "For God so loved the world,
22:49 that He gave His only begotten Son,
22:52 that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish,
22:57 but have everlasting life."
22:59 God wants to live with you throughout all eternity,
23:03 my friends, He loves you unconditionally.
23:06 And you know, we can follow these health principles
23:09 that we're talking about here on 3ABN,
23:12 and we can live longer, and healthier, and happier,
23:15 but God wants us to live throughout all eternity,
23:19 and so He says, my friends, I died for you,
23:22 I love you unconditionally.
23:24 And so remember, that God truly does love you.
23:29 Des Cummings in his book says this,
23:33 "God's love is the key that unlocks human potential.
23:38 His love transforms our lives.
23:41 It empowers us to rise above our challenges
23:44 and this loves helps to heal our wounds."
23:47 God's love, my friends, unlocks human potential.
23:52 When you know that you're being loved,
23:54 you can reach the highest sky,
23:56 you can reach to your highest level
23:59 when you know
24:00 that you are loved unconditionally.
24:02 And loving God and trusting God are closely related.
24:07 And health is improved when we trust,
24:09 trust in God's unconditional love.
24:13 He's interested in our wellbeing,
24:15 my friends, and He longs for us to experience life
24:18 in all His wonderful abundance.
24:21 So God wants you to experience life
24:24 to the fullest.
24:25 And trust, Isaiah 26:3 says,
24:29 "Trust in the Lord forever, for in Jehovah,
24:32 the Lord is everlasting strength."
24:35 So God wants us to trust Him.
24:38 Loving and trusting God leads us
24:41 from fear to faith,
24:43 so we go from fear and we have faith
24:46 that God does truly love us.
24:48 The more we love God,
24:50 the more we will learn to trust Him
24:52 and this trust, my friends, is called faith.
24:56 Faith is the assurance
24:57 that ultimately God will fulfill
25:00 all our dreams.
25:01 He will give you, my friends, the desires of your heart.
25:05 He wants to give you the desires of your heart,
25:07 but He will do what is best for you.
25:11 In the book Education, it says this,
25:14 "Faith is trusting God, believing that He loves us
25:18 and knows what is best for our good."
25:21 So faith is trusting God for: strength in our weakness,
25:25 for wisdom in our ignorance, for courage in our fear,
25:29 for peace in our anxiety, for hope in our depression,
25:34 for guidance in our doubt, and joy in our sorrow.
25:38 So, my friends, faith is trusting God
25:41 even if we feel weak
25:43 and even if we feel like we don't have the wisdom
25:46 that we want, God will strengthen us,
25:49 He will be with us,
25:51 so have that faith and trust God
25:54 because He's always there.
25:56 Faith is a relationship with God as a friend well known
26:00 which leads us to do whatever He asks and accept
26:03 whatever He allows with the absolute assurance
26:07 that He only wants what's best for our lives.
26:10 God wants what's best for us and well known universities,
26:13 national public health research institutions,
26:16 and privately funded health organizations
26:19 are all coming to the similar conclusions.
26:22 A strong belief can be a foundation
26:25 for improved health.
26:26 In fact, research shows
26:29 that on 1, 931 older adults
26:33 indicated that those
26:34 who attend religious services regularly
26:37 have a lower mortality rate, so find some church.
26:42 And research on 1,700 adults found
26:45 that those who attend religious services
26:48 were likely to have elevated levels
26:50 of interleukin-6,
26:52 an immune substance prevalent
26:54 in people with chronic diseases.
26:56 So just going to church, my friends, can help you.
26:59 "Courage, faith, hope, sympathy, love,
27:03 promote health and prolonging life."
27:07 My friends, I want you to know
27:09 that Jesus loves you unconditionally.
27:13 He loves you with an everlasting love,
27:16 and when you accept the fact that we can have courage,
27:21 faith, hope, sympathy, love that will promote your health
27:25 and you will truly have a longer life,
27:28 so God bless you
27:29 as you accept God's way of life.


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