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00:30 Our world has seen some great and amazing travelers like Marco 00:33 Polo, Christopher Columbus, James Cook, Ferdinand Magellan, 00:38 Vasco de Gama and Ibn Battuta. These trailblazers journeyed to 00:44 the ends of the earth. They were brave, determined and resilient. 00:49 These courageous pioneers stepped out into the unknown and 00:54 staged epic journeys across land and sea to explore and open up 00:59 our world. By ship, camel or on foot, they traveled hundreds of 01:06 thousands of kilometers. But surely our age has seen the 01:11 greatest travelers of all time. They don't travel by camel, ship 01:16 or on foot, but by airships, airplanes and the greatest of 01:21 these modern travelers are the pilots who fly these jet planes. 01:25 They cover more kilometers and travel to more destinations in 01:31 less time than anyone else in history. Today's it's Paris and 01:37 London, tomorrow New York and Washington, then Moscow, 01:42 Shanghai, Tokyo, Sidney and Auckland. The world is their 01:46 destination. Pilots really do enjoy a jet setters life style. 01:52 One of glamour, style and entertainment as they journey to 01:57 the ends of the earth. They are the ultimate globe trotters of 02:01 the 21st century. Well today you are going to meet one of these 02:08 real life jet pilots. He's one of those people who sit right 02:14 pointy end of planes who have our lives in their hands and who 02:18 we hear through the intercom but rarely, if ever, actually see. 02:23 This pilot has made one of the greatest journeys. His amazing 02:29 story will surprise and inspire you and may even change your 02:33 life. So join us for the jet pilot's journey. 02:38 ♪ ♪ 03:01 Have you got 18 hours and 45 minutes. That's the length of a 03:05 new flight between Singapore and New York. It's a new record for 03:10 the longest noncommercial flight in the world, a distance of 03:16 15,348 km or 9537 miles. Fifty years ago the so called Kangaroo 03:25 Run from Australia to London took four days and seven stops. 03:30 Today it's a direct flight and takes a mere fifth of the time. 03:35 Ever since the Wright brothers' first flight in 1903 lasting 03:40 just 59 seconds and covering a distance of 260 meters, the 03:45 airline industry has been setting new records. Qantas 03:49 Airline proudly holds one of most enviable of these records, 03:53 the world's safest airline due to its fatality free record 03:59 the jet era. This is an incredible safety record for an 04:04 airline that currently carries nearly 50 million passengers per 04:08 year. Not only has Qantas had a flawless record for more than 65 04:13 years but it's also the reigning world's safest airline for the 04:18 fourth year running. Now there are many factors that contribute 04:22 to this immaculate safety record but one of the main reasons is 04:27 the trusty and well trained pilots at the controls of these 04:31 planes. These pilots are trained to the highest standards and can 04:36 draw up almost 100 years of aviation experience. And, yes, 04:41 they're among the world's greatest travelers. Today we're 04:46 going to meet one of these pilots. Captain Graham Hood 04:50 has flown 35,000 hours, has carried 5 million passengers and 04:56 has flown over 20 million kilometers. Now that's like 05:00 flying to the moon and back 25 times. It's further than the 05:05 distance traveled by all of the great early explorers combined. 05:09 They say that airline pilots have the best office in the 05:13 world. So let's go and have a look and hear about Captain 05:17 Hood's longest journey and the greatest challenge of his life. 05:21 It'll surprise and inspire you. Captain Graham Hood, thank you 05:28 for inviting us into your office. 05:30 Thanks for coming Gary, Welcome aboard. Let's go in and have a 05:33 chat. 05:37 Wow! Graham tell us about the plane we're in. 05:40 We're in a Qantas 9737-800. It's one of about ten thousand that 05:45 have been built in the history of the Boeing 737. 05:48 What's it like working in here? 05:50 It's a familiar office to me. I've been in the airplane since 05:53 1986 and it's a very familiar place but it's a place that we 05:58 need to be on top of all the time. It's fairly confined but 06:01 it needs to be confined so we can reach all the instruments, 06:04 dials and switches that we need to without getting out of our 06:08 seats. Um, we spend a lot of time in here. We can spend up 06:11 to 12 hours a day here and we might do three, four or five 06:14 flights a day. 06:15 But Graham, you've been on an even longer journey than your 06:19 pilot's responsibilities. Tell us about your longest and most 06:23 challenging journey. 06:25 The journey of life has been my longest and most challenging and 06:28 I'm happy to talk to you about that but let's go somewhere 06:31 quiet. I'll change into something more appropriate and 06:33 we can have a good chat about that. 06:34 ♪ ♪ 06:42 Well this is more comfortable isn't it. Gary, you asked me 06:45 about my longest and most challenging journey. My story 06:48 began in a very dysfunctional marriage when I was you know 06:52 in my early childhood that I was aware that my parents' marriage 06:55 was dysfunctional. They were two great people who lived through 07:00 incredible odds. They grew up as children of the early depression 07:04 My brother left home when I was five. He was 17. He couldn't 07:08 stand the dysfunction anymore. And I remember feeling really 07:12 insecure in their marriage. Even as young as five I can remember 07:17 feeling that insecurity. And I grew up in the red light 07:20 district of Sydney. As a kid I used to ride billy carts and 07:23 line ways between brothels and places of ill repute in the city 07:28 this part of Sydney. 07:29 And then we moved out into the bush and we lived 07:32 in a 15 foot caravan, just the three of us, my mom and dad and 07:37 I. And it was very, very intense There was no way to escape from 07:42 each other. And I lived through their dysfunction and more. 07:45 And just as I was about to start high school at the age of 12 I 07:49 contracted rheumatic fever and I was confined to bed in this 07:54 caravan on my own every night as they went to work for about 07:57 six months. And in my boredom I just went exploring the 08:00 caravan and I found a box of girlie magazines. That started a 08:06 dreadful cycle in my life. I always wanted to be a hero like 08:09 all young boys do. They want to be policemen or firemen or 08:13 soldiers or pilots. And I found these magazines and it awakened 08:18 something in me that I couldn't quell. It overtook me in a dark 08:24 sense. I remember feeling abject disgust with myself at watching 08:28 this. I couldn't stop watching. I became addicted very quickly. 08:32 I went on with my flying career. I did it the hard way, I had to 08:36 go and make a living and pay for flying lessons and I left school 08:41 when I was 13 because of the dysfunction of my addiction. At 08:44 that early age I couldn't be at school. I was very much alone. 08:47 And I developed my career. That went along well. I thought if I 08:52 got married my addiction would go away because I'd be with a 08:56 lady and all these desires would disappear which was a falsehood. 09:01 So we got married for the wrong reasons and we were two good 09:04 people who brought a couple of beautiful kids into the world. 09:06 But we lived in this dysfunction for 30 plus years and eventually 09:10 the marriage dissolved. My pornography addiction got worse 09:14 in the dysfunction of the marriage. For me the worst 09:17 part of my addiction was one evening when my 12-year-old 09:20 daughter's reflection appeared in the screen that I was 09:24 watching after I turned my computer off. And to her I was 09:28 a hero. And I'll never forget the look. And I thought that 09:38 would end it for me. I thought I would stop then and there, 09:45 that was it. And I promised myself I would. But with no 09:48 foundation for that promise I found myself two days later back 09:53 into it again. And as you can see that's a pretty emotional 09:57 memory for me. But eventually my 30-year-old marriage ended and I 10:04 met someone else and this lady is somebody who's really helped 10:10 me to understand my addiction. She's a psychologist as well and 10:14 together we formed an organization called Mission 10:16 Serenity and we devoted our lives to helping people deal 10:19 with these issues. 10:21 Graham tell us about how pervasive and addictive porn is. 10:25 Back in my day when I first started my involvement in 10:31 pornography it was very hard to get. You'd get it in subtle 10:34 forms like there was always a page three girl in a newspaper. 10:37 The girlie magazines I talked about that my dad had. I think 10:41 my dad had them under the bed in a box. So back then it was 10:45 difficult to get the kind of pornography that we get now 10:48 but now it's just open slanted. But it's in everything we use 10:53 for communication. Our social media is filled with it. 10:55 Advertising, 10:57 television, reality TV programs are filled with subtle hints of 11:01 sexuality and nudity and there are a lot of children who watch 11:06 pornography who are terrified that they'll never be able to 11:09 perform as the porn stars on the mobile devices. And there 11:13 are young girls who think that the only way to get a boy is to 11:16 behave like a porn star. It's destructive. Children are seeing 11:21 this stuff. That's how they're getting their sex education. 11:23 Graham what are the problems with porn? 11:27 Pornography destroys intimacy. There are people who say that 11:30 watching porn enhances their marriage. Watching porn brings 11:34 other people into your bed through you mind or through a 11:38 screen. It destroys intimacy. It destroys marriage. It gives 11:42 people a false sense of how they need to perform in the marriage. 11:47 So how widespread is porn and it's problems? 11:50 The world wide web was established initially as a 11:53 military tool and it's first commercial purpose was in the 11:57 providing of pornography. A lot of the commercial systems that 12:01 we use in online banking and purchasing of goods, et cetera 12:06 and services came about by systems that were set in place 12:09 so people could pay remotely for pornography that they could view 12:12 on their computer. But I can remember pornography going back 12:15 to French post cards in the first world war that were 12:19 circulated amongst the trenches and it's pretty clear that 12:22 pornography was designed mainly for men and to attract men and 12:26 draw them as an audience to it. But you know females were 12:30 attracted to pornography through novels for a man, novels, et 12:34 cetera. The covers of books were scantily clad people in an 12:38 embrace and then there was this romantic fantasy that they leaf 12:41 through. 12:42 And that was a subtle form of pornography as well. 12:44 Is there any hope for porn addicts? Is there a way out? 12:47 There is hope. I spent decades seeking a way out and couldn't 12:51 find it. I tried all this, self help groups, counseling, 12:56 psychology, seminars. All these things seemed to work for a 13:00 little while but they all failed in the end and I realized that 13:03 I was trying to do this on my own power and I recognized that 13:06 my own power was miniscule. I couldn't control this. I've 13:10 never been able to. Who was I kidding? And one day my 13:14 youngest daughter, the one whose reflection was in the screen, 13:19 asked me a very pertinent question. We were talking about 13:20 faith and she says to me you know dad I'm about to make some 13:24 decisions about faith. And I said, Oh okay that's interesting 13:27 I've never really thought about it. And she said well that's why 13:30 I want to ask you. Where do you stand on faith? And all through 13:33 my life I though well I'm either an agnostic or an atheist and it 13:37 was a very big question she asked me and I wanted some time 13:39 to think about that. And I came back to her with an answer that 13:44 was I honestly think there must be a God because I thought about 13:48 it. Most of us don't really think about it to that depth. 13:52 Then all of a sudden I had an identity for the 13:54 higher power that could lead me out of this. 13:56 I needed someone who had a greater 14:01 power then the power of the addiction that was driving me. 14:04 That I could package my addiction up in a parcel and 14:07 give it to them and Gary for me that was Jesus. I had a light 14:12 bulb moment. So then I started to explore the option of 14:15 Christian faith and I started to think about Jesus. I mean I've 14:19 seen the movies you know and we've celebrated Easter and 14:24 Christmas and all those things in ways that we tend to do. Now 14:28 it's a time when you get together and have a party. 14:29 But who was Jesus Christ? And in several months of thinking about 14:34 that I came to a conclusion. A man I'd never met ever 2000 14:41 years ago died the worst possible death on the cross so 14:46 a filthy porn addict like me could have a second chance. 14:52 That's the power, that's the answer. And daily I have to 14:57 commit to that power. I have to commit to what that can do for 15:02 me in my life. And I talk to many Christian men who are 15:07 addicted to pornography and that knowledge of Jesus doesn't 15:10 come through to them. But I say stick with it. Learn more. 15:15 Understand who He is because He has the power to take this away 15:21 and for me that was the most profound revelation and that's 15:24 where my hope is, Gary. That's why I'm so emotional about it. 15:29 Years of searching. It was there all the time and I didn't know 15:32 it. That power is amazing. That power is there 24/7. It never 15:38 turns off, it never fades away. It's always there whenever I 15:42 need it it's there. I don't have to pay for it, I don't have to 15:46 make a phone call. I don't have to make an appointment. It's 15:49 there always. That's the hope and that's the hope that gets me 15:54 So how can friends and family help a porn addict? 15:57 Now Gary, I met my current wife Michelle 12 years ago 15:59 talk to her about all my issues in my life and she with me. And 16:09 I was able to give up pornography cold turkey at that 16:13 time. It was also at the same time that I found faith in Jesus 16:17 So I was able to give it up cold turkey and doing really well and 16:22 for about six years there was no temptation or anything and one 16:25 day I found myself in a position where I stumbled and I had to 16:28 confess it to Michelle. And I confessed it to her with great 16:32 trepidation. There was a voice in this ear saying, Ah what does 16:35 it matter. It doesn't matter you know. Just keep it to yourself. 16:38 She doesn't need to know. You know what'll happen if you tell 16:41 her. It'll be the end of your marriage. And there's another 16:43 voice in here, a quiet little voice that says, You know what 16:46 you have to do. So I sat her down one day and I said, 16:50 Sweetheart, I have something to tell you that may destroy our 16:52 relationship. And she said, what is it? I said three or four 16:57 weeks ago in Adelaide I stumbled I don't know why I stumbled 17:00 and I went 17:01 back and I watched porn for a couple of hours. And I held my 17:04 breath and I started to cry, and she looked me with this warmth 17:09 and she said to me, Honey are you okay? Not the response I was 17:14 expecting. And I said, No I couldn't feel any worse. And 17:17 then she said to me. Was it anything I did? And I said, 17:20 Sweetheart and I want to say this to everybody who's watching 17:24 especially the wives of men who are affected. This is a problem 17:28 I've had since I was 12 years old, darling. This has got 17:31 nothing to do with you in my life at the moment. So, please 17:36 don't take that on. And the next question was the clincher. She 17:40 looked at me with a smile and she said what can I do to help 17:43 you? And at the moment she did that, I saw the face of Jesus, 17:49 because that's what he does. He doesn't condemn and isolate. 17:53 And she doesn't condemn and isolate. I've had a couple of 17:56 stumbles and I've always been able to talk to her with it and 17:59 she takes on the attitude of what can we do now Sweetheart? 18:03 What's the next step for us as a couple, because we are one 18:07 flesh. What I do affects her, what she does affects me and 18:10 she's made that clear. It doesn't condone me stumbling 18:13 back into pornography but it doesn't mean that I've got a 18:16 line drawn through me, that I'm completely isolated and lost to 18:20 my wife and my marriage and my family and my community. And 18:23 that's the way we have to approach it. We will never stamp 18:26 out pornography, I believe that to my core, but it's the way we 18:31 deal with it. The last thing you want to do is take a good man 18:33 and isolate him because an addiction he's had that he 18:37 developed when he was only a child. That's just not fair Gary 18:40 We have to adopt a different way and isolation doesn't work. If 18:45 Jesus can forgive me, why can't you? And we have to work as a 18:49 team together. 18:50 Graham, it's been a pleasure to have you on our program today 18:53 and thank you so much for sharing your story with us. 18:56 Thank you for flying with me Gary. Cheers. 19:02 It's a sensitive topic isn't it? Pornography is the global 19:10 elephant in the room. We all know it exists but generally 19:14 it's much easier to leave as the great unspeakable, an issue best 19:20 left alone in the hope that it'll go away. But porn isn't 19:26 going away. Rather, it's getting bigger and the latest stats are 19:32 truly disturbing. Every second over 30,000 people view porn. 19:37 The global porn industry rakes in over five billion dollars 19:42 annually. Porn sites comprise around 12 percent of the 19:46 internet. Two-thirds of Australian men admit to viewing 19:51 pornography. One-third of all porn users are women and 60 19:57 percent of Australian children learn about sex from pornography 20:01 And here's why it's a real problem. In our hypersexualized 20:06 culture porn is increasingly seen as normal and even, perhaps 20:12 good. But in reality it's far from being helpful. Porn 20:17 provides a false intimacy and destroys the fabric of human 20:21 relationships. Porn literally rewires our brains and changes 20:28 us. The appeal and grip of porn becomes stronger and stronger 20:33 and as a person gets caught up in it, they crave increasingly 20:37 explicit sexual images. A seriously addicted person can 20:42 spend hours and hours at a time viewing image after image, often 20:47 late into the night, ever searching for the one experience 20:52 that will truly satisfy their longing. But that elusive 20:56 satisfaction never comes and so the process is repeated and the 21:01 addiction becomes stronger and stronger. Porn is inherently 21:07 destructive. It destroys marriages by driving a 21:10 relational wedge between spouses as one begins to prefer the porn 21:15 actual intimacy and the other feels that they cannot compete 21:20 with the computer screen. And it destroys singles when they 21:25 become trapped in the cycle of pornography inhibiting them from 21:29 healthy relationships with the opposite sex and forcing them to 21:33 deal with the guilt and shame of leading a double life. 21:37 Pornography objectifies the women and men who act in porn 21:42 films and supports an industry rife with corruption, sexual 21:47 abuse, drug abuse, sex trafficking and suicide. And 21:52 most seriously it destroys relationships with God through 21:57 an infatuation, worship of a twisted counterfeit of the good 22:03 gift of sex instead of the gracious giver, God himself. It 22:08 brings guilt and shame and separates us from God. But 22:13 here's the good news. There is hope. God loves us and wants 22:18 only the best for us and so when we accept Jesus and commit 22:23 our lives to him, he sets us free. We don't need to live 22:27 enslaved to porn anymore. We can experience true freedom. Jesus 22:33 paid the penalty for all of our sins and mistakes on the cross 22:37 including pornography. Here's what the Bible says in Isaiah 22:43 chapter 1 and verse 18: 22:58 And that's the theme that runs right through the Bible. That's 23:01 what Jesus is all about, forgiveness, freedom. His love 23:07 and forgiveness are unconditional. Notice what it 23:10 says in 1 John chapter 1 and verse 9: 23:25 Jesus offers us a friendship, a relationship with him that 23:29 transforms our entire life including our sex life. Jesus 23:34 gives us a new identity and a new way to live. Please notice 23:39 what it says in 2 Corinthians chapter 5 and verse 17: 23:57 The old ways, the old life are gone and you live a new life 24:02 with Jesus, a life of happiness and fulfillment. If you'd like 24:08 to experience that freedom, that happiness, why not ask for it 24:12 right now as we pray. 24:15 Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for your love and goodness to 24:21 us. Thank you for the promise to provide what is good and best 24:25 for us. Thank you for helping us to deal with the hurts, habits 24:30 and hang ups of life. Lord we want to experience happiness and 24:35 life to the full. Please bless us now as we reach out to you 24:41 and move forward in our life as you intended us to do. Bless us 24:46 and please give us hope and fulfillment. We ask this in 24:50 Jesus' name, Amen. 24:54 Captain Graham Hood has traveled over 20 million kilometers as a 25:00 jet airline pilot. But his longest journey and greatest 25:04 challenge has been the journey of life, It's a journey we're all 25:08 on. We all experience and struggle with this life's hurts, 25:13 habits and hang-ups. But we don't have to remain stuck in our 25:16 ways. There is a healing journey that we can all embark 25:22 on. There is hope. There is a way forward. If you'd like to 25:26 find inner peace and happiness, if you'd like to strengthen your 25:32 relationship with people and with God, If you'd like to find 25:34 a better way, then I'd like to recommend a free gift we have 25:37 for all our viewers today. It's a booklet called The Hidden 25:41 Battle. This booklet is our gift to you and is absolutely free. 25:46 There are no costs or obligations whatsoever. 25:50 Following Bible principles, strengthening relationships and 25:54 social connections keep you happy and healthy. This booklet 26:00 will share secrets that will bring you fresh courage and 26:03 hope. In fact, it could change your life forever. So please 26:08 don't miss this wonderful opportunity to receive the 26:11 free gift we have for you today. 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There shall be no more death nor 27:51 sorrow nor crying. There shall be no more pain. For the former 27:55 things have passed away. 27:58 ♪ ♪ |
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