Participants: Yvonne Lewis (Host), Jason Bradley (Host), Dr. John Jacob, Lance Brown
Series Code: UBR
Program Code: UBR000172A
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00:01 There is a secret sin that has taken a hold of the church.
00:03 Stay tuned to find out what it is. 00:05 My name is Yvonne Lewis and I'm Jason Bradley 00:08 and you're watching Urban Report. 00:35 Hello and welcome to a special one-hour edition of Urban Report 00:38 I have my co-host, Jason Bradley, with me... 00:41 yeah... Jays... 00:43 and we have a very special guest today, 00:46 Lance Brown... 00:47 Lance is no stranger to Urban Report. 00:50 I've interviewed him on two other occasions. 00:53 He is a Lay Evangelist who is on fire for God. 00:56 Recently, I was talking to him and he mentioned the strong hold 01:00 that sexual sin has on the church, 01:02 I told him that we should do a program about this very topic. 01:06 Welcome Brother Lance. 01:08 God be praised, Sister Yvonne. 01:09 It's so good to have you here, you are a blessing. 01:13 And we also have with us via Skype, Dr. John Jacob. 01:17 He's an Author and a Psychotherapist 01:19 and he's also the host of Dare to Dream's Program, 01:22 Road to Romance, welcome Dr. Jacob. 01:25 Thank you Dr. Lewis, nice to be here. 01:28 It's so good to have you with us. 01:31 Today we're going to discuss the silent sin. 01:34 According to the National Association of Evangelicals, 01:38 80 percent of unmarried, Evangelical Christians 01:42 between ages 18 to 29 01:44 admit to having had premarital sex. 01:48 80 percent... and you know, there are some aspects 01:54 of sex and sexual addiction that many people are not aware of 01:59 so we invited Dr. Jacob in 02:01 to talk about the Chemistry of sex, 02:04 to talk about what happens in the human body 02:07 during sexual arousal, 02:09 now, some people might feel a little uncomfortable 02:12 having young children watch this program, 02:14 if you do, send them into another room 02:17 but make sure you watch 02:18 this is a critical, critical, program, 02:21 so Dr. Jacob, let's start with you 02:24 because you have some vital information 02:28 about the Chemistry of sex 02:31 and what happens to two people chemically and hormonally 02:35 when they are involved in a sexual relationship. 02:38 Tell us a bit about that. 02:40 Yes, I've heard your statistic, 80 percent, that's pretty high, 02:45 that's alarming, actually, 02:48 sexual sin... or let's just call it sexual addiction 02:53 it's like any other addiction, 02:56 basically what it means is you're better off 02:59 never having touched the stuff, you know how that goes, 03:02 never having started in the first place, 03:06 what it does to your brain is mind blowing 03:10 and difficult to recover from and as you each would know, 03:16 it requires a lot of God's grace and a lot of prayer 03:18 to reverse a situation 03:20 that didn't need to be started in the first place. 03:22 So what you're saying is... 03:24 and let me see if I'm clear on this, 03:27 what you're saying is, 03:28 "If you never begin that whole journey, 03:34 it's so much better for you" 03:36 unless it's within the context of marriage, of course. 03:39 We're not talking about the God-ordained place for sex, 03:43 we're talking about premarital or extramarital sex, 03:47 so what you're saying is, 03:48 "It's better to not start that whole thing 03:52 because once you do, 03:53 you can get very caught up into it," correct? 03:56 Yes, that's correct, scientifically speaking, 03:59 there's a difference 04:01 between the brains of a young person 04:04 that has never had sex, and one that has, 04:07 so the first time someone actually engages 04:10 in sexual intercourse, there are receptors in the brain 04:14 that open for the first time and they're opening because 04:17 they're opening to absorb the hormones, 04:20 we have about eight hormones 04:21 that are associated with dating and marriage 04:25 and so, some of those hormones 04:27 are never released and never absorbed into the body 04:30 until those receptors are open 04:32 now, once those receptors are open... 04:34 they do not close back. 04:35 so what you have is, you have the young person who 04:38 thinks to themselves, "Okay, I love this guy, 04:41 I'm going to do what he asks," you know, 04:44 "I'm just going to do this once," 04:45 but it never works 04:47 and it doesn't work because the receptors 04:49 that open to receive the hormones 04:51 associated with that activity are the same receptors 04:55 that open to receive hormones associated with Cocaine... 04:58 Wow... Wow... 05:02 So, these hormones are addicting... very addicting, 05:06 which is why, once they start, 05:08 most of those 80 percent that you mentioned will not stop. 05:11 Now, they may have started because of love, 05:14 but here's the thing, you have no guarantee 05:17 that the person that you decided to go that far with 05:20 is going to stick with you and follow this through 05:23 to that natural progression, 05:24 doing the right thing, 05:26 getting into a committed relationship, 05:28 finally, one day... proposing to you and, you know, 05:32 walking with you up to that alter 05:33 you have no way to know that that person is going to do that 05:36 because that individual doesn't know it, themselves. 05:38 Look at what you just said, 05:40 that there is some powerful information in there, 05:45 first of all, 05:46 all of these hormones that come into play, 05:48 during that sexual act, 05:50 God gave us those to bind us to our spouse, 05:55 but... this... what you're saying is, 05:58 once that cascade starts... if it's not with your spouse, 06:02 then you are... kind of connected in a sense, 06:06 chemically to that person... 06:08 in other words... they initiate a chemical response 06:13 within the body that was not intended 06:16 for anyone other than 06:18 the person that you are married to. 06:21 Correct... Is that correct? 06:23 That's correct, and you're right, 06:25 those hormones were never created... to date... 06:28 they're not for dating, you know, 06:33 our first parents weren't given 06:35 dating opportunities if you know what I mean 06:37 they were married on the day that they were created 06:40 and they were given these hormones 06:43 for marriage, not for dating... 06:46 That's powerful, that is powerful. 06:49 So, let's talk about 06:50 some of those hormones and what they do. 06:53 Okay, so we have about eight hormones 06:55 and basically they have four main things that they do 07:00 bonding is one, blinding is another, 07:05 addicting is another, 07:08 and novelty-seeking is the fourth. 07:11 What was the fourth? 07:12 Novelty seeking... 07:14 so, they're responsible for you wanting "newness" 07:19 in a relationship, in your relationship 07:22 which is why, if we only looked at marriages 07:25 even marriages, of course, in trouble, 07:28 you know, today we're talking about the singles, 07:29 but married people are also in trouble... in part because 07:33 they neglect the novelty, 07:36 so, they say, after about nine years of marriage, 07:39 most marriages begin to run afoul 07:43 because one partner or maybe both partners 07:45 say that they're feeling bored, 07:47 so in Year Nine of marriage, boredom is the biggest complaint 07:51 not infidelity, 07:52 so the hormones that we were given were 07:55 intended for us to keep our relationships fresh 07:58 and keep our relationships alive, 07:59 now take that out of the context of marriage, 08:03 and you have two young people that are not married 08:05 and guess what the young man uses... 08:07 novelty-seeking hormone four, 08:10 they use it to keep going from flower to flower to flower 08:14 to flower and actually get addicted 08:16 to the novelty of it. 08:18 Hmmm... 08:19 So, promiscuity... you don't think that... 08:22 that novelty-seeking hormone can create infidelity or do you? 08:29 Well, it does, it does, if partners are not careful 08:33 to always keep their relationships fresh 08:35 you know, of course, stay prayed up 08:37 you've got to take all the defenses 08:40 and all the measures that you can 08:42 but a lot of relationships do just the opposite 08:45 couples do just the opposite, 08:47 "Oh, finally I have my husband 08:49 so now, I can wear my rollers... every night. " 08:51 No, no, no... 08:55 "I'm good, I'm good, 08:58 he signed on the dotted line... where can he go? 09:00 He's not going to go anywhere, 09:02 so... here are the rollers... 09:04 and here I am looking in ways 09:07 that I would never present to my friends on the outside" 09:09 and so... you get stuck in this rut 09:12 instead of keeping it fresh and exciting for your partner 09:16 and that causes some problems, 09:19 now, if you switch that as I said, 09:22 to the singles, we've actually discovered... 09:25 scientifically... we've discovered 09:27 that your body actually responds to those hormones 09:31 differently... if you are serious about the person, 09:34 that if you were just in it for a fling, 09:38 for a good time, for another notch on the belt 09:40 your body actually knows. 09:41 Wow! so how does it... what's the difference, 09:44 what's the difference in the response? 09:46 Well the difference is this, you engage... sexually 09:51 and if you did not come in with the frame of mind that 09:56 you know, "I'm really in love with this person, 09:58 this is the person that I'm interested in" 10:00 especially for men, 10:02 there's a hormone called Vasopressin 10:04 and it's sort of the opposite of Oxytocin 10:07 now, Vasopressin does the same thing that Oxytocin does 10:09 which is... it's responsible for the bonding 10:12 but here's the thing, 10:13 if you went into this 10:15 and you weren't 100 percent sure that this is the person 10:17 you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, 10:19 there is a strong possibility that right after the act, 10:22 Vasopressin causes you to feel repulsed 10:25 by the very person 10:26 that you thought you were in love with... prior to the act. 10:30 Jason, there's a 10:32 woman in the Bible... it was actually, 10:34 I can't remember her name, but it was David's daughter 10:38 her half-brother, Amnon, was in love with her 10:43 and ended up raping her and shaming her 10:48 and right after the act, immediately after the act, 10:55 all the love that he had for her... dissipated... 10:58 it was gone and he hated her, the Bible said, 11:01 and that is similar to what Doc is saying 11:04 with this hormone... that initially, 11:07 there can be a lot of love there, 11:09 but immediately, it can be gone, 11:12 that is really powerful! 11:15 So, a couple more hormones, Doc, 11:19 and then I want to bring Lance in to talk about his experience. 11:22 Okay, so some of the addiction 11:26 comes from the fact... like any addiction 11:28 that there is a reward for taking it. 11:30 If you're addicted to a substance, 11:33 your brain rewards everything you take it, 11:35 if you're addicted to sex, the sex becomes an addiction 11:39 which, very often it does, there are centers in your brain 11:42 the same receptors, and they use 11:44 certain other hormones like dopamine, norepinephrine, 11:49 and the combination of these, is powerful, it's addicting, 11:54 and it's rewarding 11:55 and its' the reward that your body seeks 11:57 over and over and over, so the problem is this, 11:59 if you attach yourself to someone 12:01 and you become sexually involved, 12:02 and your brain begins to get this reward, 12:04 your receptors are open for the first time 12:06 and then you have that 12:08 "Amnon experience" where... the brother, 12:10 as soon as he's done, he's like, 12:11 "This was a mistake... I don't really feel this way about you," 12:13 the problem is, 12:15 you also have that last hormone, Oxytocin... 12:18 that is responsible for the bonding, 12:20 and remember it bonds us together like superglue 12:24 when God put it into Adam and Eve, 12:26 it had to be so strong 12:27 that Adam and Eve would be able to stay together 12:30 for eternity, that's how strong that glue is, 12:33 so imagine now, we, in this fallen state, 12:36 that we are in, and we still have the same glue, 12:37 it didn't change, but now we're using it 12:40 and I believe the enemy is using it in such a way 12:43 to have us bound to individuals 12:46 who really don't have our best interests at heart, 12:48 so, what happens? 12:49 You're attached to this young man 12:52 as we know, sexual intercourse produces 12:54 five times more Oxytocin... that bonding hormone, 12:57 than anything else, five times... 13:00 very, very, very strong, 13:01 so by the time you're done, 13:03 he gets this signal from his brain that tells him, 13:05 "She's not the one... " he walks away... 13:07 you're left there with a broken heart 13:09 because your heart is really still attached to his, 13:12 he's walked away with it, he has your heart with him, 13:15 and you're sitting there, 13:17 what's the big deal about that, what's the problem? 13:19 The Problem is... maybe the next person 13:21 that would show up next Saturday... next Sabbath, 13:25 right there... was the one that God had intended but guess what? 13:28 You are not available because emotionally 13:31 your heart is still with that young man 13:33 who was trifling and, you know, just took off. 13:35 So it really is Russian Roulette when young people decide 13:40 to play with sin and play with sex, in particular, 13:43 because it leaves them, I think, 13:45 in a very, very, very desperate state. 13:48 Thank you so much, that is so rich, 13:51 that's powerful, isn't it Jay? 13:53 Yeah, that sounds like the "lust hormone" 13:56 or like the hormone for one-night stands 13:59 or something like that because people get involved 14:02 and then they're gone. 14:03 Hmmm... hmmm... hmmm... hmmm... the one-night stand... 14:05 let's talk about your testimony, 14:08 you have a very interesting journey, 14:11 share that with us if you would. 14:13 You know when Dr. John was speaking about 14:17 those hormones and things that trigger in a child's mind, 14:20 I couldn't help but in thinking about my experience, 14:23 you know, as I had shared before that when I was a child, 14:28 growing up in the rural hills of the West Indies, 14:31 there were a couple of attractions for us as children, 14:35 some of them, we would never try, 14:37 you know, I was growing up in the hills 14:39 of the West Indies in Jamaica, 14:40 and up in the hills where we were, 14:42 Marijuana grew wild 14:44 and we saw the effects of that on people, 14:46 White Rum was a product of Jamaica 14:48 because of the sugar plantations, 14:50 but we could see what happened, 14:52 but another export from Jamaica was Reggae music, 14:56 now, our house was right next to a local bar, 15:00 and they would have a lot of parties 15:03 and we would hear certain types of music, 15:04 now, a lot of people know the friendly 15:06 Bob Marley-type Reggae songs 15:08 that were being exported back then 15:10 but they didn't know some of the local, 15:13 very sexually explicit and graphic songs, 15:17 and I'll never forget when I was about four years old, 15:21 I was at my grandmother's house in the back yard 15:24 and there was a party and I heard the lyrics 15:27 of a very descriptive sexual song, 15:31 and that song... 15:33 you know they have a part of the song called the "hook" 15:35 and the hook is meant to go in and hook 15:38 and the words of that song 15:40 went in... and hooked my little child-like mind 15:43 and the devil then asked me a question, 15:46 "What would that experience be like?" 15:48 Because the song was so graphic and I pulled back at it 15:52 and just went about business, 15:54 going to church and things like that. 15:55 And how old were you at this point? 15:57 I was about four years old at that point 15:59 and the devil... as I look back now 16:04 was trying to get those... 16:06 he knew I wouldn't try the Marijuana chemicals, 16:08 I wouldn't try the White Rum chemicals, 16:11 so he knew that the body naturally manufactures 16:14 these drugs... that in the mind of a child 16:16 as Dr. John just explained, it's... like we said... 16:20 like giving the child keys to a locomotive 16:22 and telling them to drive 16:23 Hmmm... 16:24 and so... the devil couldn't get an atmosphere 16:27 for me to be able to try this 16:29 because my grandparents were... 16:30 you know my grandfather was a preacher, 16:32 my grandmother was a treasurer in the church, 16:35 we're not going to parties, 16:37 we're not going anywhere near parties, 16:39 there was no "atmosphere" being created 16:41 for that seed that was planted to grow. 16:44 So the devil does what he learned from God, 16:46 he puts us in a different atmosphere 16:48 just like Abraham was moved from the land where he was 16:52 and God said, "I have to bring you to 16:54 another land to fulfill what I want to fulfill. " 16:56 My parents called my grandparents and said, 16:59 "We want our children to come to the United States of America" 17:01 and when we got here, at that time, I was five... 17:04 and my parents had left the church, 17:07 they were with the social group who were making money 17:12 and, you know, the typical, 17:14 wanting to be with the "in crowd" 17:16 and be cool and... now, 17:18 when they went to a party, 17:20 all the kids used to be put in the little kids' room 17:23 while the parents were outside dancing and drinking 17:25 so now I was in an atmosphere that I could see 17:30 not the actual "act" being performed 17:33 but the suggestive motions of that 17:37 the seed didn't get watered with the rain, 17:40 it got watered with the dew, the "essence" of what it was 17:46 and so, having looked out into that party 17:49 and seeing the dancing and the carousing 17:51 and the sexual dancing and the moves 17:54 you know, those words got played back 17:57 and I began to... 17:59 even as a child... make the connections. 18:01 The Bible says, 18:02 "Even a little child is known by his ways" 18:05 and I went back into the children's room 18:07 and my curious little scientific mind 18:10 wanted to experiment to see, 18:12 "Hey, is this stuff true?" 18:13 And I ended up doing something in that little room 18:19 with someone my age that was just 18:21 mind-blowing to the two of us and as Dr. John explained 18:28 when those doors were opened up 18:31 and those hormones were triggered, 18:34 it was like giving Crack to a baby. 18:37 Hmmm... 18:39 And years later, it was... go get more... 18:46 get more... get more... get more... 18:48 And seeing your parents and seeing it within the home 18:55 not the act, but the suggestive acts... 18:58 And it wasn't my parents doing that, 19:01 It wasn't? Who was it? 19:03 Because my parents were Seventh-day Adventist parents 19:04 you can tell a Seventh-day Adventist at a party 19:07 because there's but so far they will go, 19:09 they just want to sometimes be there 19:10 to hang out with their friends, 19:12 so, I've never seen my parents 19:13 in those types of provocative dance and things like that, 19:18 but you had other "family friends" 19:22 who you'll call "Uncle or Aunty" who... they were never 19:24 Seventh-day Adventists they never went to church, 19:26 they drink a lot more alcohol, and they don't have any limits 19:29 placed on them because 19:30 they didn't grow up in that atmosphere. 19:33 And did you feel like it was acceptable 19:35 because you saw that? 19:37 You know, for me, it was, 19:39 "Hey, is that what grown-up people do 19:41 when they have license to do that?" 19:43 And it just gave the devil the opportunity to say, 19:47 "Hey," you know, just like he said to Eve, from you, 19:49 "God is holding out something from you, 19:51 let me show it to you" that's what happened with me 19:55 and I said, "You know what? I want to try that" 19:57 you know, and it's no different than the.. 20:00 the children who end up trying alcohol 20:02 for the first time because someone made it look cool. 20:05 Someone made it look attractive 20:07 and to shorten the story a little bit, 20:10 by the time I was eight, it had grown 20:13 and I wanted to learn more, you know, 20:16 "How does this thing give so much pleasure 20:18 to myself and someone else?" 20:19 And there had been other little girls in school who... you know 20:23 their parents were watching pornographic movies, 20:25 and they were sharing it 20:26 and this was all in Elementary School. 20:28 You know, we don't think about the... well... 20:34 sometimes we do, it's covered under, 20:36 "Well, children will be children, 20:39 they're going to explore, 20:40 they're going to see what things are about 20:43 but it's okay, don't worry about it 20:45 it's all normal, it's all natural" 20:47 but what you're saying is, from a spiritual perspective, 20:52 the seeds are being planted, 20:54 those seeds of sexual activity are being planted 21:00 and the pleasures that that brings, 21:03 before a child... I mean... a child is experimenting with it 21:07 not realizing that this is not meant for children. 21:10 And it doesn't help that everywhere that you look 21:14 I mean, sex is being exploited, 21:15 so when you look at these cartoons, 21:17 you see, even the cartoons 21:20 the women on there will have... like... real curvy bodies... 21:23 Jessica Rabbit... 21:25 Yeah, that's what I was thinking about when I... 21:27 with the curvy bodies and they throw in little subtle 21:36 suggestions and now, as time progresses, 21:40 it's getting worse and worse and worse 21:44 it's like... the cartoons are geared towards adults. 21:48 Absolutely, for me it got worse 21:51 and by the time I was in third grade, 21:53 I remember there was a time when we were sent to summer camp 21:56 and there was a Camp Counselor 21:57 that snuck off with her boyfriend 21:59 and then I kind of wanted to see where did they go 22:01 and what are they doing and and I snuck around the corner 22:05 at the wrong time and saw engagement 22:08 and they were not dressed or anything like that 22:11 but they were just being so passionate... and again, 22:15 just like we, in the church, are called to show 22:20 how passionate we are about Christ... so people can say, 22:22 "What makes you look so happy when you talk about Jesus" 22:25 the devil does the same thing 22:26 because he was trained by Jesus in heaven, 22:29 so having seen them look so 22:31 passionate about what they were doing, 22:33 and I came up and they split... of course 22:35 and you know, he runs this way 22:36 and she's trying to run that way 22:38 and she turns to me and she says, 22:39 "Hey Lance... " now adults and even young adults 22:43 they think, "Children aren't perceptive, 22:46 they didn't know what it is 22:48 so let's just kind of distract them, let's not say anything," 22:50 so she says, "Hey Lance, how are you doing?" 22:51 To distract me, come here, come here again, give me a big kiss, 22:54 and I jumped up and I grabbed her and embraced her 22:58 and gave her the same kiss that I saw her giving him. 23:01 Wow! 23:03 She was 18 years old and I was just eight... 23:05 Wow! How did she respond? 23:08 First of all, you know, it was such a shock 23:12 that I was doing this, 23:15 at first she got caught up in the moment, literally, 23:18 and after a while she realized, 23:19 "Hold on, I'm kissing an eight-year-old boy" 23:21 Wow! 23:23 And then she pulled me back and she said, 23:25 "Where did you learn that?" you know, 23:27 and I didn't say it out of my mouth 23:29 but in my mind, I said that same thing 23:31 that many children say, when parents and others 23:34 try to hide their wrongdoing 23:35 that they think the child didn't see, 23:37 in the back of my mind I said, "You just taught me" 23:39 and I jumped and walked away 23:42 but what I had just learned is now, 23:44 being the experimental child 23:46 I go and try... does it really work, 23:49 it worked with her but will it work for someone else? 23:51 And I'm doing this and I'm trying this and, you know, 23:54 woman after woman just like Brother John said, 23:57 the newness goes away, you know, 23:59 and the music says what we think 24:02 like Jay Z says, "On to the next one, 24:04 on to the next one... on to the next one," 24:06 you know, Rapper's Delight said, 24:08 "If your girl starts acting up, then you... take her friend" 24:12 that's what the music was saying 24:14 and when I got that mixture 24:17 of the message of what the music was saying, 24:21 the videos and the shows that presented it 24:24 that glorified it, it was addicting 24:28 and then... what's church going to look like then, 24:30 you know, you have people at church 24:31 saying, "Yes, we love the Lord" but it looks so fake 24:34 and you have people at parties and other places that 24:37 you can tell when they're enjoying something to the full, 24:41 and by the time I got into the Music Industry, 24:45 forget it, now I had the money, 24:49 I had the car, I had the house, 24:52 I still had the Corporate job, so... 24:55 all the things that could feed those pleasures 24:57 to attract the girls and wine and dine them 25:00 and take them there and go to the party 25:02 and then... we also had singers and songs 25:05 and music also has a way of triggering 25:09 and creating an atmosphere, you know 25:12 if a Seventh-day Adventist girl came over to a nice house 25:16 and she's along with somebody and there is, 25:20 "Holy, holy, holy... " and it's in the middle... 25:24 broad daylight, what are the chances that 25:27 you know... but if she comes in the evening 25:30 and the sun is going down, and the lights are dimming 25:34 and back in those days we put on Teddy Pendergrass 25:37 and he starts singing "Turn off the lights... " 25:41 and all of a sudden the whole atmosphere 25:45 just changed and it's conducive for seeds that were planted 25:50 to be watered and take their effect. 25:53 That is such an interesting concept that... 25:56 that the atmosphere, 25:59 the music... changes the atmosphere, 26:03 so holy music, yes, worship music 26:07 changes the atmosphere, sexual music... changes... 26:12 so for everything that God has, 26:14 we know that the enemy has a counterfeit. 26:15 Absolutely... 26:17 Well, look at what Lucifer did in heaven 26:19 he was... over music... Hmmm... hmmm... 26:22 and so, he knows all about music 26:24 he's had plenty of time to practice, 26:27 and he's exploited that. Hmmm... hmmm... 26:30 Absolutely... 26:31 so, I want to touch on something else that Dr. John said, 26:34 when you begin to experience these different 26:39 internally-produced drugs 26:42 that addict you to this thing, 26:46 you begin to act like others who are addicted to drugs, 26:49 others who are addicted to Cocaine or whatever else. 26:53 These internally-produced hormones, right? 26:55 Lance: Correct... Yvonne: That act like a drug. 26:58 Absolutely, absolutely, 26:59 things like dopamine and serotonin 27:02 and norepinephrine, and the whole cocktail mixes... 27:05 like mixing drinks, 27:06 and when the novelty wears off and you get more, 27:11 and the novelty wears off and you get more, 27:12 it's like a Cocaine high that you can never fulfill again 27:15 and it never gets fulfilled, 27:17 and at that point, you know, women... for guys 27:23 as well as men... for... 27:24 because there are women who do that as well too... 27:26 you know... become throw-away items 27:29 and I ended up with three different baby mothers 27:35 and walking away from children, that... 27:38 "Oh, yeah, their born but... I got to go make music and... " 27:42 and the destruction that it caused was no different 27:45 than that Crack mother who leaves her baby in the house 27:50 to go out on the street... to go and get more Crack 27:54 and get more Cocaine and get more alcohol 27:56 and she's like an ostrich with her head buried in the sand 28:00 doesn't care about her children and that's why... 28:03 I don't know if he wants to touch on the effects of dopamine 28:06 but that just created that situation for me 28:12 and we didn't even touch on the spiritual side of it yet... 28:15 Let's come back, 28:17 let's come back to that in one second 28:19 Doc, can you come back in for a second? 28:21 Sure... 28:23 Because one of the things that we're looking at is 28:28 what happens when you embark upon that whole journey, 28:34 those receptors that are triggered that... 28:36 as you mentioned before 28:38 and this chemical cocktail that takes place 28:42 as you mentioned before, what would you say, 28:46 the effect of the music is hormonally, 28:50 as you're listening to music 28:52 what's happening chemically to the body? 28:55 Music acts like an accelerant, it speeds things up 29:01 and it also, as we've been told, it's a direct conduit, like, 29:08 if I wanted to explain something to you 29:10 I would have to say it to you 29:12 and then it would have to go into the auditory channels 29:14 in your brain and get processed, 29:16 music doesn't have to get processed, 29:18 it goes directly into your psyche 29:20 and prepares you like the Brother just said, 29:24 to do some things that you wouldn't have done 29:27 and now, what we're finding is that 29:29 the hormones that we talked about, 29:30 they're also... they're blinding hormones 29:34 so it actually blinds you to some things that 29:37 if you were not being blinded, you would have... awakened 29:41 and thought to yourself, "What am I doing here?" 29:43 you know like the Prodigal son you'd want to run, 29:45 but unfortunately, unfortunately, 29:48 the pre-frontal cortex of your brain, 29:51 the part right in front... right behind the forehead, 29:55 they've actually done some fMRI studies and found 29:58 that the blood flow during these times 30:00 with the music, with the intent, 30:03 because a lot of it has to do with the intent, 30:05 what are you intending to do? 30:07 What are you thinking to do? 30:08 so when you get on that road, the pre-frontal cortex 30:12 begins to get less oxygen and what that results in 30:16 is a complete drop in judgment 30:19 and a complete drop in decision making 30:22 so you find at Clubs, if you ask people 30:25 so many of the mistakes that they made 30:28 were made at clubs where there was music 30:30 where there was alcohol, 30:32 where there were half-naked bodies 30:34 all of this mix dropped their inhibitions 30:37 and also affected... judgment, 30:39 you know, so they would do things that... 30:41 when they woke up the next morning, they would think, 30:42 "How did I do that? I would never do that," 30:44 so... 30:47 as I was listening to the brother, 30:49 I thought to myself, and you know, as a child, 30:51 there are other things called "Neuroplasticity" 30:54 I don't know if you've heard of that... 30:56 Neuroplasticity simply says that 30:58 your environment is able to shape your brain 31:00 now, we're not just talking about the receptors, 31:03 we're talking about a brain with Neurons that have been created 31:06 just for this experience that you're exposing yourself to 31:09 so that, by the time you're a teenager, 31:12 it really, really would take a miracle 31:15 to change things around 31:16 because we cannot destroy those neurons 31:18 all we can do is, we can rewrite them, 31:20 we can create neurons around them 31:22 and create a path 31:24 on top of the path that was negative 31:26 you can't really wipe them off or wipe them away, 31:28 so, we have to rewrite it which means 31:31 conversion... you know when conversion comes along, 31:33 it rewrites all the things that you had before. 31:36 There's just one other thing that I wanted to add 31:38 that concerns me a lot, 31:40 because I work in schools with middle-aged school children, 31:43 and I don't know if you guys have noticed 31:45 how much time they spend on their devices. 31:47 Every time you look at a child, 31:49 they're on their little cell phones. 31:51 If you come close to them as an adult, 31:53 for some strange reason, 31:54 they click out of whatever they were looking at, 31:56 pull the phone away, you can't see what they're doing 31:59 I am convinced that the easy access to pornography... 32:03 you can Google anything you want 32:05 and boom! you have ten sites with naked women 32:09 and this is what our children have access to. 32:12 and I've talked to some of the parents 32:14 but then... the argument is 32:15 "But he needs the internet so he can do research for school" 32:18 so the kid keeps the internet 32:20 but the parent goes to their bed at 9:00 o'clock, you know, 32:23 trying to keep the Eight Laws of Health, 32:25 and there's the kid in his room 32:27 it's 10 o'clock, it's 11 o'clock, 32:29 it's 12 o'clock, it's 1 o'clock 32:30 and he's just going from site to site to site 32:33 actually changing the structure of his brain 32:36 and preparing him to reduce his inhibitions 32:39 and do the devil's bidding. 32:40 Wow! 32:42 So that's an area, I think, we can't leave alone at all. 32:44 That's powerful. 32:46 And you know, it's the internet for these children 32:48 but for us, it was the television programs 32:50 we weren't allowed to watch 32:51 until our parents went to work late, 32:52 or the video we weren't allowed to watch that we snuck 32:55 or we were able to watch at a friend's house 32:57 whose parents forgot that it was there and... 33:00 and those things have its effect 33:02 at the same time, the whole "atmosphere" issue 33:08 you know... as... I used to be a DJ... 33:10 and.. you know... when I was in the Club 33:14 I would literally see 33:16 someone's wife walk in, 33:18 you can tell, she's married, she has a ring on 33:19 she came with her girlfriends 33:21 and you could tell she's going under some stress, 33:24 and the girlfriends are trying to take her out 33:26 so that she can relieve the stress, 33:28 and guys are asking her to dance 33:31 and she says, "No, I'm married" and things like that, 33:33 and I could, literally, as a DJ... 33:35 begin to play certain types of music 33:37 to first get her to drop her guard 33:40 relax, stop being the one to watch the pocketbooks 33:43 and get out and have some fun 33:45 and then now... the devil is doing his work... 33:48 he's planting suggestions, and the way the devil does it is 33:52 he doesn't necessarily use a lie... 33:54 he uses the truth. 33:56 Hmmm... how so? 33:58 "Listen, I know you're depressed... you look so sad," 34:01 you hear it all the time, "You look so sad, 34:03 did you come here to stay sad 34:06 or did you come here to have fun?" 34:07 The devil, many times doesn't make statements, 34:10 he asks questions, 34:12 that's why when Jesus was dealing with 34:15 Scribes and Pharisees, who were very argumentative 34:18 He didn't make statements, He asked questions. 34:20 He would say, "What does the Scripture say?" 34:23 Because if a person is defensive, 34:26 and you don't want to give them information 34:29 for them to be defensive 34:30 you ask them a question 34:31 for them to break down their own defenses. 34:33 So the Devil got his methods of course from Jesus. 34:36 Absolutely, he was trained in heaven. 34:39 And so, asking the right questions 34:41 and then... while those questions are being asked, 34:43 the "appeal song" is being played at the Club, 34:48 and the music is suggesting to her, 34:50 "A few stolen moments... are all that we share... 34:54 you've got your family... stay with me... " 34:57 you know... "stay with me tonight" 34:59 or if, you know, "Let me hold you tight," 35:01 by Luther Vandross... 35:03 "for only just one night, it will be all right 35:05 if only just... " 35:07 and the music now is swelling that 35:09 and before you know it, 35:10 she has left her pocketbooks and she starts... 35:13 "Oh, I'll just dance with my girlfriends" 35:15 but what she doesn't understand spiritually 35:17 is that when you dance to something 35:20 it's an act of celebration and whatever is being said 35:25 is being celebrated, 35:28 Hmmm... say that again, 35:31 that's some deep stuff. 35:32 When you dance to something it's an act of celebration 35:36 and whatever is being said is what's being celebrated. 35:40 For instance, if you had a party for your mother, 35:43 and they're playing a song that says, 35:46 "Your mother is the best woman in the world 35:47 get dancing... " 35:49 but if you have a song that says, 35:50 "Oh, your mother is so dumb, don't you all hate her... " 35:53 you're saying, "I don't agree with that" 35:54 so what do you do? You stop dancing. 35:56 I would yank that thing off the CD player. 35:58 Mom: Thank you... Son: You're welcome. 36:00 But if someone sees you still dancing to that... 36:03 they're sitting back and saying, 36:04 "Something happened that made him to not like his mother" 36:08 so, let's go back to the Club, 36:11 now a guy who is wondering 36:13 if she's willing to go home with him 36:15 is seeing her dance to a song and begin to enjoy... 36:18 she's getting caught up in the 36:21 "What if" questions that the devil asks, 36:23 "What if you did what your husband did to you? 36:26 He cheated on you, don't you deserve this, 36:29 don't you deserve better?" 36:31 The "What if?" questions. 36:32 "What if you went home with him, what if you enjoyed...?" 36:35 The "What if?" questions, the same questions 36:36 that people get privately at home in their bedroom. 36:39 What if that person that you're "weak to" 36:41 suddenly came and called you? 36:42 And, of course, the devil is going to call his demon 36:44 and say, "All right, let him call right now!" 36:46 And then they call you, and they go, 36:47 "I was just thinking about you" it's all the setup of the devil. 36:51 Now... you used to DJ, 36:54 I used to do Club Promotions, back in the day, 36:59 have you seen the Club without the lights on 37:05 and without the atmosphere, 37:07 have you seen it during the day when... 37:10 Yes, and it looks horrible. 37:12 Terrible, black and dirty and it's... 37:16 cheap looking and everything... 37:18 but at night... with those lights, 37:21 and the alcohol and all that stuff, 37:23 it's a whole 'nother world. 37:26 You know, it's... there's something else that 37:28 Dr. John talked about... about the blinding... 37:31 have you ever gone home from the club 37:34 and the next day you pick up that suit 37:36 or whatever you're wearing and smell it, 37:38 and you go, "Eeewwww... what is that?" 37:41 Well, guess what? 37:43 That's the smell of that atmosphere you were in 37:46 but you were blinded to it 37:49 because of what you were focused on... like he said, 37:52 what you were focused... what your pre-frontal cortex 37:55 or whatever he said, 37:56 was focused on going there to get 37:58 so you didn't think of all that cigarette smoke 38:01 you were inhaling and all that Marijuana smoke, 38:03 and you didn't know that 38:05 you were in that atmosphere of death 38:07 that was literally killing you with the second-hand smoke, 38:10 killing you with the alcohol, all at once, 38:12 all because you wanted to get that pleasure. 38:15 Doc, let's bring you back in to talk a little bit about 38:19 that blinding hormone because that's a powerful thing too. 38:24 You don't even see the faults of the person that you're with 38:29 because of that blinding hormone, correct? 38:32 Right, that's correct, and we have to remember that 38:35 all of these hormones were intended for good use, 38:38 a good purpose, and so, 38:40 blinding serves a really good purpose 38:43 if your intentions are... you know, pure, 38:45 you meet someone, you wouldn't want to see 38:47 all of their faults, right upfront on the first day 38:49 you would have run away, anyone of us... would... 38:52 so... God knowing that... set it up so that 38:57 you are blinded long enough 38:59 so that you could see their positives 39:00 and fall in love with that. 39:02 So the "blinding" had a purpose, but the problem is 39:05 outside of the context of marriage 39:07 and especially in the world that we live in today, 39:09 there are some things that you would want to see 39:11 but you don't... because... Serotonin... 39:13 one of the biggest blinding agents 39:15 prevents you from fully grasping... so, the person says, 39:18 "Oh, you know I snore... " and you are like... 39:20 "Oh, don't worry about that, who doesn't?" 39:24 Serotonin... Serotonin does that to you. 39:27 And then the person says, 39:28 "You know, it's one o'clock in the morning, 39:30 we've been talking for the last seven hours 39:31 don't you have to go to work in the morning?" 39:33 "Yes, but don't worry about that I stay up late all the time... " 39:37 But you don't... you go to bed at 9:00... 39:39 Serotonin does that to you, it makes you like a superman 39:43 and that's how it works, so it blinds you 39:45 and the blinding is good in that respect. 39:49 But unfortunately, it will also blind you 39:51 along with Oxytocin, 39:52 they say Oxytocin raises your level of trust, 39:54 it's one of the side effects of Oxytocin, 39:57 people who are high on Oxytocin, they trust easily, 39:59 if it's extremely high... then you're gullible 40:01 but the point is, 40:02 you're getting into a relationship 40:04 where you are getting Oxytocin to flow, 40:06 because you're either holding hands 40:07 or you're touching or you're talking, 40:09 or you're taking it a little further 40:11 and you actually... open yourself up to this individual 40:14 who might not have your best interest at heart 40:17 and that's one of the problems so you're completely blinded, 40:19 completely taken, and before you know it 40:21 he's on his way with your heart. 40:23 Hmmm... that's good stuff. 40:25 You know it's one thing when it happens in the Club 40:27 where an Adventist knows that they shouldn't be, 40:29 it's another thing when it happens in a church setting, 40:33 where they should be. 40:35 Hmmm... unpack that for us. 40:37 The Bible says that when Satan went to the church 40:42 of the Garden of Eden, 40:43 the first Seventh-day Adventist Church of the Garden of Eden, 40:45 he knew that he couldn't be obvious... like the Club... 40:50 at the Club... you know why you're there, 40:52 you know what somebody wants, 40:53 you know when they come to you, they're going to say, 40:55 "Hey, can I go home and sleep with you?" 40:57 At the Club, it's obvious... but in the church 41:00 when someone wants to be engaged in that, 41:03 they have to do what Satan did in the Garden of Eden. 41:06 The Bible says, "but the serpent was the most subtle," 41:10 the most subtle, so the difference I've seen is 41:14 you begin to act to drop subtle hints 41:17 and why do you drop subtle hints, 41:19 because you don't want to be discovered, 41:22 you want to be fishers of men or women... 41:25 right there in the church so what do you do? 41:28 You throw a little bait and see if someone nibbles 41:30 and I've seen both men and women do it, 41:34 and we've... many people have been guilty of that 41:36 and so you'll get a situation where a brother will say, 41:41 "Hey, Sis, you're you doing, come give me a hug" 41:44 and now... the sisters in our church, 41:46 we'll talk about ladies, if a brother comes to hug you, 41:48 let them hug you... you know... here... 41:50 you're at church... you know... 41:53 where you greet-them-with-a- holy-kiss-type of thing, 41:55 but... then they tell him, 41:57 "Don't let him hug you around the waist... like this" 42:00 because, sex is more about stimulation, 42:06 sex, like drugs, is a stimulant and so... 42:11 there are different things that stimulates an individual 42:14 and one of the things that I was listening to that I don't know 42:19 that Dr. John didn't touch on yet was... 42:21 one of the areas in the brain that lights up 42:24 during sexual intercourse... are the areas that affect 42:27 emotions and long-term memory, 42:30 so a person can always go back and process... years later... 42:34 someone could be a grandma 42:36 and run into that old lover that she knew 42:38 from Junior High School... 42:39 that old feeling just comes back and goes, "boom" 42:42 and then when Michael Jackson starts playing, 42:45 "Do you remember... " 42:46 and those feelings and all the emotions with them come back 42:51 so in a church setting, 42:53 you know, the devil will give you things in small amounts, 42:57 now, I can get you to eat a cannonball, 43:00 you'll say, "I'll never eat a cannonball. " 43:03 Really? how can I get you to eat a cannonball? 43:06 Well, do you like carrot cake? 43:09 Oooooh! 43:11 Smell this carrot cake... 43:13 how does that smell? 43:14 Oh, my word... 43:16 Smells like... "I have to eat this carrot cake" 43:19 so now I just found out you love carrot cake 43:23 but you hate cannonballs so what I do is, 43:26 I grind up the cannon ball and I put it in little bits... 43:30 little untraceable bits... 43:32 little tiny bits of microscopic-almost... 43:35 iron-ball powders... 43:37 and I lace it all throughout that carrot cake... 43:38 do you think that they'll be able to discern it? 43:40 Probably not... 43:41 I give you all the carrot cake you want 43:43 and once all those things assemble... 43:45 then you've just eating a cannonball. 43:47 I just put my magnet to you 43:49 and I'm drawing you anywhere I want to take you. 43:50 Hmmm... 43:53 And in the church, those little subtleties happen. 43:57 "Hey, how're you doing?" "How are you doing?" 44:00 "Hey, happy Sabbath," "Happy Sabbath," 44:02 you know, the looks... and the attractions 44:07 and sometimes... we... 44:10 whether male or female 44:12 provide the stimulus for sexual temptation. 44:15 What I mean... the guy on the Praise Team, 44:18 who is a young guy, he's working out, 44:20 so he wants to wear the muscled... 44:22 you know, he wants to wear the muscled shirt... 44:24 I see Sister Lewis smiling... 44:25 I know, because... I know... you know what? 44:28 I can do that smell, it's like ooooh...! 44:31 And now he's this young buff in this muscled shirt 44:35 singing on the Praise Team 44:37 and he's wearing these close-fitting pants, 44:39 and he's beginning to move, but he's singing a song 44:44 praising the Lord, 44:46 but how focused can the sisters in the front row be 44:48 when... they're saying... 44:50 "Lord, I've been waiting for a husband 44:52 and look at this man... " and all of those things, 44:55 and the devil now... could stimulate their eyes, 44:59 and it's worse now... 45:01 if, after church he has on a nice cologne, 45:03 and they hug him, they go, "ooooh!" 45:06 simulate the nasal capacities 45:08 and not guarding the avenues of the soul. 45:10 Later on... when she's home... 45:12 and all her friends are gone 45:14 and she has nothing to do, 45:16 the devil starts playing the... "What if... " 45:18 Hmmm... 45:20 And all those stimulants can now be processed 45:24 recalled back to memory... 45:26 same thing with this young gentlemen 45:29 who hugged the young lady around her waist, 45:31 and said, "Hmmm... she got a nice little shape 45:33 I didn't know she... yeah, she had on a church dress, 45:36 I couldn't tell she had this kind of shape in a church dress" 45:38 And now when he releases, the sensory areas of the brain 45:43 has recorded that for processing later... 45:45 and will play back that video tape later, 45:48 and the devil will have some edits to add in there 45:50 and some sound effects and things of that nature, 45:53 you know, and so, people in the church begin to... 45:56 to get these subtleties built up 45:59 and if they never get rid of it, it adds up to that cannonball 46:05 and after a while, they don't realize it, 46:09 "Why is this thing pulling me, where did it come from? 46:12 How can I deal with it, it's so strong," 46:15 you know... "it's... what's happening?" 46:17 Hmmm... hmmm... 46:19 And the devil couldn't say, "well... " 46:20 they'll say... after a while they get bored 46:22 with this packaging, 46:23 and the devil will say, "No problem, 46:25 I'll provide the same thing in better packaging. " 46:30 And what do you see when you see a package 46:32 that's closed, what do you want to do? 46:33 Open it. 46:35 You want to open it and see if it looks any better 46:38 so, the devil says, "Yeah... go ahead... open it up, 46:41 ah... it's good... it's okay... " 46:43 I don't know if I should pop this thing or pull the string. 46:45 Go ahead... pop it... 46:46 Ah... see... you see that... "go ahead... pop it" 46:50 I got all caught up. 46:53 And now, he shows you... 46:55 Oh... Oh... 46:57 Let me see if I can show it out on the screen, 46:58 he shows you a delectable cake 47:02 and he says now, "smell this... " 47:05 Hmmm... 47:07 Okay, all right. 47:09 And now, how are you going to be able to say, 47:15 "You can't have that" 47:16 Hmmm... 47:18 It's like me putting this before you and saying, 47:20 "Save it till... how old are you now... 47:23 fifteen... all right... 47:26 save it till 10 or 15 years later... when you marry. " 47:29 And you've already had a little taste of it. 47:32 A little taste, a little whiff and now it's in your system. 47:34 Hmmm... hmmm... 47:36 As Dr. John says, "Unless you have something else 47:39 to displace that, it's in your system. " 47:42 And let's talk about that because we... 47:45 let's talk about the tools now to break the hold, 47:50 we've got to break this hold that's on so many people 47:54 that so many people are dealing with, 47:56 and we want you to know that if you're dealing with it, 48:00 God can fix it, 48:02 so you can start right now you don't have to say, 48:05 "Oh, I can't do it, it's too hard... " 48:08 no, God can do it you have to make the choice 48:11 let's talk about the tools now to breaking that hold. 48:15 You know, there are a couple of different ways, 48:19 the Apostle Paul says, 48:21 "Win some through love, others... win through fear" 48:25 there are two different kinds of motivators, 48:27 anyone who has children knows that 48:29 you can scare one child into stopping, 48:31 but there's another child, 48:32 you can do anything you want, you're not scaring them, 48:34 you have to love that child into stopping. 48:37 So, one... is a different type of stimulus 48:41 and so, a person that needs to understand, 48:44 "Okay, first of all, what was it 48:47 that caused me to be addicted to this thing? 48:50 I have to trace it back to the source of it 48:52 because when they're now dealing with this situation 48:57 and they're putting it before the Lord, 48:59 and the Bible says, "My people are destroyed 49:01 for lack of... knowledge... " Hmmm... hmmm... 49:03 If a person knows, 49:05 "Okay, sex deals with what stimulates you," 49:10 they begin to know, 49:11 "Okay, what are the things that I know... stimulates me? 49:14 I need to know what stimulates me... so I know what to avoid, 49:16 if not, I have no idea" 49:18 and the other thing that I find spiritually, 49:22 now this is going to sound strange... embrace yourself, 49:25 are people who pray for forgiveness 49:29 and receive forgiveness, it's a bad thing. 49:33 Now you're looking at me like I have two heads. 49:35 Explain it. 49:36 Because it's incomplete, the Scriptures say, 49:41 "I'm the Lord, who forgives your sins 49:45 and heals all your diseases" Hmmm... 49:49 He's faithful to just... 49:50 He's faithful and just to forgive us of our sins 49:53 and cleanse us of all unrighteousness. 49:55 What I find is... a lot of people say, 49:57 "Lord, forgive me," and they get the forgiveness 50:00 but they didn't say, "Heal me... " 50:03 So now they're not healed and they go back out 50:07 and commit the same thing again. Why? 50:08 They were forgiven but they weren't healed from it. 50:11 Hmmm... 50:12 And they are not thinking "healing" 50:14 so they're not looking for going towards a healing process 50:17 whether it means... talking to a doctor like Dr. John, 50:20 whether it means talking to someone close that you can trust 50:23 and I want to make a point about that, 50:25 because the Apostle Paul does say that 50:27 when those situations happen 50:30 and then counseling is happening 50:31 you have to be careful that someone is not caught up in it 50:33 and themselves become a castaway, 50:36 because to share those very intimate moments, 50:38 pull somebody in... Dr. Yvonne: Yes. 50:40 And as you begin to describe what you did and what happened, 50:44 the word takes affect and that movie 50:47 of whatever happened begins to play in your mind 50:49 and if a person is not spiritually grounded, 50:51 it can pull... the devil can use that to pull more people. 50:55 And that's how so many people get... the counsel... 51:01 the pastor sometimes with the vulnerable woman 51:06 can get... brought into a relationship 51:10 that is questionable at best, 51:14 and so, it's... we have to really think about that. 51:18 We've been having a conversation 51:21 on sexual immorality and all that, 51:24 but, I think it's important that the education 51:29 should start in the home 51:30 you know, I think that a lot of times 51:33 parents are... 51:34 they don't know how to approach the subject 51:36 they don't know how to talk about it because it's an awkward 51:39 tense subject to take to their kids 51:43 but parents, what you have to realize 51:46 is that, your kids are going to learn 51:50 one way or another, so if you're not teaching them 51:53 they're going to learn in the streets 51:54 and what the streets are going to teach them, 51:58 is about lust and how many women can you get... 52:02 Lance: But they're going to call it love. 52:04 Yes, yes and so... like you said earlier, 52:07 the devil likes to... he likes to give you mostly 52:11 truth and throwing that little bit of lie, 52:14 and that subtle, little lie, really messes you up. 52:21 Absolutely, you know another thing that... 52:23 Sister White was such a great source 52:26 in ways that we would have never thought 52:28 she said that when parents are training themselves 52:32 and their children, they need to understand 52:35 the issues of how principles work 52:39 because everything is based on a principle, 52:41 she says... so you can't expect 52:44 you're going to train a child's brain 52:47 to develop those Neurons by rewarding them 52:50 with something that's bad and saying it's good. 52:53 "Oh, you were good today, 52:55 I know you have a bunch of cavities, 52:56 but... have some candies... see, don't you love mommy, 52:59 don't you love grandma?" 53:01 you're training them with the principle that says, 53:03 "This is bad for you, but when you do good, 53:06 reward yourself with it" Hmmm... 53:08 you know, she says that 53:09 the devil is not going to come to you 53:12 this is in "Counsels on Diet and Food" 53:14 and say, "All right... well you know... 53:17 it's wrong but do it anyway... with sex" 53:19 he's going to say, "You know what? 53:22 your doctor says, 53:25 you're getting to be a little overweight 53:27 and you're beginning to have diabetes, 53:30 you know, it's not the best but it smells so good, 53:33 just reward yourself, 53:35 you know, you were good all last week on that diet, 53:37 just reward yourself with a little slice" 53:40 and she says, and in doing that, 53:43 in doing that, 53:44 the principle that you're saying to yourself is, 53:48 "I know it's wrong for me but it tastes so good" 53:50 Hmmm... 53:52 "I know it's bad for me, 53:53 but I'm going to reward myself with it" 53:56 and many times when husbands cheat on wives 54:00 and wives cheat on husbands, I've heard them say, 54:02 "You know what, I know it was wrong, 54:04 but I deserved better, 54:07 I deserved this moment. " 54:09 I've literally heard, wives and husbands say, 54:12 "I know Jesus said that this is wrong, 54:15 but I need this right now," 54:17 and that's the atmosphere that Satan creates. 54:21 I think that applies to a lot of things 54:23 I mean... Ellen White, I'm not sure, 54:25 in which of her writings it's in, 54:27 I don't know if it's in "Adventist Home" 54:28 or "Letters to Young Lovers" or something like that 54:31 but it's about how we, as human beings, 54:34 like to justify and rationalize our sin, 54:38 because we're comfortable in our sins, 54:41 and so we try and find reasons 54:43 to make it seem like it's not so bad. 54:47 Because we want the pleasure but we don't want the guilt. 54:49 You know... 54:51 and we'll find a reason 54:55 you know, even God confessed it of us, 54:57 he said, "Behold man is become one of us knowing good and evil" 55:00 and then He said, of the antediluvians... 55:01 he said, "Listen, the thing 55:03 that they have set their mind to do, 55:05 nothing shall be impossible for them to do it. " 55:08 Hmmm... 55:09 He said, "So now, let's confound their language" 55:12 Well, guess what? If a person is decided that... 55:16 "Listen, I don't see anything wrong with this," 55:19 they will find a way to justify it 55:22 and give every reasonable excuse, 55:24 I'm sure as a therapist, Dr. John has probably heard 55:27 many "justifications" for what's being done. 55:30 So, if someone is caught up in this stronghold, 55:34 give us a few things to do to stop it. 55:38 Number one, I'll give you three, 55:40 because I know we're wrapping up, 55:42 the physical, the mental and the spiritual, 55:43 physically... educate yourself, 55:46 get information about it, 55:50 you know, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge" 55:52 it's so grossly... understated and so grossly... underutilized. 55:56 Get information so you could understand 55:59 what you're dealing with you can handle something better 56:02 when you know about it and understand it, 56:04 you may see that, "Ah, these lights are here" 56:06 but if you have no idea what controls the lights, 56:08 you're trying to climb up on a ladder that you can't get on 56:11 to touch a hot light that's going to burn your hand 56:14 and then you touch it and it burns you, 56:16 "I'm not trying that again" not knowing that, 56:18 "No, you just didn't learn about it, 56:19 go to the wall and flip the switch off," 56:21 so get educated. Hmmm... hmmm... 56:22 Mentally, also, understand those things 56:27 that affect you mentally, some of it is diet... 56:29 you know, there are certain foods that 56:32 help produce more serotonin and less serotonin 56:35 and things of that nature, but the most important thing 56:38 is the spiritual part, you have to feed on... 56:43 just like you fed on the word of Satan 56:44 that got you into that sin 56:46 and you fed on the word of Satan and your "friends" 56:49 that kept you in that sin, 56:51 you need to feed on something else 56:53 that's going to displace that word. 56:55 When the devil makes you say, "Jesus is coming soon, 56:59 this sin is too strong, 57:01 you are never going to give it up, 57:02 you might as well just keep going... 57:04 eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow you die," 57:06 you got to get that Word that says, 57:08 "No, I'll never leave you or forsake you, 57:09 I am the one that will work in you. " 57:11 Get that Word in... and just be honest with God. 57:14 And don't put yourself in a position 57:17 where you can yield to temptation. 57:19 That's right. 57:21 Stay out of that atmosphere. 57:22 Yeah, don't go to that room 57:23 listening to Teddy P late at night. 57:25 That's right, that's right, 57:27 know your triggers... know your triggers, 57:29 I can't believe that 57:31 we have reached the end of another Program, 57:32 thank you so much, Brother Lance, for being with us 57:35 thank you Dr. John Jacob. 57:37 Praise God, you're welcome. 57:39 What a blessing you were, 57:40 what a blessing were, Brother Lance, 57:42 my dear Jason, 57:44 thank you so much for being with us, 57:47 and thank you... 57:48 make sure that you join us next time, 57:50 and know that God has a plan for you, 57:52 He's going to take care of it, 57:54 just turn it over to Him and trust Him. 57:56 Join us next time because you know what? 57:59 It just wouldn't be the same without you. |
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