Participants: Eric Kelly
Series Code: WTD
Program Code: WTD000008A
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00:01 You know, when you're working the dream,
00:03 the struggle is oh-so real. 00:07 You have to be determined, 00:09 you have to work hard, 00:13 you need to be compassionate, 00:15 set goals, and be timely, 00:19 stay focused, and reach high. 00:22 You need all this and the Lord to come together 00:25 to make you a better person while you're working the dream. 00:31 Hello, and welcome to Workin' The Dream, 00:35 I am your host, Eric Kelly. 00:36 Today, we're gonna share insights 00:38 into how workplace romance can affect your career. 00:42 Now, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 00:45 Americans spend 8.9 hours working and commuting, 00:49 7.7 hours sleeping, and a whopping 7.4 hours eating 00:55 and doing things at home. 00:56 And by the way during those 7.4 hours at home 01:00 with family 2.76 hours or 166 minutes of that 01:05 is spent watching television. 01:07 We literally spend more conscious hours at work 01:11 than we do at home. 01:13 Well, here is the challenge. 01:14 While at work, we're constantly forming relationships. 01:17 In fact, that's exactly 01:18 what our employers want us to do. 01:20 It's a good thing. 01:21 Today men and women are thrust together on the job, 01:24 sharing the workplace in equal numbers, 01:26 and increasingly often as professional peers. 01:30 Work is becoming a major source of intimate interaction 01:33 between them as they daily share 01:35 the physical proximity of working side by side. 01:39 The stimulation of professional challenge, 01:41 and the powerful emotions of winning and losing, 01:46 the workplace variety brings with it 01:48 endless possibilities for romantic attraction. 01:52 While it's natural to respond to certain kinds of stimuli, 01:55 it could also be problematic. 01:58 So why is the workplace often an incubator for romance? 02:01 Well, first off, the workplace is an ideal pre-screener. 02:05 Likely to throw us together with others our own age, 02:08 having similar socioeconomic and educational backgrounds, 02:12 similar sets of values, similar aspirations, 02:15 these are usually the things we look for in a relationship. 02:19 It also offers countless opportunities 02:21 for working friendships to develop. 02:24 As diverse teams becomes the norm of the business world, 02:27 the other half of a business team 02:29 is increasingly likely to be not only a colleague 02:32 with complementary skills and interest, 02:34 but possibly an attractive member 02:36 of the opposite sex. 02:38 As close as the collaboration between men and women workers 02:41 can get in the office, it may be even more so 02:44 in today's work world 02:45 with its emphasis on extended hours, 02:48 non-office settings, 02:50 we are now more likely than ever, 02:52 for example, to share the intimate island 02:55 of isolation of business travel 02:57 with a member of the opposite sex. 02:59 It's has been proven that co-workers 03:00 that value each other make for better team work. 03:03 A contributing factor is that 03:05 proximity breeds a comfort zone. 03:09 The more we are around someone, 03:10 the easier it is to confide in them. 03:13 The more time we work together, it's less of an issue 03:15 to grab a bite of lunch together 03:17 or to spend more time together, 03:19 and the more time we spend together, the more... 03:22 Okay. 03:24 Another factor that can contribute 03:25 to work romance is team success. 03:28 Team success you say? 03:30 What in the world does that have to do office romance? 03:33 Well, let's put it this way. 03:35 Turn on a professional sports game this weekend 03:38 and watch the players. 03:40 After a great play or an outstanding win, 03:43 there is an eruption of emotion that each player acknowledges. 03:46 It just feels good. 03:48 Somewhere inside their minds, they are savoring the moment 03:52 and that moment was brought about 03:54 because of their stellar play with their teammates. 03:57 They acknowledge their teammates 03:59 and usually look toward the camera 04:00 and say something like, 04:02 "These are the greatest guys in the world! 04:03 I love these guys!" 04:05 Now, of course, they're not talking about romantic love. 04:07 But they do feel very close emotionally 04:10 to their fellow teammates 04:11 where there is a genuine affinity for them. 04:14 Well, the same feeling happens in the workplace. 04:17 If you are on a work team, and your team discovers 04:19 a new process or product 04:21 that makes the company more revenue 04:23 and the CEO calls down your team personally 04:25 and he thanks them 04:27 and hands everybody a big fat bonus check, 04:29 you will savor that moment. 04:31 Then you look around and savor that moment 04:34 with your teammates, male or female. 04:36 Most of these scenarios will end 04:38 with no more activity than that. 04:40 However, if you continue to savor winning moments 04:43 like that at work with a co-worker 04:46 that you are already pretty sure 04:47 you are attracted to, you could be 04:49 starting down the path you might want to avoid. 04:53 Now, if you are married, we don't have enough time 04:55 to fully explore all of the issues in this program. 04:58 First of all, the risks and deceptions and pain 05:01 caused by these affairs 05:03 are so devastating to your marriage, 05:05 we really don't have enough time 05:06 to do this topic justice. 05:08 So to all my married friends, 05:10 ask for divine supernatural intervention. 05:13 You'll need it. 05:15 Okay, now for my single friends. 05:17 We just want to give you a few things to think about 05:19 on this matter. 05:20 It is a fact that the work environment 05:22 is a non-threatening environment 05:24 where one can learn about team members 05:26 and tantalizingly even assess their dating potential. 05:31 Some signs that you might be attracted to somebody at work: 05:34 Lingering looks: If you make sure 05:37 to get an eyeful of him or her whenever possible, 05:40 you just might have an office crush on your hands. 05:43 You feel drawn to them, 05:44 whoever they are in the workplace. 05:46 You notice that when they are around you, 05:49 your stance and your body language 05:51 may be a bit more flirtatious, just a bit more open. 05:54 You start having lunch 05:56 and end up looking forward to lunch 05:57 as much as possible with this person. 05:59 You start to share more and more 06:01 about yourself personally 06:03 than you would with another co-worker. 06:05 Your thoughts become more intimate 06:07 and you check out how they look daily. 06:09 Let's look at Cole and Cassie on this one. 06:16 So I figure if we can get IT to sign off building 06:18 a new platform in six months, 06:20 we can roll this out by the beginning of the year. 06:22 And there you have it. 06:23 The great intelligence of Mr. Cole Elliot, 06:26 you're great. 06:27 Oh, come on. 06:28 We've both done some really good work out here. 06:30 Yeah. You know, we do make a good team. 06:32 Yeah. Yeah, we do. 06:36 Is there a project you're on? 06:38 Hey, I'm just riding your way. 06:41 You know, ever since you stood up 06:42 to those two executives, 06:43 you've been a rock star around here. 06:45 Aha, ha. 06:46 Well, ever since that project you started actually, you know, 06:49 he can't stop raving about you. 06:52 Yeah, I guess you are right. Yeah. 06:56 Too young attractive, I mean, 06:58 sometimes working late into the night. 07:02 Man, did they turn off the air tonight? 07:04 Yeah, you know, it just felt a little warm. 07:05 Yeah. 07:07 Oh, well. 07:09 It's almost 8 o'clock, 07:10 so I guess we can call it a night, right? 07:11 Oh, well? I don't know. 07:14 Come here and look at this? 07:19 So I was thinking, you know, if we can get treasury 07:23 to sign off on these banks, 07:24 then kind of puts our time estimates in jeopardy. 07:27 Hmm. 07:29 Well, yeah. 07:31 I guess we can call it a night then. 07:34 All right, I'll take out the sample piece on that? 07:36 Oh, sure. Okay. 07:42 Just need to go home. 07:45 This man is ridiculously cute, but I love being around him, 07:50 he's just easy to talk to... 07:53 Okay, phew. 07:54 We'll eat and then I will go home. 07:57 I'll go home right after that. 08:04 Boy, Just help me please 'cause... 08:09 This girl is definitely my type. 08:11 I mean, she's attractive, pretty laidback, funny. 08:17 Did I mention to her that she is attractive? 08:19 Okay, just going to eat and call a night, right. 08:24 Okay, Cassie, do you watch football? 08:26 Yeah, I do. 08:28 By the way, who's your team? 08:29 Because depending on your answer, 08:31 we may have to stop being friends. 08:33 The Eagles. The Eagles? 08:36 Now wait a minute, you are from Texas, right? 08:39 So, wasn't it like put on your birth certificate 08:41 or something that you have to only be a Cowboy's fan? 08:44 Oh, well. 08:45 A long story that I can't make it, 08:47 even in short. 08:49 Okay, may be just a little bit. 08:52 Well, my dad and mom met at a high school, 08:55 may have met in high school, I guess. 08:57 Okay, well, one day you have to tell me that story for sure. 09:01 I will. 09:02 You are so cool. Yeah, you too. 09:05 And fun to be around with. You too. 09:08 And attractive. You too. 09:15 Wow! 09:16 This is getting serious. 09:19 So what you might say, if they're both single 09:21 and available, what harm can come of it? 09:24 Well, let's consider the impact of a workplace romance. 09:28 Ordinarily, if two people are dating 09:30 and they are happy, 09:31 their work is more productive and efficient. 09:34 Now this is great if things continue that way, however, 09:37 if they decide to break up, 09:38 the potential for drama looms on the horizon. 09:42 Now, most go on their way professionally 09:44 and when it gets nasty, however, uh, 09:48 it can affect the drop in workplace morale 09:51 or a sexual harassment law suit. 09:54 Office romances have the potential 09:56 to cause big trouble for their organizations. 10:01 Now, let's look at romance versus reality. 10:06 Unfortunately, this is not a fairy tale, 10:08 so you can't count on a happy ending. 10:11 Now, you can rail against the unfairness of it all, 10:14 but think of it this way: If life were fair, 10:17 you wouldn't be in this dilemma, 10:19 and that arrow of love would've pierced 10:21 the heart of someone nice 10:23 who works at the company across the street. 10:25 Now, if you are smart, 10:27 you will deal with the real world 10:28 and anticipate plenty of bloodshed 10:30 before this tale concludes. 10:32 One of you may need to leave the job 10:34 if things don't work out. 10:36 If things do work out, 10:38 one of you may still have to go 10:39 because it may be against company policy 10:41 to date fellow employees. 10:43 Now, a note for my married friends out there. 10:46 The biggest part of office temptation 10:49 is the fact that they're not yours! 10:53 When you see her, she is perfectly co-opt, 10:56 she has on this stunning outfit, 10:58 she is intelligent, she is articulate, 11:00 she laughs at just the right time, 11:03 and every interaction with her is delightful. 11:06 You can recall her smile, and how she looks, 11:09 and everything about her and then you go home. 11:14 Your mate is already in rollers screaming at the kids 11:17 to pick up your junk from the family room. 11:19 She is complaining about how bad her day was, 11:22 and how she would love to quit her job, 11:25 if they were more money. 11:26 Translation: If you made more money. 11:28 The kids are fighting loudly and as you slowly fall asleep, 11:33 you think about your attractive co-worker, 11:35 and you do what causes so many relationship problems. 11:39 You begin to make more comparisons, 11:42 Well, let me help you with a visual. 11:45 The attractive lady at the work right now 11:46 is at her house arguing with her husband over bills 11:49 and money and yelling at her kids 11:52 and drum roll here, with rollers in her hair. 11:57 Oh, you didn't think her hair stayed perfect 11:59 for 24 hours, without some help, did you? 12:02 You have been making a false comparison. 12:06 Now, let me help you fellows with an inside scoop. 12:09 Everybody wears makeup. 12:11 And, ladies, it wouldn't be fair 12:12 to leave you out of this, 12:14 this discussion of work fantasy versus reality. 12:17 That suave, debonair gentleman at work 12:20 also has some hidden issues. 12:22 When you see him, his hair is perfect. 12:24 His suit is conservatively stylish 12:26 and fits well. 12:27 You check out his shoes, they shine, 12:29 and compliment his outfit perfectly. 12:32 His tie looks like the same tie you saw worn 12:34 by the last Walls Street money guru 12:37 on the money investment show. 12:39 His air of confidence is excruciatingly tantalizing. 12:43 In meetings, he is so masterful 12:44 and confident at selling his ideas 12:46 that you find yourself mesmerized by him. 12:49 Secretly, with nobody noticing, you think, 12:52 you feel drawn to want more time 12:54 near and around him. 12:55 I mean, anything that could bring you closer 12:57 to the object of your adoration. 12:59 Reality check. 13:01 The tailored suit hides a multitude of sins. 13:05 He doesn't have a six-pack, 13:07 he doesn't even have a two-pack. 13:09 He might have a biggie under there 13:10 but you can't see that 13:12 while he is all dressed up at work. 13:13 When he goes home, he plops down on the sofa 13:16 in his T-shirt and shorts, just like your husband does. 13:20 And his wife, now in rollers, is not nearly 13:23 as tantalized with him as you are. 13:26 She wishes he would make some more money 13:27 and help with the chores. 13:29 After all, she works too. 13:31 Right now, their kids are fighting 13:33 and screaming also. 13:35 The fact is they look good simply 13:39 because they are not yours. 13:41 Now, this step I would like to share with you, 13:44 but it will definitely help rip through your fantasy. 13:47 Ask God to show you reality through His eyes. 13:51 You would be surprised at how He will deflate the fantasy 13:55 that you carry for this person. 13:58 Okay, let's go back to my single friends, 14:00 who can date without breaking any vows. 14:02 Let's say you become involved with someone in your department 14:04 and you receive a promotion. 14:06 Now you're in a relationship with your subordinate. 14:09 Most companies either discourage 14:10 or forbid romantic relationships 14:13 with a direct report, however, it does happen. 14:16 And what happens when it comes to conducting reviews 14:19 about your performance, 14:21 or maybe even disciplining your honey? 14:23 Supervisor-subordinate romances are problematic 14:26 because they can spark complaints of favoritism 14:30 and such perceptions really damage office morale. 14:34 These relationships also open up 14:36 the possibility of blackmail, for example, 14:39 if one party claims the relationship 14:41 was not consensual, 14:42 they can initiate claims of assault 14:45 and battery, false imprisonment, 14:46 and defamation. 14:49 This allows the employee to sue the supervisor 14:51 in the same suit with the company. 14:53 This creates a potential conflict of interest 14:56 between the employer and the employee 14:59 and increases the cost of litigation 15:01 if the employer is in a position 15:03 where it feels the need to pay for a defense 15:05 on behalf of the individual. 15:07 You get the picture. 15:08 It can get real messy in a boss direct report relationship. 15:13 Now, some people say, 15:15 "Let's keep it on the down law." 15:17 Hmm, nobody knows. 15:19 Still thinking about dating them, 15:20 the co-worker? 15:22 Well, you better pop some extra vitamins 15:24 and heighten your sense of discretion, 15:26 because you're going to need a lot of energy 15:27 and concentrated effort to keep your office romance 15:30 just between the two of you. 15:32 And when co-workers eventually find out, 15:34 you may be the subject of ridicule and suspicion. 15:37 I can't believe he is going out with her. 15:39 Of course, he got the raise, look who he is dating. 15:42 And here is the reality. 15:44 Like it or not, people love to gossip. 15:46 In fact, people make stuff up sometimes for no reason 15:49 when they want some workplace excitement. 15:52 If you want people to focus on your professional abilities, 15:55 don't give them reasons to fuel the rumor mill. 15:58 It's not just about you. 16:00 Now, you may think this is a private affair, 16:02 but is it really? 16:05 Logic tells you your romantic involvement 16:07 will impact your co-workers directly. 16:10 If you sit together in a company cafeteria, 16:12 will people now feel they should give you privacy? 16:15 Will they exclude you from certain conversations 16:17 because they don't know, 16:19 what you relay to your new love. 16:21 Consciously or subconsciously, 16:23 your relationship may influence decisions 16:26 that go well beyond a lunch room. 16:28 Your romance may color everyone's judgment 16:30 with regard to promotions, projects, team building, 16:34 and responsibilities. 16:36 The relationship could make it more difficult 16:38 for your department, and depending on your position, 16:41 your company to operate effectively. 16:43 And then there's the age work harassment 16:46 and all that it can entail. 16:48 If your relationship ends badly, 16:51 would your ex-love tell HR 16:52 you were making unwanted advances? 16:55 Think about how a harassment suit 16:57 will impact your career. 16:58 Then go join a local dating service or something, 17:02 while you're at it, join some professional associations. 17:05 They offer many opportunities to socialize 17:08 while moving your career forward. 17:09 So before you pencil in a date with your office desire, 17:13 schedule dinner with some non-work related friends. 17:16 You'd be surprised at what might happen 17:18 if you start nurturing other relationships. 17:21 If you spend a little more time 17:22 away from your office and your co-workers, 17:25 you just might be doing yourself a big favor, 17:27 so if you still feel your co-worker is the one, 17:29 what do you do? 17:31 Well if you work for a large company, 17:33 transfer to another department or facility, 17:37 and now if that's not an option because of your profession 17:39 or company size, get yourself a new job. 17:44 Now, I can share many stories on boss manipulation. 17:48 I remembered one company that I worked, 17:50 there was a relationship 17:51 between the boss and the direct report, 17:54 and over a period of time the direct report 17:57 got better and better performance appraisals, 18:00 made more money and raises, and eventually what came out, 18:04 because everything does come to light 18:06 was that the boss was being manipulated 18:08 by the direct report because of their relationship. 18:12 Now, here is the issue there. 18:14 Any drama at work is going to be viewed as poor judgment 18:19 by superiors and most likely will have a negative impact 18:23 on your exposure. 18:24 Now you might be judged as having poor judgment 18:27 if things get really, really out of hand. 18:30 Let's see how Cassie and Cole are doing. 18:36 Hey, hey, hey! 18:37 Let's stop the bus. 18:39 Oh, Prophet, what are you doing here? 18:42 Ah, I could ask you the same thing, 18:44 but pretty much can see what's going on. 18:47 It's not what it looks like. Oh, yeah. 18:49 My glasses worked perfectly while on the way over here. 18:52 Who is this? 18:55 You want to tell her? 18:57 He is a prophet, he is like a professional consultant 19:00 for like of a better phrase. 19:03 Okay. 19:04 Guys, guys, I understand. 19:07 But work relationships can really have 19:09 a negative impact on your careers. 19:12 I mean, I understand your boss is good looking, you're young, 19:15 you have got energy, 19:17 you have some successes at work. 19:19 It's great you spend more time with each other 19:21 than anybody else in your family, 19:24 but work relationships can have an incredible downside. 19:27 Now what? What is that? 19:29 Okay. 19:30 Why is it that you two have never been on a date? 19:32 'Cause we are always working. Yeah. 19:34 Always working. 19:35 I have been on pretty good authority 19:37 that you guys haven't work weekends 19:39 in about four months. 19:42 You know why? 19:44 Something inside of you is hesitant. 19:47 You're kind of like pausing what really should happen. 19:50 If you guys hadn't met here at work, 19:52 you would have been on 20 or 30 dates by now. 19:55 You would have been married in six months. 19:57 Oh, that's little fast. 19:59 Okay. 20:00 All right, I've seen that happen. 20:02 What happens, let's say, you guys are dating, 20:05 you're out on a wonderful date, you have an argument. 20:09 You come to work the next day, you're still angry. 20:14 Are you really thinking about getting your work done, 20:17 making sure everything is quality? 20:19 Are you thinking about your job, 20:21 or you thinking about getting away from that person 20:23 that you were with the night before? 20:26 I didn't think about that. 20:28 Here's the big one. 20:29 Let's say you date and then you break up. 20:34 Then you've gotta come to work 20:36 and look at your ex all day long, 20:39 Yeah, can you say job change? 20:41 Transfer? 20:43 I am just saying, now, you guys are real adults, 20:47 you can make your own decisions but... 20:52 I think about it. 20:54 You know that red book I have at my desk. 20:56 I have learnt a lot. 20:58 So I try to share a lot. 21:00 And this right here, it's a lot. 21:04 Prophet's out, see you. 21:18 Wow, Cole and Cassie have a lot to think about. 21:22 Now they're single, so there is no crime, 21:24 but they're gonna have to figure out, 21:27 will this relationship hurt 21:29 or help their careers and their lives. 21:32 Now, this is for my married friends. 21:35 It's common for you to find someone 21:37 at work attractive, 21:39 but the risks of actually pursuing a relationship 21:43 have a much more damaging impact. 21:46 First, it erodes the trust you have with your mate. 21:50 It may seem exciting for the moment, 21:52 but guilt will visit you somewhere in the process. 21:56 Secondly, the risk of negative exposure is great. 22:01 If found out, it will almost certainly cast a shadow 22:06 over any discussion of your integrity, 22:09 and usually it will have a negative effect 22:12 on those observing your career. 22:14 You see as they watch what you're doing, 22:17 they develop trust issues with you. 22:20 And thirdly, the person just looks better 22:23 'cause they are not yours. 22:25 A few years ago, I was sitting on a bicycle 22:28 at the health club, 22:30 attempting to get some types of exercise in, 22:32 and an old co-worker of mine passed by 22:36 and good looking guy, he was always in the limelight, 22:41 he was very articulate. 22:43 He had been a VP at a company that we both worked for, 22:46 and he came by and said, "Eric, I'm in a new job." 22:49 I said, "Well, that's great." 22:51 And he said, "Man, I love it. 22:53 I am now the executive VP of whatever it was called," 22:56 and "Man, it's really cool." 22:59 He says, "You know, my bonus is like 30% of my salary" 23:03 which is a pretty decent salary. 23:05 He said, "I've got stock options, 23:06 they give new options every year." 23:09 And in my mind I can kind of figure that up, 23:11 and I am looking at about a couple of million dollars 23:14 worth of stock options. 23:16 I had known him, his family, beautiful kids, beautiful wife, 23:20 we had been at holiday parties together and I said, 23:25 "Hey dude, I am happy for you. 23:27 I'm not jealous at all. 23:29 I want you to absolutely be the best that you can be." 23:32 Now the interesting thing about this gentleman 23:34 is that he was just a little full of himself, 23:37 so as he was telling me all these things, 23:39 I don't know why, you know, he might have thought 23:41 I would be jealous, but I said, "This is cool." 23:43 Anytime in life you see that somebody is being blessed, 23:46 you should be happy for them. 23:48 You see what I've learnt over the years 23:51 is that the blessings that God has 23:53 in store for me aren't diminished 23:56 because He blesses someone else. 23:59 Now I have to be honest and say that I had some misgivings 24:02 about this gentleman 24:04 because when we had worked together, 24:05 he had hit on quite a few people at work 24:09 and he was a married man with a family. 24:11 So my view of him was just a little tainted, however, 24:15 I was glad something good was happening to him. 24:17 He was at another company, 24:18 it sounded like he was gonna go well, 24:20 that's absolutely awesome. 24:22 You do remember that we shared earlier 24:25 that people like to gossip. 24:27 I would love to say that I was totally immune 24:29 but one day I received a phone call 24:32 and it was from someone that I knew that worked 24:34 in the company that this gentleman worked in 24:36 and then say, "Man, do I have some juicy gossip for you." 24:41 Well, I would like to tell you that I said, 24:43 "I am above that," 24:45 and I didn't really want to listen 24:48 but it sounded like 24:49 that it was going to be delicious, 24:51 so I figured I'd ask forgiveness for this later, 24:54 I said, "Hey, let me have it." 24:56 And he said, "Well, you know your buddy?" 24:59 I said, "Yeah." 25:00 "Oh you know how he is." Isn't it interesting? 25:03 The person over there said you know how he is? 25:05 Which means it probably was a character trait. 25:08 I said, "Yeah, yeah, we know how he is. 25:10 He is full, he is smart, but he is a little egotistical. 25:15 He said, "Well, he just got fired." 25:18 I probably should have kept the conversation there 25:21 and just said, "Oh, too bad, well pray for him," 25:23 but I didn't. 25:24 I did what the rest of you guys would have done, I said, 25:27 "What happened?" 25:29 So, the person told me, he was having an affair 25:34 with someone at the company 25:36 that was at a lower rank than he was. 25:40 I said, "Okay," not totally surprised. 25:44 What happened next? 25:45 Well, I guess their affair had been going on for a while, 25:48 and something started to sour. 25:51 And like I shared with you guys earlier, 25:53 that happens more often than not. 25:56 And I guess it soured so much that these guys were now 25:59 walking around with big buckets of animosity. 26:03 I said, "Okay, that could happen." 26:05 Well, on this particular day, they brought it to the office. 26:11 In fact, they brought it to the office so much 26:14 that they exploded arguing, saying bad words, 26:18 yelling and screaming about their affair in an office 26:22 where everyone else was a stunned spectator. 26:27 Now, here is the taker, the CEO of that company 26:30 was a staunch Christian man, a very conservative gentleman, 26:34 who would have none of that in his organization. 26:37 Now, here is the sad part. 26:39 He came out and he fired both of them. 26:44 Well, what's the impact of that? 26:46 Well, my friend who worked there 26:51 lost almost two and half million dollars 26:54 worth of stock options because of his indiscretions. 26:59 Was he thinking long term in the affair? 27:01 Absolutely not. 27:03 It can be dangerous. 27:05 So simply put, here's where we're at. 27:09 If you're married 27:10 and you're attracted to someone at work, 27:13 while it may be very hard 27:15 for you to deal with the situation, 27:18 please, just ask for divine help or restraint. 27:22 God will give it to you. 27:23 He is that kind of God. 27:25 If you're single and you're attracted 27:27 to somebody at work, ask God for wisdom, 27:31 what should I do? 27:32 The next move you make can be a very critical one. 27:37 Now, remember this, you may be powerless over what 27:43 "they" can do to you but they are totally powerless 27:49 over what God will do for you. 27:52 So until next time, keep Workin' The Dream. |
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