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00:04 #S056 What Every Man Needs To Know About His Wife (Part 2)
00:20 Welcome to the Breath of Life 00:21 Television Ministries Broadcast 00:23 with Pastor Debleaire Snell. 00:25 In today's episode, Pastor 00:27 Snell will continue with part 00:30 two of the powerful message titled 00:32 What Every Man Needs to Know 00:35 About His Woman. 00:36 Now let's go deeper 00:38 into the Word of God. 00:40 In other words, friends, 00:41 I need you to understand that 00:42 we don't have to walk around, 00:43 man, being all extra and doing the most. 00:45 I need you to know that sometimes 00:46 the greatest repellent 00:48 from outside temptation 00:49 is showing that you happy at home. 00:52 Oh, God. 00:54 In other words, I need you to know, man, 00:55 your disposition, your. 00:56 I need you to know that there is an energy 00:58 you put out into the world 01:01 that hasn't spoken for. 01:03 That I'm committed 01:04 that I am about this life right here. 01:06 Y'all hear what I'm saying today? 01:08 Because I remember one day 01:09 I was on a particular flight 01:10 and I was traveling somewhere 01:12 and there was a sister next to me in my seat. 01:14 And it crazy, you know, I you know, 01:16 I was not wearing a ring at the time. 01:18 And so, you know, she asked me, 01:20 you know, where I was heading and what I was doing. 01:22 She was not inappropriate in any way. 01:23 But it's crazy because after a while 01:25 I open up my iPad 01:26 and Gianna's picture is plastered on my iPad. 01:29 I put my phone on the tray table. 01:31 Her picture is there on my table, 01:33 and she asked me if I'm married. 01:34 I'll say yes. 01:35 I've been married like 16 years at the time 01:37 and we talked a little further, 01:38 even though she knew I was married. 01:40 And then after a while, you know what she said? 01:42 She said, You seem like 01:43 you're happy. 01:46 And I said, Yeah, 01:46 I am happily married. 01:48 And when when there was something 01:50 about the energy 01:51 that changed the whole nature 01:53 of the interaction. 01:55 Now know if I had a, if I had a foul spirit, 01:58 if I rolled my eyes 02:00 when I said I was married. 02:01 If I say, well, you know, 02:02 I've been married now about ten, you 02:06 now again, 02:07 maybe she was just curious, 02:08 not accusing you of anything wrong. 02:09 But what I'm saying is you got to be careful 02:11 what you are putting out into the world. 02:14 Are you hearing what I'm saying? 02:16 You ought to mention 02:17 your wife's name 02:18 in the conversation, 02:19 even when it doesn't belong there. 02:24 You've just got to figure out a way 02:25 to put it into the atmosphere. 02:27 Say, say 02:29 you got to let it be 02:30 clear and let it be known 02:31 that you are spoken for 02:32 and it goes both directions 02:34 that makes sense to both husbands 02:35 and wives. 02:37 All right. 02:38 It's a red flag when she expects you 02:40 to be her counselor 02:41 on heart matters. 02:43 Come on, man, 02:45 you ain't got no answers. 02:48 Tell the truth and say, man, it. 02:50 I mean, when you wound up 02:51 having to be her relationship counselor 02:53 and even though it may start platonic, Ms.. 02:55 I need you to. 02:56 I may start in a very innocent way. 03:00 I need you to understand that sometimes 03:01 most entanglements 03:04 are accidental, 03:06 not intentional. 03:08 All right. 03:09 When you become her, go to person. 03:10 It's a red flag. 03:11 This is a red flag when she tries 03:13 to form a relationship with you 03:14 outside of your wife. 03:17 In other words, whenever 03:18 wife shows up to the job, 03:19 she suddenly disappears. 03:21 I need to know. 03:22 Stand up to no good if she's not trying 03:24 to show respect for the covenant that you've made that woman. 03:27 Now you'll hear what I'm saying today. 03:29 Aren't there just times 03:29 where we are out of position? 03:31 There are times where, again, 03:33 we're a little bit more conservative in our home. 03:35 But I want to encourage you to be careful 03:36 how you engage 03:37 with female coworkers at work 03:39 in terms of lunch dates, things where at least 03:42 it has the appearance of wrong. 03:45 In other words. 03:46 So if I'm going to visit Sister 03:47 So-and-so in the evening, 03:49 I'm going to say pass the dorsi 03:50 right, pass the Rafale 03:54 el to Taylor. 03:56 I need you to go with me. 03:56 Come on and say me. 03:58 Because even though I'm going to pray, guess what? 04:01 Somebody drives by, 04:02 sees my truck at 730 at night, 04:05 and now I've got a whole situation on Instagram. 04:08 Y'all made it quiet today 04:09 because you are not going to the best. 04:11 Come on and say, man, so. 04:13 So you got to avoid 04:14 even the appearance of evil. 04:17 I hear what I'm saying. 04:18 And one of the things 04:19 that you got to pay attention to 04:20 is when you're not accountable 04:22 with your portals, see, 04:25 some of us are going to allow 04:27 our marriages to destruct 04:29 on Instagram. 04:32 In other words, friends of mine, it's crazy. 04:34 I'm not even saying what you ought to do 04:35 in your house in terms of how you all get 04:37 phone numbers and passwords and codes and all that stuff. 04:40 But I need you to understand that transpired. 04:41 Recy is your friend, not your enemy. 04:44 All right. 04:45 And what I'm saying is, if there ain't got 04:46 if you ain't got nothing to hide, 04:47 stop hiding. 04:50 Ooh, y'all got a tweet 04:51 that today, man. 04:52 If you ain't got nothing to hide, 04:53 stop hiding. 04:55 All right? 04:55 I want to. To become one. 04:57 I'm not saying there's no privacy, 04:58 that you don't have access to your own thoughts, 05:00 the way you journal and how some time to be still. 05:03 But what I'm saying is all that two and three 05:04 cell phone stuff 05:08 just means you're out of position. 05:10 You know, when 05:11 when you might be in trouble, 05:12 when your wife says pay attention, 05:16 when she sees something 05:18 that you can't see. 05:21 Oh, yeah, that's just my girl. 05:22 We just cool. 05:22 We went to school together. 05:23 We grew up together. 05:24 Okay. 05:27 Okay. 05:29 There are times 05:30 where God has given us a helpmate. 05:33 Come on and say, man, 05:35 that they are. 05:36 They are perceptive. 05:38 They are intuitive. 05:39 They pick up on an energy that sometimes 05:42 male denseness 05:45 is simply unable to detect. 05:47 Can you just say, man, right. 05:49 And I need us to understand 05:50 that the slowest rebuild in 05:53 marriage is a rebuild of trust. 05:56 You can rebuild financially. 05:58 You can rebuild a house in a fire, 06:00 but you realize that once you lose trust, 06:02 you'll be rebuilding it 06:03 for the next 50 years. 06:05 If you make it that long 06:07 is fragile. 06:08 Third thing she needs. 06:10 She needs you to keep your mom 06:11 and your friends in their place. 06:14 Oh, Lord, I felt that. 06:18 I felt that. 06:19 Matthew 19 in verse 06:20 five for this call, Solomon 06:21 leave his father 06:23 and mother and cleave unto his wife, 06:25 and the two shall become, what, 06:28 one flesh? 06:29 Now, the reason I want to talk about this 06:30 is that in the African-American community, 06:32 we have kind of an interesting dynamic 06:34 where literally, probably about man, 55 06:36 to 60% of our homes 06:39 are led by single moms. 06:40 But there is an interesting dynamic 06:42 that I see emerging with some consistency 06:45 where a single mom has been both mom 06:47 and dad for the boy 06:48 he has poured into the boy, 06:50 given everything to the boy, 06:51 made that her whole life about the boy. 06:54 And now she's raised him to a man. 06:56 But somewhere along the line he stopped 06:58 being a son and became surrogate husband. 07:02 And now when it's time 07:03 for him to get married, she's trying to be in the wedding too. 07:08 But I need to understand that 07:10 if he is going to be married, 07:14 there is a shifting of the order. 07:16 In other words, I know you've always been there. 07:18 You've always been the number one. 07:19 You've always been there when nobody else was. 07:22 But I need you to understand 07:23 that even though you may have been here in relationship 07:25 to all of the women, once 07:27 he gets down on one knee, 07:28 there is an automatic shifting 07:30 of priority 07:32 where that's even in the Scripture. 07:34 I hear what I'm saying. 07:35 The Bible says he has to leave 07:37 his father in his mother's house 07:38 and he has to be joined fast 07:41 and cleave unto his wife. 07:44 So so I need you to understand, at some point, 07:47 Mama's going to have to get 07:47 a man or ministry 07:51 to occupy her time. 07:54 Because even though marriage 07:56 has room for three, 07:58 it's husband, wife and Jesus, 08:01 not husband, wife and mommy. 08:03 I hear what I'm saying. 08:04 And see, husbands, if you're going to be strong 08:06 in your leadership, your wife ought not ever 08:09 be having to check your mama 08:10 are your friends. 08:12 In other words, you ought to put some guardrails up. 08:15 You ought to put some boundaries up. 08:16 You ought to put some barriers 08:18 up that kind of says 08:19 you can come here and no further. 08:22 And it doesn't matter what you do in your house, friend. 08:25 It doesn't matter what we saw growing up. 08:26 Me and this woman are going 08:28 to establish an order for this home 08:30 that nobody else has to approve 08:32 except those who live there. 08:34 All right. 08:35 And so what I'm saying is 08:36 you don't always have to replicate it 08:37 just the way you saw it growing up. 08:39 You don't necessarily have to get outside approval 08:42 when it comes to certain malls, 08:43 when you're going to buy a house, 08:44 when you go to move to a certain place. 08:45 In other words, I need you to know, 08:47 husband, man, when you got to make a 08:48 major decision, you ought not 08:49 be talking to your mama 08:51 before you talk to your savior. 08:53 Oh, God. 08:55 You ought not be 08:55 asking her before you ask him. 08:58 And the first woman you ought to talk to 09:00 ought to be the one in your bed. 09:02 I hear what I'm saying. 09:04 All right, so you got to put some boundaries in place 09:07 and you've got to establish 09:08 an order in the home. 09:10 And let me just say this. 09:11 Not only do you need to put your mom 09:13 and your friends in place, guess what? 09:15 If you've got some previous relationship stuff, 09:18 you got to put your baby mama 09:19 or your ex-wife in her place. 09:22 Oh, I'll say amen all by myself. 09:26 I'm going to say this again, 09:27 so I'll have to say it to you in my office. 09:28 Put your baby mama 09:30 and your ex-wife 09:31 in her place, and let me just force and say 09:33 to any single man who is watching, 09:35 you don't even need to be entertaining 09:37 getting married 09:40 if you still got open 09:41 source with another woman. 09:46 In other words, if that stuff is too fresh 09:48 and that baby. 09:49 But six months. 09:50 Oh, you are not hearing me today. 09:52 If that baby ain't 09:54 but a year that you need to let 09:55 some stuff get tied off. 09:58 Because what you're doing is 10:00 you bring in some drama 10:01 and some stress. 10:02 And it's crazy because your new wife, 10:04 she knew that you had some past. 10:05 She knew, but she didn't know what she signed up for 10:08 until after she signed the papers. 10:12 So you got to manage 10:13 certain things. 10:14 You got to put it in place. 10:16 You can't be torn. 10:18 There's going to have to be some hard 10:19 and difficult conversations. 10:22 Are y'all hear what I'm saying? 10:24 Because you cannot allow your past 10:27 to destroy your future. 10:28 Can the church say amen today? 10:30 All right. 10:31 For things 10:32 she needs, you know, she needs you to help 10:33 at home. 10:36 Amen. 10:38 She needs you to help at home. 10:39 All right. We work hard. 10:41 You give a lot out into the world, 10:43 but I need you to make sure 10:44 that we give something 10:45 to the houses that God 10:47 has ordained for us to govern. 10:50 And I think many of our ladies have moved 10:51 and many of our brothers 10:52 are being a little bit more progressive. 10:53 But guess what? 10:54 You got to make a contribution 10:55 somewhere at the house 10:57 that you ought to set aside 20 minutes a day 10:59 to make a contribution to the bathroom. 11:01 At least if you're going to pee all over the toilet, 11:04 wipe it up. 11:09 Come on, sisters. 11:10 You put a big offering in Detroit right now. 11:11 Put a big case at the church. 11:13 Hey, man. 11:15 All right, at least wash the 11:16 dishes that you dirtied up. 11:19 Come on, man, 11:20 and let's pick up 11:21 your own drawers off the floor. 11:22 I can. I got a witness out of it. 11:24 Thank you, Horace. 11:24 Let me. 11:26 You know 11:27 you want to touch your own stuff 11:28 if she needs you 11:30 to be present and active at home. 11:32 In other words, raising 11:33 the kids is not the woman's job. 11:36 And the white 11:37 makes it very clear that that is a combined effort 11:41 where both husband and wife, 11:42 they both sacrificed. 11:43 They both make time, 11:45 they both give intentionality. 11:48 In other words, you can't give your best 11:50 offering to the world 11:51 and your lease offering 11:52 to the house. 11:54 Come on, say that with me today, brothers. 11:56 And the truth is 11:57 that if you help lighten her 11:58 load. 12:03 Come on. 12:04 This is how I'm trying to help you. 12:06 If you help 12:06 lighten her load, you'll see. 12:09 I'll still it. Get it? You also like. 12:10 Oh, where is that? In the Bible. 12:11 All right, if you help lighten her 12:13 load, 12:15 then later on, 12:22 she'll help lighten your load. 12:24 David 12:25 All right, 12:27 see, I have to incentivize 12:29 the brothers with the right thing. Get 12:32 15 real quick. 12:33 She desirous for you to lead, 12:35 not dictate. 12:38 Okay, so we all kind of twisted 12:40 and put in knots about the whole thing. 12:42 But submission hasn't been hit. 12:44 Ephesians five in verse 12:45 23 Bible say for 12:46 the husband is the head of the wife 12:48 even as Christ 12:50 is the head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. 12:53 So that when we talk about headship man, 12:54 we get all in knots because we look at it 12:57 in the context of secular culture 12:59 where there is a hierarchy 13:00 one on top and others at the bottom. 13:02 I need you to know that in Christ 13:04 there are not hierarchies, 13:05 there's roles, right? 13:08 In other words, God 13:09 did not set one 13:11 above or superior to the next 13:14 is even seen in the created order. 13:16 You've heard us kind of talk about 13:17 how when God created 13:18 Eve in relationship to Adam, she didn't 13:20 God did not take a bone 13:22 from Adam's head 13:24 because she was not supposed 13:25 to rule over our dominate Adam. 13:27 He didn't take a bone from Adam's foot 13:29 because Adam was not supposed 13:31 to walk all over her. 13:32 He took a bone from Adam son 13:35 because she was supposed to walk with him. 13:37 An equal partnership, 13:39 bringing equal value to the relationship. 13:41 I hear what I'm saying. 13:43 So many crisis. 13:44 The husband is the head 13:45 of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church. 13:49 I need to look at it in the Bible context 13:50 because the model for headship is Jesus, 13:55 so that Jesus is a gentle, 13:58 loving Lord. 14:00 He is not a 14:01 harsh, exacting dictator, 14:04 so that even Jesus 14:05 allows the power of choice. 14:08 Do you realize that 14:09 even we're in this whole mess 14:10 because man, God 14:12 said, Listen, man, the one area 14:13 that even I as God 14:15 am never going to intervene in, I'm never going 14:19 even try trying to intervene and override 14:20 conscious decision. 14:23 He says, I'm 14:24 gonna let Lucifer be Lucifer. 14:25 I'm going to Adam and Adam be at Adam. 14:26 Adam and Eve be Adam and Eve, 14:28 and I'm going to let them deal 14:29 with certain consequences. 14:31 So she needs you to be a leader 14:32 and not a dictator. 14:34 Now, one of the things I do want to say 14:35 quickly about leadership and I want to say this 14:37 with intentional redundancy, 14:38 that leadership is not 14:40 ultimate authority, 14:41 is ultimate responsibility. 14:44 Okay, brothers, let me say, man, 14:46 leadership is not 14:47 ultimate authority. 14:49 It is ultimate responsibility. 14:51 In other words, 14:52 leadership man is literally where man 14:54 as as the leader of the home. 14:56 I literally set a pace 14:58 and I am ultimately accountable by God. 15:02 In other words, you see it in a very created order. 15:03 It's where Eve eats the fruit first. 15:06 But when God shows up in the garden, 15:08 you know you don't ask for Eve. 15:10 He says, Adam, where are you? 15:13 And she don't walk around 15:14 trying to claim authority if you're not going to walk 15:17 with the responsibility, are you? 15:19 Hear what I'm saying? 15:21 And see, I need to understand this 15:22 about leadership. 15:24 Leadership, 15:25 especially when we talk about 15:26 spiritual leadership, 15:27 leadership is not about the orders 15:29 I give. 15:31 It's about the climate I set. 15:37 In other words, spiritually, like I don't 15:39 you know, you don't walk around giving in in the house. 15:41 You don't walk the walk around 15:43 telling people what to wear 15:45 if you set the 15:46 temperature at a certain level, 15:48 oh, you'll not hear me 15:50 set the temperature at a certain level. 15:52 It'll dictate what people put on 15:54 so that if you turn the temperature up 15:56 high and hot, guess what? 15:58 People going to automatically start undressing. 16:00 If you get it really cold, people are going 16:02 to start layering up. 16:03 So guess what? 16:04 I don't have to walk around saying put on this thing 16:06 all that. 16:07 I just set a temperature, 16:09 I set a climate. 16:10 And as the husband and the leader of the home, 16:12 you set a spiritual climate 16:14 that doesn't dictate 16:16 exactly what everybody wears, 16:18 but it makes it conducive 16:19 for people to warm up spiritually. 16:22 Are you saying 16:23 what I'm saying today, friends 16:25 and what I'm saying to us 16:26 today, friends of mine is I need to understand 16:27 that when we are loving, like 16:29 Christ loves, submission isn't a 16:31 requirement, it's a reaction. 16:36 It is the 16:37 incidental byproduct 16:38 of when a woman is loved by her husband 16:41 in the same way Christ loves the church as you. 16:42 The craziest thing, man, I've been pastor 16:44 now for a little over 20 some odd years. 16:46 I need to know in all the releases of counseling 16:48 I've never done, I've never seen 16:49 a woman show frustration because her husband 16:52 won't let her leave. 16:55 Out of all the complaints I've ever got, 16:56 I've never heard a woman say, Man, 16:58 I'm just so upset, man. 16:59 He just won't get on the page 17:00 that I'm all 17:02 he just won't follow my life. 17:03 And that, in fact, most 17:04 frustration is simply a response 17:06 to his lack of willingness 17:08 to take the lead. 17:11 In other words, she's frustrated 17:12 that she has to play her role 17:14 and yours at the same time. 17:17 And what I'm 17:17 saying to us today, friends of mine, 17:18 there are some specific ways 17:19 that God is calling us to lead. 17:21 In fact, one of the things we got to do 17:23 is we got to lead spiritually in the home. 17:25 Amen. 17:26 No, no. 17:26 Amen, brothers. 17:27 Amen. 17:29 There needs to be a rebuilding 17:32 of the family altar 17:33 in the houses of Israel. 17:35 One of the problems 17:36 is, man, we got a man, Kate. 17:38 We got an 80 inch television. 17:40 We got every video game known to man. 17:43 But we ain't got nowhere where we can call 17:45 on the name of the Lord. 17:47 And we wondering why the enemy 17:49 is running roughshod 17:50 all over the house is why 17:52 the kid's teeth are set on edge. 17:54 What every device 17:55 the enemy plant succeeds. 17:56 It is because there is no spiritual covering. 17:59 There is no anointing. 18:00 The devil feels too 18:02 comfortable in your house. 18:05 He ain't 18:06 intimidated by nothing 18:07 that goes on there 18:09 because there is nothing that interrupt 18:11 or disrupt the presence of evil 18:13 or iniquity in your home. 18:17 There is no family altar. 18:19 And what I'm saying to us, I need you to know 18:21 it is not enough for us to go to church once a week. 18:24 That does not make you 18:26 a Christian home. 18:27 It literally means 18:28 that you're a Christian home and culture. 18:31 But a Christian home is one 18:32 where there is prayer every day, 18:34 where the Word of God can be 18:36 heard in study, where the children 18:39 are not converted 18:40 in a Sabbath school class or a sermon. 18:42 Spiritual children 18:43 either to get converted at home. 18:48 You'll hear what I'm saying today. 18:50 And what I'm saying is 18:51 when the order gets inverted, 18:52 there's going to be resentment 18:54 when she has to be the spiritual lead, 18:56 when that's the task she hired you to do. 19:01 I need you to understand, especially 19:02 if God is giving you a godly woman. 19:04 See, a godly woman is going to always struggle 19:06 to respect a crooked man. 19:10 No, no. 19:10 A straight woman is going always struggle 19:11 to follow a crooked man. 19:14 In other words, are you gonna hear me today? 19:16 It's the only thing 19:18 worse than the blind. 19:19 Leading the blind 19:21 is the blind leading the seeing 19:27 so that if she can see the way 19:29 spiritually better than you can, 19:32 there ain't no way 19:33 you can lead her. 19:35 I can't hear what I'm saying. 19:37 No, no, no, no, no. 19:38 I'm there. 19:38 I don't know if you'll hear me. 19:40 The only thing worse than the blinding lights. 19:41 Blind, blinding, seeing. 19:42 I remember I was pastoring in Lexington, Kentucky. 19:44 My time is up, but I remember we were getting ready. 19:46 We were on church basketball game over in Louisville. 19:48 We were living in Lexington. 19:49 We were supposed to get in a caravan. 19:51 When we got in the caravan, 19:52 we were supposed to stay together. 19:53 No matter what. 19:54 I literally gave the instruction 19:56 at the McDonald's, no matter what. 19:57 Man We're going to follow the lead. 19:58 Van, don't nobody go their own way. 20:00 Everybody's going stay in submission to the lead van. 20:04 But we were supposed to get on Highway 64 20:07 and go east back to Lexington. 20:09 On the third van in line, I gave the speech. 20:11 We stay together no matter what. 20:13 But the crazy thing is, for some odd reason, 20:16 the lead van gets on 64 and starts 20:17 going west in the wrong direction. 20:20 And it's crazy because man, it's hard to follow 20:22 somebody that you know is leading 20:25 you the wrong way. 20:26 And even though I said We're going to stay together 20:29 no matter what, we're going to covenant 20:31 to stay together, no matter 20:32 which way we go, man. 20:33 Somehow my spirit just got possessed 20:37 and I started going east. 20:39 When he started going west 20:42 because there is something 20:43 counterintuitive. 20:46 You just can't follow somebody 20:49 when you know 20:50 they leading you the wrong way. 20:52 I got here what I'm saying, 20:54 and always as I'm moving here quickly, 20:56 I need to know that you got to lead spiritually. 20:58 Let me say this. 20:59 You've got to lead an example. 21:00 Keep your promises. 21:03 And these are not a part of leadership, is making sure 21:05 that your words and actions align. 21:09 Don't just say stuff. 21:10 So she'll set up, especially if you know 21:15 you have no intention on doing it. 21:18 Lead in conversation, 21:19 lead in conflict resolution. 21:21 Come on and say, man, 21:23 this last thing, I'm a stop here. 21:24 My time is way. 21:25 One of the things I want to say is she needs 21:26 to be romanced. 21:29 Hey, man, 21:31 listen, I'm done. 21:32 Listen. 21:32 But I need you to understand this, 21:33 so I need to understand this about romance. 21:35 And again, I'm still learning. 21:36 This was myself. 21:37 So again, I'm preaching this to me. 21:39 Right? 21:40 But romance, when you heard this, 21:42 you heard expense. 21:45 Romance. 21:45 It's not expense, it's effort. 21:49 Oh, yes. 21:49 Tweet that one, too. 21:50 It's effort. 21:52 So again, it is 21:53 those little things that we do. 21:56 I mean, come on. 21:56 Because when y'all got married, 21:58 you ain't had no money 22:01 and you were able to get her 22:02 come on and say, man. 22:04 So what I'm saying is 22:05 there are some little things that you can do, man. 22:06 I love you. 22:07 You know, the text that says, 22:09 I'm thinking about you 22:10 occasionally stop by home, 22:12 by the store 22:13 and get some flowers on the way home. 22:14 And guess what? 22:15 If you ain't got no money, just walk through 22:16 your neighbor's front yard and get some 22:21 she won't know. 22:22 I mean, and it's crazy 22:28 because men were saying, oh, man, got married 22:30 and she just change this. 22:33 She just change or did 22:34 we just stop trying? 22:37 Did we stop putting in the 22:39 needed and necessary effort? 22:41 And what I'm saying 22:42 to the men of God today 22:43 and I know this was kind of a heavy dose today, 22:46 but guess what? 22:47 The ladies are going get theirs next week. 22:48 Come on and say, man, but what I'm 22:52 what I'm calling us to friends 22:53 is a biblical standard of love 22:56 that is not based on feeling, 22:59 that is not based upon emotion, 23:01 but it is a steady 23:03 and steadfast principle 23:06 that has no expiration date. 23:10 And what I'm saying to us, 23:11 friends of mine, is that 23:13 marriage needs a new witness. 23:17 It needs a new face real quick. 23:20 That's our hands. 23:21 How many of us have been married? 23:21 At least ten years. 23:24 20 years? 23:25 Raise your hand. 23:26 30 years. 23:27 Raise your hand. 23:28 40 years. 23:29 Raise your hand 23:31 50 years. 23:31 Raise your hand 23:33 60 years. 23:34 Please raise your hand. 23:37 Go ahead and praise the Lord together today. 23:39 Hey, man. 23:43 And see, this is kind of 23:45 the whole point. 23:46 See, society 23:47 and culture has us thinking 23:48 that it's an impossible thing 23:52 that is outdated and irrelevant. 23:53 But I need you know, we've got monuments 23:55 all throughout this congregation 23:58 that says 23:58 if a husband submits himself to God 24:00 and a woman submits herself to God 24:02 and they submit themselves 24:03 to one another, not only can 24:05 they just survive, 24:06 they can thrive with the help of the Lord. 24:09 Are y'all hearing what I'm saying? 24:11 But what I'm saying, these friends, is that we want 24:13 to get out of our feelings, 24:17 because if you only do it 24:18 when you feel like doing it, 24:20 you won't make it very long. 24:23 So, husbands, 24:24 we got to get up and we got to lead with prayer 24:26 even when we don't feel like 24:28 doing it, man, 24:30 you know, it's been a long day 24:33 and you're tired. 24:35 She got a lot to say about 24:36 how her day went, 24:40 and all you want to do is watch to get. 24:45 We got to listen even when we don't feel like listening. 24:48 Amen. 24:53 We got to serve 24:54 even when we don't feel like serving. 24:58 Even certain friendships 24:59 and an in people 25:01 that we need to put a boundary in a wall. 25:02 We're not discarding them. 25:04 We're not cutting them out a lot. 25:05 But we say, no, this is your place in relationship to her. 25:08 You got to do it even when you don't feel like 25:09 doing those things. 25:11 And what I'm saying to somebody today 25:12 is that when you have strong, 25:14 firm principle, great, powerful, 25:17 fruitful feelings 25:18 of connectedness flow 25:19 out of the principal, 25:20 and they will never be a substitute 25:24 for the principal. 25:25 You've got to get the principal 25:26 out of the passenger seat 25:28 and put it in the driver's seat 25:31 and take the feeling 25:32 out of the driver's seat and put it over 25:34 in the passenger seat. 25:35 How many of us believe the word of God 25:39 what's good family. 25:40 It's time for a celebration. 25:43 This past year, 25:44 you joined a breath of life 25:45 as we went on our tour 25:47 of the Holy Land, 25:48 we went to the places where 25:49 Jesus walked, 25:51 live, ministered, died, 25:53 and he was raised. 25:54 It was an epic time of worship 25:56 and fellowship, but this year 25:59 we're going to do it even bigger. 26:01 In 2024, Breath of Life is going 26:04 to commemorate 50 years of ministry. 26:07 This year, long celebration is going to include 26:10 evangelistic, revivals, concerts 26:12 and so much more. 26:14 But we're so excited 26:16 to have you join us 26:17 for our Breath of Life 26:18 Legacy Cruise. 26:20 On September the 12th, 26:21 we're going to land 26:22 in the gorgeous city of Rome, 26:25 that Sabbath. 26:25 We're going to have our joint 26:27 worship experience. 26:28 And that Saturday evening, 26:30 we're going to go out on a historic 26:32 excursion. 26:33 That Sunday, we're going to hit the high seas. 26:36 And for the next seven days, we're going to follow 26:39 the evangelistic path of Paul, 26:42 along with the apostles 26:43 of Jesus Christ. 26:44 We're going to see ancient 26:46 Ephesus. 26:48 We're going to visit Naples, Italy. 26:50 We're going to witness 26:51 the beauty of Greece. 26:53 All the while, 26:54 we're going to stand in all of God's 26:56 wonders creation 26:57 as we sail along 26:59 the Mediterranean Sea. 27:00 It's going to be an epic 27:01 time of food, 27:03 fellowship and worship. 27:05 Listen, family, 27:06 we want you to be there with us. 27:08 I can't wait for us to come together in learning 27:11 and fellowship 27:12 and as we testify 27:13 to the goodness of God. 27:15 But we only have 200 spots available. 27:19 So right now, 27:20 I need you to go and reserve your cabin 27:22 and get more information 27:24 at our website 27:25 at WW w Breath of Life Dot TV. 27:29 We plan to give God 27:31 all the glory as we celebrate 27:33 His goodness, the breath of life 27:35 for the last 50 years. 27:36 God bless you. 27:37 I look forward 27:38 to seeing you there. 28:04 (Breath of Life Music) |
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