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00:03 #S057 - Love Hurts, But Love Heals (Part 1)
00:20 The Book of Ruth Chapter one, and we'll begin in verse six. 00:23 Then we'll do a little reading over in the chapter two, 00:26 and then we'll finish up in chapter four. 00:28 How am I single folk feeling that they are today? 00:32 Oh, are you all blessed? 00:34 Oh, yeah. Well, well, maybe I'm not. Okay. 00:37 Are you all blessed today? Let's try to hit a many men. 00:41 So I need you to know friends of mine. 00:43 Don't be nervous. Don't be on it. 00:45 We just go and teach the word. Is that all right? 00:48 Ruth chapter one. 00:50 And we're going to look together, verse six. 00:52 Now, again, 00:53 I'm not going to read the entire story, 00:54 but for those who don't know, 00:56 the story of Ruth 00:57 is about a family that relocated to the land of Moab. 01:02 There was a lady named Naomi. She had two daughters in law. 01:05 Naomi lost her husband and both of her sons. 01:10 And we find them here in a season of grief. 01:13 And Ruth, chapter one and verse six, 01:16 both the husband and the sons have died. 01:19 Now the ladies are trying to figure out their next move. 01:21 Ruth Chapter one in verse six, the Bible says. 01:25 Then she arose with her daughters in law 01:28 that she might return from the country of Moab, 01:31 for she had heard in the country of Moab 01:34 that the Lord had visited His people by giving them bread. 01:38 Therefore, she went out from that place 01:40 where she was 01:41 and her two daughters in law with her, 01:44 and they went on their way to return to the land of Judah. 01:48 And they only said to her two daughters in law, go 01:51 and return each to her mother's house. 01:54 The Lord deal kindly with you 01:56 as you have dealt with the dead, and with me, 01:59 the Lord grant you that you may find rest 02:01 each in the house of her husband. 02:03 So she kissed them 02:04 and they lifted up their voices and wept. 02:07 And they said to her, Surely we will return 02:09 with you to your people. 02:11 But Naomi said, Turn back my daughters. 02:13 Why will you go with me? 02:15 Are there still sons in my room 02:17 that they will be your husbands? 02:19 Turn back my daughters and go for 02:21 I'm too old to have a husband. 02:23 If I should say I have hope 02:25 and if I should have a husband tonight 02:28 and should also bear sons, would you wait for them 02:30 until they were grown? 02:32 Would you restrain yourselves from having husbands? 02:35 No. My daughters. 02:36 For it grieves me very much, for your sakes, 02:38 that the hand of the Lord has gone out against me. 02:42 Then they lifted up their voices and wept again 02:45 and kissed her mother in law. 02:48 But Ruth, the Bible says, clung to her. 02:51 Now go to Ruth, chapter two in verse one. 02:54 The Bible says, 02:56 as they get now back to Bethlehem, 02:58 there was a relative of Naomi's husband, 03:01 a man of great wealth, of the family, of Elimelech. 03:05 His name was what? 03:07 His name was Boaz. 03:09 So, Ruth, the more biters said to Naomi, 03:12 please let me go to the field and glean heads of grain 03:16 after him in whose sight I may find favor. 03:20 And she said to her, Go, my daughter. 03:22 Then she left 03:24 and went and gleamed in the field after the reapers. 03:27 And she happened 03:28 to come to the part of the field belonging to Boaz, 03:32 who was in the family of Elimelech. 03:35 Now, behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem 03:39 and said to the Reapers, The Lord be with you. 03:42 And they answered Him, The Lord bless you. 03:45 Then Boaz said to his servant, who is in charge of the Reapers. 03:49 He noticed her. He says, Whose young woman is this? 03:54 So the servant who was in charge of the Reapers answered 03:57 and said, 03:58 It is the young mobile woman who came back with Naomi 04:02 from the country of Moab, 04:04 and she said, Please let me glean and gather 04:07 after the reapers among the sheaves. 04:10 So she came and continued from morning 04:12 until now, though, she rested for a little while in the house. 04:16 Then Boaz said to Ruth, You will listen. 04:19 You will listen. 04:20 My daughter, will you not 04:23 do not glean in another field, nor go from here. 04:27 But stay close to my young men. 04:30 Let your eyes be on the field, which they reap 04:33 and go after them. 04:35 Have I not commanded young men not to touch you? 04:38 And when you are thirsty, go to the vessels 04:41 and drink from what the young men have drunk. 04:45 So she fell on her face and bowed to the ground 04:47 and said to him, Why have I found favor 04:49 in your eyes that you should take 04:52 notice of me since I am a foreigner? 04:55 And Boaz answered and said to her, 04:57 It has been fully reported to me 04:59 all that you have done for your mother in law 05:01 since the death of your husband, 05:03 and how you have left your father 05:04 and your mother in the land of your birth 05:06 and have come to the people whom you did not know. Verse 14. 05:11 Now, Boaz said to her at mealtime, 05:14 Come here 05:15 and eat of the bread 05:17 and clip your dip your piece of bread in the vinegar. 05:21 So she sat beside the reapers 05:24 and passed parts to grain to her, 05:27 and she ate and was satisfied and kept some back. 05:31 Now go to chapter four for me briefly. 05:34 Chapter four in verse ten, we're almost done. 05:36 And the Bible says here in verse 13, chapter four, 05:39 the Bible says so. Boaz took Ruth and she became his. What? 05:45 And when he went into her, the Lord gave her concepts 05:50 and she bore a son. 05:51 Then the women said to Naomi, Blessed be the Lord 05:54 who has not left you this day without close relative, 05:58 and may his name be famous in Israel 06:02 and may he be a restorer of life 06:04 and nourish her of your old age, 06:07 for your daughter in law, who loves you, 06:09 who is better to you than seven sons, has borne him. 06:13 Then Naomi took the child and laid him on her bosom 06:17 and she became nurse to him. 06:19 And also the neighbor women gave him a name saying 06:23 there is a son born to Naomi. And they called his name obeyed. 06:27 He is the father of Jesse and the father of David today. 06:33 So it's for a little while. 06:34 I want to talk to you under the subject. 06:36 Love hurts, but love heals. 06:41 Love hurts in the heals. Let's pray together. Father, 06:45 I pray that in the teaching of the word 06:49 that you apply wisdom, that you give us insight. 06:53 I pray to God that your Holy Spirit would bless 06:56 each and every person that has been hurt by love. 07:00 But Lord, our prayer today 07:02 is that someone would find healing through love. 07:06 So would you bless us to this? 07:07 And we ask in the wonderful name of Jesus, 07:10 let those who believe say together a man and a man. 07:13 You may be seated in the House of the Lord today. 07:18 Again, 07:18 today will be a little more teaching 07:20 than just traditional preaching 07:22 as we work through the work today. 07:26 You know, friends are texts today shows us how powerful 07:30 and how painful love can be. 07:34 You see, when you're in love and it goes well, 07:38 love can change your whole perspective on life. 07:43 When you're in love, tell the truth. 07:45 The sun shines a little bit brighter. 07:49 Your food tastes a little bit better. 07:53 Things that bother you don't normally bother you as much. 07:57 When you're in love with somebody. 07:59 When you meet somebody 08:00 and you just click and the chemistry is right. 08:04 It can be so powerful 08:06 that you 08:07 want to spend all your time 08:08 with them 08:09 to the point 08:10 you can be on the phone with them, 08:12 even when you don't have nothing to say. 08:16 And it's more than a physical attraction. 08:19 It is like your souls just match. 08:21 It is like your spirits kiss. 08:23 And it morphs to a point 08:25 where you make a pact of permanence 08:28 through the covenant of marriage. 08:30 In fact, it gets so good that you say, 08:32 I don't need to see anything else. 08:35 My heart is settle from here at the market. 08:38 This is ultimately where I want to be. 08:41 But understand, friends, that love is dangerous in this regard 08:45 because it can lift you so high 08:48 that you feel like you're on top of the world. 08:52 But love on the other end can bring you so low 08:57 that it puts you even beyond the level of dirt. 09:01 In fact, sometimes when love goes wrong, 09:03 it can be more painful than a thousand cuts 09:07 and a million bullets combined. 09:09 In fact, sometimes when you lose love after death, 09:13 I am told it is like learning how 09:16 to function at the receiving and amputation. 09:19 When you lose love because a spouse or a partner 09:23 did not keep their word or their vow, 09:26 or because your man or woman found somebody better. 09:30 Love can actually turn you into somebody 09:33 you never planned on becoming. 09:36 And let me park here for just a moment to say this is why. 09:40 Because death is possible. 09:42 Because people are flaky and trifling 09:46 and sometimes and unreliable. 09:48 It is why you never put a partner in the place of God. 09:53 You see, 09:54 even when your partner 09:55 is ordained by God, they are simply a conduit 09:59 through which God's love flows to you. 10:02 They are not the source of love, which is Jehovah. 10:06 And see, 10:07 the reason that love can be so painful 10:10 is that some of us turn love into an idol. 10:13 In fact, some pursue people the way we ought to pursue God. 10:18 We submit to them the way we should submit to him. 10:22 We trust them the way we ought to trust in God. 10:26 And sometimes 10:27 God literally fights against your relationship 10:31 because your relationship becomes a replacement for him. 10:35 And the truth is that for some, our spiritual lack 10:39 can always be connected to our relationship status. 10:44 And notice spreads how Christ reveals himself 10:47 that Christ reveals himself in essential terms. 10:51 He reveals himself as living water. That part is our thirst. 10:55 He reveals himself as living bread. 10:58 That Jesus is the air we breathe. 11:01 And Jesus reveals himself 11:03 in terms are metaphors of things that we cannot live without. 11:08 And the reason that Jesus reveals himself 11:11 that way is to let us know that 11:13 the only thing we can't live without is him. 11:18 And see the word to somebody today 11:20 is that sometimes love hurts 11:22 because of a loss through death or divorce, 11:25 or because somebody changes their mind about you. 11:28 But the thing I need 11:30 somebody to understand 11:31 is that the only person you can't live 11:34 without is Jesus going to church. Say Amen today. 11:39 And so go back with 11:40 me, if you don't mind, to the Book of Ruth Chapter one. 11:43 And we're going to look together at verse 11, 11:45 and we're going to unpack some things 11:46 together in the word today. 11:48 Ruth, chapter one and verse number 11. 11:51 When you get there, let me hear you say Man 11:54 Ruth, chapter one and verse 11. 11:56 There's some critical lessons 11:57 I need to share in the House of God today. 12:00 Ruth one In verse 11, Naomi said, 12:02 Turn back my daughters four. Why would you go with me? 12:05 Are there still sons in my name that they may be your husbands? 12:12 You see, the first thing that the story of Naomi 12:14 and Ruth teach us today 12:16 is that your life never ends when a relationship does. 12:22 Okay. 12:22 Let me say it again. 12:24 I need somebody to get that to 12:25 a life never ends with a relationship. 12:29 And I want to say this gently, 12:31 because I understand that there is some pain in the pews today. 12:36 There are some of us that have lost love 12:38 because a loved one has fallen asleep. 12:41 And there are some of us 12:42 that are in a season of grief 12:44 because a marriage ended in a way that you did not foresee. 12:48 But the word for somebody today 12:51 is that even when that relationship ends, 12:54 God still desires for your life to continue. 12:59 Now, now, again, this is an intense dialog 13:02 that Naomi is having with her daughters in law. 13:06 She attempts to prevail 13:07 upon them to go back home and be reunited with her people, 13:12 that they might be eligible 13:14 for marriage somewhere down the line. 13:16 But the wounds are too fresh for the girls. 13:19 In fact, they can't even see life 13:22 beyond the pain that they feel. 13:24 And they want to go back and live permanently as Naomi's 13:28 Handmaids and understand that there is a disconnect 13:32 between Naomi and the girls. 13:34 In other words, 13:35 as the older woman, she's talking with her head, 13:39 but they are replying with their hearts. 13:42 She's talking to them out of logic, 13:44 but they're replying out of their pain. 13:47 She's talking to them about principle, 13:50 but she's replying 13:51 with their feelings 13:53 and the present pain is so great that they're about 13:56 to cut themselves off from all future possibilities. 14:01 But understand 14:02 that Naomi, ahead of them, 14:04 has gone through the cycle of grief 14:06 that the girls are experiencing, man. 14:09 She has gone through that painful season of denial 14:13 where she's numbed herself to the pain 14:16 by pretending this death or loss didn't even take place. 14:21 She's already gone through a season of anger. 14:24 Where she was mad at herself. 14:26 Mad at God. Mad at her husband by for leaving her behind. 14:31 She's gone through this phase of bargaining 14:34 where she's tried to make deals with God 14:37 to try to make the pain go away. 14:40 She's gone through a season of depression 14:42 and you can't tell because she's a high functioning person. 14:46 She still takes care of business. 14:48 She does not lie in the fetal position and cry for all to see. 14:52 And even though she has gone 14:54 through the stages of grief, 14:56 she has finally come through 14:58 that pull up to the place of acceptance 15:00 where she receives what is 15:03 and realizes that there is still hope for tomorrow. 15:06 Are you hearing me today? 15:08 And with God's help, she has come to the place 15:11 where she realizes that there is still life 15:14 when a relationship ends. 15:16 And the point to the girls 15:18 is this as much pain as they feel now. 15:22 She wants them to know that their pain won't be permanent. 15:26 She wants somebody that's hurting. 15:28 To know 15:29 that it won't always hurt this bad, 15:31 that it won't always be this frustrated. 15:34 That weeping may endure for a night. 15:38 But Joy come off in the morning. 15:41 In other words, I need somebody to know 15:44 that one day the pain is going to cease. 15:48 One day the despair is going to be broken up. 15:51 One day desire is going to return. 15:54 And the truth is that you can't rebuke the pain. 15:57 You can't rush the pain. You've got to endure the pain. 16:02 But I need somebody to know that on the other side of this 16:04 heartbreak is a healing that will bring blessing 16:09 and restoration to your soul. 16:10 You'll hear me today. Church about let me say it this way. 16:13 There are times where I fly on a regular basis 16:17 and there are times 16:18 where if it is not heavy storm or lightning, 16:21 if it's just light rain and overcast, 16:23 they will go ahead and cause the plane to take off. 16:27 And it's crazy because when you're underneath 16:29 the clouds, it is raining and overcast. 16:33 It looks as if there is no sunlight. 16:36 But the amazing thing is that once you move through the clouds 16:41 and you pass through the haze, guess what a bright, sunny side 16:45 is on the other side of the clouds and despair. 16:49 In other words, the clouds don't remove the sun. 16:52 The clouds just block the sunlight. 16:56 And what I'm saying to somebody is that it might be gray 16:58 in your experience romantically, 17:02 but on the other side, the sun is going to shine 17:06 and there is hope for you on the other end. 17:08 Are y'all hearing me today? 17:09 In other words, I need to just say this 17:11 that your life did not end when they walked out the door. 17:16 Your life didn't end when they changed their mind. 17:20 Your life didn't end when they took their rest. 17:24 In other words, if God woke you up today, 17:28 it is still because there is joy for you to receive. 17:33 There is happiness on the other side. 17:36 You are hearing me today, friends. 17:37 I see. And that's why each and every one of us. 17:40 Every now and then. You need a Naomi in your life. 17:43 You need somebody that has been through 17:46 what you're going through. 17:47 And they've come through 17:48 the other side with their faith intact. 17:51 Another word 17:52 let me just say to my young folks, 17:53 that's why you need some gray hair in your life. 17:58 In other words, you need some older sisters, 18:00 our brothers, 18:01 that they've been there, done that, got the t shirt 18:04 and can tell the story about it and see the reason 18:07 some of us get messed up romantically is 18:10 you want to be mentor by people your own age. 18:15 You want to be mentored by folks 18:16 who ain't going through nothing, who ain't seen nothing. 18:19 And let me just say this. 18:21 What Naomi teaches you, friends of mine, 18:24 is sometimes when you're going through, 18:26 you need to talk to somebody who's 18:28 at the end of their journey, not in the journey. 18:32 See, sometimes we only want to listen to those 18:35 who are going through it in the same time 18:36 we're going through it. 18:38 But realize, if Ruth and Oprah had listened to one another, 18:42 they would have come to their own conclusion. 18:44 But they need somebody 18:45 that's already been to the end of the tunnel 18:49 to be a compass for the path of daylight. 18:52 Every now and then, you need somebody that's passed the test 18:56 before you're about to take the test. 18:59 I hear me today, friends. It's just like this. 19:01 I remember 19:02 before I stopped teaching 19:03 over here in the religion department, 19:04 I would teach the fundamentals 19:06 of SDR beliefs class, 19:07 and so I would have one class at ten 19:09 and another class would come in at 1130. 19:12 And so I remember on test days, what would happen is 19:15 I would give the same test to both classes. 19:18 I would give the test to the class at 1030 19:21 and the same test to another class at 1130. 19:23 But then I noticed, Dr. 19:25 Williams, when I begin to grade the test 19:28 that those in the 1130 19:31 class, their grades would be exponentially higher 19:34 than those in the 10:00 class. 19:37 And what I begin to find out 19:38 is that those that took the test first will begin 19:42 testing the questions 19:43 and answers to those who are about to take the test 19:47 so that those who had already passed 19:49 will give the answers to those that were about to take it. 19:52 Y'all missed it. 19:53 In other words, 19:54 when you're about to take the test, 19:57 don't get tutored by somebody in the class. 20:00 You need to hear from somebody that's already passed the test 20:05 that can give you the answers and help you move forward. 20:09 You are hearing me today, France. 20:11 And so the word says here in Ruth, chapter two, in verse one. 20:14 Stay with me. We're in the world today. 20:16 The Bible says that there was a relative of Naomi's husband, 20:19 a man of great wealth, from the family 20:22 of the family of Eli Melek. His name was Boaz. 20:26 So, Ruth, 20:27 the more bites said to Naomi, please let me go to the field 20:30 and glean heads of grain after him. 20:33 And whose site I might find favor. 20:35 And she said, Go my daughter. 20:37 Then she left and gleamed in the fields after the reapers. 20:41 And she happened to come 20:42 to the part of the field belonging to Boaz first floor. 20:46 Now, behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem and said to 20:49 the Lord said to them, The Lord be with you. 20:52 And they answer to Him, The Lord bless you. 20:54 And Boaz said to the servant 20:57 who's in charge of the Reapers, who's young woman? 21:00 Is this now, friends? 21:03 If you don't get anything else from this message today, 21:06 I need you to get something deep, number one. 21:08 See, I need you to get that. 21:09 Ruth finds her Boaz while serving, not seeking. 21:16 Okay. 21:19 I want you to stay with me. 21:21 So, you see, I need somebody to understand 21:23 this immovable truth. 21:24 And I pray that every son and daughter of God gets this. 21:27 I need you to know that your steps 21:30 have been ordered by God. 21:33 I need you to understand that God orchestra writes 21:36 the details of your life with such a powerful precision 21:41 that what He chooses for you will be better 21:45 than what you can ever choose for yourself. 21:48 In other words, friends, I need that this gift 21:51 that the story of Ruth illustrates 21:52 this better than anybody else. 21:54 In other words, Ruth follows Naomi back to her peoples house 21:58 with the goal of simply being a handmaid for Naomi. 22:02 Now, we're not giving a timeline 22:04 in terms of 22:05 how long it is between her husband's death 22:09 and her emerging hook up with Boaz. 22:11 But what we do know 22:13 is that she's not wanting to be a burden to Naomi. 22:18 She's wanting to carry her weight. 22:20 So she simply says, Let me go out into the field 22:24 and get some of the grain that was left 22:26 over by the Reapers that go ahead of me. 22:30 In other words, Ruth, is not seeking. 22:34 She commits herself to serving 22:36 and noticed that she meets her man while serving. 22:43 Y'all not hear me? 22:44 Not search him 22:48 while serving and not seeking. Or you hear me today? 22:52 She commits herself to a usefulness 22:54 and being about a work that is greater than herself. 22:58 And I love how the Bible says 23:00 that at that time, Boaz just happened to show up. 23:05 In other words, 23:06 at the time 23:07 she just happened to be there is the time 23:10 he just happened to come back out of town. 23:13 And I need somebody to shout Nothing just happens. 23:18 In other words, 23:19 I need you to understand that God has created 23:23 and He's going to do that for somebody. 23:24 He creates a divine intersection 23:29 so that God literally ordains exactly what time 23:34 Ruth is going to land in the field. 23:37 He ordains what role she's going to be in. 23:41 It is ordained that she happens to wind up in the field, 23:44 that Boaz has ownership of 23:47 God ordains that all, but goes back home 23:50 so that Boaz doesn't see two women. He just sees one. 23:54 And I need you to know that God has ordained Boaz 23:57 in steps as well. 23:59 God has ordained that he came home a day early 24:02 and not a day later. 24:03 God ordained 24:04 that somebody talked his head off on the journey 24:07 so that He wouldn't get there too soon. 24:09 God ordained 24:10 when he would get thirsty and have to stop for water. 24:13 God had ordained when he would get to the field. 24:17 And I need you to see the providential hand of God 24:20 moving Naomi and moving Boaz 24:23 so that when he looked down the aisle three, 24:28 she just happened to be there right when he showed up. 24:32 And what I'm saying to somebody today, friends of mine, 24:35 is that God still creates divine intersections. 24:40 I need somebody that is looking to be married 24:42 one day to understand that God is ordering your stuff. 24:46 So I have anybody that believes that today 24:48 that God is already 24:49 his steps, are her steps, 24:51 and that God is going to create a construct 24:54 that is outside of your own devising. 24:57 So that one day, right at the library, 25:00 right at the snack bar, right here in Sabbath school, 25:03 you won't run into your Boaz or your Ruth 25:06 in a way that you could not cook it up. 25:09 Thank you so much for joining us for The Breath of Life, 25:12 Television Ministries broadcast with Pastor Debleaire Snell 25:16 We hope and pray that you have been blessed 25:19 by the second message in the sermon series titled 25:23 Family is Volume two. 25:26 Join us next week for part two of the message titled 25:30 Love Hurts But Love Heals. 25:33 You don't want to miss it. 25:37 What's good family? 25:39 It's time for a celebration. 25:42 This past year, you joined a breath of life. 25:44 As we went on our tour of the Holy Land. 25:47 We went to the places where Jesus walked, 25:50 live, ministered, died, and he was raised. 25:53 It was an epic time of worship and fellowship. 25:57 But this year, we're going to do it even bigger in 2024. 26:02 Breath of Life is going to commemorate 26:03 50 years of ministry. 26:05 This year long celebration is going to include 26:08 evangelistic, revivals, concerts, and so much more. 26:13 But we're so excited to have you join us 26:16 for our Breath of Life Legacy Cruise. 26:19 On September the 12th, we're going to land 26:21 in the gorgeous city of Rome. 26:23 That Sabbath, 26:24 we're going to have our joint worship experience. 26:27 And that Saturday evening, 26:28 we're going to go out on a historic excursion. 26:32 That Sunday, 26:33 we're going to hit the high seas and for the next seven days, 26:37 we're going to follow the evangelistic path of Paul, 26:41 along with the apostles of Jesus Christ. 26:43 We're going to see ancient Ephesus. 26:47 We're going to visit Naples, Italy. 26:49 We're going to witness the beauty of Greece. 26:52 All the while, we're going to stand 26:53 in all of God's wonders, creation 26:56 as we sail along the Mediterranean Sea. 27:00 It's going to be an epic time of food, fellowship and worship. 27:04 Listen, family. 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