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00:03 a program that is designed to meet the needs 00:05 of the urban man. 00:06 I'm your host Pastor William Lee 00:08 and today we have a very exciting topic. 00:11 Today our topic is "Unhappy Ever After." 00:14 Join us as we go in today's broadcast. 00:29 Gentlemen, welcome once again to another broadcast today. 00:32 It's so good to see each one of you all once again 00:35 and as always we have 00:36 very interesting topic to discuss 00:38 and today is no different. 00:40 As we go in today's topic, 00:42 Brandon, why don't you pray for us 00:43 as we get started today? 00:45 Sure, let's bow our heads. 00:46 God in heaven, we thank You for this opportunity 00:48 to come together and to discuss a very important subject, 00:52 the subject of marriage. 00:54 Let the listeners be blessed 00:55 and their marriage is blessed as well we pray. 00:58 Amen. Amen. 01:00 All right, gentlemen, 01:01 let's kind of just briefly introduce ourselves today 01:04 so our audience to know exactly, 01:06 you know, who we are and what perspective we bring 01:09 to today's broadcast. 01:10 I'll start it right here. 01:12 All right, I'm Stephen Barber, 01:13 husband of one wife, have two children. 01:16 Lake Region Conference Ministry director, 01:19 entrepreneur and executive chef. 01:21 All right, very good. 01:23 My name is Colin King, I'm a father of two. 01:27 I'm married and I'm trained as a clinical psychologist. 01:31 All right, very good. 01:33 My name is Brandon Dent 01:34 and I'm a retired automotive executive. 01:36 I'm now running my own marketing firm 01:39 and I have two grown sons and a teenage daughter at home 01:43 and one wife, 27 years so I hope that will qualify me 01:48 to contribute to this discussion. 01:51 All right. You showing off. 01:52 He is showing off. Good. 01:54 I'm Pastor William Lee, I'm your host 01:56 and we married for now for eight years, 01:58 I have two sons, 02:00 six-year-old as well as 18-month-old 02:02 and I'm excited as we get into today's topic. 02:04 The topic of marriage, gentlemen, 02:07 the topic of marriage but this is unique 02:08 because we put a twist on it. 02:10 Our title is "Unhappy Ever After." 02:14 Now usually we think of marriage 02:16 as being something that's just full of bliss 02:18 and total happiness. 02:19 We know, you know, you have the theme, 02:20 you know, you got married and you are happily ever after. 02:22 You just totally happy but now we are saying 02:25 that you aren't unhappy ever after. 02:27 You know, what's going on here? 02:29 We will look at marriages and as a pastor, you know, 02:31 I've counseled many, many married couples, 02:34 even pre-married couples of course 02:36 but there seems to be a shifting 02:39 and what's happening in our world today especially 02:41 as we visit the church as well 02:43 where marriages are not sticking together. 02:47 There is a lot of discontent in our marriages today 02:51 whether be from the husband or from the wife. 02:53 There is this a lot of conflict that is going on. 02:56 When you get married you are specially to be happy 02:59 but then at some point you slowly drift away. 03:03 Brandon, I'm kind of throw it out to you right now. 03:06 What are some of the reasons that marriages tend to find, 03:12 tension is strive and are there some steps 03:14 that we can take to better our marriages? 03:18 Yeah, well, I will start with the first piece 03:20 some of the sources of discontent. 03:23 A lot of times there hasn't been enough time to date 03:27 and get to no one another upfront. 03:30 So you think you know who you are marrying 03:32 but in fact you don't. 03:34 Over time the real person comes to the surface 03:38 and that can create some problems. 03:41 Another reason which is kind of tied 03:44 to this is sometimes it's actually intentional 03:47 that someone not show all of who they are. 03:51 They may not be marrying for love, 03:52 they might be marrying for security or other reasons 03:56 thinking that they can tolerate 03:58 whatever it is in the personality 04:00 in the character that that they may not be into 04:03 and of course time shows that they are not gonna be happy 04:08 and that starts to manifest itself 04:12 in this discontent in the marriage. 04:17 Sometimes men will not think anything is wrong 04:24 but when they really start to open things up 04:28 either they will see a counselor 04:29 or start talking with a pastor 04:31 whatever, you will find that 04:32 perhaps there was an incident of infertility, 04:34 incident of-- 04:36 and it doesn't have to be a lot of them 04:38 but, you know, you it can be have 04:40 an isolate incident of abuse and then these little things 04:45 which perhaps the man is thinking well, 04:47 I said I'm sorry and I got passed it 04:49 he doesn't realize that these, 04:51 these things are stuck in the mind of the spouse 04:54 and it's got to play itself out in the relationship. 04:59 So just to start things off there are variety of reasons 05:04 why discontent can surface in 05:06 what you thought was the beginning 05:08 of a happy marriage. 05:09 Okay, let me, let me tell us this words 05:11 we have from our discussion, you know, most married couples 05:14 start off as, as really good friends. 05:18 I mean, they start off, 05:19 you know, they are dating each other, 05:20 they were friends then it became best friends. 05:23 In fact, even the Bible says in Proverbs 18:24 05:27 that "A man that hath friends must shew" first "shew himself 05:32 to be friendly himself." 05:33 You know, so and we know that there is a friend 05:36 that's too closer than a brother and that as Jesus. 05:38 So, you know, but there is a slow gradual process 05:43 sometimes where we are-- they become not good friends 05:48 but sometimes there comes a wall in between them. 05:51 Help us, you know, kind of get over that wall 05:55 and identify some of those issues 05:57 so that this married couple 05:58 can come back to be great friends 06:01 and lovers once again. 06:03 What can be done? 06:04 Well, first-- I mean, just say 06:07 the most obvious thing out there 06:08 open your mouth, man. 06:09 Communication, you know, is the biggest thing 06:13 that hinders relationships today. 06:15 My wife always if she feels me giving a little distance 06:18 or little-- call all men do it, 06:20 you know, you get caught up in your business 06:22 and I got to market this product, 06:24 I got to get down here and get this done, 06:26 I got to go off and minister to these brothers 06:28 and she will be like, hey, I'm not your roommate. 06:31 You know, I'm, your wife. 06:32 That's right. That's right. 06:34 And I'm like, 06:35 you are right babe, you are right. 06:37 I will say, so what we gonna have to do? 06:38 We have to set up a date night 06:39 I'll come home and I will do it, 06:41 you know, in my own creative way, 06:42 you know, try-- I make her feel that you are still the spouse. 06:45 You are the queen of my house 06:47 and I love you above any and all. 06:50 You know, there is God then there is you. 06:53 Okay, so momma is not even in the picture. 06:55 I love my momma, I love you, momma, wherever you are. 06:57 You know, where can be I love you. 07:00 But even my mother know yeah, your wife comes first. 07:03 You know, she told me that your wife comes first. 07:05 The happiness, the joy, the sharing, 07:09 everything that pertains to happiness in the home 07:12 pertains around the man protecting and providing 07:16 for his wife. 07:18 But, you know, I heard what you say. 07:20 The first you say better open your mouth. 07:22 You know, communication is important. 07:24 Dr. King, I know that somehow 07:27 we are way differently though then women. 07:29 The man is-- 07:30 we communicate as men differently than women do, 07:33 you know. 07:34 And you say open your mouth 07:36 but for man it may not to be that easy sometimes. 07:38 Dr. King, help us understand, you know, this whole thing 07:40 about communication and open your mouth. 07:42 You know, as guys, you know, 07:44 we tend to be clueless at times. 07:47 We don't pick up on clues very well. 07:51 We don't like to talk. 07:53 Actually, interestingly 07:55 when men are with a group of people 07:58 men tend to talk more than women. 08:01 Okay. 08:02 But when a man, 08:04 his married days with his wife he tends to talk less. 08:10 Because women tend to kind of a zero 08:13 in on emotional content 08:16 and as men we don't like to talk 08:19 a lot about our feelings and emotions because 08:21 and we feel vulnerable. 08:24 You know, women just physiologically, 08:27 women have a larger corpus callosum, 08:32 you know, which kind of houses 08:34 our whole bonding feeling system. 08:39 Ironically it's one of the reasons 08:41 why more women are depressed than men. 08:43 You know, they are made, 08:44 they are structured their design to feel more 08:48 because, you know, they bear children 08:50 and so there is that natural bonding. 08:53 For whatever reason guys are afraid of that bonding thing 08:58 and so we tend to isolate, 09:00 we tend to create our own cave or retreat centers 09:04 what is in the basement or in the garage 09:06 or one of you and, you know, Stephen said it right. 09:09 Open your mouth and talk 09:12 but sometimes it's difficult to talk 09:16 because whenever 09:17 I'm interacting with the female in variably 09:20 she is gonna touch on an emotional content 09:23 like my wife does. 09:24 And if I'm secured emotionally 09:27 I tend to avoid that and then, you know, 09:31 we start to drift apart 09:33 and once again a guy will tell you, 09:35 you know, I'm fine, everything is fine 09:37 but a woman will say I'm miserable. 09:40 This is not working at all. 09:43 And so we live our lives in denial 09:47 until we drift so far apart 09:49 that is difficult to come back together again. 09:51 So you are right, open your mouth and talk. 09:53 Okay. Okay. 09:55 And then it's important to try and get at the heart of what, 10:00 you know, what is the concern for your wife. 10:04 There are some concerns that seem superficial 10:08 but they are so significant 10:10 that they actually keep you from getting the first base 10:13 on the bigger issue. 10:14 For example, 10:17 when you are dating you were always sharp, 10:20 here always done, right. 10:23 Shave nice and tight. Smell good. 10:26 Now you married for couple years 10:28 it just kind of let things go. 10:31 You are working hard, one extra day 10:34 without the razor won't hurt 10:36 and it's starting to bother her because you are not keeping up 10:39 the appearance of the dude she married, right. 10:43 Now you want to come in and talk about what's going on 10:47 and perhaps there is a bigger problem 10:50 but this higher level superficial one 10:53 may not open her up 10:54 that even want to have that conversation 10:56 because right now this first thing 10:58 which is annoying factor for her 11:01 is sitting front in center on the sofa saying, 11:03 hey can we talk. 11:05 Okay. 11:07 You know, I just wanted to piggy back 11:09 on what Brandon said. 11:10 You know, there is a good reason for that, 11:12 you know, ask guys we are hunters, you know. 11:15 So once, once we are captured we are done, you know, 11:19 and, you know, women are mostly gathers. 11:23 You know, they like to bond. You know, we like to hunt. 11:27 And so as guys, you know, 11:28 we need to be able to zero in on the fact 11:31 that is good to look sharp, 11:33 you know, it's good to be in a hunt 11:35 but, you know, one there's a capture 11:37 that we need to make that special effort to bond 11:41 because that's just as important as a hunting. 11:45 Okay. Okay. 11:46 You know, I'm thinking about this guy right now 11:48 that is watching again as always 11:51 and he is thinking that, 11:53 you know, I'm just unhappy right now. 11:55 I've gotten married, you know, 11:57 I was in love with my wife for a while may been, 12:01 you know, some years 12:02 but at the end right now in his heart 12:04 he is just not content right now. 12:06 He know that there is an issues that that's been going on 12:09 but he is not communicating those issues 12:11 he is just kind of mess them. 12:13 But right now he is absolutely frustrated 12:15 and he is thinking about 12:16 just kind of walking away as well. 12:18 You know, help us out again guys 12:20 because I know each one of you all, 12:22 you know, in your own marriages 12:23 God has blessed you all but, you know, 12:26 what about that guy who, you know, 12:28 the woman that she may have some discontent as well 12:30 but the guy has discontent as well. 12:33 you know, One thing as to talk about 12:35 but what else can we do as well as guys to help us 12:40 with our own issues in our minds. 12:42 Yeah, what you are talking about is that, 12:44 is that cry for help, that silent cry for help, 12:50 that I may not quite know how to verbalize. 12:54 You know, I feel frustrated, I feel distant, 12:58 I feel I die of drifted but how do I reconnect 13:02 because keep in mind that, you know, 13:04 we have that strong male ego, 13:06 you know, I may try to reconnect 13:09 and my wife may say, forget you. 13:11 You know, you had your chance. 13:13 you know, So this is not your time. 13:14 I think it's important that 13:17 we learn how to reach out for help. 13:19 Whether its through a professional service, 13:23 whether its through or pastor, 13:26 or whether its through a confident 13:28 preferably one of the same sex. 13:31 And so it's important as a guy, 13:34 as guys we have at least one person in whom 13:39 we can confine and in whom we are willing to see 13:44 this, these are what I think are the issues now help me, 13:49 reflect what I'm saying and let us find solutions. 13:52 You know, don't confined someone 13:55 who will quickly see, so what are you waiting for, 13:59 walk away. 14:00 So choose your confident very, very carefully. 14:03 That's good. That's good. That's good. 14:05 Brandon, there has to be few more steps, 14:07 few more steps where it relates to improve this marriage. 14:11 I have five things that I like to share with our audience. 14:17 We started with the first one and that is communication. 14:20 Communication is very essential. 14:24 Just getting your spouse to be willing to sit down and talk 14:30 that you both might be ready to walk out the door. 14:34 You are not coming to say 14:36 I'm going to change your desire 14:42 to walk out of the door in this conversation. 14:45 That's way too lofty, okay. 14:47 You just want to agree to let's sit down and talk. 14:49 What that does, it buys time so that the Holy Spirit 14:54 can start working in your heart and in her heart 14:59 and that's number two. 15:03 It's no good if you buy the time 15:04 but don't then subscribe for the help. 15:07 So you have to agree can we lead out with prayer, 15:12 can we let the Holy Spirit lead us. 15:14 Not just come from what we are feeling 15:17 but get God involved so that as we talk, 15:22 as we go down whatever path we are on, 15:25 how wherever we are gonna land 15:26 that at least we do it with the assurance 15:28 that the Holy Spirit is leading. 15:34 One important prayer I want to make was that 15:38 if you want a truly successful marriage 15:40 it's gonna be a marriage that is spiritually edifying. 15:44 In other words you are gonna help each other 15:47 pursue righteousness, pursue your eternal salvation. 15:53 When you tie your eternal salvation 15:59 with the dynamics of your marriage 16:03 then you ask the question, do I want to be saved? 16:05 Yes, I want to be saved. 16:06 Then guess what, yes, 16:08 we want to make sure we get this marriage right 16:09 because it is so closely related 16:12 to our eternal destiny. 16:14 The third piece and there are five of them. 16:17 The third piece is especially if you have a discontent wife, 16:22 right, 16:25 is to let her, articulate her concerns 16:30 accepted you may not think it fits, the shoe fits. 16:33 You may not think it's appropriate 16:38 but you are at a place where you need to just let her 16:42 articulate her concerns. 16:44 Write them down, okay. 16:48 Echo them back to her 16:49 so that she understands you got it, 16:51 that you are listening, 16:53 okay, showing some empathy for her situation. 16:55 This is not a time to say, 16:57 well, you know, I also have some concerns too. 17:00 We can get to that later. 17:01 Right now, just let her talk, right. 17:06 Then I'm gonna put my engineering head out, 17:08 then I say take parietal approach. 17:11 A parietal is a guy who said, in quality. 17:15 Figure out what you're biggest, 17:17 what are your quality problems are 17:18 and put them in order of the greatest to the least. 17:23 The biggest problem down to the least 17:25 and then work on just the top three. 17:28 By doing that you will make 17:30 the greatest improvement in your quality 17:33 over those three items that you could possibly-- 17:35 over any three items that you could possibly make. 17:40 So take these concerns that she has, 17:43 have her prioritize them 17:45 and see you can agree to work on the top three. 17:48 Before you work on them though 17:50 have-- get an understanding what does the, 17:53 what does the success look like. 17:55 How does it-- you know, I could say, 17:57 well, I'll handle this this way 17:58 and it may not do anything for her. 18:00 So make sure you understand from her 18:02 what is, what the success look like in these, 18:07 in dealing with the, in resolving these matters 18:09 so that you are actually working a plan 18:11 toward a resolution that will work for her. 18:16 And then the last, the last is actually do the work. 18:22 Take a spiritual God led approach 18:25 to working on those issues. 18:28 And just remember that if you go through this process 18:32 in a diligent fashion 18:34 you will begin to 18:36 have an affect on her character, 18:37 just having her watch you go through this process 18:41 will have an impact on the relationship. 18:43 That's right. Okay. Okay. 18:45 You know, there is a little our view, 18:46 really pathetical with this right here. 18:48 The guy is saying, you know what, 18:49 she just annoys me. 18:51 You know, I have been living with her for such a long time 18:54 and, you know, every night she just snores, 18:57 you know, and it bothers me. 19:00 And he has lived with this for so long 19:01 and he is like, oh, my goodness, 19:03 I can't do anything else right now. 19:04 I want, you know, and he goes to the other room 19:07 and he's been sleeping in the other room right now 19:09 and now she is upset as well 19:10 and that's created even more distance. 19:13 You know, snoring is one, it maybe 19:15 leaving that's what I see upon other thing, 19:16 you know, whatever. 19:17 How do we handle, you know, the annoying things 19:20 that happen in marriages that has caused married couples 19:24 to so to speak separate 19:25 or as you say be a roommate in a home. 19:28 What can we do to help stop being a roommate 19:32 and being so separate in our lives? 19:34 Well, when it starts with the-- 19:36 it starts with the small things always. 19:37 You know, always be open to communication at that point 19:40 because honey, I know you snore, 19:42 you know, you do like I do. 19:43 You know, when my baby sweet baby snores, 19:46 you know, I really I kind of roll over 19:48 and, you know, 19:50 oh, didn't mean to wake you baby 19:52 but can you roll over, please. 19:56 You know, but always, you know, say something. 19:58 Hey, just, you know, you are snoring, 20:00 as you know, not really-- don't say you are snoring 20:02 but, you know, you kind of keep me up and nice, sweaty. 20:04 You know, you kind of do this 20:05 and I know I have my things too. 20:07 You know, if I was snoring what would you do? 20:09 Okay. 20:10 The biggest thing, what would you do 20:11 if I was snoring and keeping you awake? 20:13 You know, but lead in to additional come up, 20:15 you know, baby, your snoring is keeping me up 20:17 what would you do? 20:19 Yeah, diplomacy. 20:20 You know, that can't be healthy, 20:22 you-- the sign that 20:23 you might not be getting the restored of rest. 20:25 Maybe we should have this look back, you know. 20:27 So concerned for her. Right. Right. 20:29 I mean, there are ways around it, 20:31 you know, you have to ease up. 20:32 Now you just can't just come in 20:34 do it like your dorm room and your dorm mate in college. 20:37 You know, you snoring throw a pillow right him, no. 20:39 You have to, you know, come up on, 20:40 you got to warm up to just like you have to warm up to 20:42 in every other situation. 20:45 Don't give her flowers at three in the morning now. 20:46 You know, as you gonna women will start to hate. 20:49 But let her just approach her, 20:51 you know, start with small things 20:53 but if you let the small things build up 20:55 they get to the bigger things. 20:57 And after a while where before it sound a cue 21:00 and now its just keeping me awake 21:02 and now I can't stand you I going in other room. 21:04 You know, so we want to start at the beginning 21:07 and just move forward from there. 21:10 But if we are so far gone 21:11 that we are in the other room and we are thinking about it, 21:15 is this was it I'm now, 21:16 I'm not in the only the other room 21:17 I hear through walls I need to do downstairs. 21:20 We then we need to 21:22 actually seriously have a date night 21:25 where we are gonna talk about our problems. 21:27 You come with your list to me 21:29 I'm gonna come with my list to you 21:31 and then write it down. 21:32 Go out in public, 21:34 you know, to a public-- nice restaurant 21:35 somewhere she is always wanted to go 21:37 and try out if you got to put out 21:38 few more dollars in there, 21:40 the few more dollars will justify 21:42 and then what, have your own. 21:44 It's worth it. 21:46 It sounds great 21:47 and actually I hope that, 21:49 you know, that the brothers are listening right now. 21:51 Even though the ladies are listening right now 21:52 will take us in a heed some of these advices well 21:55 but what about that couple who is on a verge? 21:58 I mean, they just need, really right now 22:01 someone just blows at them 22:02 or if the husband or the wife says 22:04 one more thing then they are gone. 22:06 I mean, they are literally headed up to here 22:09 with all the noises and all the mess. 22:11 You know, what kind of advice do we give 22:13 that person as well who says I'm not to hear right now. 22:16 You know, you are there, 22:18 you know, you are absolutely right. 22:19 There are some things that 22:20 that can take a toll on a relationship, 22:23 you know, snoring could be one of them. 22:26 Awful money management, problems with the children, 22:30 problems with the step children, 22:32 verbal abuse, physical abuse, 22:35 you know, things that, you know, 22:36 are not going to get better. 22:38 You know, let us face it it's not going to get better. 22:41 What advice can we give 22:43 to such a couple or such a person? 22:45 I think as a guy it's important for me to realize that 22:48 I cannot change the other person. 22:52 So my very first advice is 22:53 you cannot change that other person 22:56 and there is some things 22:58 that you may not be able to change either. 23:01 If this thing is gonna work then I've got to work on me. 23:04 Yes, I can take you out to a nice restaurant 23:06 which by the way this is excellent advice 23:09 but I got to go out with the intent of changing me 23:13 not pointing at you and say okay, 23:16 this is what you are doing wrong 23:17 and this is what you are doing wrong 23:18 and this is why I'm in a basement 23:20 and this is why I have to quit our room. 23:23 I think-- But that's what happens though. 23:24 Absolutely. Absolutely. 23:26 Now enjoy your meal, honey. Yeah. 23:29 You take this meal. 23:32 And it only gets worse. 23:34 From there I've got to be the bigger person. 23:36 I know we spoke early about leadership 23:39 so as the leader I've got to be the one 23:42 to seek forgiveness 23:44 because remember women have a larger bonding system 23:49 they don't forget easily 23:51 and they can harbor those emotional content 23:54 until, you know, they move from a drift or running stream. 23:58 So I've got to be the first person to see 24:00 this is what I'm gonna do to work on me 24:03 and because I'm committed to the relationship 24:06 I'm not gonna be perfect. 24:08 But here is at least two or three things 24:10 that I will work on 24:12 and if you see me faltering I want you to tell me, 24:16 you know, so we've got to make that important step first. 24:20 Also it's important to realize-- 24:22 I'm gonna use an analogy that is just and analogy. 24:25 You know, it's not a good idea to fight with a skunk. 24:30 You are gonna lose, you are gonna lose 24:33 and by that it mean 24:35 if you are already in a bad situation 24:37 why are you gonna pour gasoline 24:40 on that situation only make it worse. 24:43 There are some battles that are not worth fighting. 24:47 There are some things you just have to let go. 24:50 I look at my parents, you know, I look at my mom and dad 24:53 and my mom said to me once, you know, 24:55 sometimes you have to give up your right 24:58 to make this thing work. 25:01 So not a piece of that advice is you can't win every battle. 25:07 Don't try to fight with a skunk you can only make it worse. 25:10 Wow. Okay. 25:11 You know, I think it's interesting 25:14 the process that I talked about it was really focusing on 25:19 what can I do to change. 25:21 Absolutely. 25:23 But I was starting with a premise that 25:27 my wife has a problem with me. 25:29 You made it very interesting. 25:31 If I start with the premise that 25:32 I have a problem with my wife and still take that approach 25:37 what can I do to elevate your pains, 25:40 your burdens in this marriage. 25:43 I guarantee you if you work that process 25:46 well, I guess I can't give guarantees 25:48 but it's very probable that if you work that process 25:51 there will be a point in time where she will say, 25:55 I want to do some change into for you 25:59 but you start by focus among yourself 26:01 and what you can do to make things better. 26:04 You also remember that we said it in our vows 26:06 forsaking our lovers that includes yourself. 26:09 So as I said before somewhere along the line 26:12 you put yourself in front of your wife, 26:14 you know, when it came to a lot of these situations 26:18 even if they are just small. 26:20 So we need to find out, 26:22 if you feed something it's gonna get bigger. 26:24 So that's one of the things we need to look at 26:27 forsaking all others. 26:28 Am I forsaking myself for my wife's happiness, 26:30 for happiness in the home? 26:31 Okay. Okay. Very good. 26:33 You know, brother, that listening to me right now 26:35 it's amazing that 26:37 we serve a God of another chance. 26:40 God is not a God of just the second chance 26:43 but He keeps on giving us 26:44 chance after chance after chance 26:47 and I believe that when you submit yourself to God 26:49 and when the Holy Spirit 26:51 continues to work on your own heart 26:53 and your own mind 26:54 and you desire to make things better. 26:57 I believe that God is able to restore those things 27:00 that are broken, even our broken marriages. 27:03 When a heart is broken God is supreme heart fixer. 27:07 I want to challenge you my brother right now, 27:09 even my sister listening to me right now as well 27:12 to submit yourself to God, 27:14 to know they have God before you 27:16 can nobody else be against you. 27:18 Your marriage maybe in the basement right now 27:21 but God has a way of brining you up 27:24 as you submit to Him no matter how bad things are, 27:27 no matter how bad the outlook is, right now 27:30 I challenge you to fall on your knees right now 27:33 and ask God to bring about 27:35 the healing and the reconciliation 27:36 that He wants to bring and I know my God will do it. 27:40 Gentlemen, our time is up already 27:43 but I believe right now 27:45 that a man and a woman will be brought back together 27:48 by the love of God. 27:50 It is the love of God that constrains us. 27:53 Until next time I'm Pastor William Lee 27:55 and I hope that you indeed receive a rich blessing 27:58 from today's broadcast. 27:59 May God continue to richly bless you. |
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